MINDFULNESS LESSON #5

OVERCOMING FEAR WITH LOVE

MOVING FROM FEAR TO LOVE….

Mindful Breath & Centering:

Alternate Nostril Breathing

REVIEW LAST WEEK, LESSON #4

HOW DO WE SEE OUR SELVES HOW DO OUR PERCEPTIONS

IMPACT THE WAY WE FEEL HOW DO OTHERS SEE US HOW DO WE WANT TO BE SEEN POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS TO

HEAL NEGATIVE SELF-CONCEPT.

LESSON #5 OVER COMING FEAR

FEAR IS SOMETIMES…

False

Evidence

Appearing

Real

Fear and Perception

FEAR can paint our perception of reality.

We can see the world with Grey glasses or Pink glasses.

Fear can change how perceive our situation or circumstance.

Fear of the paper tiger

Often our fear can not “really hurt us” often about: something impacting or threatening our:•relationships•environment•health•security

When you have a F.E.A.R

First ask yourself:Is the FEAR True?Is there anything I can do to change it?

Fears we Can & Can Not Control

The FEAR is always either about something we either can or can't control.

•There are all the fear/outcomes you can control (typically self)

•There are all the fears/outcomes you can not control (typically others)

NO Worries…

So, either you can fix it or you can’t.

So either way, don’t worry.

Some Top Fears/phobias:

1. Public Speaking2. War 3. Flying4. Heights 5. Rejection6. The Dark7. Sickness8. Not being Loved/Being Loved9. Being Judged10. Fear of Failure11. Death

Common Fear… FEAR of Change.

Common Fears and Judgments:

•Fear of Rejection•Fear of being or not loved•Fear of not being “good enough”•Fear of being judged•Fear of Failure

We are all a chicken sometimes…

We are the Same …

•We all are 99.9% the same

•We have a lot of the same F.E.A.R’s

•We are more alike then we are different.

CROSS the LINE

You have brown hair You think spring is the best seasonYou are wearing jeans You think chocolate is the best ice creamYou are wearing the color green You feel the most comfortable in jeansYou are wearing sneakers You think gym is the best subjectYou like summer You think science is the best subjectYour favorite subject is science Being an only child is bestYou have siblings Dogs are the best petsYou have a pet Its not a party without pizzaYou like pizza You love to danceYou like ice cream You love sportsYou are the oldest child You love pop music

Cross the line if….

You like to dance You are a musicianYou play a sport School is a great place to beYou play an instrument You have a talentYou feel you are a good student Homework is a waste of timeYou have a talent Its easy to ask for helpYou sometimes don’t do your homework If you try to can accomplish anythingYou wish you did better in school I have plenty of friendsYou wish you had more friends My family is very closeYou get along with your family My family rules are fairYou like your house I like where I liveYou feel safe at school School is a safe place

Cross the line if…

You feel lonely sometimes I feel lonely all the timeYou are scared of the dark I will always be afraid of the darkYou feel scared sometimes I am afraid all the timeYou feel sad sometimes I am sad all the timeYou get so angryYou feel judged for the color of your skin I am angry all the timeYou feel judged because of where you liveYou feel judged because of how you dressYou wish people understood you more People always understand meYou have ever wanted to run away People always respect meIf you have someone you need to forgive All people deserve to be forgivenIF your don’t like being judged People cant changeYou want to be happy I am a happy person all the timeYou want this game to be over I want the game to be overYou cant wait for summer vacation I want to make a difference in the world

How many of us…

Like summer Don’t like being judged Want to be happy

See we are alike, we have a lot of the same fears, its not my fear or your fear it’s The F.E.A.R.

EMPATHY

•Empathy: Understanding and entering into another’s feelings.

•Feeling the same or being able to imagine what it is like to be in someone else’s shoes. An example of empathy is being able to imagine what a student who was called a name.

Share a FEAR

Get with a friend and share one fear

Is it real? Why do you have it? What part of your life it is

effecting? Do you need to accept it or can

you change it?

Changing the FEAR to it’s opposite

What is the opposite of the fear?

Can you affirm the opposite?

Practice Affirmations

•“I trust that everything is going to be ok, no matter what.”•“I do the best I can and let go of the rest.”•“I love and accept myself, just as I am right here.”•“What others think of me does not matter, what matters most is how I feel about myself.”•“I let go of outcomes, over which I have no control.”•“I have courage and I am brave.”•“Whatever happens I know I can handle it.”

VISUALIZE A HEALTHY OUTCOME

Visualize the FEAR melting away

Envision a new and different outcome

BE FEARLESS, BE HAPPY

BE BRAVE and….

Imagine all things are possible!.