Help for Parents September 2014

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How To Raise a BratSeptember 1

Bible Reading: Judges 17

Key Verse: Verse 2 - And he said unto his mother,The eleven hundred shekels of silver that were takenfrom thee, about which thou cursedst, and spakest ofalso in mine ears, behold, the silver is with me; I tookit. And his mother said, Blessed be thou of the LO!,m" son.#

Key Words:Blessed be thou of the Lord, m" son

Mica is a tie!" but te moter tin#s simply because econ!esses to being a tie! e is blessed by te $ord% Wicraises te &uestion" 'o( can (e raise our cildren to bebrats) 'ere are 1* (ays%

1% Begin in in!ancy to gi+e te cild all e (ants% ,is(ay te cild (ill ne+er respect te property o!oters%

2% Wen tis cild uses a slang (ord" laug at im astoug it (as cute% t (ill encourage im to e.pandis language and +ocabulary s#ills%

/% 0+oid te (ord (rong% t (ill gi+e im a comple.%

3% 4on5t elp im to decide bet(een rigt and (rong%

6% e+er correct and discipline te cild a!ter teautority as in!ormed you o! misbea+ior%

8% e+er re&uire your cild to clean up a!ter imsel!%4o it !or im% 'e (ill al(ays li#e you !or tat but(ill ne+er respect you%

7% 0l(ays put do(n and &uestion autority in !ront o!your cild%

9% e+er gi+e your cild any cores around te ouse%'ea+en !orbid tat e learn responsibility at suc a

young age%% $et te babysitter raise your cild; tere!ore" (en

e goes astray you can blame te babysitter%


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1*% 0+oid raising your cild in


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imsel! is assumed by is peers to tin# too muc o! imsel!%Secondly" because te surrendered cild seldom spea#s" it isassumed e is not a tin#er" tat e li+es in a (orld o! iso(n" (ic is not true% ,e cild (it !eelings o! inade&uacyand sel!-doubt as !ound sa!ety in being &uiet%

Wen te surrendered cild reaces adultood" e orse (ill !ind is !riend in a bottle alcoolC% ! tey do meetsomeone o! te opposite se." tey become controlling becauseo! teir lac# o! con!idence in teir ability to #eep tem sotey turn to intimidation to #eep !rom losing tem%

,e ans(er !or te surrenderer is !ound in te (or#o! Daul in >orintians 12:1*" )or when I am weak, then

am I stron(. Dray !or our #ids" especially our surrendererstat tey understand tat teir real strengt is !ound in >risti! tey surrender to 'imA

Wat to do:Dray !or te cild tat is te surrenderer%

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Ill FightSeptember /

Bible Reading: Dro+erbs 22:17-2Key Verse: Verses 23 $ *ake no friendship with an

an(r" man; and with a furious man thou shalt not(o:Key Words:*ake no friendship with an an(r"man

,e !eelings (ic moti+ate one cild to (itdra(!rom is peers (ill urge a more aggressi+e young person to

respond by !igting%nstead o! surrendering to teir !eelings o!inade&uacies" te !igter is angered by (at tey see; and as aresult tey (al# around (it a cip on teir soulder" daringanyone to #noc# it o!!%


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Ill Be A ClownSeptember 3

Bible Reading: ?pesians 6:1-1*Key Verse: Verse 3 + either filthiness, nor foolishtalkin(, nor -estin(, which are not convenient' butrather (ivin( of thanks. #

Key Words: nor -estin(

,e !eelings o! inade&uacies (ic cause one cild to

surrender and anoter to !igt (ill cause still e+en oters tobecome te class clo(n%

remember reading years ago about comedienne"Dyllis 4iller" (o made a !ortune by po#ing !un at ersel! inregard to er pysical appearance% By er o(n account se(as sy" inade&uate and (itdra(n% Se said" (asconstantly a(are o! my unattracti+eness" so coped bybecoming a clo(n%

Jonatan Winters admits tat is umor (as ade!ense against cildood urts% 'is parents (ere di+orced(en e (as se+en% 'e said" Eter #ids (ould tease mebecause ad no dad at ome% spent many lonely nigtscrying mysel! to sleep until umor replaced my tears% became te class clo(n because it brougt me acceptance%

,e class clo(n" in all li#eliood" is dealing (it one ormore o! te !ollo(ing !eelings o! inade&uacies according to

4r% James 4obson%1% $oo#s F ,ey see temsel+es as unattracti+e%

t may be tey a+e been told tis by parentsor peers: so tey resort to being te classclo(n to compensate !or teir loo#s%

2% 0cademics F E!ten te class clo(n is slo( tocatc on to ne( mat problems or ?nglisterms" science may not stic#" and as a

result o! teir academic slo(ness" tey turnto umor to ta#e te !ocus o!! teir !ailinggrades%


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/% nabilities F Many cildren (it inabilitiessuc as sigt (ear tose big" tic#" uglyglasses a+e to be (orn" and teir peersma#e ligt o! teir ugly glasses" (ill resortto becoming te class clo(n to compensate%Woody 0llen is a great e.ample in tis area%

