Help for leaders nov 2011-ardy roberto - grace christian

H.E.L.P. FOR

LEADERS

By Ardy Roberto

The 4 Mindsets and Heart Attitudes

that every leader must have to

HELP others

Tap the shoulder of the person on your right

and say:

“I am excited to learn!”

Tap the shoulder of the person on your left and

say… ‖

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“Leadership is influence” - Dr John Maxwell

The highest level of leadership –

level 4 leadership – involves

trust”

Educators are leaders. You influence us. We need to, have to, follow you. We place our minds, our future, and the future and minds of our loved ones in your hands just like a rollercoaster seatbelt…

You have a very special calling. It’s not just a job or profession that you have entered. You influence our life’s paths. You influence our choices and you influence the path between success and failure, blessings or curses.

We trust you with our minds. We trust you to HELP form the minds and future of our children.

Tap the shoulder of the person next to you

and say:

“I trust you ”

Seatmate: Reply and say:

―Good. May I borrow P1,000?‖


Subtitle: 4 Leadership Lessons learned from my miracle wife. “How can I HELP?”


Case Study: My wife. 1995 - 1999


Dec „99-May 2000

Crisis situation – Very ill, suspected to have bone cancer or leukemia



“Missed diagnosis”

June 2000

―SLE‖ Systemic Lupus: Attacked multiple organs, esp kidneys, nervous system, etc Very bad prognosis..

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October

My ―Miracle‖: Patient

•Kidney damage reversed •No chemotherapy •No Dialysis •Minimal medication •Lupus quiet since 2000


2001 onwards

My ―Miracle‖ Patient


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Second lease on life


Dream trips

My ―Miracle‖

Patient @ Sea of

Galilee


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Dream trips – Egypt/ Israel 2005

My ―Miracle‖ Patient @ Sea of Galilee


2006 onwards



Miracle: From bankrupt to giving back

July 2008 - 2009

Miracle wife

to miracle

son


How did “exhibit A” go from....?



“Whatever it is you‟re doing, keep on doing it!”

- Tingting‟s Doctor


Lead with

Hope

Encouragement

Love

Prayer

HELP Lead

people with

HOPE

1st Heart Attitude...

Hope

Set your mind to being a hopeful,

optimistic LEADER and express this with

Words

Actions

Attitude

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Hope

WORDS

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Hope – Power of Words

…be careful with your words

“Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs

it down, but a good word makes it

glad.”

King Solomon, Proverbs 12:25 (NASB)

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Hope – Power of Words

At the hospital, near death:

“I’m not giving up on you, Swato.”

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Case Study: TS

―Words can kill as well as heal, a

fact more physicians need to be

aware of.‖ Dr Bernie Siegel

Author

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Case Study: TS

There was this heart doctor who was making his hospital rounds with him together with some student interns. Visiting the room of a lady patient, the esteemed heart doctor looked at the chart and announced to his students, ―Here is a classic case of TS,‖ and then left the room. By ―TS‖ the good doctor meant, ―tricuspid stenosis,‖ which is far from life threatening from a medical point of view. But the woman, who heard the diagnosis, interpreted TS as ―Terminal Situation.‖ As soon as the heart doctor left she thought, ―Terminal! I‘m dying! Oh no!‖

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Case Study: TS

The woman was in great distress,

her pulse elevated, her previously clear

lungs filling up with fluid.‖ When they

tried to reassure her that her problem

was a minor one, she would not listen.

The ―distinguished doctor‖ had declared

her a ―Terminal Situation.‖ By nightfall

―the woman had gone into acute heart

failure and died.‖

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Lead with HOPE

That‟s why a very wise king

named Solomon once said,

―Reckless words pierce like a

sword, but the tongue of the

wise brings healing.”

Proverbs 12:18


Leader needs to be...

Dispenser of

HOPE



-Dr. Harold G. Wolf, MD, Harvard

“Hope,

faith and a purpose in life, is

medicinal.

This is not merely a statement of belief but a

conclusion proved by meticulously controlled

scientific experiment.”

Why leader‟s should dispense hope

Leaders should dispense HOPE

Drugs are tested by

„DOUBLE BLIND‟ METHOD


Pharmaceuticals today are tested by the

‗double blind‘ method, meaning the

administering doctors themselves do not

know which is the true drug and which is

the inert, ‗control‘ drug.

