HOW DOES HOW DOES BULLYING EFFECT BULLYING EFFECT

YOU??YOU??

HARASSMENT, INTIMIDATION & HARASSMENT, INTIMIDATION & BULLYING (HIB)BULLYING (HIB)

On January 5, 2011, Governor Chris Christie signed into law P.L.2010, Chapter 122, an act concerning HIB in school settings that amended various parts of the statutory law.

In particular for school policies and procedures, the act amended N.J.S.A. 18A:37-13 et seq., which include the requirements for the prevention and intervention of HIB on and off school grounds*, at school-sponsored functions and on school buses.

HIB Law DefinedHIB Law DefinedHARASSMENT, INTIMIDATION & BULLYING (HIB)

"Harassment, Intimidation or Bullying" means any gesture, any written, verbal or physical act, or any electronic communication, whether it be a single incident or a series of incidents, that is reasonably perceived as being motivated either by any actual or perceived characteristic

To include: race, color, religion, ancestry, national origin, gender, gender identity and expression, or a mental, physical or sensory [handicap]disability, Or by any other distinguishing characteristic, that takes place on school property, at any school-sponsored function [or],on a school bus, or off school grounds as provided for in section 16 of P.L.2010, CHAPTER 122, that substantially disrupts or interferes with the orderly operation of the school or the rights of other students

BULLYINGIt's NOT acceptable

ANYWHERE, ANY TIME, ANY PLACE

Bullying is: unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that

involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over

time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have

serious, lasting problems. In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be

aggressive and include:

Bystanders Kids who witness bullying are more likely to:

Have increased use of tobacco, alcohol, or other drugs

Have increased mental health problems, including depression and anxiety

Miss or skip school

Types of BullyingTypes of Bullying Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal bullying includes:

TeasingName-callingInappropriate sexual commentsTauntingThreatening to cause harm

Social bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. Social bullying includes:

Leaving someone out on purposeTelling other children not to be friends with someoneSpreading rumors about someoneEmbarrassing someone in public

Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying includes:

Hitting/kicking/pinchingSpittingTripping/pushingTaking or breaking someone’s things

"Cyberbullying" is when a child, preteen "Cyberbullying" is when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated, embarrassed or harassed, humiliated, embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another child, otherwise targeted by another child, preteen or teen using the Internet, preteen or teen using the Internet, interactive and digital technologies or interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones.mobile phones.

It has to have a minor on both sidesIt has to have a minor on both sides

Who are the victims and Who are the victims and perpetratorsperpetrators??

Girls were about twice as likely as boys to be Girls were about twice as likely as boys to be victims and perpetrators of cyber bullying. victims and perpetrators of cyber bullying.

Of those students who had been cyberbullied Of those students who had been cyberbullied relatively frequently (at least twice in the last relatively frequently (at least twice in the last couple of months): couple of months):

--62% said that they had been cyberbullied --62% said that they had been cyberbullied by another student at school, and 46% had by another student at school, and 46% had been cyberbullied by a friend. been cyberbullied by a friend.

--55% didn't know who had cyberbullied --55% didn't know who had cyberbullied them.them.

Kids Who Bully Others Kids who bully others can also engage in violent and other risky behaviors into

adulthood. Kids who bully are more likely to:

Abuse alcohol and other drugs in adolescence and as adults

Get into fights, vandalize property, and drop out of school

This behavior also leads to having criminal convictions and traffic citations as adults

Bullying StatisticsBullying Statistics** 1 of every 7 students from kinder garden to Grade 12 has been a bully or has been bullied.

** 71% of students reported that bullying is an on-going problem.

** Top years for bullying are from 4th-8th Grades

Bullying StatisticsBullying Statistics** 90% of victims admitted that they suffered negative side effects. Among them are:

* Significant drop in grades * Increase in anxiety * Loss of friends * Loss of social life

** Each month, a shocking number of around 282,000

students are being victimized by bullying in the US.

What to Do If You’re Bullied

Look at the kid bullying you and tell him or her to stop in a calm, clear voice. You can also try to laugh it off. This works best if joking is

easy for you. It could catch the kid bullying you off guard.

If speaking up seems too hard or not safe, walk away and stay away. Don’t fight back. Find an adult to stop the bullying on the spot.

What to Do If You’re Bullied

There are things you can do to stay safe in the future, too.Talk to an adult you trust. Don’t keep your feelings inside.

Telling someone can help you feel less alone. They can help you make a plan to stop the bullying.

Stay away from places where bullying

happens.Stay near adults and

other kids. Most bullying happens

when adults aren’t around.

Preventing BullyingPreventing BullyingTreat Everyone with Respect

Nobody should be mean to others.STOP and THINK before you say or do something that could hurt

someone.If you feel like being mean to someone, find something else to do.

Play a game, watch TV, or talk to a friend.

Talk to an adult you trust. They can help you find ways to be nicer to others.

Keep in mind that everyone is different. Not better or worse. Just different. ****If you think you have bullied someone in the past, apologize. Everyone feels

better.

