Integrated English -3

Unit Fourteen

Father Forgets

Pre-reading questions

1. What kind of father do you have?2. How do you think a father should

treat his son or her daughter?

Topics for oral discussion (Unit 14)

My father/mother and IHow to be a good parentChinese/Western parents’ child-rearing style(s) (Refer to Page 212 Oral activity 2)Comment on “It is a wise father that knows his own child.” (Shakespeare)Comment on “There’s no vocabulary for love within a family” (T. S. Eliot)

Questions for general understanding

1. What’s the main idea of the text?2. What type of writing is the text?3. How is the text narrated? /How

does the father narrate? 4. How many parts can we divide the

text into? What are they? What does each part tell us?

Main idea

The text is about a confession made by a harsh father.confession: a statement that you have done something wrong, illegal, or embarrassing, especially a formal statement

What type of writing is the text?

Narration.

How is the text narrated?/How does the father narrate?In the chronological order: from the early morning when the boy rose, washed, and had breakfast, to the late afternoon when the boy came back from school, to the night when the son kissed him goodnight, and finally, to the moment when his son was soundly asleep.

Text structure

3 partsPart I (Paragraph 1) is the introductory part: an affectionate

father is ready to make a confession.

Part II (Paragraphs 2 – 8) The father recalls his harsh and

inappropriate behavior towards his son.

Part III (Paragraphs 9-15) The father has made a resolution to be a

real daddy.

Part I

-- Introduction: an affectionate father filled with remorse comes to his son who is in sound sleep and is ready to make a confession.

1. How does the author describe his son?

2. Why was the father filled with remorse?

1. How does the author describe his son?

With the description, "one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead,” the author creates the image of a son who is tender and weak and who needs care and love.

Language work

1. crumple: -- to (cause to) become wrinkled; to fall apart; to collapse 压皱；垮掉，崩溃 The side of the car had crumpled where it h

ad been hit. The Nazi regime finally crumpled.

Sentence -1…as you lie asleep, one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead. 独立主格结构 (absolute construction) ：逻辑主语与句子主语不同；一般有逗号与主句分开； Weather permitting, we are going to visit you tomorrow. He came out of the library, a large book under his arm.

with+ noun/pronoun + present (past) participle/adjective/adverb/infinitive/prep. phrase He stood there, (with) his hand raised.

2. stifling: -- very hot or stuffy almost to the point of being suffocating; causing a feeling of repression, or suffocation 令人发闷的，令人窒息的 She can hardly breathe in this stifling hot weather. The atmosphere in the crowded hall became

so stifling that two of the women passed out. 拥挤不堪的大厅里闷得令人窒息 , 两个妇女晕了

过去。stifle v.: to cause difficulty in breathing properly; to repress; to keep in or hold back 窒息；压 / 抑制 The smoke filled the room and almost stifled the fire

men. 屋里浓烟弥漫呛得消防队员喘不过气来 . 她强忍住笑 . She tried hard to stifle her laughter.

3. remorse: -- a strong feeling of guilt and regret about something one has done 懊悔 , 自责 , The man showed no remorse for his crime. In a fit of remorse she burnt all her lover's le

tters. 她在一阵悔恨之中把情人的信都烧了 . without remorse 毫不后悔地，无情地

sweep over

vi. To look quickly at all of sth 环视四周 ,扫过 , 掠过；overcome, as with emotions or perceptual stimuliHer eyes swept the room. 她的眼睛扫视了一下那个房间。一阵惊恐袭上她的心头。A wave of panic swept over her.

2. Why was the father filled with remorse?

He was feeling remorse for his rudeness toward his son.He has always been unhappy with his son and formed a habit of complaining, of finding fault, of reprimanding.

Part II (Para. 2-8)-- The father recalls his harsh and

inappropriate behavior towards his son.

1. What were the things that the father found fault with?

2. How would you describe the father?3. What made the father repent (feel

regret or sorrow)?4. What diction (use of words) helps

create the image of the father?

crossAdj.