Leaders should dispense HOPE


They must be tested that way for one

simple reason:

the power of human hope

Lead with HOPE


Before double blind testing, virtually all,

new drugs showed

spectacular results,

regardless of their chemical content.

Lead with HOPE


Mystified researchers eventually found the

doctor‟s demeanor to be the key factor in the new drug‘s success:

By his smile, voice, and attitude, the doctor would unknowingly convey

confidence and hope, convincing patients of the probability of improvement.

PLACEBO PHENOMENON


Positive

Expectations

Positive

“Side Effects” =

Lead with HOPE

―When the effects (of the placebo) are

negative, the substance or procedure that

triggers them is not called ‗placebo,‘ which

means ‗to please,‘ but ‗nocebo.‘ Nocebo is

Latin for ―I will harm.‖

-Bernie S. Siegel, MD, Love, Peace and Healing


NOCEBO PHENOMENON


Negative

Expectations

Negative

Side Effects =

Lead with HOPE

With both placebos and

nocebos, it is the

expectations aroused by

the substance or procedure

that are ultimately responsible

for the result.‖


-Dr. Bernie S. Siegel

A NOCEBO CASE STUDY


THE STORY OF

NICK – the

worrier

Nick got accidentally locked…


in a refrigerator-boxcar. Nick assumed that the temperature inside was a freezing 0°C. He started shivering and

thought to himself, “I'll freeze to death if I don’t get out of here.”

But he couldn‘t get out. So Nick wrote a message to his wife and family on a cardboard box:

―So cold,‖ ―body's getting numb. If I could just go to sleep. These may be my last words.‖


A NOCEBO CASE STUDY

The strange thing was the boxcar‘s

refrigeration unit was broken and the

temperature inside was just around

16°C — far from freezing.

But the autopsy on Nick‟s body

showed that he had frozen to death!


A NOCEBO CASE STUDY


Nick‟s thoughts froze

himself to death.

A NOCEBO CASE STUDY

NOCEBO PHENOMENON


Negative

Expectations

Negative

“Side Effects”

=

PLACEBO PHENOMENON


Positive

Expectations

Positive

“Side Effects” =

Case Study


Placebo heart surgeries anyone?

Lead with HOPE

Businessweek, reporting on the economics of

the billion-dollar heart surgery industry,

reported the same placebo effects on

those who had thought they had

undergone laser heart surgery to improve

their blood flow.


Lead with HOPE


A Harvard Medical School associate professor, Dr. Roger J. Lahan, reported that those who went through the real laser surgery and those who went through the “sham

operation” got the same benefits: less pain and improved heart

function.

Lead with HOPE

What do we expect from our

students?

Hopeful... or are we pessimistic

about ‗slow‘ students?


The Pygmalion effect

Self-fulfilling prophecy Examples:

Children – “bobo!” “Friends” – “baka malugi ka!”

Country – “Wala nang pagasa”

Pygmalion effect in business “performance will improve if your supervisors

communicate positive thoughts about people to people. If the supervisor actually believes that every

employee has the ability to make a positive contribution at work, the telegraphing of that message,

either consciously or unconsciously, will positively affect employee performance.

“As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”

– Proverbs 23:7

King Solomon

“You become what

you think about most of the time”

– Earl Nightingale, The Strangest Secret

Think on these things…

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true,

whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things

are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if

there be any praise, think on these things. –

Phil 4:8

Help Lead with

ENCOURAGEMENT

HELP Attitude #2:

Leader as healer needs to ..

Encourager =

One who inspires

COURAGE


Be an encourager by...


Creating an encouraging

environment of learning and

growth.

ENCOURAGING ENVIRONMENT


1. Place pictures or paintings in your

room that will either bring up happy

memories or encourage a smile..




1. What were they thinking?

Psychology Today: the

blood pressure and anxiety levels of

patients shot up when they looked at the paintings of Elizabethan Queeens displayed

in the waiting room of a Canadian hospital.



The effect on the patients was so

negative, ―the paintings of Elizabethan

Queens with stern expressions and creepy eyes had to be moved

elsewhere.‖



Help Heal With ENCOURAGEMENT

We‘re going to bring

you back to this.


Ecotherapy ―subtle interactions with nature provide a range of cognitive benefits, including elevated mood, enhanced memory, and

decreased stress.‖

Ecotherapy

Hospital architecture

Ecotherapy

Hospital architecture: hallways



Healing Aroma.

