7/23/2019 ISLAMIC 1.docx http://slidepdf.com/reader/full/islamic-1docx 1/41 ISLAMIC - ISLAMIC Welcome to Islamic Question and Answers - You wanted to know about Islam Islamic Beliefs Prophet Mohammad Quran & Hadith Faith Related Muslim Ibadats Islamic Sects Life after Death Graes!Interces sion Marria"e Related #ritical Questions $omen Related Misc% Questions Banin" & Business 'ents #elebrations #hristians Related Hell & Heaen #onerted Muslims PARENTS & CHILDREN'S % 1)PARENTS RIGHTS 2)CHILDREN'S RIGHT IN ISLAM 3)ISLAMIC WAY OF RAISING CHILDREN'S 4)PARENTS UNISLAMIC BEHAVIOUR 5)MOTHERS: IS HEAVEN UNDER THEIR FEET !)DISOBEDIENCE TO PARENTS: A MA"OR SIN #)CUSTODY OF CHILD IF DIVORCED WOMAN REMARRIES $)BRINGING UP OF DAUGHTERS %)REWARD FOR RAISING THREE DAUGHTERS 1)PARENTS' DU'AA AGAINST CHILDREN 11) CHILDREN ISLAMIC EDUCATION IN THE WEST 12)UNLAWFUL CHILD BEFORE ACCEPTING ISLAM 1 PARENTS RIGHTS Important Links
Could you please shed light on the importance of showing respect towards one’s parents in the light of the Qur’an and Hadith keeping in mind the rudebehavior of children of the present times?
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Kindness to parents is mentioned as a duty of believersseveral times in the Quran. There are many Hadithsthat encourage us to be very kind to our parents.
bedience must be discriminating. !e obey ourparents only in what is right and what is calculated toplease "llah. #ut we should be kind to them in allsituations. "llah "lmighty says that if parents try hard topersuade their son to associate partners with "llah$then he must not obey them$ but he should treat themin this world%s life with kindness.
"lmighty "llah has emphasi&ed that kindness to parentsis one of the most important 'ualities of believers. Hesays in the Qur%an(
"Thy Lord hath decreed, that ye worship none saveHim, and (that ye show) kindness to parents. If oneof them or both of them to attain old age with thee,say not !ie #nto them nor rep#lse them, b#t speak #nto them a gracio#s word. )*+, $nd lower #ntothem the wing of s#bmission thro#gh mercy, andsay% &y Lord' Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little. )"l-sra /0(*+-*1,.
"llah )swt, says(
"$nd e have en*oined on man (to be good) to his parents% in travail #pon travail did his mother bearhim, and in years twain was his weaning% (hear thecommand), "+how gratit#de to &e and to thy
parents% to &e is (thy final) oal. )2u'man +/( /1,
"-#t if they strive to make thee *oin in worship with&e things of which tho# hast no knowledge, obeythem not yet bear them company in this life with
*#stice (and consideration), and follow the way ofthose who t#rn to &e% in the end the ret#rn of yo#all is to &e, and I will tell yo# all that yedid." )2u'man +/( /3,
Kindness to parents is mentioned as a duty of believersseveral times in the Qur%an. There are many Hadithsthat encourage us to be very kind to our parents.
However$ such kindness does not re'uire a son or adaughter to obey his or her parents in whatever theymay re'uire of him or her. 4uppose that a father askshis son to tell a lie$ give false testimony$ or drink or dosomething forbidden. f the son complies with hisfather%s wish$ then he commits a sin that will not be lessgrave simply because he is carrying out his father%sorders. The 5rophet )peace and blessings be upon him,said( 67o creature may be obeyed in what constitutesdisobedience to the Creator.6
That applies even in simple matters. 4uppose a fatherarrives from abroad$ having bought a bottle of somee8pensive alcoholic drink and he asks his son to deliver it to a friend or a neighbor. f his son complies with hiswishes and simply takes the bottle to the personconcerned$ he commits a sin$ because carrying aninto8icating drink to someone who will drink it isforbidden. The son must refuse to obey his father insuch a situation.
5arents are also responsible for what they demand oftheir children. t is not right of a father to re'uire his sonor daughter to do something that is contrary to slamicprinciples$ relying on the fact that his son or daughtershould obey him. ndeed$ if the parents do that$ they failin their duty to help their children choose only what
slam approves. 7ot only so$ but they forfeits his rightsto be obeyed by their children.
!e must differentiate here between two things. #eingkind to parents and total obedience to them. bediencemust be discriminating. !e obey our parents only inwhat is right and what is calculated to please "llah. #utwe should be kind to them in all situations. "llah
"lmighty says that if parents try hard to persuade theirson to associate partners with "llah$ then he must notobey them$ but he should
"/bear them company in this world0s life with *#stice (kindness)..." )2u'man +/(/3,.
!hen the 5rophet )peace and blessings be upon him,was told by one of his female Companions that hermother$ a non-believer$ had come to visit her$ he toldher( 6#e kind to your mother.6
#ukhari$ 9ol :$ #ook 0+. ;ood <anners and =orm )"l- "dab,. Hadith >>*. 7arrated #y "bu Huraira( " mancame to "llah%s "postle and said$ 6 "llah%s "postle!ho is more entitled to be treated with the bestcompanionship by me?6 The 5rophet said$ 6yourmother.6 The man said. 6!ho is ne8t?6 The 5rophetsaid$ 6your mother.6 The man further said$ 6!ho isne8t?6 The 5rophet said$ 6your mother.6 The man askedfor the fourth time$ 6!ho is ne8t?6 The 5rophet said$6@our father.6
"nyhow as per slamic teaching$ old parents are yourheaven$ you can earn it by serving them and being
obedient to them in all cases e8cept when they ordersomething against slamic guidelines.
4o all these e8planation to your brother as it is duty ofall children to care of their parents. "t the same time wewould like to mention that(
"$ll1h b#rdens not a person beyond hisscope...." )"l-#a'arah *(*:A,
"llah says(....$nd there is no sin for yo# in the mistakes thatye make #nintentionally, b#t what yo#r hearts
p#rpose (that will be a sin for yo#). $llah is!orgiving, &ercif#l B. )"l-"h&ab ++(3,
5rophet )pbuh, is reported to have said( 6The reward ofdeeds depends upon the intentions and every personwill get the reward according to what he hasintended.6)#ukhari,
beying and honoring one’s parents is a means of entering 5aradise. "bu Hurayrah )may "llah be pleasedwith him, 'uoted the 5rophet )peace and blessings beupon him, as saying( 6He is doomed$ he is doomed$ heis doomed.6 Then someone said$ 6!ho$ <essenger of "llah?6 He said$ 6The person whose parents$ one or both of them$ reach old age during his lifetime but hedoes not enter 5aradise.6 )eported by <uslim,
D8cerpted$ with slight modifications$from( www.islamonline.net
"s for non-<uslim parents$ a <uslim is re'uired todeal with them honorably and kindly and to obey themas long as such obedience doesn%t lead to disobeying
"llah. "bove all$ clarity and transparency between usand our parents is very much needed$ even if they arenon-<uslims. "gain$ being a non-<uslim is not e'ualto being an enemy. 4o deal with parents honorably$
!hat are the responsibilities of parents in respect ofChildren ights? !hat if we are living in foreigncountry and can’t educate our child slamically?