1. ~ (with sb) (about sth) (infml 口 ) rather angry 生气的 ; 恼怒的What are you so cross about? 你为什么发那么大的火啊 ? 他迟到了 , 我很生气 . I was cross with him for being late.

2. [attrib 作定语 ] (of winds) contrary; opposed （指风）逆的 , 反向的Strong cross breezes make it difficult for boats to leave harbour. 逆风很强刮得船难以离港 .

take sb. to task

take/call/bring sb. to task-- 责备（批评）某人

find fault 找岔子 ; 挑剔 , 吹毛求疵I can't find fault with the new restaurant: the food is good and the service is excellent.我无法对那家新餐馆吹毛求疵：食品很好，服务也是一流的。他总是对我的工作吹毛求疵。He's always finding fault with my work.

4. gulp: -- to swallow greedily or rapidly in large amounts; to choke back by or as if by swallowing 快速或贪婪地吞咽（食物或饮料） : gulp one‘s food 狼吞虎咽地吃东西 gulp down a cup of tea 一口气喝下一杯茶 She gulped back her tears and tried to smile. 她咽下眼泪 , 强作笑容 . She crawled onto the river bank and lay there gulp

ing in air. 她爬上河岸 , 躺在那里喘着大气 .

(idm 习语 ) at a gulp with one gulp 一口气吞下 : empty a glass at a gulp 一口气喝完一杯

Hold your shoulders back!

收腹，挺胸，肩向后，抬起头。Stomach in, chest out, shoulders back, head up肩并肩shoulder to shoulder / side by side面对面 face to face手拉手 hand in hand 臂挽著臂 arm in arm

5. snap:(1) to speak abruptly or sharply厉声说（话）（通常指生气时） “You are late again!” he snapped at the boy.

(2) to close the jaws quickly; to bite一下子咬住 The big dog snapped at her ankles.

(3) to break suddenly off or in two 使断裂 A branch snapped off the tree in the wind.

(4) take a quick photograph of (sb) （很快地）给（某人）拍照 I snapped you sunbathing on the beach.

我给你拍了一张海滩日光浴的照片 .

6. tempestuous:tempest n. violent storm 暴风雨 ; 风暴 a tempest in a teapot (US) = a storm in a teacup

--a lot of fuss, excitement, disturbance, etc about sth unimportant 茶杯里的风暴（小事惹起的轩然大波）

(1) of, relating to, resembling a tempest; stormy Dark and tempestuous was night. 夜色深沉，狂风肆虐，暴雨倾盆。

(2) (of emotions) very strong and passionate 剧烈的，狂暴的

She is in a tempestuous mood. 她心理很乱。 She burst into a tempestuous fit of anger.

她勃然大怒。 Word derivation: tempestuously ad., tempestuousness n.

bloom v 1 (a) produce flowers; flower; blossom 开花 Daffodils bloom in the spring. 水仙花在春天开放 .

(b) (fig 比喻 ) flourish; prosper 茂盛 ; 繁荣 : Our friendship is blooming. 我们之间情长谊深 .

2 ~ (with sth) (a) (of a garden, etc) be full of plants or flowers in bloom （指花园等）长满茂盛的花木 : The garden is blooming with spring flowers. 园内春花盛

开 . (b) (fig 比喻 ) be in a healthy or flourishing condition (because of sth) （由於某种原因）处於健康或隆盛状态 : They were blooming with health and happiness.

他们既健康又快乐 .

7. sickening: -- causing or liable to cause a feeling of disgust or nausea使人恶心的 ; 令人作呕的 a sickening stench (unpleasant smell) of blood The child hit the ground with a sickening thud.可怕的闷响

sicken v. to (make somebody) feel disgusted or appalled使恶心或厌恶 I was sickened at/by the sight of the dead body. 我看到那死尸感到很恶心 . Cruelty sickened everyone present. 我们每个人都对残暴行为十分愤慨

Sentence -2

Para. 8Suddenly I saw myself as I really was, in my horrid selfishness, and I felt sick at heart.Paraphrase: At that moment I realized what I was really like, i.e., an awfully selfish man. I was so ashamed of myself.

