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Do you believe in true love? …
Does happy ending really exist?...
Have you been in a relationship?...
Have you been in a heartbreak?...
B-R-E-A-K“Going through
heartbreak can feel like
being underwater when you need to
breathe. ”
How to Overcom
e Heartbre
ak?
We build our lives with someone we trust and care for, and then, in the blink of an eye, it's all gone. This can
leave people with sorrow, anger, and some serious
questions — about ourselves and the future. So, go back to
BASIC when you haven’t know/met him/her yet.
A. GIVE YOURSELF SOME TIME
You've probably been in a relationship for a while, or maybe you've been thinking about that person
non-stop for months. Now is the time to take a step back, look at your life, and move on to the
next challenge. Everyone falls down. It's how you get back up that defines you.
B. Remove all the memories of the person from your everyday
life.You're not trying to
pretend like the person never existed, just temporarily
forget how much they meant to
you and how they broke your
heart.
C. Disconnect the person from all the social networks you
use. Nowadays, we have our
regular lives and our online lives.
Unsubscribe from the person on Facebook,
unfollow them on Twitter, and work so
that your online network doesn't
remind you of the person who broke your
heart.
D. Exercise and eat right
Go the gym or get outside and sweat. Physical activity increases the amount of serotonin in the brain, which acts like a natural antidepressant, improving your mood. It's okay to eat ice cream and milkshakes every once in a while (who doesn't do that?!) but it's best to
continue to eat a diet rich in fruits and veggies, lean protein, whole grains, and water. These will not only make you look fantastic, but feel fantastic as well.
E. Try not to be in the same place as the person, if possible.
This is hard to do, obviously: The other person has
probably been an important part of your life for some time, and your body and brain are used to having
them around. But giving the other person up, like cold
turkey, is a good way to tell your body and mind that there are plenty of other people in the world who
deserve your attention. Why not give them a chance?
F. Stay optimistic.This is easier said than done, but whenever you feel yourself being overly negative, dwelling on the past, or just looking at the glass as half-empty, try to snap out of it. Remind
yourself of everything you have and how lucky you are.
2ndACCEPTANCE
Understanding is the first step to
acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.
A. Figure out what went wrong in your relationship.
Every relationship has its strengths and weaknesses. Figure out what went wrong in your relationship, or what wasn't so great about the other
person. This way you can grow in the future, or look for better traits in your next partner. There are a bunch of things that can normally go wrong
in a relationship.
B. Don't obsess over whose fault it was.
You probably have room for growing, too, so try not to pin all the blame on just the other person. Focus on
the issues, not the actors.
C. Learn from your mistakes.
Everyone makes mistakes. It's how
you learn from them that defines you as a person. Learn from what went wrong in
your last relationship — what caused you to be heartbroken — and make sure that
doesn't happen in the future
D. Once you're ready, forgive the other person.Forgiveness is an important part of
healing your broken heart. In order to move on, you need to
forgive the other person, or you'll constantly be thinking about
them or wondering why they hurt you.
E. Don't argue with the other person.
Sometimes you give the other person a chance to speak their mind, or to
talk about an issue that went wrong. We do this to get closure. If you are discussing things with the person who broke your heart, be a little guarded and don't let the conversation turn
into an argument.
3rdTURNING YOUR
LIFE AROUNDThink about the last time you
felt emotional pain.Perhaps the last time was
about a second ago, or perhaps a fairly long time,
regardless, put yourself back there for a moment.
A. Lean on your friendsYour friends are there to
help you, to comfort you when you're feeling bad, and
inspire you to feel good. Deep down,
your friends love you. It's not unreasonable
to lean on your friends as you deal with a
broken heart. They're maybe the ones who will help you out of it.
B. Channel your energy into new
activities. What we miss when a relationship ends is that we can't express our love anymore. We can't express our excitement to someone
who's interested because they're interested in you. You can continue this form of heartfelt expression, however, by
writing poetry, painting, singing, dancing, etc. Do whatever it takes to allow you to transform your pain into
something productive!
C. Go on a trip.
It doesn't need to be far, but it should be far enough to give you a little bit of perspective. The world is such a big, beautiful place; you
should take advantage of it. Bring some camping supplies or bunk it with that friend you haven't seen in a while. A little bit of
distance can do wonders for your broken heart.
D. Tap your imagination. .
Nothing makes getting over a broken heart harder than feeling trapped. And it may
be cheesy or cliché, but your imagination will let you go places you've never been and experience things you might never
see. Use it. You'll feel better.
E. Once you feel ready, start dating other people
again.After two or three months, many people feel
ready to date again. Be sure you've fixed some of the issues you had in your
previous relation, and try not to make the same mistake twice!
F. Remember the two-year rule.
It takes two years to learn a new job, two years to get accustomed to a new town, and two
years to completely heal a broken heart. If you expect to be completely healed in a day after a
three-year relationship, you could be sorely disappointed. Real results are obtainable when
realistic expectations are set.