GODLY HOMES
In an ungodly world (3)
An ongoing study of the Home as God’s Word teaches.
Divorceand remarriage (1)
Marriage is for LifeMarriage intended “till death do us part.”Gen. 2:24, Matt. 19:4-6Romans 7:2-31 Cor. 7:39Our study of marriage must respect this!
Divorce in AmericaMarriage today is not given the high respect of times past.Pew Research survey released Nov, 2010 stated that 39% of Americans believe that marriage is becoming obsolete.
Divorce in AmericaMarriage is not given the high respect of times past seen in -No fault-divorceCohabitation – choosing to say, “I don’t”Some states – no divorce statistics (why?)“Till death do us part”Removed from wedding vows
Divorce in America• Divorce rate higher than
previous decades• For every 2 marriages, there
is approx. 1 divorce in America (in a given year)IF this trend continues, the divorce rate could reach 50%
Divorce in AmericaThe negative effects of divorce:Higher probability of problems requiring professional help:“Intact” family – 90% of children in “normal range”Divorced family – 74% boys & 66% girls in “normal range”
Divorce in AmericaThe negative effects of divorce:Higher probability of problems:- Parental loss- Economic loss- More stress- Parental adjustments - Parental incompetence- Conflict between parents
The effects of divorce on children, 2009, Robert Hughes
Divorce in AmericaThe negative effects of divorce:Higher probability of problems:- Higher probability of divorce- Health problems- Higher crime rates
The Bible & Divorce• Where there is divorce, sin
is ALWAYS involved!• NEVER looked upon
favorably (tolerated under Old Law – Matt. 19:8)
• Permitted NOW for one cause – Matt. 19:9, 5:32
The Bible & Divorce• Malachi 2:13-16,
“For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence.”
The Bible & Divorce• Matthew 5:31-32,
“…But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.”
The Bible & Divorce• Matthew 19:8-9,
Similar in statement of 5:31-32, but allows provision for remarriage for the one divorcing his wife.
The Bible & Divorce• Mark 10:1-12,
Account of same occasion as Matt. 19:1-9, but he doesn’t deal with the exception. He does mention that it applies to both husband and wife.
The Bible & Divorce• 1 Cor. 7:10-16,
“…A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife”
The Bible & Divorce• 1 Cor. 7:10-16, • Vs. 10-11 The RULE
stated.• Vs. 11 – “But if she does
depart.” NOT permission (but it happens). Cf. 1 John 2:1 concerning sin.
The Bible & Divorce• 1 Cor. 7:10-16, • Vs. 11 IF she departs –
remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband.
The Bible & Divorce• 1 Cor. 7:10-16, • Vs. 12-16 Deals with
spiritually mixed marriages (believer-unbeliever).
• Vs. 12-13 NOTE that preference is NOT to divorce.
• Vs. 14 – unbeliever & children “sanctified”
The Bible & Divorce• 1 Cor. 7:10-16, • Vs. 15-16 IF the unbeliever
departs, a brother or sister is “not under bondage”. Not permission to remarry, but not bound to fulfill marriage vows (i.e. not responsible for adultery).
• NOTE who departs!
Divorce is something we ought
to seek to avoid – BEFORE we enter
into marriage!