Pair discussion

1. What were the things that the father found fault with?

2. How would you describe the father?3. What made the father repent (feel

regret or sorrow)?4. What diction (use of words) helps

create the image of the father?

1. What were the things that the father found fault with?

The father found fault with almost everything the boy did. Even though some of the things his son did were perfectly all right for a child, he would reprimand the son.

2. How would you describe the father?

This is a father who is at times so harsh that even if the son has done nothing wrong a whip is cracked on his back.

3. What made the father repent?

Though the father was cross and unreasonably fussy about trivialities, the son didn‘t bear grudges (怨恨 a deep-seated feeling of resentment). Instead, he showed his deep affection toward his father. This awakened his father, made him feel ashamed and led him to his introspection.

4. What diction (use of words) helps create the image of a harsh father?

The author uses words like "frowned," "spied," "humiliated," "impatient" and "snapped" to show how cross and harsh the father is.

Part III (Para. 9-15)

-- The father has made a resolution to be a real daddy.

1. What rhetorical devices are used in Paragraph 9?

2. Why is the father so cross to his son?

3. What does the father resolve to do?

8. reprimand: --to speak angrily or seriously (to somebody who is thought to have done something wrong) 训斥，斥责 Little Harry was reprimanded by the headmis

tress for playing truant. He was sharply reprimanded for his neglige

nce. 他因玩忽职责而受到严厉的申斥。

Note: The text is abundant with words or phrases of similar meaning, e.g., scold, take somebody to task, find fault.

Sentence -3

Para. 9I was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.Paraphrase: I was judging you by the standard for an adult, which was unfair with a little boy.expect too much (of sb) believe or assume sb can do more than he can 对（某人）期望过高 : ‘I can't finish this job by Friday --you expect too much of me.' ‘ 我星期五以前干不完这项工作 -- 你对我期望过高了 .

9. atonement: --repayment for an injury or wrong补偿 , 赎罪 True guilt is characterized by a readiness to mak

e atonement for having done wrong. The criminal reformed and promised atonement

for his acts. 那罪犯改过自新 ,保证赎自己的罪过。

atone v.: -- to make amends or reparation for an injury or wrong补偿 , 弥补 ; 赎（罪） The father felt he had to atone for what he had d

one to his son.

10. resolve n.: a strong decision or determination决定 ; 决心 The argument increased her resolve to brea

k up with him. resolve v.: (1) to make a decision formally or with determination After a day of argument we resolved on/ag

ainst (making) an early start.(2) solve or settle resolve an argument, a difficulty, a crisis 解决争端﹑ 困难﹑ 危机

bite one's tongue-- To forcibly prevent oneself from uttering a word Also hold one‘s tongue 忍住不说

bite one‘s lip(s) 咬嘴唇 ( 压抑喜怒等 )button one‘s lip 守口如瓶to bite one's lips and gnash the teeth咬牙切齿

11. weary: -- very tired, especially after working hard for a long time疲倦的 , 厌倦的 You must be weary after the long, bumpy fight. be/get/grow weary of = feel bored with Rose had gone out with the same people to the same

clubs for years and she had just grown weary of it. weary v. : to (cause to) be tired or bored使疲倦 , 使厌烦，不耐烦 Children weary me with their constant inquiries and

demands. (weary sb. with使某人感到烦恼 / 不耐烦 )

You will soon weary of living abroad. (weary of 对某人 [ 某事物 ] 不满 )

Sentence -4

Para. 14A penitent kneels at your infant shrine, here in the moonlight.Paraphrase: Here in the moonlight, I, with a strong feeling of guilt and regret, present a humble apology to you, my innocent little boy.

Questions for discussion (Part III)

1. What rhetorical devices are used in Paragraph 9?

2. Why is the father so cross to his son?

3. What does the father resolve to do?

1. What rhetorical devices are used in Paragraph 9? The author starts Paragraph 9 with a rhetorical question, which suggests the father's reflection on his behavior. Then he uses "The habit of complaining, of finding fault, of reprimanding ..." to emphasize his regrets for his harshness. He also uses irony: "all these were my rewards to you for being a boy" to show his regret.

