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Growth & Health
• Uniqueness of a person’s values and experiences
• person-centered
• Humanism’s assumption = people have an innate desire for growth
Growth perspective
• Freud’s starting point:
• unconscious desires
• Man’s basic irrationality
• Growth is resolving
• neurotic conflicts
Carl Rogers
• The ‘self’ is our overall perception of our abilities throughout time (how you see yourself)
• SELF CONCEPT
• This self emerges from individual experiences with the world.
Real Self
Real Self - what a person is capable of becoming in an
ideal world
Unconditional positive regard “I love you no matter what”
Can you say that to yourself and mean it?
Ideal selfIdeal Self - not shaped only by personal desires
but by also by other people’s desires
and idea of our self worth
Who do you wishyou were?
Organismic valuing• Actualizing tendency
• We like what we need. If we trust our instincts, we will eat and behave in ways that contribute to our well being.
• We evolved to favour colours because they indicate ripeness in fruit.
Positive Regard
• We value and need positive regard from others but we also need it from ourselves-positive self regard
conditional positive regard
• External measurement of a person’s worth are everywhere conditions of worth
• Powerful behavioural shaper.
• We need positive regard from others, even if it means (sometimes) not acting in our own best interest.
conditional positive regard
• Over time, this conditioning leads to conditional positive self-regard.
• “I like myself only when I measure up to standards others have imposed.”
Pause the video
• and ask yourself these questions...
• Is it possible to have unconditional positive regard for others?
• What is the role of boundaries and conditions in relationships?
• Is it possible to have and give this to yourself?
Abraham Maslow
• Terrible childhood
• Alcoholic father
• Abusive mother
• Both were miserly and unloving
• Set out to model his own life against successful people
Virtues of Self actualized people
• Reality-centered
• Enjoyed solitude
• Autonomous
• Resisted conformity
• Humble
• Respectful
• Value deep connections
Eleanor Roosevelt Great minds discuss
ideas,average minds discuss
events, small minds discuss
people.
Portrait of success
• Open to new experiences
• Constantly evolving and growing
• A love of learning
• Do not feel defensive
• Seek guidance from others but make their own decisions
• Get along with others
• Realize they don’t have to be well liked by everyone
• Live in the present and not in the past (or only for the future)
growth orientation
Focus on what you can do instead of what you can’t
Rick Hansen’s Man in Motion Tour