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2et us first establish that in accordance with the trueslamic teaching$ both male and female are alike inthe sight of "llah$ the "lmighty. Children$ according toslam$ are entitled to various rights. The foremost ofthese rights is the right to be properly raised andeducated. This means that children should be givensuitable$ sufficient$ sound and ade'uate religious$ethical and moral guidance to last them for their entirelives. n addition to that he must be given worldlyeducation as much as child want to attain.
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Children learn more from their parents as they arespending their full time at home with them. 4o it is theprime school for children in their early stage$ as wellas stage of teenage. 5arents should give ma8imumtime and adhere to slamic teaching$ regularly offeringall prayers )and father praying at mos'ues$ if it isclose,$ reading Quran$ not earning haram or eatingharam food )and of course no drinking alcohol, etc.Treating well with child and with other family membersand friends to let him understand good moralbehaviours.
Eue to lack of interest in children brought up$ many<uslim parents wake up one day and find they have arebellious teenager who they can%t reason with$ andwho is intent on ignoring everyone. <any leave homein angry and ignore their parents completely and dowhatever they feel good. This is a sad fact nowadays$
5arents will be held responsible for delivering childrenrights. They should be engraved with true values$ themeaning of right and wrong$ true and false$ correctand incorrect$ appropriate and inappropriate$ so forthand so on. "llah$ the "lmighty stated in the ;loriousQur’an(
"2 ye who believe' +ave yo#rselves and yo#rfamilies from a !ire whose f#el is &en and+tones." )"t-Tahreem AA(A,
3/. $nd those who believe will say% "4erily, thelosers are they who lose themselves and theirfamilies on the 5ay of 6es#rrection/. )"sh-4hura1*(13,
"llah’s "postle <ohammad )peace be upon him, alsosaid( 6Dvery one of you )people, is a shepherd. "ndevery one is responsible for whatever falls under hisresponsibility. " man is like a shepherd of his ownfamily$ and he is responsible for them.6 )#ukhari and<uslim,.
Children$ therefore are a trust given to the parents.5arents will be responsible for this trust on the Eay ofFudgement. 5arents are essentially responsible forthe moral$ ethical and basic essential religiousteachings of their children.
f parents fulfill this responsibility$ they will be free of
the conse'uences on the Eay of Fudgement. Thechildren will become better citi&ens and a pleasure tothe eyes of their parents$ first in this life$ and in then inhereafter.
"llah$ the "lmighty stated in the ;loriousQuran( 3$nd those who believe and whose
offspring follow them in !aith, to them shall e *oin their offspring (in heaven), and e shall notdecrease the reward of their deeds in anything.7very person is a pledge for that which he hasearned. )"t-Tur 3*(*/,
<oreover$ "llah%s messenger$ )5#GH, said( 6Gpondeath$ man%s deeds will )definitely, stop e8cept forthree deeds$ namely( a continuous charitable fund$endowment or goodwill knowledge left for people tobenefit from and pious righteous / G.<*-/;9-8 09. ./,-/.+8= 6=+ A889> the "lmighty$for the soul of his parents.6 )<uslim,
n fact$ such a statement reflects the value of theproper upbringing of children. t has an everlastingeffect$ even after death.
Gnfortunately$ many parents from every walk of life$ inevery society$ regardless of creed$ origin$ social andeconomical status$ etc$ have neglected this veryimportant imposed right of their own children on them.4uch individuals have indeed lost their children as aresult of their own negligence. 4uch parents are socareless about the time their children spend with nobenefit$ the friends they associate with$ the placesthey go to$ etc. 4uch parents do not care$ are totallyindifferent about where their children go$ when theycome back and so forth and so on$ causing thechildren to grow up without being any responsible andwithout caring any supervision. 4uch parents neglecteven to instruct$ direct or guide their children to proper way of life$ even right attitudes towards others.
However you may find these parents so careful aboutguarding their wealth and other activities. They e8ertevery possible effort to lead a very successful life interms of materialistic gains$ although all this wealth isnot actually theirs. 7o one will take wealth to thegrave.
Children are to be well-fed$ well-groomed$ properlydressed for the weather and for appearance$ well-taken care of in terms of housing and utilities.However t is more important to offer the childcomparable care in terms of educational$ religiousknowledge$ and spiritual guidance. The heart of achild must be filled with faith. " child’s mind must beengraved with proper guidance$ knowledge andwisdom. Clothes$ food$ housing$ schooling are not$ byany means$ an indication of proper care of the child.5roper basic slamic knowledge$ education andguidance are far more important to a child than food$grooming and appearance.
ne of the due rights of children upon their parents istheir spending for their welfare and well-beingmoderately. ver-spending or negligence is notcondoned$ accepted or even tolerated in slam.
Children also have the right to be treated e'ually interms of financial gifts. 7o one should be preferredover the others. "ll must be treated fairly and e'ually.Eepriving$ or banning the right of inheritance$ or other
financial gifts during the lifetime of the parents or thepreference of a parent for one child over the other isconsidered according to slam as an act of inIustice.
nIustice definitely leads to an atmosphere of hatred$anger and dismay amongst the children in ahousehold. n fact$ such an act of inIustice may$ mostlikely$ lead to animosity amongst the children$ andconse'uently$ this will affect the entire familyenvironment. n certain cases a special child may
show a tender care for his aging parent$ for instance$causing the parent to grant such a child a special gift$or issue him the ownership of a house$ a factory$ aland$ a farm$ a car$ or any other valuable items. slam$however considers such a financial reward to such acaring$ loving and perhaps obedient child$ a wrongact. " caring child is entitled only to reward from "llah$
slam sees that if parents fulfill their duties towards alltheir children in terms of providing them withnecessary training$ educational backing$ moral$ ethicaland religious education$ this will definitely lead to amore caring child$ a better family atmosphere and abetter social environment and awareness. n theother hand$ any negligence in those parental dutiescan lead to the loss of a child or ill treatment of theparents at a later age.
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" child is a blessing from ;od to the parents. @ou cannot make such a beautiful alive entity withoutcommand of ;od. There are instances when couplesremain without a child for years and years$ with nodefect to either of them$ and it has also happened withprophets. 4o a child is a one of the greatest gift toparents$ for that they should always be thankful to;od. However being a precious gift$ it is parentsresponsibility that they should raise the childaccording to the guidelines !ho has given this gift.