2. Why is the father so cross to his son?

He was not satisfied with whatever the child did because he had expected too much from his son and always judged him by the standard for an adult.

3. What does the father resolve to do?

He has made a resolution to be a real daddy and to treat the son as a little boy.

More question

In the essay Father forgets, what does the father forget?Love is the most important duty of a father. / love is the essence of the relationship between parents and children. (Text comprehension I)

Text comprehension -II

1. T. Refer to Paragraphs 7 and 8. It was late that day before bedtime that the son came to his library and gave him a kiss, which made him realize how wrong he was in playing the kind of father he had been playing.

Text Comprehension -II

2. T. Refer to Paragraph 8. After the son left the library, his paper slipped from his hands and he felt fearful and sick at heart for he suddenly saw himself as he really was, and he realized how selfish he was.3. T. The author applies the flashback technique in the account of a day when the father had an epiphany.

Text Comprehension -III

1. He was cross with his son, and too harsh on him. He scolded his son for dabbing his face with a towel, for gulping down food at breakfast table, and for playing marbles; he even "humiliated" his son by making him march on before his boy friends.

2. The father treated the son as a man. He expected too much of his son, and he used his own yardstick in judging his son. Another possible reason is the life pressure he may have to endure as is implied by the detail about stockings.

3. By showing his childish, selfless/unselfish love, the son made his father realize love is the essence between parents and children.4. As the whole passage is the confession of a father, the father sounds remorseful and penitent. Also note a slight touch of the melodramatic ( 情节剧的 ,戏剧性的 ) tone when the father expressed his determination to become a real father the next day.5. Open for discussion.

Structural analysis of the text

The events the author reports are not chosen in a causal fashion. He deliberately chooses the details to create the characters – an unreasonably harsh and cross father and a tender and affectionate son, and at the same time, reveal his remorse.

Rhetorical features of the text

Here is an example from Paragraph 8: "a terrible, sickening fear." The juxtaposition of 'terrible, sickening" well serves the purpose of emphasizing the idea of strong fear.

Vocabulary exercises -I

1. come quietly and cautiously into2. criticized you in a severe and angry

way3. in a sudden and passionate move /

helped to cultivate/ make (it) weaker4. custom / regular way of behaving in a

particular situation5. formed a mental image of6. if what I wanted to do were not to

wake you up

Vocabulary exercises -II

1. infant 2. atonement 3. reprimanded 4. sacrificial5. paltered 6. crumpled 7. remorse 8. stifling

Vocabulary exercises -III

1. dampen 2. remorsefully 3. illogical 4. timidity5. affectionately 6. undeserved 7. weariness 8. visually

Vocabulary exercises -IV

1. called out 2. came over/swept over 3. gulped down4. expect of 5. start off 6. make for

Vocabulary exercises -V

1. created 2. found 3. evokes4. included 5. disapproved 6. getting ready

Grammar exercises -I

A. a fixed arrangementB. a predictionC. a future event developing from a present situation

1. B 2. C 3. B 4. A 5. C 6. A

Grammar exercises -II

1. will have been 2. will have taken 3. will have spent 4. will have left 5. will have finished 6. will have left 7. will have been 8. will have risen

Grammar exercises -III

1. won't be playing 2. will be letting, making 3. will be living 4. won't cut5. won't be riding 6. will arrive / will be arriving 7. will post, will be going 8. will go

Grammar exercises -IV

1. will go 2. will take 3. are 4. will lend5. will make 6. will be able 7. are 8. goes9. will reach 10. will make 11. can have 12. have had13. will be 14. are 15. will buy 16. will have

Translation exercises -I

1. When he learnt that his son had been kidnapped, a deadly fear swept over him.2. The strict/harsh/stern father was very cross about his daughter staying out so late.3. He was severely reprimanded for his chronic laziness and lateness.4. One of the points Wordsworth, an English romantic poet, emphasizes is the spontaneous emotion recollected in tranquility.

