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An Introduction to
Transformative Mediation
The Association for Conflict Resolution
2013 Annual Conference
Minneapolis, MN
Speakers: Kristine Paranica, Director, UND Conflict Resolution Center,
Grand Forks, ND
Sarah Prom, Consultant, UND Conflict Resolution Center
Dan Simon, Twin Cities Mediation, St. Paul, MN
Agenda:
- Understanding the experience of conflict
- Exploring the tenets and premises of
Transformative Mediation
- Principles and Hallmarks
- Discussing the Myths of Transformative Mediation
UND Conflict Resolution Center Dan Simon’s Twin Cities Mediation
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WHY IS CONFLICT HARD?
UNDERSTANDING THE EXPERIENCE OF CONFLICT
I. Think of a recent conflict
that you were involved
in. As you replay your
conflict experience,
describe YOUR
behavior, feelings,
thoughts, and physical
symptoms while in the
moment of conflict:
(For example, I felt enraged,
powerless, tense…)
II. Now, describe the
OTHER person in the
conflict. How did you
perceive their behavior?
Describe their emotions.
Describe their physical
symptoms of conflict.
(For example, he/she was
mean, uncaring,
insensitive,
unreasonable…)
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UNDERSTANDING THE
EXPERIENCE OF CONFLICT
How does conflict impact you? We all experience conflict in much the same way.
It is a universal experience that makes us all feel weak, frustrated, confused, angry,
suspicious, defensive, and/or emotional (Bush & Folger, 1994). In conflict, our
ability to think clearly, make good decisions, feel confident or capable, and/or feel
in control of ourselves is diminished.
How does conflict impact the way you view others? Typically, conflict has a
destructive impact on our relationships. It can cause us to view others in a negative
way. When we feel this way we are least able to see or value another person’s
perspective (Bush & Folger, 1994).
When we are in conflict, we typically feel…
Unsure of what to do
Incapable of managing our problems
Unaware of the resources we could use to help us
Less able to live out our values
Not in control of our lives!
Least able to access whatever problem solving skills we may have
Least able to listen to, understand, or take the perspective of another person
On the other hand, when we are not in conflict and things are going well, we think
clearly, feel stronger, confident, and are more capable of handling multiple tasks
and managing our lives.
When we are not in conflict we typically feel…
Confident of the decisions we make
Capable of managing our problems
In touch with the resources we can
use
Able to live out our values
In control of our lives!
Sure of our problem-solving skills
Capable of understanding the
perspective of others
Here’s the conflict paradox:
When you are feeling bad (i.e.,
hurt, angry, tense, powerless,
frustrated) and thinking the
other person is a jerk,
remember the other person is
also feeling bad and thinking
you’re a jerk.
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You
HOMEOSTASIS AND CONFLICT
Conflict can take us out of our homeostasis, disrupting our comfort zone and our
balance between peace and conflict.
Walter Cannon, who was the first person to discover the stress response, believes
that it is this strain on the body that causes us to experience stress and come out of
our homeostasis. In order to regain our balance or equilibrium we may need to
increase positive activities (e.g., sleep, exercise, diet) or decrease negative
activities (e.g., reduce stress or stop smoking) in order to get our body back within
our predetermined set points.
Similar to our physical body’s attempt to stay in homeostasis, we believe that we
have a mental and emotional homeostasis. That homeostasis is our ability to
maintain a balance between peace and conflict. It’s our comfort zone where we are
best able to live out our beliefs and values.
So, how does this relate to conflict? When we experience conflict (e.g., a difficult
conversation) it upsets our balance. We typically can handle stress within
reasonable limits, but similar to our body’s reaction to an injury or illness, conflict
can take us out of our homeostasis. Many of us avoid difficult conversations
because they could cause conflict and this conflict disrupts our balance. When we
are out of our homeostasis we typically feel: uncertain, unsure of what to do,
not in control, frustrated, angry, least able to listen and take the perspective of
another person, self-absorbed, least able to problem solve and least able to live
out our values.
Peace
Time
Triggers
Conflict
Out of your
homeostasis
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THE FOUNDATION OF THE TRANSFORMATIVE
MEDIATION PROCESS The moment-by-moment activities of the mediator are guided by the mediator’s
beliefs about human beings and social interactions. These beliefs are referred to as
the mediator’s premises and are the basis for why we practice from a
transformative framework.