,e inability o! speec impedimentscause some to become class clo(n" and still e+enoters (o lac# in atletic pro(ess" (ill resort toumor% tin# you get te idea%C 'umor iso!ten a co+er-up !or teir !eelings o!inade&uacies in loo#s" academics" and inabilities%

?+ery scool teacer is (ell ac&uainted (it te clo(nor clo(ns in teir class% But" (at most teacers !ail tounderstand is (ile te clo(n is a problem to tem" a goodlaug to te class" tey are in deep pain in teir eart and aresimply battling !or acceptance% Wile te clo(n may be ardto lo+e and e+en arder to tolerate at times" tey are not asbad as you tin#% 'elp tem troug teir turbulent years andtey may turn out to be producti+e adults !or >rist%

Wat to do:Remember (e all need te !ruits o! te spirit


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realiHe tat tis ric !armer (as not a cild" but e isa great e.ample o! denying reality% ,ere are t(o primary(ays young people deny reality%

Girst tey attempt to co+er it up% $et me e.plain% Je!! isa 1* year Fold (o (ears leater glo+es to scool e+ery day"e+en on te (armest o! days% Iou ne+er see Je!! (itout isglo+es% 'e also (ears long slee+es% ,e teacer insists tatJe!! remo+e is glo+es" (ic e does; but te moment egoes to recess or lunc" te glo+es are bac# on% Ene morepoint" Je!! is te only blac# cild in te scool% o( do you(ant to guess (y e (ears glo+es and long-slee+e sirts) Iouguessed it" to co+er up tat (ic ma#es im di!!erent% Je!! is

denying reality% Many cildren attempt to co+er up teir!eelings o! inade&uacies (it a coat or a s(eater or yes" e+englo+es% ! can5t see it" ten it doesn5t e.ist%

,e second (ay young people deny reality is to escapeinto a dream (orld% ,e young person simply pulls do(n asade and creates is or er o(n (orld% ,is cild ne+er seesimsel! as a problem% t is al(ays mom" dad or te teacerbecause in teir (orld poor grades" being unpopular and

unaccepted by teir peers is not teir !ault: it is e+eryone elsebecause in teir (orld tey are rigt% n e!!ect" tey aredenying reality%

So (at can be done (it te cild or yout (odenies reality)

1% Dray !er+ently !or tem%2% 'elp tem troug te trying years by

pointing out (o tey are in >rist%

/% 'a+e tem in+est time and energy on oters%Gor e.ample: ma#ing tings !or te elderly%Most older people a+e a (ay o! bringing outte best in tis type o! #ids%

But no matter (at" lo+e tem and let tem #no( youlo+e tem%

Wat to do:Wat to do: ! your cild is one tat is denying realityit (ould elp to apply te tree elps listed abo+e%


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Ill ConformSeptember 8

Bible Reading Romans 12:1-9

Key Verse: Verse 2 $ And be not conformed to thisworld' but be "e transformed b" the renewin( of"our mind, that "e ma" prove what is that (ood, andacceptable, and perfect, will of /od.#

Key Words:And be not conformed

t5s not easy being a parent; dealing (it your o(nissues plus dealing (it tose o! your cildren%

1% >ildren tat become te class clo(n%2% >ildren tat !igt%/% >ildren tat deny reality%

But out o! all o! tese belie+e te number one issue (e asparents a+e to deal (it is te desire o! our yout to con!ormin order to be accepted%

Ene o! te great 0merican myts is tat (e are anation o! rugged indi+idualists% We li#e to tin# o! oursel+esas 0braam $incoln5s" Datric# 'enry5s" and many oter greateroes (o stood against social ills and sins% n trut toug"(e are a nation o! social co(ards% Wy" (e spend more o! ourtime on e.pending our energy and resources attempting to beaccepted and li#ed by oters% ,e a+erage 0merican ismoti+ated by !ear- !ear o! ridicule and re@ection%

Since (e !ear tis ridicule and re@ection" (e !ind (ays

to be accepted" con!orming to te (ims and (ises o! oters"a!raid to stand !or (at (e #no( to be trut andrigteousness% ,e a+erage person see#s to be li#ed bye+eryone" normally at te e.pense o! teir con+ictions andbelie!s% Gor adolescents te urge to con!orm dictates most o!teir acti+ity !or a period o! about ten years%

0t a 3to! July celebration in e( Ior# >ity" a populararea teen-aged coir (as to sing te Battle 0"mn of the

epublic.Ene o! te teens a group leaderC said" 5m going topretend to !aint% Wo5ll @oin me) So" in a li+e per!ormancebe!ore tousands" e (ent do(n pretending to !aint% By tetime te song (as o+er" more tan t(o-tirds o! te coir (aspretending (it im% ,is is con!orming at its eigt% Kids


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!ear being re@ected and ridiculed so tey con!orm% 5ll (ear(at oters (ear" and listen to (at oters listen to" and uselanguage tat oters use% 5ll con!orm%


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attracti+e as te oter #ids% ,ey are not as atleticallyinclined as are oters% Wy" early in li!e tey are branded byteir peers as a re@ect%

