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How To Be a Great Mentor
Jeremy Cassell and Tom Bird
Topics
What is mentoring? How is mentoring used in business? What are the boundaries around mentoring? What needs to be in place for you to be a great
mentor? 3 core skills – questioning, listening and feedback What process works for mentoring? What do you cover in a first mentoring meeting?
What is mentoring?
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Definition
Mentoring is a supportive learning relationship in which a more skilled or experienced, caring person teaches, encourages, shares knowledge, imparts wisdom, sponsors, counsels and befriends a less skilled or experienced individual who is ready and willing to benefit from this exchange, to enrich his/her professional journey.
Mentoring is a relationship that meets a development need, helps develop full potential, and benefits all parties - mentor, mentee and the business.
Or
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There are different types of mentoring…‒ Developmental mentoring – This is where the mentor is
helping the mentee develop new skills and abilities. The mentor is a guide and a resource for the mentee's growth.
‒ Sponsorship mentoring – This is when the mentor is more of a career influencer than a guide. In this situation, the mentor takes a close interest in theprogress of the mentee (or protégé). The mentor "opens doors", influencingothers to help the mentee or protégé'sadvancement.
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What makes a good mentor?Time Solutions
Experience
People
Confidence
Encouraging
Respect Caring
“Go to”person Interest
in others
Communicationsskills
KnowledgeInspiration
Sees learning opportunities not mistakes
Empathy
Patience
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Mentoring – a brief history
Alcumus
Telemachus
Athena
Odysseus
Trojan War
& Penelope
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Famous mentoring relationships
Mel Gibson mentor to Heath Ledger
Madonna mentor to Gwyneth Paltrow
Audrey Hepburn mentor to Elizabeth Taylor
Bing Crosby mentor to Frank Sinatra
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More famous mentoring relationships
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Difference between mentoring & coaching
Mentoring
Ongoing relationship Longer term More informal Focus on career and
personal development Assumption of expertise,
knowledge Agenda set by mentee
Coaching
Relationship for a set duration
Shorter term More structured Focus on work-related
issues/ challenges No knowledge or
experience required Agenda on specific goals
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What mentoring is not…
‒ “The answer is …”‒ “What you must do is”‒ “You shouldn’t have…”‒ Sorry, I’m busy”‒ “I’m just passing through”‒ “I’ve no idea”‒ “Can we do this in 5?”‒ Thinks: “that’s a great story. I must tell …”
How is mentoring used in business?
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How is mentoring used?Formal or informal mentoring is used for:
- Career advice- Transition- Specific projects- Growing future leadership talent- On the job learning - Induction- Redundancy/outplacement- Helping mentees adjust to change- Succession planning- Sounding out ideas
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Benefits of mentoring
Insights
Learning institutionalised
Sense of belonging
Advice & experience
Higher performanceQuicker transitionsSense of helping
Improved retentionCareer clarityConfidence
Increased engagementSupportSharing Knowledge
Quicker learningSpace to thinkChallenge
For us (the business)
For them (mentees)For You (mentor)
Team cohesion
Empowerment
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ROI of mentoring
Mentoring works. Here is some evidence: • Retention – 77% of companies reported improvement
after mentoring (Source: Center for Creative leadership)
Promotion – 75% of executives report mentoring being beneficial to career (Source: ASTD)
Productivity – 95% of mentees said the experience motivated them to do their best (Source: War on talent, Ed Michaels)
Personal and professional development – 76% of Fortune’s top 50 companies offer mentoring (Source: Fortune)
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What works? 4 key areas if you want to foster a culture of mentoring
- Get senior champions on board
- Match mentoring pairs
- Train mentors and mentees
- Set standards, gauge and reward good mentoring
What are the boundaries around mentoring?
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Experience
What are the boundaries and expectations?Confidential Advice
Focus on what is important
to mentee
Learning not blame
Help & support
Long-term(6-12 mths)
Feedback is 2-way
Empowers
Honesty & chemistry
2-3 face to face
Independent, objective,
outside line management
Safe &Non-threatening
Informal structure
MENTORING
What needs to be in place for you to be a great mentor?
