Kick it Up a Notch:Kick it Up a Notch:Fulfilling Your DreamsFulfilling Your Dreams
Ed Jacobs, Ph.D.Ed Jacobs, Ph.D.
Chris Schimmel, Ed.D.Chris Schimmel, Ed.D.
West Virginia UniversityWest Virginia University
What Is Your What Is Your Dream?Dream?
Are You Living Your Are You Living Your Professional DreamProfessional Dream
Do you love what you are doing?Do you love what you are doing? Why did you go into the counseling Why did you go into the counseling
field?field? Are you having the memorable Are you having the memorable
moments you thought you were going moments you thought you were going to have?to have?
How excited are you about being a How excited are you about being a counselor?counselor?
Our DreamOur Dream
To Do A Good Job Helping Our Clients To Do A Good Job Helping Our Clients and Our Students to Reach Their Dreamand Our Students to Reach Their Dream
A Special Dream: To Work TogetherA Special Dream: To Work Together
Our Ultimate Dream is to Enjoy Our Lives Our Ultimate Dream is to Enjoy Our Lives and Have Fun While We Are Here.and Have Fun While We Are Here.
Purpose of this TalkPurpose of this Talk
Motivate you; get you to do some self-Motivate you; get you to do some self-reflectionreflection
Provide techniques and informationProvide techniques and information Provide some new ideas—simple systems to Provide some new ideas—simple systems to
useuse Share ideas that we think everyone should Share ideas that we think everyone should
knowknow Get you to reflect on the theme of the Get you to reflect on the theme of the
conference: dreams, direction, and dedicationconference: dreams, direction, and dedication
Four M’s to Living Your Four M’s to Living Your Dream (to Being a Good Dream (to Being a Good
Counselor)Counselor) MultisensoryMultisensory
The brain likes noveltyThe brain likes novelty Talk to the clients eyes—not their earsTalk to the clients eyes—not their ears
MotivationalMotivational MarketingMarketing MapsMaps
DedicationDedication
Do You Want to be Do You Want to be Sunday Player?Sunday Player?
Give Your Counseling More Give Your Counseling More Direction: Eliminate These Direction: Eliminate These
Common MistakesCommon Mistakes 1. Reflect much more than necessary1. Reflect much more than necessary
2. Listen to too many stories2. Listen to too many stories
3. Rarely interrupt the client 3. Rarely interrupt the client
4. Do not focus the session4. Do not focus the session
5. Wait too long to focus and funnel 5. Wait too long to focus and funnel session session
6. Do not use theory6. Do not use theory
7. Make counseling boring 7. Make counseling boring
PROPSPROPS
ShieldShield
FilterFilter
CupsCups
$1 bill$1 bill
Exploding Coke Exploding Coke BottleBottle
Beer BottleBeer Bottle
ChairsChairs
Small child's chairSmall child's chair
Standing on the chairStanding on the chair
Holding onto the chairHolding onto the chair
Important Sentences in Important Sentences in Counseling:Counseling:
All behavior is purposeful.All behavior is purposeful. Thoughts cause feelings.Thoughts cause feelings. Get your expectations in line with Get your expectations in line with
reality.reality. You teach people how to treat you.You teach people how to treat you. Life is a series of choices.Life is a series of choices.
Stages of ChangeStages of Change
PrecontemplationPrecontemplation ContemplationContemplation PreparationPreparation ActionAction MaintenanceMaintenance
A Simple, Useful Map to Follow A Simple, Useful Map to Follow if You Currently Don’t Follow A if You Currently Don’t Follow A
MapMap RapportRapport ContractContract FocusFocus FunnelFunnel
Rational Emotive Behavior Rational Emotive Behavior TherapyTherapy
THOUGHTS CAUSE FEELINGSTHOUGHTS CAUSE FEELINGS
Sustained negative feelings are caused by Sustained negative feelings are caused by what we tell ourselves.what we tell ourselves.
What we tell ourselves about situations is What we tell ourselves about situations is what upsets us—not the situation! what upsets us—not the situation!
REBT counselors often use a True/Not True REBT counselors often use a True/Not True Grid when disputingGrid when disputing
Rational Emotive Behavior Rational Emotive Behavior TherapyTherapy
REBT counselors use an ABC approach to REBT counselors use an ABC approach to helping.helping. A = the situation or person or eventA = the situation or person or event B = the beliefs or self-talk about B = the beliefs or self-talk about AA C = feelings and behavior – the C = feelings and behavior – the
consequence of the self-talkconsequence of the self-talk
BB causes causes CC but most people believe but most people believe that that AA causes causes CC..
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Progression of Mental Progression of Mental HealthHealth
Unconsciously IncompetentUnconsciously Incompetent
Consciously IncompetentConsciously Incompetent
Consciously CompetentConsciously Competent
Unconsciously CompetentUnconsciously Competent
Effective Living ModelEffective Living Model
Cheerleader vs. Fan ModelCheerleader vs. Fan Model
Remember, cheerleaders never Remember, cheerleaders never boo the players!boo the players!
Writing and DrawingWriting and Drawing
ListsLists
1-10 ratings1-10 ratings
Board of directorsBoard of directors
Board of DirectorsBoard of Directors
Three R’sThree R’s
ReactReact
RetreatRetreat
Rethink (Regret)Rethink (Regret)
RetreatRetreat
RethinkRethink
RespondRespond
WDEPWDEP
WWantant
DDoingoing
EEvaluatevaluate
PPlanlan
The Drama TriangleThe Drama Triangle
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H A L T
Don’t get:HungryAngryLonelyTired
Things To Know In Order to Be Things To Know In Order to Be A Sunday PlayerA Sunday Player
Counseling TheoriesCounseling Theories Grief counselingGrief counseling Crisis counselingCrisis counseling An active approach to group counselingAn active approach to group counseling OCDOCD Panic AttacksPanic Attacks Drugs and AlcoholDrugs and Alcohol Model to help ParentsModel to help Parents
Questions to Ask Yourself to Questions to Ask Yourself to Give Your Counseling New Give Your Counseling New
DirectionDirection Are you going to enjoy your job more Are you going to enjoy your job more
next week and in the following months?next week and in the following months? Are you going to be more multisensory?Are you going to be more multisensory?
(Come to our workshop at noon today)(Come to our workshop at noon today) Are you going to stop listening to too Are you going to stop listening to too
many stories and have more impact?many stories and have more impact?
Questions to Ask Yourself to Questions to Ask Yourself to Give Your Counseling New Give Your Counseling New
DirectionDirection Are you going to drive your sessions Are you going to drive your sessions
with theory?with theory? Are you going to listen with a Are you going to listen with a
theoretical ear rather than just listen theoretical ear rather than just listen for feelings?for feelings?
Are you going to become a Sunday Are you going to become a Sunday Player? It takes much dedication!Player? It takes much dedication!
In ConclusionIn Conclusion
ENJOY THE REST OF THE CONFERENCE!ENJOY THE REST OF THE CONFERENCE!
THANKS FOR HAVING US!THANKS FOR HAVING US!
ED JACOBS ED JACOBS [email protected]@mail.wvu.edu order form: www.impacttherapy.com order form: www.impacttherapy.com
CHRIS SCHIMMEL CHRIS SCHIMMEL [email protected]@mail.wvu.edu