ENCOURAGE HEALTHY EATING




Fruits that are fiber rich

Pineapples are relatively

inexpensive and have lots of

fiber to help cleanse your

colon.



Anti-oxidant rich foods

Go for the greener leafy vegetables. Malungay (moringa)

is called the ―miracle tree‖ by the Department of Agriculture in

Hawaii because of its healing and high nutritional properties.



Soups

Tingting also loves clear

shiitake mushroom soup

served with chopped

onions and garlic. Shiitake

mushroom has also proven

to be an immunity booster.



Tea

University of Purdue researchers recently

concluded that a compound in green tea

inhibits the growth of cancer cells.‖



Fish

Fish oil is good for the

heart, inflammation,

preventing cancer of the

breast, colon, prostate and

is great for keeping healthy

eyes.



0ils

Extra virgin olive oil is

one of the

―secrets‖ to the

Mediterranean diet.



Virgin Coconut Oil (VCO)

According to research, the lauric

acid in VCO is the ―substance

that keeps infants from getting

viral or bacterial…infections.

Dr. ConradoFrancisco Dayrit, has

written a book, The Truth about

Coconut Oil: The Drugstore in a

Bottle, endorsinged the healing

properties of virgin coconut oil.

A noted pharmacologist and

cardiologist-internist, Dr. Dayrit,

was the first to conduct a clinical

study in 1999 ―that confirmed

anecdotal reports on coconut oil

exhibiting anti-HIV effects.‖



0rganic.

Eat foods that

are free from

hormones and

pesticides.



Drink healthy and detox (no to coke!).

Our bodies were not made to drink sugar-

loaded juices and colas. Studies show that

drinking sugary fizzy drinks promotes “fog

brain” or fuzzy, unclear thinking because of

sugar rushes where your blood sugar levels

swing from high to low.

Our bodies were not made to drink sugar-

loaded juices and colas. Studies show that

drinking sugary fizzy drinks promotes “fog

brain” or fuzzy, unclear thinking because of

sugar rushes where your blood sugar levels

swing from high to low.



Drink healthy and detox.

FRESH BUKO

(COCONUT) JUICE. Do

your kidneys a favor. Buko

juice (no sugar please)

helps the kidneys filter

our blood.



Dark Chocolate

Dark choco has substances known as flavonoids It

appears that flavonoids have powerful antioxidant effects. And release endorphins. Happy

hormones!



F A

S

T F O

O D

D

RUITS

NTI- OXIDANTS

OUP

EA ISH

ILS (Olive or VCO)

RGANIC FOOD

ETOXIFYING WATER ARK CHOCOLATE



Should your rely on doctors for dietary advice?

FACT: Over the past decade, 8 medical directors of hospitals in Metro

Manila have been among the members of the

medical profession stricken with

cancer.”



“dietary habits and

environmental influences” are the

chief determinants of cancer and

“not genetic factors.”

…doctors have begun to concede that



So start taking charge of your health.

Use God‟s “pharmacy”

God’s Pharmacy

It's been said that God first separated the salt water from the fresh, made dry land, planted a garden,

made animals and fish... All before making a human.

He made and provided what we'd need before we were born.

These are best & more powerful when eaten raw. We're such slow learners...

God left us a great clue as to what foods help what part of our body!

God's Pharmacy! Amazing!

A sliced Carrot looks like the human eye. The pupil, iris and radiating lines look

just like the human eye... And YES, science now shows carrots greatly

enhance blood flow to and function of the eyes.

A Tomato has four chambers and is red. The heart has four chambers and is red.

All of the research shows tomatoes are loaded with lycopine

and are indeed pure heart and blood food.

Grapes hang in a cluster that has the shape of the

heart. Each grape looks like

a blood cell and all of the research

today shows grapes are also

profound heart and blood vitalizing food.

A Walnut looks like a little brain, a left and right hemisphere, upper cerebrums and lower

cerebellums. Even the wrinkles or folds on the nut are just like the neo-cortex. We now know

walnuts help develop more than three (3) dozen neuron-transmitters for brain function.

Kidney Beans actually heal and help maintain kidney function and yes, they look exactly like the

human kidneys.

Celery, Bok Choy, Rhubarb etc look just like bones. These foods specifically target bone strength. Bones are 23% sodium and these foods are 23% sodium. If you don't have enough sodium in your diet, the body pulls it from the bones, thus making them weak. These foods replenish the skeletal needs of the body.