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Insights
Goals Learning
Provide feedbackRetention
Advice
High expectations of mentee
ChallengePractice Self-confidence
ListeningBusiness
Be motivated to continue growing
QuestioningThe market
Desire to helpEmotional IntelligenceThe organisation
Mind-setSkillsKnowledge
Empowerment
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Mindset Behaviors Results
The impact of mind-set
Three Core Skills: questioning
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Great questions
‒ Open are SO MUCH BETTER than closed as we all know….we need longer answers in mentoring
‒ Begin with ‘What?’ ‘How’? Why can be used but be careful of judgment interpretation
‒ Add ‘Tell me more about?’ ‘Describe’
‒ Great for eliciting more detail e.g. “what else did he say?`’ Use exactly to clarify further
‒ Great for understanding others’ personal opinions – “What did you think of the strategy presentation?”
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What else on questions?‒ Use leading questions with care. If you use them
in a self-serving way or one that harms the interests of the other person, then they can, quite rightly, be seen as manipulative and dishonest.
‒ Don’t try to disguise a statement as a question – ‘Do you really think you have enough time for that?”
‒ Make sure that you give the person you are questioning enough time to respond. Give them thinking time and avoid interrupting
‒ Of course, your body language and tone of voice also play a part in the answers you get when you ask questions
‒ Skillful questioning needs to be matched by careful listening so that you understand what people really mean with their answers…
Three Core Skills:listening
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Great listening looks like…‒ It starts with a real connection – compassion
promotes expansiveness in the brain
‒ What are you listening for?
‒ Suspend your needs and wants – its not about you, remember
‒ Conscious listening – what is not being said, what is behind these words?
‒ Use playback – repeat exact words, reflect back what you see is happening emotionally
Three Core Skills:Feedback
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SBI feedback model
Setting and circumstances: when and where
What I saw you do and/orheard you say
The impact of yourbehavior on me, others,and/or the task
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Positive SBI feedback
“I see that you have had success with several pitches and proposals recently. That’s good.”
More specific and motivating positive feedback:
(Situation Behavior Impact)
“You have won several pitches and proposals recently in what has been a difficult market, with intense competition (situation). I understand that client feedback has been that these were very well researched and relevant to their emerging issues (behavior). You have developed new business and lifted our market profile in this area. That’s great, well done.”(impact).
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Constructive SBI feedback
“You need to improve your people management skills.”
Effectively expressed constructive feedback:
(Situation Behavior Impact)
“As you know, a core job expectation of a manager is also to manage and develop staff. I have received feedback that you could improve in this area (situation). You need to delegate more, and also provide timely coaching and feedback to your staff (behavior). This will help you achieve your goal of taking on more responsibility, and also help you better develop, engage and retain your staff (impact).”
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Situation
Behavior
Impact
3 or 4 positive
1 negative
What is the process you can use for mentoring?
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The 3-Stage Model
Use it to:1. Map the mentoring process2. Review the mentoring relationship3. Enhance a shared understanding of the mentoring
process, and develop mentee’s ability to use it independently
Exploration1.
Understanding2.2.
Action3.
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The Grow Model
G
R
O
W
oal setting
eality
ptions
ill
What do you want? - Short / Long term Goals
The current situation - challenges, performance strategy
Brainstorming - explore alternative courses of action
What WILL be done - when, by whom, how?
What do you cover in a first mentoring meeting?
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Developing the relationship… Check in all the time – is this working? What do we need to do differently?
Be available (within boundaries)
Start each meeting with checking in on actions agreed - Avoid going into judgement if actions not completed
Meetings and agenda should be driven by mentee – drive this responsibility
Relate back to goals/outcome from first meeting
Focus on important rather than urgent – not about fire-fighting
Finish with clean break - ensure you do not create dependence
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The first session – contracting & foundations Exchange information about yourselves
Mentor and mentee roles – discuss
Boundaries – confidentiality, what will make this a successful relationship?,
frequency and location, respect each others’ time, decide who will take notes –
typically mentor take notes
Discuss long-term development – goals and aspirations
• What does success look like – what might get in the way?
• What should the focus of the mentoring be?
• How will you know if it’s worked?
Deal with most pressing issues
Handover to mentee to manage meetings from now on
Follow up - Do what you say you are going to do
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Tom Bird and Jeremy Cassell