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" child does not easily comes in this world. <otherhas to have hard labour of keeping it in her womb fornine months. Euring this time she has to keep herselfwell guarded from the side effects of her eating$drinking$ hard labour of home and outside Iobs. Thenafter birth again she has to take care of her infant lifeby breast feeding )recommended in slam, and alsokeeping it clean$ its natural needs of health and alsosave it form ill effects of environment. =or that "llahsays to the child (
"$nd e have en*oined on man (to be good) to his parents% in travail #pon travail did his mother bear
him, and in years twain was his weaning% (hear thecommand), "+how gratit#de to &e and to thy
parents% to &e is (thy final) oal." )2u'man +/( /1,
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=ollowing are the initial rights of child on father.
/, t is 4unnah to do tahneek for the child when heis born( The scholars are agreed that it ismustahabb to dotahneek with dates for the childwhen he is born if that is not possible then touse some similar kind of sweet. The datesshould be chewed until they become soft
enough to be swallowed$ then the child’s mouthshould be opened and a little of the dates put inhis mouth.
*, The child should be given a good name. t ismustahabb to name the child on the seventhday$ but there is nothing wrong with naming himon the day of his birth
+, t is 4unnah to shave the child’s head on theseventh day and to give the weight of the hair in
silver in charity.
1, Ha'i'a ( "llah )peace and blessings of "llah beupon him, said( JDvery child is in pledge for hisa'ee'ah which should be slaughtered for him onthe seventh day his head should be shaved andhe should be named. )7arrated by "bu Eawood,.Two sheep should be sacrificed for a boy and onefor a girl.
3, Circumcision ( t was narrated that "buHurayrah said( The <essenger of "llah )peaceand blessings of "llah be upon him, said( JThefitrah is five things$ or five things are part of thefitrah( circumcision$ shaving the pubic hairs$plucking the armpit hairs$ clipping the nails andtrimming the moustache.B 4o if it is a boy$ he
(hat she should tae care of )ou *hen )ou are a child+ breastfeedin" and nurturin" )ou% (his is a *ell,no*n
aspect of human nature that has been handed do*n from the
be"innin" of creation%
4he should bring you up in a righteous manner$ forshe will be responsible for that before "llah on theEay of esurrection. @ou are part of her JflockB andshe is your JshepherdB.
t was reported that "bd-"llah ibn Gmar said( J heardthe <essenger of "llah )peace and blessings of "llahbe upon him, say$BDach of you is a shepherd andeach of you is responsible for his flock. The imaam isa shepherd and is responsible for his flock. " man isthe shepherd of his family and is responsible for hisflock. " woman is the shepherd of her husband’shouse and is responsible for her flock. L..’B )7arratedby #ukhari$ :3+ <uslim$ /:*M,
"bu Hurairah narrated that a man came to "llah’s<essenger )saws, and said$ 6 "llah’s <essenger!ho is more entitled to be treated with the bestcompanionship by me?6 The 5rophet )saws, said$6@our mother.6 The man said$ 6!ho is ne8t?6 The5rophet )saws, said$ 6@our mother.6 The man furthersaid$ 6!ho is ne8t?6 The 5rophet )saws, said$ [email protected] The man asked )for the fourth time,$ 6!ho isne8t?6 The 5rophet )saws, said$ [email protected] )#ukhari and <uslim,
"llah says in Quran ( "e have en*oined onman(be) kindness to his parents, in pain did hismother bear him, and in pain did she give himbirth." "l-"h'af 1A(/3,
The most important and lasting gift or inheritance thatwe can give to our children is knowledge of slam. t isour duty that we should educate our children withslamic knowledge since as parents we areaccountable to their success and failure. The 5rophet)saws, makes it very clear that we are accountable toour respective familiesNchildren( "bdullah ibn Gmarreported that he heard the 5rophet <uhammad)saws, saying(
6Dvery one of you is a guardian$ and responsible forwhat is in his custody. The ruler is a guardian of hissubIects and responsible for them a husband is aguardian of his family and is responsible for it a ladyis a guardian of her husband’s house and isresponsible for it$ and a servant is a guardian of hismaster’s property and is responsible for it. " man is aguardian of his father’s property and is responsible for it so all of you are guardians and responsible for yourwards and things under your care,.6 )#ukhOri +N3M*,
"llah says in Quran ( "8o#r riches and yo#rchildren may be b#t a trial% whereas $llah, withHim is the highest 6eward." P"t-Taghabun A1(/3
4ince our children are but a trial and that the highestreward is with "llah the "lmighty$ it is then ourresponsibility to guide our children to slam. t is onlythrough slam that they can become righteous and beof service to "llah. !e pass "llah’s trial once ourchildren worship and please our Creator. He says (
32 yo# who believe, protect yo#rselves and yo#rfamilies from a !ire whose f#el is people andstone /// P"t-Tahreem AA( A
The best thing that we can give to our children isknowledge of slam. t is the best education and the
best means to fight ignorance and drive away evil.The 5rophet )pbuh, says in the following hadith (
"mr bin 4a’id or 4a’id bin "l-"st narrated that "llah’<essenger )saws, said$ 6" father gives his childnothing better than a good education.6 )Tirmidhi and#aiha'i,
slam is the only religion that clearly raises the statusof the parents to a high degree and honor. n fact$
"llah in many ayyats of the Qur’an has commandedus to please our parents after pleasing Him. "fter ourfirm belief in Him$ our Creator has enIoined us to treatour parents with kindness and respect(
"/.orship none b#t $llah and be d#tif#l andtreat with kindness yo#r parents and kindred, andorphans and those in need speak fair to the
people be steadfast in prayer and give9akat ..." P"l-#a'arah *(:+
slam teaches us that it is for our success that wemust obey "llah by showing our utmost kindness andrespect to our parents. !e must also obey them aslong as they do not command us something thatdisobeys "llah. !e have to remember that if weplease them$ we please "llah. This means$ thatthrough our parents we can attain "llah’s rewards inthe eternal world(
Dducating the Children should be done from the earlyage$ starting with the Qur%aanic memori&ation$supplications$ eti'uettes and manners like what to sayupon snee&ing$ eating$ sleeping$ going to the toiletsetc.
They should be related stories of the 5rophets of thepast nations and specifically our 5rophet <uhammad)pbuh,. They must be sent to slamic schools$ whichinclude Quranic classes$ they must be taught the
language of the Quran. ne may also reward themfinancially for the completion of each step in their program. 5arents should be very careful about$ whomthey mi8 with and with whom they be friend. "schildren pick up bad manners and bad language fromtheir surrounding$ it is responsibility of parents tomake them understand$ what are the effects of badcompany.