,oug tis may be ard to accept as a parent" it canbe a positi+e i! (e" as parents" andle it correctly% Remember atree planted in te rain !orest is ne+er !orced to e.tend itsroots do(n; tus" any moderate storm can topple te (ea#-rooted tree% 0d+ersity can cause a cild5s roots to go deep i! (elearn to compensate% ,at means (e a+e to counter-balanceour cild5s (ea#nesses by capitaliHing on teir strengts; andit is our @ob" as parents" to !ind tese strengts%

Bobby Giscer" arguably te (orld5s greatest cess

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The Fear of the LordSeptember 9

Bible Reading: Dsalms 11

Key Verse: Verse 1* - The fear of the LO! is thebe(innin( of wisdom' a (ood understandin( have allthe" that do his commandments' his praise endurethfor ever.#

Key Words: The fear of the LO! is the be(innin(of wisdom

Ene o! te greatest needs today in te li+es o!


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2% Teah your hildren that !od is alo#ing !od"


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!i#e Them Responsi$ilitySeptember

Bible Reading: Dro+erbs 22:1-13Key Verse: Verse 8 $ Train up a child in the wa" heshould (o' and when he is old, he will not departfrom it#

Key Words: Train up a child in the wa" he should(o

,ere is an old saying tat goes li#e tis" 0n idle mindis te de+il5s (or#sop% Muc o! our discipline as parents(ould not e+en be needed i! parents simply (ould gi+e outsome responsibilities%

Eur cildren need to !eel tat tey are contributingsometing (ort(ile% Responsibility elps to de+elopmaturity% t teaces our cildren tat tey are e.pected to ta#ea @ob and do it (ell% So don5t be a!raid to place a reasonableamount o! responsibility on your son or daugter% t not only!ills up idle time" it also #eeps tem out o! trouble%

n !amilies (ere tere is a desirable emotionalclimate" cildren a+e @obs to do suc as cleaning" (asingdises" baby care" yard (or#" etc% ,ese cildren usually areeasier to (or# (it and are muc more obedient tan tose(it little or no responsibility%

n gi+ing out a cild5s responsibility" a+oid undue

pressure% Remember our cildren a+e our genes and are notper!ect% Wen you (eig a cild do(n (it per!ection" ille!!ects so( up% Some o! tese e!!ects are anger" !atigue"ner+ous abits" and !orget!ulness% ,e strain o! per!ection(ill also so( up in your cild5s conduct% t raises bea+iorproblems rater tat diminises tem% Remember your cildmay not do e+eryting @ust te (ay you do it and tey may notdo it as (ell as you (ould do it; but tat is not te ob@ect% ,e

ob@ect is to teac tem responsibility and ma#e tem !eel apart o! te !amily% May


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Wat to do:ildren" li#e all o! us" come into te (orld (it a sin

nature% ,e Dsalmist 4a+id said" n sin did my moterconcei+e me% n tis scripture (e do not !ind a contrastbet(een innocent cildren and sin!ul adults%

a+e ne+er seen a cild (o needed instruction ono( to sin; it comes &uite naturally% doubt tat any o! yousat your cild do(n and taugt tem o( to lie% t @ust comesnaturally%

n is boo#% ecoverin( the Lost Tools of Learnin("

4ouglas Wilson (rites" ad to con!ront my !i+e year-olddaugter because o! bitterness to(ard er broter% t seemse ad clobbered er earlier in te day; altoug e (asdisciplined !or is action" se (as un(illing to !orgi+e% So &uoted Matte( 8:13-16" )or if "ou for(ive men theirtrespasses, "our heavenl" father will also for(ive "ou; but if"ou for(ive not men their trespasses, neither will "our fatherfor(ive "our trespasses%5 $oo#ing at me se said" Wo is tis

Matte( guy any(ay) o( er &uestioning o! te scripture(as not due to liberal teologians" but rater it (as a result o!er un!orgi+ing spirit and er sin nature%


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Eur cildren are sinners and education alone is notte ans(er% 0ll you get (en you educate a sinner is a cle+ersinner% Kno(ledge by itsel! does not ma#e people better" butrater ma#es tem (orse% ?ducation is not te ans(er to ourproblem" but Jesus isAA Romans /:2*" 6:2*C

tin# all o! you (ould agree (it me tat (e (antour cildren to recei+e a &uality education; but i! all (e do iseducate te mind and ne+er attempt to regenerate te eart"(e all a+e !ailed" bot curc and parents%

Wat to do:0im !or te eartA or out o! it are te issues o! li!e%

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Clashes of the %illSeptember 11

Bible Reading:


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tey do% $et your cildren #no( (en teyplease you% Mar# 1:11%

2% Be non-argumentati+e% 4E E, putyoursel! in a position (ere you arearguing (it your cild% ! tey #no( you(ill argue (it tem" you a+e set te stage!or a clas o! (ills% ?cclesiastes 1*:12%

