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WelcometoLightUniversityandthe“LeadershipProfessionalLifeCoaching”programofstudy.Ourprayeristhatyouwillbeblessedbyyourstudiesandincreaseyoureffectivenessinreachingouttoothers.Webelieveyouwillfindthisprogramtobeacademicallysound,clinicallyexcellentandbiblically-based.Ourfacultyrepresentssomeofthebestintheirfield–includingprofessors,counselorsandministerswhoprovide studentswith current, practical instruction relevant to theneedsoftoday’sgenerations.Wehavealsoworkedhardtoprovideyouwithaprogramthatisconvenientandflexible– giving you the advantage of “classroom instruction” on DVD-based lectures, peerinteraction,andallowingyoutocompleteyourtraininginthecomfortofyourhomeoroffice.The test material can be found at www.lightuniversity.com and may be taken openbook.Onceyouhavesuccessfullycompletedthetest,whichcoverstheunitswithinthiscourse,youwillbeawardedacertificateofcompletionsignifyingyouhavecompletedthisprogramofstudy.Thankyouforyourinterestinthisprogramofstudy.Ourprayeristhatyouwillgrowinknowledge,discernment,andpeople-skillsthroughoutthiscourseofstudy.Sincerely,
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TheAmericanAssociationofChristianCounselors
• Represents the largest organized membership (nearly 50,000) of Christiancounselorsandcaregiversintheworld,havingjustcelebratedits30thanniversaryin2016.
• Known for its top-tier publications (Christian Counseling Today, the ChristianCounseling Connection and Christian Coaching Today), professional credentialingopportunities offered through the International Board of Christian Care (IBCC),excellence in Christian counseling education, an array of broad-based conferencesandlivetrainingevents,radioprograms,regulatoryandadvocacyeffortsonbehalfof Christian professionals, a peer-reviewed Ethics Code, and collaborativepartnerships such as Compassion International, the AACC has become the face ofChristiancounselingtoday.
• TheAACCalsohelpedlaunchtheInternationalChristianCoachingAssociation(ICCA)
in2011,andhasdevelopedanumberofeffective toolsand training resources forLifeCoaches.
OurMission
The AACC is committed to assisting Christian counselors, the entire “community ofcare,” licensedprofessionals,pastors,and laychurchmemberswith littleornoformaltraining. It is our intention to equip clinical, pastoral, and lay caregivers with biblicaltruthandpsychosocialinsightsthatministertohurtingpersonsandhelpsthemmovetopersonalwholeness,interpersonalcompetence,mentalstability,andspiritualmaturity.
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OurVision
TheAACC’svisionhas twocriticaldimensions:First,wedesire toservetheworldwideChristian Church by helping foster maturity in Christ. Secondly, we aim to serve,educate, and equip 1,000,000 professional clinicians, pastoral counselors, and layhelpersthroughoutthenextdecade.WearecommittedtohelpingtheChurchequipGod’speopleto loveandcareforoneanother.We recognizeChristiancounselingasaunique formofChristiandiscipleship,assisting the church in its call to bringbelievers tomaturity in the lifelongprocess ofsanctification—ofgrowingtomaturityinChristandexperiencingabundantlife.Werecognizesomearegiftedtodoso inthecontextofaclinical,professionaland/orpastoralmanner.Wealsobelieveselectedlaypeoplearecalledtocareforothersandthattheyneedtheappropriatetrainingandmentoringtodoso.WebelievetheroleofthehelpingministryintheChurchmustbesupportedbythreestrongcords:thepastor,the layhelper,and theclinicalprofessional. It is to these three roles that theAACC isdedicatedtoserve(Ephesians4:11-13).
OurCoreValues
In the nameof Christ, theAmericanAssociation of Christian Counselors abides by thefollowingvalues:
VALUE1:OURSOURCEWe are committed to honor Jesus Christ and glorify God, remaining flexible andresponsivetotheHolySpiritinallthatHehascalledustobeanddo.VALUE2:OURSTRENGTHWearecommittedtobiblicaltruths,andtoclinicalexcellenceandunityinthedeliveryofallourresources,services,trainingandbenefits.VALUE3:OURSERVICEWe are committed to effectively and competently serve the community of careworldwide—both our membership and the church at large—with excellence andtimeliness,andbyover-deliveryonourpromises.VALUE4:OURSTAFFWearecommittedtovalueandinvestinourpeopleaspartnersinourmissiontohelpotherseffectivelyprovideChrist-centeredcounselingandsoulcareforhurtingpeople.VALUE5:OURSTEWARDSHIPWe are committed to profitably steward the resources God gives to us in order tocontinueservingtheneedsofhurtingpeople.