The 5rophet of "llah )sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam,said( JThe e8ample of a good companion incomparison with a bad one$ is like that of the muskseller and the blacksmith%s bellow from the first you
would either buy musk or enIoy its good smell$ whilethe bellows would either burn your clothes or your house$ or you get a bad nasty smell from it.B P4aheeh#ukharee
"bdullah ibn <as%ud narrated( 6 asked the 5rophet)saws, which deed is the dearest to "llah? He replied$6To offer salaat )the prayers, at there early fi8edtimes.6 asked$ 6!hat is the ne8t )in goodness,?6 Hereplied$ T. 7* ;.. / ,-8 ,. =. 6*/,+
again asked$ 6!hat is the ne8t )in goodness,? 6Hereplied$ 6To participate in Iihad )religious fighting, in "llah’s Cause.6 )#ukhari /N3>3,
!e must know that slam teaches us to showgoodness to our parents by including them in our dailyprayers that "llah may forgive them and grant themHis <ercy(
3$nd make yo#rself s#bmissively gentle to them
(parents) with compassion, and say% 2 my Lord'have compassion on them, as they bro#ght me #p(when I was) little. P"l-sra /0(*1,
The 5rophet )saws, says in the following Hadith(
6" man will be raised some degrees in 5aradise and
he will say$ =or what reason am receiving this?’ Hewill be told$ #ecause of your son asking forgivenessfor you.’6 )#ukhari /A/+,
"bu Hurairah narrated that "llah’ <essenger )saws,said$ 6!hen a man dies$ accrual of merit in his favorfrom good deeds ceases e8cept from three actions( /.
" charity which continues after his death *.Knowledge left behind from which men continue tobenefit$ and +. ighteous offspring who pray forhim.6 )<uslim 1>>3,
!ith well guided child$ we and our righteous childrenwill nsha "llah pass the real tests on the Eay ofeckoning.
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"bdullah ibn "mr ibn al-"sr$ narrated that the prophetof "llah said$ 6Command your children to make salah )prayer,when they become seven years old$ andspank them for it )salah, when they become ten yearsold$ and arrange their beds )to sleep, separately.6 )"bu Eawud,
Here are some advices for parents.
a, nformal teaching should start when child startsto show interest$ which usually occurs aroundthe age of two.
b, 2et them pretend to copy salah )prayer$ as theyalways copy parents actions,
c, nvite them to pray along side and Ioin the
family congregational prayer.d, The ne8t step is to learn al-=atihah which should
begin around the age of three or four.
e, The practice session should only last between 3to /3 minutes. "t this age consistency is moreimportant than length of practice.
f, Dducational products can assist parents inachieving success with their children becausechildren generally learn in different waystherefore introduction of material throughdifferent format )video$ coloring book$ going tothe mos'ue, will help ease and reinforce thelearning process. "lso their toys must beselective$ so as to avoid the unlawful.
g, ne of the most important thing that a parentshould do is to praise the child for eachaccomplished task and encouragement toachieve more success.
Television is one of the biggest negative influences onour children and is responsible for corrupting theirminds about the environment they live in. They shouldnot be allowed to see T9 programs which areindecent$ arrogant$ or of no beneficial to their broughtup. TURN TV OFF IF YOU THIN IT ISNECESSARY
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ne cannot underestimate the importance of instillingstrong Dman in our children. 4trong belief in "llah willdeter them from wrongdoings. 7atural instinct oftentells us$ something is right or not. Knowledgedetermines right from wrong and in how to react toproblems$ gives children confidence to teach othersand defend themselves.
!e should never presume that our children will onlylearn from the good e8amples of their parents only. nthe modern world$ parents only spend a limitedamount of time with their children whereas society$other <uslims and the general non-<uslim communityall instill values and their ideologies into our childrenmind$ influencing their behaviour. =urther T9$ schools$
Children now a days face many more hardships thanever before with such a changing world. How can wee8pect them to defend and follow slam if they don’treally understand the how’s and why’s? Consistencyis the key with everything.
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"lmighty "llah has emphasi&ed that kindness to parentsis one of the most important 'ualities of believers. Hesays in the Qur%an(
"Thy Lord hath decreed, that ye worship nonesave Him, and (that ye show) kindness to parents.If one of them or both of them to attain old agewith thee, say not !ie #nto them nor rep#lsethem, b#t speak #nto them a gracio#s word. $ndlower #nto them the wing of s#bmission thro#ghmercy, and say% &y Lord' Have mercy on themboth as they did care for me when I was little. )"l-sra ( *+-*1,.
"llah says )interpretation of the meaning,(
3/. $nd that yo# be d#tif#l to yo#r parents. If oneof them or both of them attain old age in yo#r life,say not to them a word of disrespect, nor sho#t at them b#t address them in terms of hono#r )"l-sraa’ /0(*+,
f "llah has forbidden us even to say JuffBPparaphrased as Ja word of disrespectB in the
translation of the meaning of the aayah to ourparents$ then how about someone who curse$ abuseor hits them? emember that as per one hadith$ theinterpretation of which is that$ even if child sees hisparents with love$ he gets the reward of HaII <abroor)HaII accepted by "llah,
Knowledge of slam tells us that by guiding ourchildren to slam$ we do not only respond to the dutythat "llah and His <essenger )saws, enIoin upon usi.e.$ to be accountable to our children but also$ wee8pect subse'uent rewards for raising righteouschildren. f we want our children to be righteous andbe successful <uslims$ we must learn and teach ourchildren authentic knowledge of slam$ which is onethat is based on the Qur’an and the 4unnah.
=or those of us who can not teach our respectivechildren for some reasons$ who find no time orincapable to teach their own children$ it is a must that (
!e send them to standard 'uality slamicschools where boys are separated from girls. fsuch schools are not available in our area$ thenwe can opt for slamic distance schooling orHome Dducation.
"nother alternative is for us parents$ is to hirecompetent <uslims teachers who can teach our
children slam during weekends. To minimi&ecost$ we can organi&e weekend slamic schoolswithin our community by making use of thee8isting public schools. "ll we need is to make are'uest to the school administrator for the useof some rooms of the school buildings. f this isnot possible then$ we can make use of thee8isting mos'ues in the area.
"side from the formal schools andNor weekendslamic schools$ we can encourage our childrento seek knowledge of slam by any of thefollowing means(
/, "ttendance to slamic lectures$ forums andseminars$
+, 2istening to radio and television programs onslam$
1, #uying books$ booklets$ maga&ines and otherreading materials on slam$
3, 5urchasing other learning media )e.g.$ CEs$9ideos and cassette tapes, on slam.
A, ;iving them proper access to the slamicreading materials available in the nternet )i.e.$slamic websites,. "ll these variousopportunities to ac'uiring knowledge of slamare blessing from "llah$ !ho bestowsknowledge to whom He guides to slam.
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slam does not forbid non slamic schooling andknowledge. However if for any reason$ parents areunable G5#7;7; their children in slamic waybecause they are living in a foreign country$ theyshould sacrifice their love to send their children totheir grand parents in slamic country. slamrecogni&es that mother respect for child is three timesof father because of her difficulties in giving birth andbringing him up$ same way it is also part of hersacrifice that if she thinks that her child is not gettinghis due slamic education at her residing place$ thenconvince husband )or husband convince wife, to sendthe child to a place wherever it is possible to get goodeducation and slamic behaviour. )<ay be grandparents,
emember children rights supercede your love rightswhen it comes to their ac'uiring religious knowledgeand slamic cultural values. @our sacrifice is in thebenefit to you and to your child$ and you will get agreat reward from "llah on Fudgement Eay and alsohere in the shape of a good <uslim obedient child.
ndeed$ "llah is <ost ;racious$ <ost <erciful$ He hasopened for us various ways and means to learn slam.