/% Ma@or on te ma@ors" minor on te minors%Keep tings in perspecti+e% 4o not ma#ema@or issues out o! non-essentials%Matte( 2/:23%

3% 0+oid criticism% Wen correcting your

cild" criticism is certainly not necessary%Wen you criticiHe your cild" you arebuilding resentment in tem- not respectLand again" you are setting te stage !or aclas o! (ills% ?pesians 8:3%

6% Set te rigt e.ample% ! you a+e atendency to a+e a clas o! (ills (it toseo+er you" ten you set te (rong e.ample

!or your cildren% rist and to teacour cildren te same%

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Family AltarSeptember 12

Bible Reading: ,imoty /:1-16Key Verse: Verse 16 F And that from a child thouhast known the hol" scriptures, which are able to


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make thee wise unto salvation throu(h faith which isin %hrist 3esus.#

Key Words: And that from a child thou hastknown the hol" scriptures

Some o! te best maintenance is pre+entati+e% ! youcan pre+ent a problem !rom occurring" you are muc bettero!! pysically" !inancially" and emotionally% ,e same is truein dealing (it your cildren% Ene o! te most importanttings a moter or !ater can do to elp pre+ent bea+iorproblems is to a+e a nigtly or daily !amily altar or !amilyde+otionsC% 0 !amily altar elps in at least se+en areas%

1% t is means by (ic te Word o! rist Mar# 1*:1/-18C% Wat apri+ilege to see tat your cildren


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understand te plan o! sal+ation and a+ete opportunity to play a +ital part in teirsal+ation%

7% t is a means by (ic your cildren canmature spiritually Deter /:19C% ! yourcildren attend e+ery curc ser+ice yourlocal curc as" tey still get less taneigt ours o! Bible per (ee#% 0 !amily altaro!!ers more time !or !amily gro(tspiritually%

Very !e( cildren a+e bea+ior problems (en mom anddad sit do(n (it tem e+ery day !or @ust a !e( minutes to

learn


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your ig scool ceerleaders; tey seldom star in mo+ies;and usually te ugly a+e !e(er !riends tat do te beauti!ul%

t is amaHingly surprising @ust o( e!!ecti+ely (e teacour cildren to appreciate te beauty cult% Wy it is e+entaugt in our age-old cildren5s stories% Ies" you read tisrigt" our age-old cildren5s stories !ocus on beauty% 'o(aboutL

1% The 8(l" !ucklin(is a !amiliar story aboutan unappy duc# (o (as re@ected bybetter-loo#ing duc#s" symboliHing tepligt o! e+ery unattracti+e cild%Gortunately" !or im" o(e+er" e ad a

beauti!ul s(an inside (ic sur!acedduring adultood% Eops" tere it is" e (asonly acceptable a!ter becoming beauti!ul%

2% leepin( Beaut"Wy (asn5t te storyentitledleepin( 8(l") Because uglydoesn5t sell unless" o! course" in te endtey become beauti!ul (ic ma#es temacceptable" li#e >inderella" (ic is

anoter story based on pysical beauty%/% udolphIou #no( im" don5t you) 'e(asn5t accepted because o! is ugly sinynose until is siny nose could sa+e Santa5s@ourney o! deli+ering toys to all te goodlittle boys and girls%

3% 0nd" o! course" tere is!umbo, the9lephant" ridiculed !or is !loppy ears until

e could use tem to !ly%6% 0nd (at aboutnow 5hite and the even!warfs) Iou #no(" Mirror" mirror" on te(all" (o is te !airest not ugliestC o! temall)

$et5s !ace it" our cildren are taugt daily teimportance o! pysical beauty% t5s e+ery(ere tey go% Wen(as te last time you sa( an ugly (oman on a reality ,V

series trying to be te one cosen to be te possible !uturebride o! a prince carming)

Wat a distorted +alue system (e propagateA Watirreparable damage is done to tose (o do not meet up to


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our beauty standardsA Darents" our cildren are learningand o!ten (e are te teacers o! it" outer beauty is !ar moreimportant tan inner beauty% Maybe te title o! tis article

sould not be Beauty and te Beast" but rater Beauty ste Beast%

Wat to do:Stress te importance o! inner beauty not @ust outerbeauty%

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Teahing 'ur Children(indness

September 13

Bible Reading: ?pesians 3:28-/2Key Verse: Verse /2 FAnd be "e kind one to another,tenderhearted, for(ivin( one another, even as /od for%hrist&s sake hath for(iven "ou.#

Key Words: And be "e kind one to another

$et me as# you parents a &uestion; in all o! ourteacing standards: dressing properly" mo+ies" music" etc-(ic belie+e is important F do you also teac tem

#indness) ! our cildren are lac#ing in te spirit o! #indness"tey may ma#e a li+ing but tey5ll miss out on li!e%Ene ting missing in our !amily altar time is teacing

our cildren o( to treat teir !ello( peers and !ello( man% read te !ollo(ing and @ust (ondered o( many o! ourcildren could or (ould (in a gold medal in #indness%

4o you #no( te story o! 'enry Dearce o! 0ustralia"(o (as competing in te single scull ro(ing e+ent at te