PREMISES OF TRANSFORMATIVE MEDIATION
People
People have separate identities; however, they are also inherently connected to
others
People are motivated by a moral impulse to act with both strength and
compassion
Primary human motivation
Desire to balance their autonomy while maintaining their connection to others
Change their interaction with each other from destructive to constructive
Social institutions (including conflict resolution processes) should
Facilitate self-fulfillment of individuals
Foster compassionate strength
Support human interaction
Highest value to be attained by conflict intervention
Shift in the quality or character of human interaction from:
Negative to positive
Adversarial to cooperative
Objectifying to humanizing
Conduct by the parties in mediation that integrates strength of self with
responsiveness to another, whatever the outcome Used with permission from the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation. Inc.
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AN INTRODUCTION TO TRANSFORMATIVE
MEDIATION
Transformative Mediation became a distinct process for mediation following the
writing of The Promise of Mediation (Bush, Folger, 1994; 2004). The theories and
ideas written by the authors were moved into mediation practice when the US
Postal Service asked the authors to use these ideals to mediate cases for them and
to train mediators to use the theory and practice. Mediation as a transformative
process is unique because of its five tenets:
1) Mediator focus on party “empowerment”
a. Empowerment occurs when the parties grow calmer, clearer, more
confident, more organized, more decisive, regaining a sense of
strength and able to act and handle the problems they face. During the
course of a mediation session there are “requests for empowerment,”
which are (usually implicit) indications by one or both of the parties
that they desire empowerment. As a mediator, it is important to focus
on a party’s empowerment needs first because if he/she does not feel
some level of empowerment he/she will never offer genuine
recognition.
2) Mediator focus on “recognition”
a. Recognition occurs when parties voluntarily choose to become
more open, attentive, responsive to the situation of another,
thereby increasing the likelihood for them to understand and/or at
least be willing to see another perspective. Only after a party has
experienced some level of empowerment will he/she be able to give
and/or receive recognition. In mediation there are many opportunities
for parties to give recognition to one another and the mediator has a
variety of techniques with which to respond to those opportunities.
The mediator is careful not to force recognition, keeping in mind that
without genuine empowerment and recognition it is unlikely that the
parties will be able to transform their interaction.
3) The goal of mediation which is to transform the quality of the parties’
interaction from destructive to constructive
4) The mediator’s micro-focus at the table
5) The mediator’s party-centered and non-directive approach
During the mediation process, a mediator works with parties in conflict to help
them change the quality of their interaction from negative and destructive to
positive and constructive, by supporting party efforts at empowerment (gaining
clarity and making decisions) and recognition (taking the perspective of the other
party). Another unique feature of transformative mediation is that the process can
transform the way disputants understand themselves and others by allowing for
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meaningful discussion and new understandings of others’ views to the situation
and the realization that they can directly handle future disputes of this nature.
The promise mediation offers for transforming conflict interaction is real, not
because mediators can bring expert knowledge and wisdom to bear, or give advice
about how to solve the problems and difficulties the parties face. The promise is
read because skilled (and wise) mediators can support the parties’ own work,
create a space for that work to go on, and, most importantly, stay out of the
parties’ way.
Transformative mediators will allow and trust the parties to find their own way
through the conflict, and more importantly, find themselves and each other,
discovering and revealing the strength and compassion within themselves.
Pepperdine Dispute Resolution Law Journal, Changing the Quality of Conflict Interaction: The Principles and Practice of
Transformative Mediation. Bush, Pope (2002).
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THE PRINCIPLES OF TRANSFORMATIVE
MEDIATION
The premises or beliefs that underlie transformative mediation are expressed, in the
context of mediation, through a mediator’s attitudes and actions as he or she
facilitates the parties’ conversation. If the mediator believes in these premises and
uses them to guide his or her behavior during the mediation, they become
principles of the practice of transformative mediation and result in a mediator’s
ability to:
Be comfortable with conflict, including strong emotion and the negative pattern
of interaction between parties.
Respect parties’ choices, including choices about participation in mediation,
even if they are choices the mediator would not personally make in a similar
situation.
Be comfortable with a limited understanding of the parties’ conflict.
Respect the parties, even if their actions, appearance, language, and attitudes
seem completely different from those of the mediator.
Be patient with the parties and the process of their interaction.
Focus on the moment-by-moment events in the parties’ interaction.
Attend to empowerment and recognition opportunities.
Choose interventions (and non-interventions) based upon opportunities for
party empowerment and recognition.
Relinquish problem solving and control of the process.