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3 ISLAMIC WAY OF RAISING CHILDREN
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Could you please clarify in detail the slamic way of raising children?
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ndeed$ "llah creates children with pure innate nature$and whatever defects that happen later is the result of bad education. The 5rophet$ peace and blessings beupon him$ is reported to have said( JDvery child is bornon Fitrah )man’s innate disposition to monotheism,$ hisparents make him Fewish$ Christian or a fireworshipper.B )eported by "l-#ukhari and <uslim,
That is why slam has ordered parents to take care of
their children and to bring them up according to theslamic manners.
=ocusing more on the very interesting 'uestion youhave raised$ we would like to cite the following(
"llah "lmighty has entrusted parents with their children.5arents bear the responsibility to raise up their childrenin the slamic way. f they do that they will be blessed inthis life and in the Hereafter$ and if they don%t$ they will
get bad result during their life and in the Hereafter.
The 5rophet )peace and blessings be upon him, isreported to have said( J"ll of you are guardians and allof you are responsible for things under your guardianship the ruler is a guardian )managing hisstate’s affairs, and he is responsible for things under his
care$ the man is a guardian over his family andresponsible for them$ the woman is a guardian of her husband%s house and she is responsible for it. "ll of youare guardians and responsible for things under your control.B )eported by "l-#ukhari and <uslim,
The 5rophet$ peace and blessings be upon him$ did note8cuse any one from responsibility that "llah has put onevery individual to build the slamic society( the ruler isresponsible( the man and woman are responsible.... allwithin their capabilities$ domains$ and authorities... andthe loss of slam from our <uslim Ummah these days isnothing but a result of the neglect of responsibility.
<en and women$ fathers and mothers share theresponsibility to raise up$ educate$ and build the newgeneration in the correct method and the right way.
<an has in him the good and bad tendencies$ soparents must encourage and grow the good tendenciesin the child so he can become a useful person thathelps himself and his people. eferring to this$ "llah
"lmighty says( 320 yo# who believe, protect yo#rselves and yo#r families from a fire whose f#el is men and stones /. )"t-Tahreem AA(A,
The protection of yourself and your family from Hell-=irewon%t be with anything but good education$ the practiceof good morals$ and the guidance to nobility.
slam does not distinguish between male and femalewith regard to the education re'uirements. The 5rophet)peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to havesaid( J!hoever has a daughter$ tutors her on goodmorals$ educates her well and feeds her properly shewill be a protection for him from Hell-=ire.B
!hat do we mean by good education? The goodeducation means the physical$ mental and moralpreparation of the child so he can become a good
/, 4howing the values of good deeds and their effects on the individuals and society alsoshowing the effects of bad deeds$ all within thechild%s capability of understanding.
*, 5arents should be a good e8ample in their behavior because children like to imitate their parents in their sayings and their deeds.
+, Teaching the child the religious principles and
tutoring him in worship$ taking into account thechild%s capability of understanding. The 5rophet)peace and blessings be upon him, is reported tohave said( Jrder your children to pray at theage of seven.B
1, Treating children nicely and kindly. The 5rophet)peace and blessings be upon him, taught usthat practically. !hen he was praying as anmam with the people$ his grandson Al-Hasan$son of his daughter Fatimah$ may "llah bepleased with them rode his back while he wasbowing. The 5rophet$ peace and blessings beupon him$ lengthened his bow. !hen he finishedhis prayer$ some attending Companions said$J@ou lengthened your bow?B Then the 5rophet$peace and blessings be upon him$answered$ J<y grandson rode my back and hate hastening himB
3, ne of the important things that parents mustteach their children is to choose the goodcompany and to the avoid the bad one$ becausechildren are always influenced by the companythey keep. The bad behavior can be easilytransmitted through bad company. 4o the
5rophet$ peace and blessings be upon him$warned us by saying$J<an is inclined to getinfluenced by his friend%s manners$ so one mustbe careful in choosing friends.B )eported by "buEawud R "t-Tirmidhi,
A, Dncouraging the child%s sense of belonging tothe <uslim Ummah$ by teaching him of thebrotherhood between <uslims$ teaching him tocare for <uslims in any land$ and that he is partof the <uslim body$ to feel Ioy when <uslims are
Ioyous$ to feel sad for <uslims% sadness$ and todo best to achieve the <uslim Ummah’s
goals. A88 . ,9-+ / 7* ./* 6,-88=,9.;9:
". Taking children to <os'ues andintroducing them to their brother in slamregardless of race$ language$ or origin.
#. Teaching the children the history of the5rophet$ peace and blessings be uponhim$ and his Companions and the historyof slam$ bearing in mind the child%scapability of understanding.
C. Dncouraging children to sympathi&e with<uslim problems and to contribute to thesolutions such as the poverty problem andto donate some money to the hungry<uslim children.
E. Taking part in the celebrations and festivalswith <uslims$ and sharing picnics andcreating ties with their <uslim brothers of the same age.
0, #uilding in children the feeling of love of "llah$His 5rophet$ <uslims$ and all people. This lovewill lead to special behavior towards all those
These are general guidelines to raise our childrenslamically$ so every <uslim must take care of hischildren and know the correct path that must befollowed. This will help us to do the Iob we areentrusted to do as "llah prescribed$ as well as theresponsibility the 5rophet$ peace and blessings beupon him$ has clarified$ with aim of protecting the futuregenerations of <uslims$ as "llah "lmighty says( 3$nd +ay 5o deeds' $llah will see yo#r deeds, and (sowill) his &essenger and the believers. $nd yo# will be bro#ght back to the $ll:;nower of the #nseen
and the seen. Then He will inform yo# of what yo# #sed to do 3 )"t-Tawbah M(/>3,
D8cerpted$ with slight modifications$from( www.islamonline.net
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4 PARENTS UNISLAMIC BEHAVIOUR
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have a very difficult time dealing with my family. disagree with their actions because feel they areunislamic. Talking it out is not a solution because itgoes no where. !hat should do?
A/+0*:
@our duty as a good <uslim in this matter is two folds(
/- @ou have to give your parents ultimate respect andtreat them with kindness because they are yourparents. This kind of respectful treatment isactually an act of worship and it is also an orderstated by "llah Himself in the Quran )refer to 4urahal-sraa /0( *+-*3,. 7o snapping at them or raisingyour voice at them. The only time you are allowed
to disobey them is when they ask you to do an actthat is a disobedience to "llah$ such as not to prayor not to fast etc.
