Jewish Marriage - Kiddushin powerpoint

8/18/2019 Jewish Marriage - Kiddushin powerpoint

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Set Form – liminal stage


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In Orthodox Judaism • On the day of the wedding• The couple fast before the ceremony,• as they prepare for a solemn as well as a

joyful occasion.

Set Form – liminal


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The process of marriage occurs in

two distinct stages:• iddushin !commonly

translated as betrothal"• nisuin !full#fledged

marriage$ literally

ele%ation".


and


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• the iddushin and nisuin would routinelyoccur as much as a year apart,

• howe%er today the two ceremonies arenormally performed together.• The ceremony

itself lasts&'#(' minutes.

In the pastSet Form – liminal


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Wedding ceremony • Stage 1 - Kiddushin • )reeting the )room and

*ride # The +abbalatanim

• The -eiling of the +allah #The *ade en

• scorting the /hatan and+allah

• /ircling the /hatan• The Betrothal

Benediction - Kiddushin

• Stage 2 - Nisuin • The 0e%en 1arriage

*lessings # 0he%a*erachot

• The *rea ing of the )lass• ntering the ri%ate

2oom 3 4ichud• The 5edding 6east #

0eudat 1it7%a


The reading of the Ketubah acts as a break bet een the t o stages of the edding


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!reeting the !room and Bride -

The Kabbalat "anim• 8s the guests begin to arri%e, the groom and

the bride are greeted in 0eparate receptions,called Kabbalat Panim,

• in separate reception rooms since the groomand bride do not see each other for the wee

prior to the wedding until the %eilingceremony ! Badeken ".



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The men, including the

• ushers, arri%e first. This is nown as thegroom9s Tish 3 the time when the groom,ushers and male family members gather forsong and prayers before the ceremony.



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The bride is seated on a special

• throne, from which she greets her guests.



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8t this time there is a tradition

• for the mother of the bride and the mother ofthe groom to stand together and brea a plate.

• The reason is to show the seriousness of thecommitment # symboli7ing that just as the

brea ing of the plate is irre%ersible, so should

the engagement be e%erlasting.



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In the groom;s reception area

• the Ketubah , alegal documentdating bac about&,''' years, is thensigned and witnessed.



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The Ketubah ,

• shows that marriage is morethan a physical#spiritualunion$

• it is a legal and moralcommitment. !The allah

does not sign the etubah".



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The #eiling of the Kallah - The

Badeken• Is usually carried out immediately before the

processional of the bride, groom and attendants.

• It ta es place in another room whileguests are being seated.



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The %eiling of the bride • The %eil symboli7es the

idea of modesty and

con%eys the lesson thathowe%er attracti%e physical appearancesmay be, the soul andcharacter are paramount.



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The chatan , accompanied by family

and friends,• proceeds to the

kallah's room and places the %eil o%erher face.



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This is an ancient custom

• and ser%es as the first ofmany actions by which

the groom signals hiscommitment to clotheand protect his wife.

• It is reminiscent of2ebecca co%ering herface before marryingIsaac.



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5hen the groom %eils his bride

• he is saying,


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8s I am bonding with you in

marriage• I am committed to

creating a space

within me for thetotality of your being 3 for all of you, all ofthe time.>



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5hen the groom %eils his bride

• ?er face remains %eiledfor the duration of the

ceremony, affording hera bit of pri%acy at this?oly time. 8t this timethe parents bless the

bride.



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The wedding ceremony ta es place

under • the chuppah !canopy", a symbol of the

home to be built and shared by the couple.



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It is open on all sides• just as 8braham and 0arah had their tent

open all sides to welcome friends and

relati%es in unconditional hospitality.



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The chuppah consists of • a cloth or sheet @ sometimes

a tallit ! prayershawl " @

stretched or supported o%erfour poles, and is sometimescarried by attendants to theceremony location.



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8 traditional chuppah• especially within Orthodox Judaism,

recommends that there be open s y exactly

abo%e the chuppah . !under the stars, as asign of the blessing gi%en by )od to the patriarch 8braham, that his children shall be as the stars of the hea%ens".



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In a spiritual sense• the co%ering of the chuppah represents the

presence of )od o%er the co%enant of

marriage. 8s a man;s s ull cap ser%ed as areminder of the /reator abo%e all, !also asymbol of separation from )od", so thechuppah was erected to signify that theceremony and institution of marriage hasdi%ine origins.



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The chatan and kallah• will wear no jewellery

under the chuppah .

Their mutualcommitment to oneanother is based on whothey are as people not ontheir respecti%e material

possessions.



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$scorting the %hatan and Kallah

• The /hatan and +allah are escorted fromthe reception room. They are escorted by

two married couples !usually the parentsof the /hatan and +allah" who hold themunder the hand.



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$scorting the %hatan and Kallah

• They are there to assist the )room and*ride, ta e them by the hand and gi%e

them encouragement at this criticalmoment in life.



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The escorts each carry a lit candle• as Jewish custom associates light with joy.

(Esther 8:16)



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8nother explanation for this custom

• is that candles are reminiscent of theflic ering light and fire which occurred at

the time of the gi%ing of the Torah # themarriage of )od !the /hatan" and Israel!the +allah" under the /huppah of1ount 0inai.