129 Elympics) 'e (as leading (en a duc# and er string o!duc#lings came into +ie( up aead% ,ey (ere on a collisioncourse and Dearce rec#oned tat is scull (ould cut te stringin t(o and sin# a !e( duc#lings in te process" so e pulled inis oars% Wen te duc#s passed" Dearce again bent is bac#


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to te tas#% ,ere5s a appy ending to te story% Dearce (on%sually" acts o! sportsmansip result in de!eat% Remember$eo 4urocer5s pronouncement" ice guys !inis last)5 tappened a couple o! years ago in te maraton tandem#aya# racing e+ent at te (orld campionsips in>openagen% 4anis paddlers (ere leading (en teir rudder(as damaged in a portage% Britis paddlers" (o (ere insecond place" stopped to elp te 4anes !i. it% ,e 4anes (enton to de!eat te Britis by one second in an e+ent tat lastednearly tree ours% But tere5s a appy ending to tis story"too% 0ccording to The 5all treet 3ournal" te Britis#aya#ers (on at many people regard as te igest onor in

sports% ,ey became te (inner o! te Dierre de >oubertinnternational Gair Dlay ,ropy% ,e tropy is named !or te!ounder o! te modern Elympic


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,eac your cildren to be #ind to oters%

SomedaySeptember 16

Bible Reading: Dilippians 3:1-11Key Verse: Verse 11F ot that I speak in respect ofwant' for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am,therewith to be content.#Key Words: to be content

Someday (en te #ids are gro(n" tings (ill bedi!!erent around te ouse% ,e garage (on5t be !illed (itbi#es" s#ateboards" dolls" and dollouses% Iou (ill be able topar# bot cars in te garage%

Someday (en te #ids are gro(n" te #itcen (ill beincredibly neat% ,e sin# (ill be !ree !rom le!t-o+er dirtydises tat no one seemingly dirties%

Someday (en te #ids are gro(n" tere (ill actuallybe !ood le!t in te cabinet and re!rigerator%

Someday (en te #ids are gro(n" te instrumentcalled a telepone (ill actually be a+ailable and it (ill be!ree !rom lipstic#" mustard and corn cips%

Someday (en te #ids are gro(n" you (ill be able tosee troug te car (indo(s (itout seeing and prints"snea#er prints and !og mar#s% ,e bac# seat (on5t loo# li#e aurricane as come troug to(n%

Someday (en te #ids are gro(n" you (ill be able toreturn to normal con+ersation (itout suc (ords as yuc#"gross" and o" manA

Someday (en te #ids are gro(n" you (ill be able toget a ot so(er in te morning%

Ies" someday (en te #ids are gro(n" tings aregoing to be di!!erent% Ene by one tey (ill lea+e te nest: nomore clin# o! cina" no more panic#ed pace o! #ids getting

ready !or scool; calm" peace" memories" and lonelinessL and(e (ill be as#ing" (onder (en te #ids are coming bac#!or a +isit)

guess 0postle Daul ad it rigt a!ter all" Dilippians3:11-ot that I speak in respect of want' for I have learned,


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in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.

Wat to do:

?n@oy your cildren (ile tey are young% Remembertey (on5t be !or long%

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%or) Toward Self*DisiplineSeptember 18

Bible Reading: 4aniel /:9-1Key Verse: Verse 12 F There are certain 3ews whomthou hast set over the affairs of the province ofBab"lon, hadrach, *eshach, and Abedne(o; thesemen, O kin(, have not re(arded thee' the" serve not

th" (ods, nor worship the (olden ima(e which thouhast set up#

Key Words: the" serve not th" (ods

Sel!-discipline is te in(ard strengt to discipline orcontrol one5s bea+ior and tougt li!e% Wen (e are sel!-disciplined (e are better able to control our emotions andpysical appetites (ic ensla+e us%

n training our cildren" sel!-discipline sould be atte !ore!ront o! our goals; !or e.ample" teacing our cildrento a+e enoug sel!-discipline to clean teir rooms and carryon in daily li!e (itout a+ing to constantly be corrected andtold (at to do% 'o( can tis be accomplised) ,e !ollo(ing(ill elp%

1% nderstanding rules and regulations%Wen te cild understands te reason !orrules and o( brea#ing tem can a!!ectimsel! and oters" it elps in te area o!sel!-discipline%


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2% 4iscussing tings (it parents% $istening toyour cildren5s side o! te storyremembering tat tey (ill slant te storyto is or er bene!itC and elping im to see(ere e (as at !ault (ill elp in te areao! sel!-discipline% Wen a cild sees @ustice"e (ill be inclined to discipline imsel! inte !uture%

/% 4iscussing te conse&uence o! bea+ior% 0sparents (e sould let our cildren #no(tat misbea+ior not only urts imsel!"but oters as (ell%

3% Draise te cild !or accomplisments andacceptable bea+ior% So( appreciation !or&uic# and ceer!ul obedience and acts o!generosity%

6% $et your cild #no( tat you a+econ!idence in im or er% 0 simple put-do(n accomplises noting%