5. He is a successful leader, for when he shows resolve, he never fails to dwell on difficulties.dwell on/upon sth think, speak or write at length about sth 细想某事 ; 详述某事6. Little girls often visualize angels as pure and kind children with wings from the heavens (=the sky, as seen from the earth). 上有天堂，下有苏杭。 Up above there is heaven; down below there are Suzh

ou and Hangzhou. /Paradise in Heaven; Suzhou and Hangzhou on earth. /Suzhou –a paradise on earth

7. He tried to atone for his rude behavior toward his girlfriend by taking her to the concert.8. His confession that he had thought of becoming a pirate was a great shock to me.

Translation exercises -II

作为父母，你应该竭尽全力创造并且保持与你的孩子的和谐关系，即便这样做需要极大的自控力。控制暴躁和专横的冲动很重要。在家庭中出现高声叫骂、狂怒指责甚至暴力等情况被认为是糟糕出丑的。故事中的主人公来到其儿子床前，在黑暗中跪着忏悔。他为自己对儿子的粗鲁行为感到后悔。由于他一直用自己年岁的标准来衡量孩子，所以总是对儿子不满意，形成了对孩子埋怨、找岔子和责骂的习惯。但是，儿子却始终对他有一种真挚的爱，这使他感到内疚。现在，他意识到做父母的最大快乐在于他们与孩子之间的相互尊敬和爱意。

Exercises for integrated skills -II

1. how 2. with 3. itself 4. being 5. do 6. outside 7. interests 8. mean 9. strings 10. adults 11. more 12. go 13. having 14. difference

Exercises for integrated skills -I

Dictation

Many people support the idea / of day-care centers for small children / in order to allow women to lead more independent lives. / Only a few people / approve of women's and men's sharing all the household tasks between them. / Yet many families are trying new arrangements. / Sometimes the father stays home, / looking after the children and cooking meals, / while the mother earns the family income. / Sometimes the mother and father / take turns at housekeeping and working outside the home. / These ideas require men to change / much more than women. If most of society agreed with these ideas, / boys and girls would have to grow up quite differently. / Children would study what they enjoyed most / and did best. We would forget such phrases as, / "That's no way for a boy to behave," / or "That's pretty good for a girl." / We would all become individual persons, / and there would no longer be a woman's role.

Listening exercisesI Wish You EnoughPart A. I Wish You Enough

Recently, I overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together. The loudspeaker had announced the departure of the daughter's plane and they were standing near the security gate. They hugged and the father said, "I love you. I wish you enough. "

She said, "Daddy, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Daddy. They kissed and she left.

He walked over toward the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, "Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?""Yes, I have," I replied. Saying that brought back memories I had of expressing my love and appreciation for all my Dad had done for me. Recognizing that his days were limited, I took the time to tell him face to face how much he meant to me. So I knew what this man was experiencing, "Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever good-bye," I asked.

"I am old, and she lives much too far away. I am not in good health, and the reality is, her next trip back will be for my funeral," he said."When you were saying good-bye to each other I heard you say 'I wish you enough.' May I ask what that means?"He began to smile. "That's a wish that has been handed down from generation to generation in my family. My grandparents used to say it to my father and my father used to say it to me, and now I am saying it to my daughter. And she will say that to her children, too." He paused for a moment, and looking up as if trying to remember it in detail, he smiled even more. "When we said 'I wish you enough,' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with enough good things," he continued and then turning toward me, he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory.

"I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright. I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more. I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive. I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger. I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting. I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess. I wish you enough 'Hello's' to get you through the final 'Good-bye.'"

Part B. Heart SongOnce upon a time there was a great man who married the woman of his dreams. With their love, they created a little girl. When the little girl was growing up, the great man would hug her and tell her, "I love you, little girl." The little girl would pout and say, "I'm not a little girl any more." Then the man would laugh and say, "But to me, you'll always be my little girl."The little girl who was not little any more left her home and went into the world. As she learned more about herself, she learned more about the man. One of his strengths was his ability to express his love to his family. It didn't matter where she went in the world, the man would call her and say, "I love you, little girl."