*- @ou have to keep inviting to slam in the mosteffective way$ and this way varies between oneperson and the other so you should find the onethat works best with them. 7ever give up because$first of all$ it is always very difficult to bring changeto the people who are closest to you$ and second$because the <uslim’s duty is to invite people toslam regardless of the outcome. The outcomecomes from "llah$ but the duty is to work for the
goal. #e patient and ask "llah with all your sincereheart to guide your parents.
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5 MOTHERS: IS HEAVEN UNDER THEIR FEET
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slam stresses the position of the parents and that theymust always be treated with respect. s it true thatheaven is under the feet of mothers and that if a mother is alive she can protect us from punishment by ;odwith her day and night supplication for our protection? tis said that when one%s mother dies$ this protectiveumbrella is no longer available. 5lease comment.
A/+0* :
The statement that heaven is under the feet of ourmothers is figurative rather than literal. !hat it means isthat a dutiful son is more likely to earn ;od%s pleasureby virtue of his mother%s continued supplication for himto be guided by ;od in everything that is of benefit to
him and to his community. <oreover$ e8erting oneself intrying to please one%s mother makes a son or adaughter a better person. They put their mother%shappiness above their own pleasure. That is the least amother deserves after spending many years lookingafter her children. t is not right to say that a motherprotects her children from ;od%s punishment becauseof her supplication. f her children are disobedient to;od$ then nothing can protect them.
t is their good deeds that$ with ;od%s grace$ can savethem from punishment for past sins. There is no doubtthat dutifulness to parents is a good deed which is richly
rewarded by ;od$ but this is how far it goes. 5eoplenormally e8aggerate matters$ and their e8aggerationcan give them false ideas Pwhen they take the figurativee8pression to mean a factual event. To speak of anumbrella of protection from ;od which lasts as long asthe mother is alive is one such false idea.
Pt is understandable$ though$ that supplication by themother of a dutiful son or daughter is more likely to beanswered by "llah and in that way it will provide himNher
with protection against evils. This should never beconstrued to mean that one can go around indulging insins and hope that mother%s supplication will keep
"llah%s punishment away.
ur Eialogue ) 4ource ( "rab 7ews - Feddah ,
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! DISOBEDIENCE TO PARENTS: A MA"OR SIN
t is the right of parents that their children should treatthem with kindness$ obedience$ and honor. Eevotion toparents is a natural instinct which must be strengthenedby deliberate actions. The rights of the mother arestressed more because of her suffering duringpregnancy and childbirth$ her suckling of the child$ andher role in rearing it. n the words of "llah Ta%ala( “ $nd
e have en*oined on man kindness to his parents.His mother carries him in pain and she gives birthto him in pain, and (the period) of carrying him and weaning him is thirty months.... )"l-"h'af 1A(/3,
There are many hadiths in this respect(
nce a man came to the 5rophet )peace be on him,and asked$ %!ho is most deserving of my goodcompanionship?% %@our mother$% replied the 5rophet)peace be on him,. %!ho ne8t?% the man asked. %@our mother$% replied the 5rophet )peace be on him,. %!hone8t?% he asked. %@our mother$% replied the 5rophet)peace be on him,. %!ho ne8t?% asked the man. %@our father$% replied the 5rophet. )eported by al-#ukhariand <uslim.,
The 5rophet )peace be on him, declared disobedienceto parents to be a maIor sin$ second only to ascribingpartners to "llah$ as has been stated in the Qur%an. "l-#ukhari and <uslim report his saying$ %4hall not informyou about the three maIor sins?% Those who werepresent replied$ %@es$ <essenger of "llah.% He said%"ssociating partners with "llah and disobedience toparents$% and sitting up from the reclining position$ hecontinued$ %and telling lies and false testimony bewareof it.%
He also said$ 6Three persons shall not enter the;arden( the one who is disobedient to his parents$ thepimp$ and the woman who imitates men.%% )eported byal-7isai$ al-#a&&ar on the authority of e8cellenttransmitters$ and al-Hakim,
and$ 6"llah defers )the punishment of, all sins to theEay of esurrection e8cepting disobedience to parents$for which "llah punishes the sinner in this life before hisdeath.6)eported by al-Hakim$ on the authority of soundtransmitters.,
<oreover$ slam emphasi&es treating parents kindly$especially when they grow old. "s their strength fails$they re'uire more attention and care$ and moreconsideration of their even more sensitive feelings.Concerning this the Qur%an says$ JThy Lord hathdecreed that yo# worship none b#t Him and that yo# be kind to parents. If one or both of them attainold age with thee, do not say a word of annoyance )2iterally$ Eo not say JUff”, an e8pression of annoyance, to them nor rep#lse them, b#t speak tothem in gracio#s words )*+, and in mercy lower tothem the wing of h#mility and say, &y Lord, bestow Thy mercy othem, as they cherished me when I was
little .. )"l-sra /0(*+-*1,
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# CUSTODY OF CHILD IF A DIVORCED WOMANREMARRIES
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am divorced and my 8-wife. <y 8-wife has remarriedto a <uslim. !e have four sons ages /$ +$ 3$ R 0.
have re'uested maIority custody of our sons$ but shehas refused and has made it very difficult for me to visitwith our sons. !hat are my rights and obligations under these circumstances?
A/+0* : 5raise be to "llah .
The mother has more right to custody of her childrenbefore the age of seven so long as she does notremarry$ in which case the right passes to the one who
is most entitled to that after her$ because "hmad )A0>0,and "bu Eawood )**0A, narrated from "bd-"llah ibn"mr that a woman said( J <essenger of "llah $ mywomb was a vessel for this son of mine and my breastsgave him )milk, to drink$ and my lap was a refuge for him$ but now his father has divorced me and he wantsto take him away from me.B The <essenger of "llah
)peace and blessings of "llah be upon him, said to her(J@ou have more right to him so long as you do notremarry.B This hadeeth was classed as hasan by al-
"lbaani inSaheeh Abi Dawood .
t is obligatory to allow the father to see his children andto ask how they are$ whether they are in the custody ofthe mother or of someone else.
#ecause the mother’s right to custody is lost when sheremarries$ then it should be given to the one who ismost entitled to that after her. There was somedifference of opinion among the fu'aha’ as to who hasmore right after the mother. 4ome scholars said that theright passes to the mother’s mother. 4haykh al-slambn Taymiyah was of the view that the father has moreright than the mother’s mother$ on which basis custodyshould be given to father. Al-Sharh al-Mumti’ $ AN*A$complete edition,.
4imilarly if the mother’s mother is a kaafirah or animmoral person$ then custody must be given to thefather$ even according to those who say that themother’s mother has more right than the father.
t should be noted that what is meant by custody iskeeping and raising the child. Hence a person’s right tocustody is lost if he is immoral and corrupt$ or carelessand heedless$ or if he travels a great deal which willharm his children’s interests.
The parents should cooperate in this matter$ and payattention to the child’s interests$ so that their disputeswill not adversely affect the children.