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The Impat of Christ*CenteredLi#ing +pon Disipline

September 17

Bible Reading: ristian parentstis sould also be te motto o! our earts% 0s parents oursel!-control sould be to let >rist rule in our earts" ten(e can lead our cildren to a proper code o! conduct !or teirli+es% ,e !ollo(ing are (ays (ic (e can in!luence cildren!or >rist%

1% Be onest% ! (e are not onest in our dailytas#s" o( can (e e.pect our cildren to beonest) Iou sould not e.pect yourcildren to be onest (it you and oters i!you lie and co+er !or your cildren5sabsences or i! you attempt to co+er !ortem (en tey misbea+e% Be onest% Ioucannot e.pect your cildren to be onestunless you lead te (ay% ?pesians 3:26C%


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2% Be consistent% Iou cannot e.pect yourcildren to put


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'ere are my ten commandments !or spoiling yourcild% guarantee complete success i! you apply tese tencommandments%

1% 0l(ays ma#e e.cuses !or your cild5sactions and bea+ior% >o+er !or tem andne+er ma#e tem accountable !or teiractions%

2% Begin (it birt al(ays gi+ing te cilde+eryting eNse (ants%

/% Wen e pic#s up a bad abit and !usses"al(ays laug and tin# it is cute%

3% e+er let your cild ear you say tat5s(rong% Iou may ruin is caracter%6% $et your cild ma#e te !inal decisions (it

no guidance !rom you at all%8% >lean up a!ter your cild% ,ey (ill lo+e

you !or tat%7% 0l(ays &uarrel in !ront o! your cildren%

,ey gain plenty o! e.perience tat (ay%

9% Spend a lot o! time a(ay !rom ome(or#ing so your cild can learn sel!-reliance%

% 0l(ays ta#e your cild5s side againstautority% ,ey (ill tin# you5re great !ortat%

1*% 0l(ays remember tat your cild souldne+er a+e it as ard as you did as a cild

!or (e #no( o( it ruined you%! you (ant your cild to be spoiled" !ollo( tis ad+ice% !

not" be care!ul" eNse may turn out too goodA

Wat to do:

Be (iseA


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Reasons For FailureSeptember 1

Bible Reading: : Matte( 17:-2/Key Verse: Verse 17 F Then 3esus answered and said,O faithless and perverse (eneration, how lon( shall Ibe with "ou4 how lon( shall I suffer "ou4 brin( himhither to me.#Key Words: O faithless and perverse (eneration

n Matte(" >apter 17" te disciples !ailed to eal aboy (o (as a lunatic% ,e reason tey !ailed is !ound in +erse17" Then 3esus answered and said, O faithless and perverse(eneration, how lon( shall I be with "ou4 0ow lon( shall Isuffer "ou4 Brin( him hither to me.#

,e disciples !ailed because tey (ere !aitless but didnot realiHe tey (ere !aitless% ,ey (ere per+erse but did notrealiHe tey (ere per+erse%

a+e !ound tat many parents are muc li#e tedisciples: tey are !ailing" but tey !ail to see tey are !ailing%Dlease allo( me to sare (it you ten areas (ere parents are!ailing to see tey are !ailing%

1% We !ail (en our cildren con!essout(ardly but are ne+er canged in(ardly%

2% We !ail i! our cildren5s spiritual #no(ledgegets to teir ead but not teir eart%

/% We !ail i! (e re&uire our cildren to attenda >ristian scool on Monday trougGriday but not to curc on Sunday%

3% We !ail i! our cildren are not learning atome (at tey are learning at scool andcurc%

6% We !ail i! our cildren are not learning atcurc (at tey are learning at ome and

scool%8% We !ail i! our cildren are not learning atscool (at tey are learning at ome andcurc%


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7% We !ail i! (e belie+e (e can ma#e adi!!erence spiritually (itout beingdi!!erent%

9% We !ail i! (e do not see 'olly(ood and temodern-day music industry as our enemy"not our !riend%

% We !ail i! te Bible is not te primaryboo# in our ome%

1*% $astly" (e !ail i! (e teac our cildren to!ind te $ord" but !ail to teac tem to !earte $ord Dro+erbs 1:7C%

pray" as parents" tat you (ill be success!ul"

genuinely Biblically success!ul" in te training o! te cildren


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mocked, for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he alsoreap. ,is is a simple !act o! li!e" (eter good or bad"(ate+er you plant in your garden tat is (at you (illar+est% ,e same principle applies to your relationsip andattitude to(ard your parents% ,is morning (ould li#e !oryou to see (it me (at


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&uestion" are you ready i! te $ord sould cometoday) >an you gi+e a scriptural reason (y you#no( you are sa+ed and bound !or 'ea+en)

My prayer !or eac o! you is tat you (ill li+e !or


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lo(ered% ad te guy to raise te standard bac# to its correcteigt% e.plained to my son tat te goal sould not belo(ered so tat e could meet it" but tat e sould continueto (or# ard to rise to te standard%

Sometimes" (e lo(er te standard and ten get alle.cited because (e meet it and tin# (e5+e done someting%