                                                                                                                        

Rebecca Sedwick, 12, jumped to her death from a third-story cement plant structure in central Florida on Sept. 10 after being verbally,

physically and cyber bullied throughout 2012 and 2013. Two girls were arrested on Monday in connection with her death and charged with

aggravated stalking.

'She should be here': Two girls charged in case of bullied Florida girl who committed suicide

The middle school students were booked into a juvenile detention center on Monday night and released to their parents under house arrest, Polk County Sheriff Grady Judd said.

With a probable cause affidavit in hand, he sent his deputies Monday night to arrest two girls, calling them the “primary harassers.” The first, a 14-year-old, is the one who posted the comment Saturday, he said. The second is her friend, and Rebecca’s former best friend, a 12-year-old.

Both were charged with aggravated stalking, a third-degree felony and will be processed through the juvenile court system. Neither had an arrest record. The older girl was taken into custody in the juvenile wing of the Polk County Jail. The younger girl, who the police said expressed remorse, was released to her parents under house arrest.

(CNN) -- Three New Jersey teenagers were charged Wednesday with assault and robbery in what authorities described as the bullying of a 15-year-old high school freshman who committed suicide after he was attacked in March.

According to a news release from the Morris County prosecutor's office, Baldwin was assaulted at his high school, and the incident was caught on surveillance video.

When school officials suspended his alleged assailant, the teenager "made numerous attempts to contact Mr. Baldwin for the purpose of instructing him to go to the school administration and tell them that the incident (assault) was ... a joke," prosecutors said.

Teens charged in alleged bullying of student who later committed suicide

Morristown High School freshman Lennon Baldwin of New Jersey took his own life on March 28 after allegedly being bullied. This photo is from a memorial Facebook page.

COLUMBINE HIGH COLUMBINE HIGH SCHOOLSCHOOL

April 20, 1999 : Two students stormed Columbine High School in Littleton, Colorado and murdered 12 other students aged 14 to 18 as well as a teacher. A further 24 people were injured before the attackers, Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold, killed themselves.

COLUMBINE HIGH SCHOOL

She said she couldn't believe it was real, especially since she had once before seen this same boy pull a gun on some of her friends. "The one with the handgun today pulled a shotgun on my friends once. He said he was sick of being made fun of," she said. "He said, 'I'll shoot you, I'll shoot you.'" Pollock said her friends tried to calm the boy and then ran from him.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget

what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

----Maya Angelou

Questions?

CYBERBULLYINGCYBERBULLYING

CAN YOU GET IN TROUBLE CAN YOU GET IN TROUBLE FOR IT??FOR IT??

Cyber bullying may arise to the level of a Cyber bullying may arise to the level of a misdemeanor cyber harassment charge, or if misdemeanor cyber harassment charge, or if the child is young enough may result in the the child is young enough may result in the charge of juvenile delinquencycharge of juvenile delinquency

And in some cases, if hacking or password and And in some cases, if hacking or password and identity theft is involved, can be a serious identity theft is involved, can be a serious criminal matter under state and federal law. criminal matter under state and federal law.

PREVENTIONPREVENTION

Consider installing a filtering software and/or tracking programs, but don’t rely solely on these tools.

Make certain to never share your Make certain to never share your passwords with anyone, even friends.passwords with anyone, even friends.

Use clever or unique passwords.Use clever or unique passwords.

Close accounts.Close accounts.

CYBER BULLYINGCYBER BULLYING (AFTER THE FACT) (AFTER THE FACT)

Do not to respond to the cyber bullying. Do not to respond to the cyber bullying. Do not erase the messages or pictures. Save these as evidence.Do not erase the messages or pictures. Save these as evidence.

Try to identify the individual doing the cyber Try to identify the individual doing the cyber bullying. Even if the cyberbully is anonymous bullying. Even if the cyberbully is anonymous (e.g., is using a fake name or someone else’s (e.g., is using a fake name or someone else’s identity) there may be a way to track them identity) there may be a way to track them through your Internet Service Providerthrough your Internet Service Provider.. If the cyber bullying is criminal (or if you suspect that it If the cyber bullying is criminal (or if you suspect that it may be), contact the police and ask them to do the may be), contact the police and ask them to do the tracking. tracking.

Contact your school. If the cyber bullying Contact your school. If the cyber bullying is occurring through your school district’s is occurring through your school district’s Internet system, school administrators Internet system, school administrators have an obligation to intervene. have an obligation to intervene.

Even if the cyber bullying is occurring off Even if the cyber bullying is occurring off campus, make your school administrators campus, make your school administrators aware of the problem. They may be able aware of the problem. They may be able to help you resolve the cyber bullying or to help you resolve the cyber bullying or be watchful for face-to-face bullying be watchful for face-to-face bullying

Contact the police if cyber bullying Contact the police if cyber bullying involves acts such as:involves acts such as:

Contact the police if cyber bullying Contact the police if cyber bullying involves acts such as: involves acts such as:

Threats of violence Threats of violence

Extortion Extortion

Obscene or harassing phone calls or text Obscene or harassing phone calls or text messages messages

Harassment, stalking, or hate crimes Harassment, stalking, or hate crimes

Child pornography Child pornography