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Kidscape Bullying Intervention Training for Young People
What is Today All About?
Gives you tools to feel better about yourself
What is today all about?
What is today all about?
Help you identify and manage negative feelings
Help you to feel safer
Learn bullying defence skillsLearn to be assertive
Deal with difficult situations better
Help you to improve your confidence
BIT
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B.I.T. Group Agreement
Respect people’s privacy – no gossiping
Listen to each other- no interruptions
To only talk about things you feel comfortable talking about
Work as a team Don’t laugh or
tease people for their contributions
Confidentiality
Join in and have fun!
Timekeeping
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Mobile phones off/silent
Office Bullying Scenarios
Definition of Bullying
Children on Bullying-Children’s Rights Director for England: February 2008)
Deliberate: intention to cause
hurt, harm or distress
Bullying is normally repeated
There is an imbalance of power whereby the
target cannot effectively defend
themselves
“Bullying is a mixture of physical
violence and verbal hurting”
“Bullying is if it hurts someone who can’t
defend themselves & doesn’t deserve what
happens to them”
“Joking, teasing, arguing, play fighting and name calling are not always
bullying – but they can be if they affect someone
badly”
Young people’s comments
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Types & Methods of Bullying
Bullying is not always easy to identify. A young person may encounter bullying attacks that are:
Physical: Pushing, kicking, hitting,
pinching and other forms of violence or
threats.
Verbal: Name-calling, sarcasm, spreading rumours, persistent
teasing
Emotional: Excluding, tormenting, ridicule,
humiliation, setting people up
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Cyberbullying: nasty texts, ‘sexting’, sending
embarrassing photos, email, BBM and web-based attacks
Types & Methods of Bullying
Racist: Racial taunts, graffiti, gestures
Sexual: Unwanted physical contact or abusive comments.
Homophobic: Any hostile or offensive action against lesbians, gay males or bisexuals or those perceived to be
lesbian, gay or bisexual.
Abuse of the vulnerable: Physical disabilities, autism, special educational needs. Young people who are
carers; children looked after, teenage parents, young offenders and death or separation in the family.
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People get bullied because....
• Passive body language• Lack of eye contact• Lack of confidence• Lack of social skills• Seen as a target• They don’t stand up to
the bullies• Seen as different in some
way• No reason at all!
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People bully others because....
• It’s fun / a laugh / a thrill!• To get rid of feelings of
aggression due to other problems
• To feel more powerful• Learned behaviour• Showing off/status• Group pressure/gangs• Protect themselves from
being bullied
Impact of Persistent Bullying
Depression Self harm Truancy Feeling alone
Low self-esteem
Poor academic
achievement
Threatened/ Attempted
suicide
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Young People Bullying Scenarios
COMMUNICATION AND BODY LANGUAGE
Body Language
What is Body Language?
• Non-verbal communication
• Your facial expression, the position of your head, how you stand, hold yourself, what you do with your hands, how you dress etc – all non verbal messages about you and how you feel about yourself!
• Humans used facial expressions and their bodies to communicate before language was used
Why is Body Language Important?
• Communication is 55% body language, 38% tone of voice, only 7% words
• 93% communication non-verbal!
• Gives message about your mood, feelings, attitude & thoughts
• 7 seconds for people to make assumptions about you based on your body language
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Body Language Signs
Passive Aggressive Assertive
Eyes
Facial Expressions
Gestures
Body Posture
Voice
Quiet, low, hesitant, apologetic, unsure, silent. Would rather not be heard or apologises for everything including things which are not your fault.
Loud, fast, strong, shouting , often vulgar or uses foul language, often doesn’t give the other person a chance to speak.
Even paced, medium tone and volume, lots of “I” statements e.g. “I feel hurt when you do that”, not “you are an idiot” (blaming), leaves pauses for other person to respond.
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Eye Contact Exercise
Passivelylooking nervous, eyes
constantly moving
MessageYou’re alright, I’m not! Aggressively
head forward, staring
MessageI’m alright, you’re not!
Assertivelycalm, distantly interested,
focussed
MessageI’m alright, you’re alright!
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KIDSCAPE TOOLS
Saying No!
If someone is asking you to do something which you don’t want to agree to...
You have the right to say No!Be kind, but firm!
“No, I can’t.” “No, I don’t want to do that now.”
“No, I can’t lend it to you.”
“No, I don’t want to leave right now.
You go.”
“No thanks, I don’t like that idea”
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Broken Record…
This technique allows young people to practice the same phrase over & over again, like a broken record.
‘Broken record’ can be used if you are not being listened to or for saying ‘No’.
“Give me your money”“No it is my money!”
“Give me your money”“No it is my money!”
“Give me your money”“No it is my money!”
After a few attempts, the bully will get bored and
move on…
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Fogging
If we respond to insults with more insults, it build’s
upFogging
swallows up insults like a grey
fog…
Fogging offers an alternative to
distress or violence
When others make nasty
remarks, don’t argue or become
upset…
Turn yourself into fog, a bubble or imagine a protective shield
If the comments are true, just respond “That’s right”
If the comments are not true, just respond “It’s possible”
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Creative Responses When a bully makes a demand it is difficult to know what to say ‘Creative Responses’ distract and can confuse the bully
“You’re so fat”…“Thanks for sharing!”
“We’ll be waiting for you by the school gates....”“So we have a date then!”
“Ginger!”… “Blonde!”
“Give us your trainers”… “Sure, but I’ve just stepped in dog poop.”
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“Give us your money”… “Sure, I’ll get it off my older cousin, he has it.”
Mobile Rant1. If you feel really angry and out of control, go somewhere
where you can be alone (TIMEOUT) and record your rant on your mobile phone
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2. Shout and scream as much as you want
3. Say everything you want and feel into your mobile phone
4. After, complete the 5/8 breathing for 3 minutes.
5. Much later (perhaps at home), when you are calm and alone, listen to your recorded rant
6. Write out everything you said.
7. Screw the piece of paper up and throw it away
8. Delete the rant on your phone.
Making Movies
When you find yourself in a difficult situation and you notice that you are beginning to feel anxious or angry use this....
1. Imagine there is a camera just behind you or to one side, recording everything as it is happening and you are watching everything through the lens of the camera, not through your own eyes.
2. Pretend you are filming a movie of the situation and notice everything you can about the movie.
3. Notice what is happening to you in the movie. 4. Pay attention to how you look, your body language, your gestures, what you
are saying, your tone of voice and your feelings in the movie.
• This exercise should help you to feel distant from a difficult situation and will help you to stay calm. Practise this as often as you can, and soon it will be easy to do.
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4 / 5 Breathing
•Let your mind begin to focus on your breathing•Place your hands on your belly•Imagine your belly is a balloon gently inflating when you breathe in and deflating when you breathe out•Begin to create a rhythm, breathe in through your nose to a count of 1,2,3,4, pause then slowly release your breath through your nose to a count of 1,2,3,4,5.
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