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LEADERSHIPLEADERSHIPPRINCIPLESPRINCIPLES
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•Explaining why someone is not getting a promotion.•Confronting repeating unacceptable behavior.•Providing honest feedback on poor performance.•Respectfully challenging a colleague or customer.•Holding someone accountable for their output.•Sharing tough decision outcomes.•Delegating responsibility.•Discussing a taboo issue like hygiene or dress.•Thoughtfully saying no.•Addressing opportunities for improvement.•Explaining options in the face of adversity.
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•Explaining why someone is not getting a promotion.•Confronting repeating unacceptable behavior.•Providing honest feedback on poor performance.•Respectfully challenging a colleague or customer.•Holding someone accountable for their output.•Sharing tough decision outcomes.•Delegating responsibility.•Discussing a taboo issue like hygiene or dress.•Thoughtfully saying no.•Addressing opportunities for improvement.•Explaining options in the face of adversity.
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Why don’t we do this?Why don’t we do this?
Difficult ConversationsDifficult ConversationsRequire LeadershipRequire Leadershipand leadership is hard.and leadership is hard.
5 Principles of Leadership5 Principles of Leadership
PRINCIPLE #1PRINCIPLE #1Others first. Self second.Others first. Self second.
Be committed to seeing the other person succeed.Focus on the behavior or necessary changes.Be focused on the conversation. Remove distractions.Arrange for a private setting.
PRINCIPLE #2PRINCIPLE #2Difficult is not an excuse to delay.Difficult is not an excuse to delay.
We can do more damage by not having the conversation.The process might not be good, but the end result can be.
PRINCIPLE #3PRINCIPLE #3An adaptive approach is the only approach.An adaptive approach is the only approach.
How will I be helping this person?Will telling them this make them better in the long run?Why am I delaying telling them this?If I was in their position, would I prefer to know?How will they react? How do I know?Will they accept advice from me?
Ask these questions beforehand:Ask these questions beforehand:
PRINCIPLE #4PRINCIPLE #4Find the common ground. Build from there.Find the common ground. Build from there.
Find something early on that you both can agree on.Get them saying yes.Be preemptive by fostering relationships.
PRINCIPLE #5PRINCIPLE #5Goals and values guide action.Goals and values guide action.
Be clear on the best possible outcome.Be specific with discussion items, needed changes, etc.Be clear on which organization value is driving the need.
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