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,irdly" (e sould teac tem re+erence% ?pesians8:2%

t is said tat upon te 0mbassador5s return to Grance!rom 0merica" e (as greeted by a mob o! reporters (oas#ed" Wat one ting stands out in your mind about0merica) Was it te great buildings) o" (as is reply%Was it teir industry) 0gain" o" e replied% ,en anoteras#ed" Was it te beauti!ul mountains and oceans) 0" esaid" o( beauti!ul tey (ere" but tat (as not te one ting(ic stands out te most% ,en" te &uestion (as as#ed"Wat does stand out te most in your mind about 0merica)'e loo#ed at te cro(d o! reporters and stated" ,e (ay te

parents obey te cildren%

Wat to do:0pply te tree principles abo+e%

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Ha#e -ou Hugged -our ChildToday/

September 2/

Bible Reading: Dsalm 1*/Key Verse: Verse 1/ F Like as a father pitieth ischildren, sothe LO! pitieth them that fear him.#

Key Words:pitieth

Mar# tat (ord pitiet it means to !ondle5 or to ug5Wic raises te &uestion - 'a+e you ugged your cildrentoday)

'e began is li!e (it all te classic andicaps anddisad+antages% 'is moter (as a po(er!ul" strong-(illed(oman% 'is !ater (as a (ea#-(illed" passi+e" uncaring man

(o spent no time (it is small cild% eiter mom nor dadso(ed im a!!ection" nor did tey discipline im% 'e (as" tosay te least" re@ected !rom is earliest cildood% 4uring isadolescent years" te girls (ould a+e noting to do (it imand e !ougt continually (it te boys%


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4espite a ig O e !ailed academically and !inallydropped out o! scool during is tird year o! ig scool% 'e@oined te Marines" but un!ortunately" is problems !ollo(edim% ,e oter Marines lauged at im and ridiculed im% 'e!ougt bac#" resisted autority" and (as e+entually court-martialed and discarged as a disonorable soldier% So no("ere e is a young man in is early t(enties" absolutely!riendless" is li!e sip(rec#ed and opeless%

Ence again" e tougt e could run !rom isproblems" so e (ent to li+e in a !oreign country; but e (asre@ected tere as (ell% Wile in tis !oreign country emarried a young lady muc li#e imsel! (o ad been

re@ected all er li!e% ,e couple mo+ed bac# to 0merica but temarriage (as doomed !or !ailure% eiter one o! tem #ne(o( to gi+e or recei+e lo+e% ?+entually" e le!t and tried toma#e it on is o(n" but again (it no success% 'e (ent bac#to is (i!e and begged er !orgi+eness (ic (as a mista#e;se made im beg !or e+eryting !rom tat point on%

Ginally" in silence e could beg no more% o one(anted im% 'e (as arguably te most re@ected man o! our

time% 'is ego sot" is li!e (itout ope and cra+ing attention"e got up one morning and (ent to is garage" too# do(n ari!le e ad idden tere" (ent to (or# at is ne(ly-ac&uired@ob at a boo# storage building% En te a!ternoon o! o+ember22" 18/" e (ent to te 8t!loor o! tat building" loaded isri!le" aimed and pulled te trigger and sent t(o sells crasinginto te ead o! Dresident Jon GitHgerald Kennedy% $ee'ar+ey Es(ald no( (as te center o! attention tat e ad

al(ays longed !or" but it all began (en is parents ad notime to so( lo+e and attention% o(" tis by no meanse.cuses $ee 'ar+ey Es(ald !rom is actions but it doesdemonstrate !or us tat all cildren need lo+e and attentionand your correction% Mom" dad" a+e you ugged your cildtoday)

Wat to do:


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Bible Reading: >ronicles //:1-1/Key Verse: Verse 8 F And he caused his children topass throu(h the fire in the valle" of the son of0innom' also he observed times, and usedenchantments, and used witchcraft, and dealt with afamiliar spirit, and with wiards' he wrou(ht muchevil in the si(ht of the LO!, to provoke him toan(er.#

Key Words:And he caused his children to passthrou(h the fire>ild abuse is not a ne( ting% t5s gone on !or years

o!ten in te name o! a god% >ild abuse still continues today%More cildren are abused today by teir parents tan bypredators%

Eur nation cringed in orror (en it learned 4ebora,urner" age tirty-!i+e" ad urled er si.teen-mont old son,yler out te (indo( o! er sister5s eigt !loor apartment in>icago% Ms% ,urner became distraugt on 0pril 12" 16"(en er son (ould not stop crying% Se ten grabbed te

toddler and tre( im troug a closed (indo( to is deat%n!ortunately" tis is not an isolated incident% Deople !ear !orteir cildren5s sa!ety !rom strangers" but a recent report !romte %S 0d+isory Board on >ild 0buse and eglect re+ealedte stunning statistic tat an estimated 2"*** cildren dieeac year at te ands o! parents or careta#ers% ,e 239-pagereport said neglect and cild abuse #ill more cildren under!i+e years o! age tan do tra!!ic accidents" dro(ning" or !alls%

n 13" tere (ere more tan one million con!irmed cases o!cild abuse or neglect in te nited States% >ongress enactedte Gamily Dreser+ation and Support Ser+ices Drogram in1/ tat (ill !unnel P** million o+er !i+e years to !igtcild abuse in our country%