Used with permission from the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation. Inc.
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TRANSFORMATIVE MEDIATION’S PREMISES ABOUT
PEOPLE AND THEIR CAPABILITIES
1. A person’s reality is unique to that person and based upon
his/her life experiences
2. People have inherent needs both for advancement of self
and connection with others.
3. People are capable of making decisions for themselves.
4. People are capable of looking beyond themselves.
What are situations that challenge these premises?
How might your belief in these premises influence your actions as a
mediator?
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HALLMARKS: USER FRIENDLY GUIDE TO THE
PRINCIPLES
Each of the ten hallmarks describe, in part, what the principles of a transformative
mediator "look like", and why it is important to carry these attitudes and beliefs into
practice.
1) "The Opening Statement says it All": Describing the mediator's role and
objectives in terms based on Empowerment and Recognition.
2) "It's Ultimately the Parties' Choice": Leaving the responsibility for outcome
with the parties.
3) "The Parties know Best": Consciously refusing to be judgmental about the
parties' views and decisions.
4) "The Parties have what it Takes": Taking an optimistic view of parties'
competence and motives.
5) "There are Facts in the Feelings": Allowing and being responsive to parties'
expression of emotions.
6) "Clarity emerges from Confusion": Allowing for and exploring parties'
uncertainty.
7) "The Action is in the Room": Remaining focused on the here and now of the
conflict interaction.
8) "Discussing the Past has Value to the Present": Being responsive to parties'
statements about past events.
9) "Conflict Can Be a Long-Term Affair": Viewing an intervention as one
point in a larger sequence of conflict interaction.
10) "Small Steps Count": Feeling a sense of success when Empowerment and
Recognition occur, even in small degrees.
Folger, J.P. & Bush, R.A.B. (1996). Transformative mediation and third party intervention: Ten hallmarks of a
transformative approach to practice. Mediation Quarterly, 13(4) 263-27
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DEVELOPING A TRANSFORMATIVE FRAMEWORK
“Purpose Drives Practice”
Attend: Identifying Transformative Opportunities
Focus on the here and now of the conflict interaction
Listen and respond to individual comments/contributions parties are making.
Recognize Opportunities for Empowerment and Recognition
Focus on any comment parties make, which offers an opportunity to work
towards empowerment or recognition.
Be mindful of common signpost events that often mark opportunities for
empowerment or recognition at predictable phases of a mediation.
Monitor: Avoid Focusing Only on the Problem
After identifying opportunities for empowerment or recognition, a mediator needs
to check any instincts that could undermine a transformative response.
Avoid shaping parties’ comments/contributions into one solvable problem
Avoid focusing exclusively on tangible issues
Avoid directing the parties toward a settlement
Respond: Enacting a Transformative Response
Respond to opportunities with comments that encourage or allow disputants to:
Gain clarity and make self-determined choices.
Consider, acknowledge, or respond to the situation of the other party.
Responding to opportunities for empowerment and recognition entails:
1. Awareness: Acknowledging the opportunity by interjecting at the time the
mediator sees the opening for exploring empowerment or recognition
2. Inviting Elaboration: Ask parties to expand on the statement just made. If it is an
opportunity for recognition, what is the point that the party wants to have
recognized by the other? If it is an opportunity for empowerment, what is the
source of confusion, uncertainty, or lack of clarity? Responding to the
elaboration in ways that encourage recognition or empowerment can help the
parties begin to do this on their own during the mediation.
Folger, J.P. (1996). A Transformative approach to mediation: Skills for practice. Presentation at the University of
North Dakota, Grand Forks, ND.
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“CONFLICT TRANSFORMATION”
(CHANGING CONFLICT INTERACTION)
Copyright 2001 R.A. Baruch Bush
Used with permission from the Institute for the Study of Conflict Transformation, Inc.
EMPOWERMENT
RECOGNITION
STRONG
RESPONSIVE
WEAK
SELF-ABSORBED
POSITIVE
CONSTRUCTIVE
CONNECTING
HUMANIZING
NEGATIVE
DESTRUCTIVE
ALIENATING
DEMONIZING
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UNCOVERING MISCONCEPTIONS OF
TRANSFORMATIVE PRACTICE (The following segments are taken from Myths and Misconceptions about the Transformative Orientation By
Dorothy J. Della Noce, R. A. Baruch Bush & Joseph P. Folger, Designing Mediation (2001 – ISCT))
Myth #1: Disputes do not get resolved.