There is no Quranic verse concerning this matter whichspecifies who is more entitled to custody$ but thefollowing verses should be sufficient for the <uslim(
gives yo#, take it and whatsoever he forbids yo#,abstain (from it). $nd fear $llah verily, $llah is+evere in p#nishment )"l-Hashr 3M(0,
3It is not for a believer, man or woman, when $llahand His &essenger have decreed a matter that they sho#ld have any option in their decision. $nd whoever disobeys $llah and His &essenger, hehas indeed strayed into a plain error B )"l-"h&aab++(+A,
The 5rophet )peace and blessings of "llah be uponhim, ruled that the mother loses the right to custody ifshe remarries$ as stated in the hadeeth 'uoted above$so the believing woman has to accept that and submit.
<aintenance of children is obligatory upon the father according to scholarly consensus$ whether he keeps hiswife or divorces her$ and whether the wife is poor or rich. 4o she is not obliged to spend on the children if the father is around.
f the children are in the custody of a divorced woman$then their father must support them$ and the mother who has custody of a child who is still breastfeedinghas the right to ask for payment for nursing the child.
f one of the parents fails to educate the child and raisehim in accordance with slamic teachings$ then heNsheis sinning and has no guardianship )wilaayah, overchild. "nyone who does not do his duties as a guardianhas no guardianship.
"nd "llah knows best.
D8cerpted$ with slight modifications$from( http(NNislam'a.comN
Eaughters in <uslim society are cared from the verybeginning. They are treated as a gift and blessing of ;od$ and it is parents responsibility to raise her withchaste and get her educated and married with rightperson. 4he should be given knowledge of slam )asmuch as possible, along with the education of presentsociety. They are raised with special care of her modesty$ even she is never seen naked in her infancyand childhood by her father or brothers. 4he is wellclothed )not e8posing her body parts figures e8pressly,when she is getting adult. "lso getting her known there'uirement of a girl respect$ safety and keeping awayfrom non mahram men till married.
5arents have great responsibility and reward for upbringing children.
"2 ye who believe' +ave yo#rselves and yo#rfamilies from a !ire whose f#el is &en and+tones." )"t-Tahreem AA(A,
The pious and good children will be left over fro themwho will pray "llah for them after their death.
"llah%s messenger$ )5#GH, said( 6Gpon death$ man%sdeeds will )definitely, stop e8cept for three deeds$namely( a continuous charitable fund$ endowment or goodwill knowledge left for people to benefit fromand pious righteous / G.<*-/; 9-8 09../,-/.+8= 6=+ A889> the "lmighty$ for the soulof his parents.6 )<uslim,
There is very high reward for girls upbringing andgetting them married.
Jne who trains and educates + or * daughters or sisters out of fear of "llah$ will go to 5aradise )even if the number is one,B
J#ringing up of daughters is a test one who passes thetest will be safe from HellB
4o parents are given good news of getting heaven inreward for upbringing girls and getting them married.Can you imagine such reward in western thinking. 7o$not at all$ because over there girls are e8posed towhatever they like$ specially no care of their modestyand virginity.
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% REWARD FOR RAISING THREE DAUGHTERS
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(he Messen"er of -llah .peace and blessin"s of -llah be
upon him/ said0 1$hoeer has three dau"hters and is patient
*ith them and "ies them to drin and clothes them+ the)
*ill be a protection for him a"ainst the Fire%2 $ill the) be a
protection a"ainst the Fire for their father onl)+ or *ill their
mother hae a share in that too3 I hae three dau"hters+
praise be to -llah%
A/+0* : 5raise be to "llah.
The hadeeth applies to both the father and the mother.The 5rophet )peace and blessings of "llah be uponhim, also said$ J!hoever has two daughters and treatsthem kindly$ they will be a protection for him against the=ire.B The same applies if he has sisters or paternal or maternal aunts etc.$ and he treats them kindly$ we hopethat he will attain 5aradise for that. =or when he treatsthem kindly$ he deserves a great reward and to be
protected from the =ire$ so he will be kept away fromthe =ire because of his good deed.
This applies only to <uslims$ because if a <uslim doesthese good deeds seeking the pleasure of "llah$ he willhave earned salvation from the =ire. There are manymeans of gaining salvation from the =ire and
admittance to 5aradise$ so the believer should try toattain many of them. slam itself is the only means andis the basic cause of gaining admittance to 5aradiseand salvation from the =ire.
There are actions which$ if the <uslim does them$ hewill enter 5aradise and be saved from Hell$ such astaking care of daughters or sisters$ then they will be aprotection for him against the =ire. !hoever diesleaving behind three little ones who have not yetreached the age of puberty$ they will be a protection for him against the =ire. They said$ J <essenger of "llah$what about two?B He said$ J"nd two.B They did not ask
him about one. t was narrated in a saheeh report thathe )peace and blessings of "llah be upon him,said( J"llah says$ if take from <y slave the one whomhe loves most in this world and he bears that withpatience seeking reward from <e$ he will have no lessa reward than 5aradise.B
4o "llah e8plains that the believing slave has no less areward with Him than 5aradise$ if He takes one whomhe loves of the people of this world$ and he bears that
with patience and seeks reward. ne of our little onesis included in this hadeeth$ if "llah takes him andcauses him to die$ and his father or mother or both bear that with patience and seek reward$ then they will have5aradise. This is a great bounty from "llah. The sameapplies to husbands$ wives and all other relatives andfriends$ if they are patient and seek reward then theyare included in this hadeeth$ so long as they take careto avoid anything which could prevent that$ such asdying committing maIor sin. !e ask "llah to keep us
safe and sound.
<aImoo’ =ataawa wa <a'aalaat <utanawwi’ah li4amaahat al-4haykh al-"llaamah "bd al-"&ee& ibn"bd-"llah ibn #aa& )may "llah have mercy on him,$vol. 1$ p. +03.
$hat is the rulin" on parent4s du4aa4s a"ainst their children+
*hich are sometimes said *ith no reason% -re the)
ans*ered3
A/+0* : 5raise be to "llah.
Children are one of the blessings of this worldly life$ as "llah says )interpretation of the meaning,(
3ealth and children are the adornment of the lifeof this world /. )"l-Kahf /:(1A,
They are the apple of their parent’s eye$ the Ioy of their hearts$ so how can they pray against them?
The 5rophet )peace and blessings of "llah be uponhim, forbade praying against one’s children$ one’swealth and one’s own self$ lest that be at a time when
du’aa’s are answered. He )peace and blessings of "llahbe upon him, said( JEo not pray against yourselves$ donot pray against your children$ do not pray against your wealth$ lest that coincides with a time when "llah isasked and He gives$ so He answers your prayer.B 7arrated by <uslim )+>/1,.
