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Good Mate, Healthy Relationship

By Selenda Webb

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Purpose:

I want to persuade the audience toadvise their children and other young

people to look for good qualities in afuture mate before making anyemotional commitments. Becausethey deserve the best.

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Introduction:Lately it seems as if most relationships end in divorce:

(Brittney Spears & Kevin Federline), domestic abuse (Rihanna &Chris Brown) or death (O.J. & Nicole Brown-Simpson). As aresult, generation X and the generations that follow elect not tomake lifetime commitments, they are entering relationships

preparing for failure. However, failure is not a result of lifetimecommitments, it is a result of incompatibility. In order to make arelationship last a person must be able to recognize that everyoneis not compatible just because they are single. First, you must beable to identify the characteristics of a good vs. bad mate and beknowledgeable of a healthy relationship. I will briefly expound on

their differences and equip the audience with basic principles tomake better choices or advise others of such.

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Thesis Statement:

Two are better than one becausethey have a good reward for their

labor .

Ecclesiastes 4:9, Holy Bible, King James Version, Thomas NelsonPublishers, Red Letter Edition, copyright 1984, 1977 by Thomas Nelson,

Inc.

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Divorce Rate:

According to Divorce 360. The divorcerate has been falling since 1979 andcouples marrying today are less likely to

divorce compared to their parents.Your chances of divorce lessen the moreeducation you have. And the younger youmarry, the greater your likelihood of

divorcing.

www.ask.com/bar?q=U.S.+2008+divorce+rate.com

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Divorce Declining, but so is marriage

According to State of our Unions 2005.Couples who one might have wed andthen divorced now are not marrying atall.

The United States has the weakestfamilies in the Western world because wehave the highest divorce rate and thehighest rate of solo parenting. Popenoesays.

www.usatoday.com 2/17/2009

http://www.usatoday.com/http://www.usatoday.com/

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A Good Mate is

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A Good Mate is Established Financially.

Willing to share responsibility, posses a well-balanced life and has integrity.

Respectful, Supportive, encouraging and

supportive.They are protective.

Confident.

Faithful and realizes the importance of giving and

receiving.

According to a survey of twelve students taken on Thursday February19, 2009 at Columbia College in Introduction to Speech.

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With the exception of:

Mrs. Gwin, The Instructor

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A Good Mate does not

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A Good Mate does not Expect to be rescued financially or emotionally.

Have a hidden agenda.

Humiliate, belittle or tear down the character oftheir mate.

Sacrifice your well-being to make themselveshappy.

Exhibit insecurity, violence or possessivenessconcerning their companion or relationship.

Give up easily nor handle disagreements unfairly.

A Guide to Creating Healthy Relationships, D. Merilee Clunis, PhD and G.Dorsey Green, PhD, Published by Seal Press, Emeryvill, CA., Copyright2005.

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Healthy Relationship is

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Healthy Relationship is

Being Compatible.

Resolving past hurts and being at peace withformer regrets.

Loving one another.Understanding differences, being skilled atconflict resolution.

Communication and compromise.

A bond between couples that is not broken bydespair or disappointment.

Good Mate, Healthy Relationship, written by Selenda Webb, English 101,

November 08, 2007

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Conclusion:A relationships foundation is laid when two compatible peopleconsider relationships to be valuable and worthwhile. There shouldbe a bond between couples that is not easily broken by despair ordisappointment (disagreements should not end a relationship).Essentially, you must take your time getting to know one another

(a good mate vs. a bad mate). Each of us has a unique set ofcircumstances and situations that must be inclusive in therelationship and this requires a lot of patience, understanding andeffort to make it as painless as possible. Remember self-worth asbeing valuable. Lastly, you must be a good mate. To experiencethe type of happiness that only a good mate and a healthy

relationship has to offer, you must take a chance when you lovesomeone, but they have to be willing to take a chance and loveyou as well.