Within the transformative framework, conflicts do indeed “get
resolved” - but they get resolved by the parties rather than by the mediator. The mediator assists the parties by maintaining a focus on (1) the process by which
the parties define and achieve resolution, and (2) a broad conception of what
“resolution” can be.
Myth #2: It’s only for cases where the parties “have a relationship.”
Some people assume that transformative mediation is appropriate only in
those cases where the parties have or want to continue a relationship. This
interpretation misunderstands the framework. Within this framework, every
human interaction is a “relationship” - a process of interacting and relating - that
can be conducted in a negative and destructive fashion or in a positive and
constructive fashion. Therefore, in any situation where the quality of the
interaction matters to the parties, and where the quality of the interaction will have
an impact on other dimensions of the outcome (including whether agreement is
reached and the quality of the agreement reached), interventions that help shift the
interaction from negative to positive are of fundamental value. The interaction
between an insurance adjuster and claimant is as vulnerable to destructive or
productive influences as that of two neighbors or a divorcing couple. Conflict is
essentially about gaining clarity about decisions and choices (empowerment)
in light of the experience of the other (recognition) in whatever setting it
occurs.
Myth #3: The mediators don’t do anything.
Mediators from the transformative orientation are not directive.
However, they are proactive. That is, they are actively engaged with the parties in
conversation, listening intently for cues that offer opportunities to work with
empowerment and recognition, highlighting those opportunities for the parties, and
constantly inviting and encouraging the parties to engage in a constructive
dialogue, to consider new information and alternative points of view, to gain
clarity, to deliberate or “think out loud,” and to make decisions for themselves.
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Myth #4: All the mediators do is ask, “How do you feel about that?”
The mediator’s primary task is to “follow the parties:” maintaining a micro-
focus on their moment-to-moment conversation to identify and highlight
opportunities for empowerment and recognition. Probing for further clarification of
feelings or attitudes is just one of many possible responses a mediator might make
in working with the parties, and may be appropriate if the mediator is truly
following the parties vs. digging for deep meaning. Mediators working within
the transformative framework are skilled at reading the unfolding context, a
context that is continuously created as the parties’ interact. Without such
sensitivity to where the parties are, mediators cannot support where the parties
want to head with their conflict.
Myth #5: There’s no structure or order to the process.
The mediator does not impose a highly-structured process upon the parties
when working from the transformative orientation. Imposing process structure has
an (often unacknowledged) influence on the parties’ conflict. However, this does
not mean that the process lacks order and structure. Order and structure emerge
from the conversations of the mediator and the parties, from moment to
moment. The mediator does not have to impose a structure on the parties; parties
are capable of structuring and ordering their conversations as they need to. The
mediator helps the parties determine how they want to structure their interaction by
focusing on empowerment and recognition.
Myth #6: A mediator can combine theoretical frameworks, or shift
strategically between frameworks.
Mediators (and others) sometimes ask whether it is possible to combine the
transformative and problem solving frameworks, to “do both” at the same time, or
to shift strategically from one framework to another in the course of a mediation.
Such combinations and/or strategic shifts are not possible for a number of reasons.
First, the two theoretical frameworks are based upon deeply-held beliefs
about conflict and its resolution that are fundamentally incompatible. That is, one
cannot hold both sets of beliefs and goals at the same time, or shift between them
in a matter of moments.
In addition, the mediator practices that are characteristic of each theoretical
framework are incompatible. For example, a mediator cannot simultaneously
operate with a micro-focus on interaction and a macro-focus on outcome, nor can a
mediator simultaneously support autonomous party decision-making and substitute
the mediator’s judgment for that of the parties.
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One theoretical framework is inevitably favored over another by each
mediator or mediation program, depending upon the goals and values of the
mediator and the program in which the mediator works.
Myth #7: Transformative mediation imposes a set of values on the parties
while an interest-based/problem solving model does not.
The Promise of Mediation clarified that all forms of mediation practice are
based on world views – ways of thinking about what productive conflict is, what
human beings are capable of and what third parties should do as they intervene.
Transformative mediation is based on a set of relational values. Problem solving is
based on a set of values that stem from interest based negotiation approaches to
conflict. These values are clearly different. Because problem solving has been
such a predominant view of conflict, it is often easy to think that this approach to
practice is value-free, not built on any particular world view. This is clearly not
the case. To choose any approach to practice is to choose a set of values. We
inevitably assume that the values we are choosing are the ones that mediation
should be built upon.