The parent’s du’aa’ for or against his child is answered.The 5rophet )peace and blessings of "llah be uponhim, said(JThree prayers are undoubtedly answered(
the prayer of one who is wronged$ the prayer of thetraveller and the prayer of a father for hischild.B 7arrated by bn <aaIah )+:A*, classed assaheeh by al-"lbaani in 4ilsilat al-"haadeeth al-4aheehah )3MA,. The version narrated by mam "hmadsays( Jthe prayer of a father against his child.B
" mistake that is made by many fathers and mothers isthat they pray against their children if the latter dosomething that makes them angry. !hat they should dois pray for them to be guided and for "llah to set their affairs straight.
#y His mercy$ "llah does not answer the du’aa’ of parents against their children$ if it is at a time of anger$because "llah says )interpretation of the meaning,(
3$nd were $llah to hasten for mankind the evil (they invoke for themselves and for their children,while in a state of anger) as He hastens for themthe good (they invoke) then they wo#ld have beenr#ined. +o e leave those who e<pect not their &eeting with =s, in their trespasses, wandering blindly in distraction )@oonus />(//,
bn Katheer )may "llah have mercy on him, said in hisTafseer )*N331,(
Here "llah tells us of His forbearance and kindnesstowards His slaves$ for He does not answer them whenthey pray against themselves or their wealth or their children at moments of anger. He knows that they donot really mean any ill$ so He does not answer them outof kindness and mercy$ as He does when they pray for themselves or their wealth or their children for goodness$ blessing and growth. Dnd 'uote.
"nd "llah knows best.
D8cerpted$ with some modifications$from( http(NNislam'a.comNenN
Ho* do *e as Muslims liin" in the *est maintain an Islamic
'ducation for our children% Primar) and secondar) education
upto the a"e of 56!57 ma) be proided in Muslim schools
.*hich are also er) e8pensie/+ but as for Hi"her 'ducation
there is no such Islamic Institute% 'en on the secondar)school leel on the a"enda of #urriculum+ *e do not hae
boos that deal *ith the branches of no*led"e that are
aailable in secular institutes+ such as9 Political science+
Sociolo")+ Ps)cholo")+ Peda"o")%
Please adise on ho* *e should "o about brin"in" about an
Islamic 'ducation s)stem for our :outh% In the *est .bearin"
in mind that it is near Impossible for us to mi"rate to
-rab!Muslim countries because of the restrictions on
immi"ration etc%/
A/+0* : 5raise be to "llah.
n order to preserve the structure of the <uslim family inthe kaafir countries$ we need to meet a number of conditions and re'uirements$ both within the home andoutside it(
W-,9-/ ,9* 9.?*:
t is essential for parents to uphold the habit of prayingregularly in the mos'ue with their children if there is nomos'ue nearby$ then they must pray in Iamaa’ah athome.
/. They have to read Quran and listen to its recitationdaily.
*. They must eat meals together.
+. They must speak in the language of the Quran asmuch as they can.
1. They must uphold the good manners prescribed bythe 2ord of the !orlds for families and in socialsettings these include those that are to be found in
3. They should not let themselves or their childrenwatch immoral and corrupt movies.
A. Their children have to sleep at home and should stayhome as much as possible$ to protect them from theinfluences of the bad environment outside. Theyshould be very strict in not allowing their children tosleep outside the home )JsleepoversB,.
0. They should avoid sending their children touniversities far from home where they would have tostay in university accommodation$ otherwise we willlose our children$ who will be assimilated into thekaafir society.
!e have to be careful to eat only halaal food and theparents must avoid using all kinds of haraam thingssuch as cigarettes$ mariIuana and other things whichare widely available in kaafir countries.
O,+-* ,9* 9.?*:
/. !e must send our children to slamic schools fromkindergarten to the end of secondary school )highschool,.
*. !e must also send them to the mos'ue as much aspossible$ to pray Fumu’ah and other prayers in
Iamaa’ah$ and to attend lectures$ hala'ahs andstudy circles$ etc.
+. !e must establish educational and sporting activities
for children and youth in places that are supervisedby <uslims.
1. =athers and mothers should strive to go to the Holy5laces to perform the rituals of Gmrah and theobligations of HaII$ accompanied by their children.
3. Training children to speak about slam in simplelanguage which adults and children$ <uslim andnon-<uslim$ can understand.
A. Training children to memori&e Quran and sendingsome of them S if possible S to a <uslim "rabcountry so that they can gain an understanding of the religion$ then come back to be daa’iyahs who aree'uipped with knowledge of slam and the languageof the Quran.
0. Dncouraging children to marry early so as to protecttheir religious and worldly interests. !e have toencourage them to marry <uslim girls from familieswho are known for their religious commitment andgood attitudes.
:. !e have to avoid using the number MN// and callingthe police to come to the house to resolve conflicts.f conflicts arise$ we must get in touch with aresponsible member of the <uslim community or with wise <uslims to help resolve the conflict.
M. 7ot attending parties where there is dancing$ musicand singing$ or Ioining in celebrations of immoralityor the festivals of kufr stopping our children$ withwisdom$ from going to church on 4undays withChristian students.
"nd "llah is the 4ource of strength and the ;uide to the4traight 5ath.
4heikh <uhammed 4alih "l-<unaIIid
D8cerpted$ with some modifications$from( http(NNislam'a.comNenN
f she committed &inaa when she was not <uslim andhad a child$ then she became <uslim$ what should she
tell other people and the child himself?
A/+0*: 5raise be to "llah.
inaa )fornication or adultery, is a crime that isforbidden by divine laws and reIected by all wise andsane people$ even if they are not <uslim. "llah hascondemned those who do this in many aayaat of theQur’aan and in numerous ahaadeeth of His 5rophet)peace and blessings of "llah be upon him,. He has
threatened those who do this with severe punishmentand disgrace in this world and the ne8t S e8cept thosewho repent$ have faith and do righteous deeds$ for "llahwill accept their repentance. The gate of repentance isopen$ but it is a condition of repentance that one shouldregret the deed and give it up. slam wipes outwhatever came before.
!ith regard to the child$ he belongs to his mother$ andshould not be named after his father. This is the ruling
concerning the illegitimate child( he should not benamed after his father because he was conceived infornication$ not in wedlock. t is obligatory to take careof this child and bring him up with slamic manners andmorals. #ecause this immoral act has occurred$ youmust repent from it$ but you should cover it up and notdisclose it you do not have to tell the people the truth. f the child wants to know the truth$ you can tell him in anappropriate manner$ and let him know that whathappened was in the days of kufr )before you became
<uslim,$ and that when a person repents and becomes<uslim$ this wipes out whatever happened before.
The child does not bear any responsibility for whathappened$ and as long as his mother has become<uslim$ there is no grounds for rebuking or punishing
her. t is obligatory to accept the will and decree of "llah$ and if this child does righteous deeds he willenter 5aradise. 7o soul is made to bear the burdens of another.
!e ask "llah to keep you safe and sound and to forgiveyou.
D8cerpted$ with some modifications$from( http(NNislam'a.comNenN
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