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The bride and groomare escorted

• because 8dam and %e wereescorted by angels to theirwedding.



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Once under the chuppah • The couple stand facing the

rabbi or official conducting

this part of the ceremony.• 6orming a sAuare, the fathers

of the couple stand on thegroom9s left and the motherson the bride9s right.



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Once under the chuppah • the +allah !bride" circles the /hatan se%en

times to show this is the man she wishes to

marry.• There are a number of explanations for this

custom.



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The number se%en • corresponds with the se%en

times in the Tena h whereit is written


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This act also recalls• the se%en times Joshua

circled the walls of Jerichoto bring down its walls.0imilarly, she circles himse%en times to brea downany walls that might remain

between them and that shehas his heart.



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8mong other reasons• the circling has come to symboli7e the se%en

expressions of betrothal between )od, !thegroom" and Israel, !the bride". I will betroththee unto 1e fore%er. I will betroth thee unto1e in mercy, and in judgment, and in lo%ing

indness, and in righteousness: I will betroth

thee unto me in faithfulness, and you shallnow )od !?osea &:&B#&&" .



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This act also recalls• the se%en times that the Tefillin straps are

wrapped around a man;s arm. Just as a man binds himself in lo%e to )od, so is his bond inlo%e to his bride.



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The number se%en represents• the completion of the se%en day process in

which earth was created. Curing these se%endays, the earth re%ol%ed on its axis se%en times.0ince marriage reenacts the creati%e process,the Kallah's encirclement symbolises therepetition of these se%en earthly rotations.



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The Betrothal Benediction –

Kiddushin• The first benediction of actual marriage

ceremony is said o%er a cup of wine, the

traditional symbol of sanctification, joy andabundance.



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This is followed by the main marriage

benediction• pronouncing the sanctity

of this special moment

and the holy directi%esfrom )od on the sanctityand purity of a proper,holy marriage through a/huppah and act ofsanctification.

• The /hatan and +allah

each ta e a sip of wine.



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In the presence of two witnesses

• the /hatan now places a gold ring on the+allah;s right forefinger.


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8s the /hatan places the ring on her

finger he says:• *ehold, you are consecrated unto me withthis ring in accordance to the Daw of 1oses

and Israel. !The ring is later transferred to thefinger usual in the country of the wedding".


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The ring

• is later transferred to thefinger usually used in the

country of the wedding.



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In Orthodox congregations• The groom does not recei%e a

ring.•

/onser%ati%e congregationsfollow the Orthodox form, butit is usual for the bride at

this point to gi%e thegroom a ring.



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In many reform congregations• *oth the bride and groom

recite the nglish words,

• The words of both formulasconstitutes the %ows ofJewish marriage.



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The ring should be made of plain gold

• without blemishes or ornamentation !e.g.stones" # just as it is hoped that the marriage

will be one of simple beauty. 8s a simpleunbro en circle, it alludes to a marriageunmarred by conflict or distraction.


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The ring is• a symbol of eternity.


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This act is called Kiddushin

• # sanctification, signifying the uniAueness ofthe Jewish marriage where )od ?imself

dwells in their home and the relationship isele%ated to a new le%el of holiness # atranscendent dimension that permeates

e%ery moment of their li%es from thismoment on.


S F li i l


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The couple are now

• set apart from others for each other.• 8 lifelong commitment is implied,• but Judaism does not belie%e that people can

promise this in %ows.


S F li i l


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The first half of the ceremony is now

completed• Eext the ceremony focuses on the marriage

contract or


+etubah


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S F li i l


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In marriage, the chatan accepts uponhimself

• certain marital responsibilities which are detailed

in the Ketubah . ?is principal obligations are to pro%ide food, shelter, clothing and sexualsatisfaction to his wife, and to be attenti%e to heremotional needs.


S t F li i l


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The etubah spells out• conditions of inheritance upon his death, and

obligations regarding the support of children ofthe marriage. It also pro%ides for the wife;ssupport in the e%ent of di%orce.


S t F li i l


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There are standard conditions$• howe%er, additional conditions can be included

by mutual agreement. 1arriage agreements ofthis sort were commonplace in the ancient0emitic world and ha%e much in common with

prenuptial agreements of today.


S t F li i l


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The document is signed by twowitnesses

• and has the standing of a legally binding

agreement.• The Ketubah is the property of the kallah and she

must ha%e access to it throughout their marriage.


S t F li i l


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It is often written amidst beautifulartwor

• to be framed and displayed in the home.


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In the presence of two witnesses• The groom accepts the etubah by ta ing hold of

a hand erchief gi%en to him by the officiatingrabbi.


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The signed etubah is• resented to the bride.



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In some Orthodox communities

• The groom reads and agrees to the etubah beforethe ceremony begins.

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In /onser%ati%e Judaism• *oth the bride and groom often sign a simple

marriage certificate,


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a practice that is followed in all

progressi%e congregations .


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The reading of the Ketubah

• acts as a brea between the first part of theceremony # Kiddushin !betrothal", and the latter

part # issuin !marriage".• The nissuin then proceeds.


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