Helping ApplicationsLearning the Art of Helping
Building Blocks and TechniquesWith Ed Wohlmuth
“…On the shoulders of giants”Presentation adapted and inspired by the writings and teaching of Mark Young, John Sumarah, Carl Rogers, Abraham Maslow, Gerald Egan, William Glasser, and others.
The brilliant helper is… deeply present.
Encountering Another
Our anxiety getting in the way of our work…
… it’s not about you.
Change … What is possible?
Helping Others Choose ChangeWe are different…
… different experiences, history, cultures, ethnicity, gender, age and so many more examples.
If we are so different, how can we help others
change?
Helping: Diversity & Humanity As Resources
It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength. - Maya Angelou
“[We were] a little surprised by the Dalai Lama’s seeming resistance to the notion of cultural differences.”
Daniel Goleman
“What is most personal is most general.”-Carl Rogers
Does change have a path… a process?
Changes as Processby James Prochaska and Carlo DiClemente
Readiness/ awareness
What’s up?Acknowledge it!What is it? Name it!
What do I need to do?Plan!I will do this…Act!
I can do this… What’s next?
ResistanceDon’tAcknowledge it, Don’t name it, Don’t plan or act!
Assessing… the Missing Internal Resource
Assessing… the Missing Internal Resource
Supportive StylePerson is able, willing and not confident
Teaching/Inspiring StyleUnable, willing, not confident
Delegating StylePerson is able, willing, and confidence
Direction stylePerson is unable, not confident, unwilling
Support(Psychological/
emotional presence)
DirectionVerbal skill use