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LightUniversity• Established in1999under the leadershipofDr. TimClinton—hasnowseennearly
250,000 students from around the world (including lay caregivers, pastors andchaplains, crisis responders, life coaches,and licensedmentalhealthpractitioners)enroll in courses that are delivered via multiple formats (live conference andwebinar presentations, video-based certification training, and a state-of-the artonlinedistanceteachingplatform).
• Thesepresentations,courses,andcertificateanddiplomaprograms,offeroneofthemostcomprehensiveorientationstoChristiancounselinganywhere.ThestrengthofLightUniversity is partially determined by itsworld-class faculty—over 150 of theleading Christian educators, authors, mental health clinicians and life coachingexpertsintheUnitedStates.Thiscoregroupoffacultymembersrepresentsaliteral“Who’sWho” in Christian counseling. No other university in theworld has pulledtogethersuchadiverseandcomprehensivegroupofprofessionals.
• Educationalandtrainingmaterialscoverover40relevantcoreareas inChristian—
counseling, life coaching, mediation, and crisis response—equipping competentcaregivers and ministry leaders who are making a difference in their churches,communities,andorganizations.
OurMissionStatement
To train one million Biblical Counselors, Christian Life Coaches, and Christian CrisisRespondersbyeducating,equipping,andservingtoday’sChristianleaders.
AcademicallySound•ClinicallyExcellent•DistinctivelyChristian
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Video-basedCurriculum
• Utilizes DVD and online presentations that incorporate over 150 of the leadingChristianeducators,authors,mentalhealthclinicians,andlifecoachingexpertsintheUnitedStates.
• Each presentation is approximately 50-60 minutes in length and most areaccompanied by a corresponding text (in outline format) and a 10-questionexamination to measure learning outcomes. There are nearly 1,000 uniquepresentationsthatareavailableandorganizedinvariouscourseofferings.
• Learning isself-directed andpacing isdeterminedaccording to the individual time
parameters/scheduleofeachparticipant.• With the successful completion of each program course, participants receive an
officialCertificateofCompletion.InadditiontothenormalCertificateofCompletionthat each participant receives, Regular and Advanced Diplomas in BiblicalCounselingarealsoavailable.
Ø The Regular Diploma is awarded by taking Caring For People God’s Way,BreakingFreeandoneadditionalElectiveamongtheavailableCoreCourses.
Ø TheAdvancedDiploma isawardedby takingCaringForPeopleGod’sWay,BreakingFree,andanythreeElectivesamongtheavailableCoreCourses.
Credentialing
• Light University courses, programs, certificates and diplomas are recognized andendorsedbytheInternationalBoardofChristianCare (IBCC)anditsthreeaffiliateBoards: the Board of Christian Professional & Pastoral Counselors (BCPPC); theBoardofChristianLifeCoaching(BCLC);andtheBoardofChristianCrisis&TraumaResponse(BCCTR).
• Credentialingisaseparateprocessfromcertificateordiplomacompletion.However,the IBCCacceptsLightUniversityandLightUniversityOnlineprogramsasmeetingthe academic requirements for credentialing purposes. Graduates are eligible toapplyforcredentialinginmostcases.
Ø Credentialinginvolvesanapplication,attestation,andpersonalreferences.
Ø Credential renewals include Continuing Education requirements, re-attestation,andoccureitherannuallyorbienniallydependingonthespecificBoard.
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OnlineTesting
The URL for taking all quizzes for this course is: http://www.lightuniversity.com/my-account/.
• TOLOGINTOYOURACCOUNT
Ø You should have received an email upon checkout that included yourusername,password,andalinktologintoyouraccountonline.
• MYDASHBOARDPAGE
Ø Onceregistered,youwillseetheMyDVDCourseDashboardlinkbyplacingyourmousepointerovertheMyAccountmenuinthetopbarofthewebsite.This page will include student PROFILE information and the REGISTEREDCOURSES forwhichyouareregistered.TheLOG-OUTandMYDASHBOARDtabs will be in the top right of each screen. Clicking on the > next to thecoursewilltakeyoutothecoursepagecontainingthequizzes.