Avocadoes, Eggplant and Pears target the health and function of the womb and cervix of the female - they look

just like these organs. Today's research shows that when a woman eats one avocado a week,

it balances hormones, sheds unwanted birth weight, and prevents cervical cancers. And how profound is this?

It takes exactly nine (9) months to grow an avocado from blossom to ripened fruit There are over 14,000

photolytic chemical constituents of nutrition in each one of these foods (modern science has only studied

and named about 141 of them).

Figs are full of seeds and hang in twos when they grow. Figs increase the mobility of male sperm and increase the numbers of Sperm as well to overcome male sterility.

Sweet Potatoes look like the pancreas and actually balance the glycemic index of diabetics.

Olives assist the health and function of the ovaries.

Oranges, Grapefruits, and other Citrus fruits look just like the mammary glands of the female and actually assist the health of the breasts and the movement of lymph in and out of the breasts.

Onions look like the body's cells. Today's research shows onions help clear waste materials from all of the body cells. They even produce tears which wash the epithelial layers of the eyes. A working companion, Garlic, also helps eliminate waste materials and dangerous free radicals from the body.

Environment


How to let go...


Anger is unhealthy

Anger results in...


“Frequent anger may speed up the process of atherosclerosis, in which fatty plaques build up in arteries. The heart pumps harder, blood vessels constrict, blood pressure surges, and there are higher levels of glucose in the blood and more fat globules in the blood vessels. All this, scientists believe, can cause damage to artery walls.” - Cleveland Clinic, Jeffrey Kiffer, MA

Encourage healing by letting go...


How to let go...


St Paul‟s advice:

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and

anger, brawling and slander, along

with every form of malice. Be kind

and compassionate to one another,

forgiving each other, just as in

Christ God forgave you.

Ephesians 4:31–32

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How to let go: #1. Write a list


Names of people who have hurt you

What they did...

Bobbit Owes me money

Sabel Stole my boyfriend

Onyok …Stole my girlfriend

How to let go: #2.Pray


Lord, I release all these hurts and these people to you. I forgive them as You have forgiven me. Amen

How to let go: #3. Tear and release


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Tap the shoulder of the person to your right

and say:

“Let go ”


say:

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How to let go...


Say thank you and count your blessings! But hard because... “why me?” “It’s not fair!”

AQ:

Adversity

Quotient

―How can a man say that the Lord doesn‘t see our troubles and isn‘t being fair? The everlasting God never grows faint and weary. No one can fathom the depths of His understanding. He gives power to the tired and worn out, strength to the weak. And they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.‖ – Isaiah 40:27-29,31

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Give thanks and celebrate

Tingting

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Ch 26: The “blessings of illness”

Tingting

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Take the slow road back to recovery... enjoy

Have a gratitude journal...


Author Chris Lowney, in his book “Heroic Living,” says, “Be grateful because gratitude is what energizes and motivates us to pursue great purpose. An “attitude of gratitude” enables us to recognize the gifts we have been blessed with and, as a result, to show kindness to others, celebrating their good fortune, admiring their achievements and praying for their continued wellbeing.


Immune Booster Grateful people tend to be more optimistic, a characteristic that researchers say boosts the immune system. "There are some very interesting studies linking optimism to better immune function," says Lisa Aspinwall, PhD, a psychology professor at the University of Utah.

Have a gratitude journal...


Exercise gratitude “List down every day something that you are grateful for. Keep a gratitude journal.” – Oprah Winfrey

Attitude

Words

Actions

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Grateful and Fearless : Anthony Robles – Champion NCAA Wrestler

Fearless : Jessica Cox – First Filipina pilot

“Consider it pure joy…whenever

you face trials of many kinds,

because you know that the

testing of your faith

develops perseverance.”

James 1:2,3

Pagtiyagaan ang mga trials and hardships because...

“God has a purpose behind

every problem. …He uses

circumstances to

develop our character.” - Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life



Heart of

Healing

Hope

Encouragement

Love

Prayer

Diagnostic Test

Diagnostic Test:

Stare at each of the following

patterns for 5 seconds each.

If the patterns are moving

even slightly raise your hand.

If they are perfectly still

don‟t raise your hand.





Results:

None of these images are animated - they are

perfectly still.