The day came when the little girl who was not little anymore received a phone call. The great man was damaged. He had had a stroke. He couldn't talk, smile, laugh, walk, hug, dance or tell the little girl who was not little anymore that he loved her.And so she went to the side of the great man. When she walked into the room and saw him, he looked small and not strong at all. He looked at her and tried to speak, but he could not. The little girl did the only thing she could do. She climbed up on the bed next to the great man. and drew her arms around the useless shoulders of her father. /Her head on his chest, she thought of many things. She remembered she had always felt protected and cherished by the great man. She felt grief for the loss she was to endure, the words of love that had comforted her.

And then she heard from within the man, the beat of his heart. The heart beat on, steadily unconcerned about the damage to the rest of the body. And while she rested there, the magic happened. She heard what she needed to hear.His heart beat out the words that his mouth could no longer say: I love you, little girl … , I love you, little girl ... , and she was comforted.

Listening exercises

A. Explain the meaning of the title."I wish you enough" is a wish

that has been handed down from generation to generation in the old man's family. When they say "I wish you enough," they are wanting the other person to have a life filled with enough good things.

"I wish you enough" means – "I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright. I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more. I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive. I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger. I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting. I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess. I wish you enough 'Hello's' to get you through the final 'Good-bye.'

B. What is the lyric of the "heart song"? I love you, little girl!

Abstract of Text IIDear Son,

Today I want to tell you how to make people happy. It’s really hard to sum it up into rules, but from my experience I still have some advices. Firstly, you should follow the principle of “Do as you would be done by”. If you are pleased with something others have done to you, remember how they did it and try to do the same thing to others. Do not tell stories in company because it is the most tedious and unpleasant thing in the world. Don’t always center on yourself in your conversation with others, because others are not so interested in your affairs. Never continue to have an argument with heat and clamor.

If you couldn’t convince others in a short period of time, just drop the topic with good temper. Choose appropriate topics according to the group of people you are together with. Talk with others about what they are interested in, make them think that they are wise, or, if you are talking with a woman, flatter her on her beauty. I don’t mean that you should flatter on people without a principle. It’s just a little flattery to indulge others’ little harmless vanity. So why not make them feel happy? The above mentioned are my life experience for which I’ve paid 53 years to get. I hope it can be beneficial to you.

1. In most cases, a group of people with similar backgrounds have so much in common so far as humors, tastes or even weaknesses are concerned. If you feel happy with the complaisance and attention of others to something of yours, the same complaisance and attention you offer to theirs will equally make them happy. So it is very important to observe carefully what in others pleases you as the same things in you will most probably please them.

2. Despite the fact that your own personal concerns or private affairs are interesting to yourself, they could be very tedious and impertinent to everybody else, as nobody else is concerned about your things as much as you are. Besides, you should never display your excellencies or labor in company, or you are apt to be regarded as a man obsessed with vanity and your affected attitude could be very contemptible.

3. If you do so, you may probably raise expectations. As you know, expectations, more often than not, spell disappointment. If you fail to satisfy others' expectations, you may look deservedly like a fool.

4. The object is their beauty. You may safely make this conclusion from the studied and elaborate dress of the ugliest woman in the world. No woman is ugly enough to be insensible to flattery upon her person. A woman tends to think that if she does not have a beautiful face, she may have a graceful figure. If she does not have either a beautiful face or a graceful figure, then she may have nice air. But do not flatter her shortcomings. Instead, she must be flattered upon her own understanding.

5. Little attentions are very pleasant. So observe the little habits, the likings, the antipathies and the tastes of those whom you would win favor from. As most people are more or less narcissistic, your attention to the above-mentioned trifles flatters their self-love, which helps to make them feel that they are the objects of your thought and care.

Topics for oral discussion (Unit 14)

My father/mother and IHow to be a good parentChinese/Western parents’ child-rearing style(s) (Refer to Page 212 Oral activity 2)Comment on “It is a wise father that knows his own child.” (Shakespeare)Comment on “There’s no vocabulary for love within a family” (T. S. Eliot)