,e problem toug is not a political one but aspiritual one% can do all tings troug >rist (ic

strengtens me" but (itout 'im 5m bound !or !ailure%


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Wat to do:t5s lo+e tat ne+er !ails; not screaming))

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!odly ,arentingSeptember 28

Bible Reading: 4euteronomy 8:1-16

Key Verse: Verse 8 F And these words, which Icommand thee this da", shall be in thine heart'

Key Words: And these words, which I commandthee this da", shall be in thine heart

n tese days o! a permissi+e li!estyle; (e must as#oursel+es (at (e can do to elp our cildren stay on course!or >rist% belie+e te ans(er is !ound in 4euteronomy 8:1-

16% ,e ans(er is


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>rist% 0 time o! !amily de+otions is a (ay to elp accomplistat end%

May


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must (al# so!tly" must #eep0 (atc on all do or say%Deraps" tus guarded" sall ma#eSome lo+ely memory today%

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What to do:Remember te (ords o! te 'onorable Burton

,ur#us" !ormer assistant 4istrict 0ttorney !or te State o! e(Ior#" ,e place to begin training your cild is te ig cair;te electric cair is too late%

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Tips For DadSeptember 29

Bible Reading: Malaci 3Key Verse: Verse 8 $ And he shall turn the heart ofthe fathers to the children, and the heart of thechildren to their fathers, lest I come and smite theearth with a curse.#

Key Words: heart of the children to their father

J% D% 0llen" a Baptist minister" once as#ed a cildpsycologist" ! you ad one rule !or !aters" (at (ould itbe) n reply" te psycologist ga+e im (at e called teAB%2so! discipline%

A" e said" stands !or al(ays% 0l(ays be consistent%Maintain a reasonable le+el o! discipline (it your cild% !you blo( your stac# because e lea+es te cap o!! tetootpaste today and ten say noting (en e damages te

neigbor5s property tomorro(" you con!use im%B" e said" stands !or busy% But not too busy% Some o!te (orst @obs o! !aterood are by men o! good reputation(o copped out under te guise o! too busy%5 ! you5re not toobusy to a+e a #id" ten don5t alibi out o! gi+ing im te time


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and !riendsip e rigtly e.pects% t5s not a matter o! beingbusy" but o! being disorganiHed or not caring% ! you allo(yoursel! to be too preoccupied" your youngster (ill read it asre@ection%

%,e said" stands !or caring% Men are e&ual partnersin parentood% t5s not (oman5s (or# to rear te young% Semay a+e to super+ise tem during (or# ours" but note+enings" (ee#ends" olidays" and +acations (en you canso( you care% 0 ma@or peril to cildren in 0merica is te badparentood o! good men%

Wat to do:Being a godly !ater is not @ust in supplying tepysical needs o! your cildren" but te spiritual andemotional needs as (ell%

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!randparents September 2

Bible Reading:


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0 !ast-paced e.ecuti+e (as oping to get some (or#done on a cross-country !ligt% 'e ad is laptop computerrunning (en te lady ne.t to im struc# up a con+ersation%0ltoug e ad a great deal o! (or# to attend" e (elcomedte brie! intercange (it tis pleasant older (oman% 0!terse+eral minutes o! en@oyable con+ersation" te e.ecuti+epolitely e.cused imsel! and said e must get bac# to is(or#% ,e (oman (as apparently obli+ious to te man5s needto (or# and continued to tal#% Se (ent !rom one sub@ect tote ne.t% ,e businessman tried to remain polite" so eal!(ay listened (ile continuing is (or#% 0!ter nearly anour o! constant tal#" te (oman started digging in er purse%

Wen se !ound (at se (as loo#ing !or" se turned to teno( stressed-out e.ecuti+e and as#ed" 4id tell you about mygrandcildren)5 e &uic#ly replied" o ma5am% 0nd reallyappreciate itA

,e older you get te more you (ill !ind tat outsideyour relationsip (it te $ord" your !amily in particular"your spouse and grandcildren" are te most important tingin your li!e% ! you5+e ne+er ad grandcildren you may not

understand tis" but i! you a+e" you understand%

Wat to do:Gor all o! you tat are no( grandparents" remember"grandparents may be te only people in te (orld (otruly lo+e teir grandcildren unconditionally%

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Some ,astor Ad#ie for ,arentsSeptember /*

Bible Reading: >orintians 12:1-13

Key Verse: Verse 13 F Behold, the third time I amread" to come to "ou; and I will not be burdensometo "ou' for I seek not "ours, but "ou' for the children


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I deeply appreciate

the help of

Mary Parsons

Glenda Myrick

And my lovely wife, Linda

Without God using thesepeople to help, thisdevotional would not

have been possible.Dr. Mike Rouse


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