The slower the pictures move, the better

your ability of handling stress.

Senior citizens and kids see them standing

still.

Alleged criminals that were tested see them

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and say:

“I am not a criminal!”


say: “I hope so!”


“If you have to drag yourself to work,

you are committing a crime of violence

on yourself!”

So…

Love your work!


Because:

“Work

is

Love

made

visible” K.G.



and say:

“Love your work!”


say…

―Give me an increase first!‖


HELP LEAD with mindset and

heart attitude of

LOVE

Help Heal With LOVE


... LOVE NEVER FAILS.” - St. Paul (1 Corinthians 13:8)

HELP LEAD with LOVE


HELP LEAD WITH LOVE


Medical mistake on Baby Yok Shan in a hospital in Malaysia that cost the baby’s left arm last Sept 1, 2007. Hospital offered compensation… http://yokshan.blogspot.com

http://yokshan.blogspot.com/

Key to healing – caring doctors

My ―Miracle‖ Patient



DR ELMO LAGO’S HEART OF HEALING PROGRAM REAPS BENEFITS

Help LEAD With LOVE

―And now these three remain: faith, hope

and love. But the greatest of these is

love.‖ St. Paul

(1 Corinthians 13:13)


Help LEAD With LOVE

Love your work… Love those you work with… Love those you work for…

Love those you lead at work… Love the work that God has

given you


HELP LEAD WITH

PRAYER

HELP LEAD With PRAYER


Our prayers may be awkward. Our

attempts may be feeble. But since

the power of prayer is in the

one who hears it and not the

one who says it, our prayers do

make a difference.

-Max Lucado

Help Heal With PRAYER




According to an article titled God Power:

This just in – religion and spirituality work

by John McManamy:

There are about 1,200 studies

on “the healing power of faith and

the health effects of spirituality.”



Spirituality and Healing in

Medicine seminar at Harvard

University confirms that

“prayer... could have astounding

therapeutic effects.”



Dr Herbert Benson, a Harvard Medical

School cardiologist and founder of the Mind-

Body Institute at Beth Israel Deaconess Hospital,

was, in his own words, ―not a religious

person.‖ But study after study showed

him that prayer is good for his

patients.



I used to be skeptical about these stories

and testimonies of healing by prayer — even after I

became a Christian. Some of these stories were just

too, well, ―miraculous.‖

And then I became a participant and

witness myself... I saw my wife

healed.

June 2000

―SLE‖ Systemic Lupus: Attacked multiple organs, esp kidneys, nervous system, etc Very bad prognosis..


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The results of H.E.L.P...


July 2000 Here‘s my wife, skin and bones jutting out from her body. Still weak from the six month ordeal with systemic lupus, she‘s smiling because she was now hopeful that she would eventually recover. The picture was taken with our goddaughter, Chava, the day after being discharged from the hospital

October 8, 2000. 3 months later after doctors and friends thought that my sweet wife was going to die, here she is celebrating her birthday! She continues to see her doctors for check-ups, and her doctors continue to express amazement and joy at her “miraculous” recovery.

Traveling resumed within 7 mos


Help Heal With PRAYER


You certainly were

helped by a few

miracles from above.

Miraculous.

My miracle patient


2006


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Miracle: From bankrupt to giving back



Miracles happen

when we pray.

-Tingting

Help LEAD With PRAYER

Pray for those you work with… Pray for those you work for…

Pray for those you lead at work… Pray for courage.

Pray for miracles to follow you as you lead others


HELP

I shall by telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood

And I – I took the one less traveled by;

And that has made all the difference. - Robert Frost



Lead with HELP

Hope

Encouragement

Love

Prayer

LEAD WITH HELP...

So may you choose to lead yourself and others so that you… hope more, encourage more, love more, to pray more…. These are definitely not popular choices. So may God bless those you with miracle after miracle as you choose the road less traveled by. It will make a world of difference for you and your followers. MyHeartofHealing.info (c) Ardy Roberto 2008 - buy the Heart of Healing at OMFlit.com


Ardy, Tingting & Joshua...

Facebook.com/ardyrobertoAuthor [email protected]

Based on Research,

experience and scripture truth

Ardy Roberto

Author, Pera na Hindi Bitin

www.saltandlight.ph

www.saltandlight.ph

Paul to the Philippians (gamot sa worry)

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has

done. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7 (New Living Translation

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