• QUIZZES
Ø Simplyclickonthefirstquiztobegin.• PRINTCERTIFICATE
Afterallquizzesaresuccessfullycompleted,a“PrintYourCertificate”buttonwillappearnear the top of the course page. You will now be able to print out a Certificate ofCompletion.Yournameandthecourseinformationarepre-populated.ContinuingEducationThe AACC is approved by the American Psychological Association (APA) to offercontinuing education for psychologists. The AACC is a co-sponsor of this trainingcurriculum and aNational Board of Certified Counselors (NBCC) Approved ContinuingEducation Provider (ACEPTM). The AACC may award NBCC approved clock hours forevents or programs thatmeetNBCC requirements. TheAACCmaintains responsibilityfor thecontentof this training curriculum.TheAACCalsooffers continuingeducationcredit for play therapists through the Association for Play Therapy (APT ApprovedProvider #14-373), so long as the training element is specifically applicable to thepracticeofplaytherapy.Itremainstheresponsibilityofeachindividualtobeawareofhis/herstatelicensureandContinuing Education requirements. A letter certifying participation will bemailed tothose individuals who submit a Continuing Education request and have successfullycompletedallcourserequirements.
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LeadershipProfessionalLifeCoachingTableofContents:
MLCL101:LifeLeadership:WhatSeparatesPeopleTimClinton,Ed.D..................................................................................................................9MLCL102:Unity:TheFirstTaskofaLeaderRolfeCarawan,M.Ed............................................................................................................17MLCL103:AmbassadorsforChrist:TheMessageofServantLeadershipEricScalise,Ph.D...................................................................................................................25MLCL104:EssentialElementstoEffectiveLeadershipCoachingDwightBain,M.A.,GeorgiaShaffer,M.A.,andEricScalise,Ph.D........................................31MLCL105:FindingYourVoice:EveryLeaderHasaStoryRolfeCarawan,M.Ed............................................................................................................36MLCL106:StrategiestoEmpowertheExecutivesYouCoach GeorgiaShaffer,M.A............................................................................................................41MLCL107:LeadingThroughToughTimes:ManagingChangeandTransitionRolfeCarawan,M.Ed............................................................................................................46MLCL108:CulturallyCompetentLeadershipMarkCrear,Ph.D.,ParisFinner-Williams,Ph.D.,J.D.,Esq.,andEricScalise,Ph.D...............50MLCL109:LeadingMultipleGenerationsRolfeCarawan,M.Ed............................................................................................................55MLCL110:ProjectManagementforLeadersDwightBain,M.A..................................................................................................................61MLCL111:LeadersPartneringatHomeandatWorkRolfeCarawan,M.Ed.,LeaCarawan,M.A.,andEricScalise,Ph.D.......................................66MLCL112:BecomingaGreatLeader:RunningtheRacewithEnduranceEricScalise,Ph.D...................................................................................................................70
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MLCL101:
LifeLeadership:WhatSeparatesPeople
TimClinton,Ed.D.
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Summary
Whatdelineatesbetweenthepeoplewho“wanttodogreatthings”andthosewho
actually“dogreatthings”?Inthislecture,Dr.Clintontacklestherealissuesbehind
beingagreatleaderbydiscussinglifelessonsandfourteenthingsthatseparate
successfulleadersfromtheunsuccessfulleaders.Intheend,itismostimportantthat
greatleadersfinishthejobwellandleavenopageunturned.
LearningObjectives
1. Participantswillexplorethelifelessonslearnedthroughlistening,learning,and
havingtherightperspectiveandhowtheydevelopgreatleadership.
2. Participantswillidentifyanddiscussthefourteenthingsthatseparatethose
“whodo”fromthose“whodon’t”.
3. Participantswilldiscussthesesuccessfulleadershipqualitiesfromabiblical
perspective.
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I. Introduction
A. InformalSurveyontheDefinitionorCharacteristicsofaLeader.
1. Whoisaleader?
• “Get’erDone”personality
• Avisionary,authentic
2. JohnMaxwellDefinitionofLeadership–“Leadershipissimplyinfluence!”
B. BeMindful
1. Someoneisalwayswatchingyou
2. Ifyouhaveinfluenceinthelifeofanotherindividual–“Youarealeader!”
C. SimpleLifeLessonsonLeadership
1. Listen–activelistening;payattention;gatheringinformation
2. Learn–becomeastudentofthepersonyouareworkingwith–peelingback
thelayersoftheirlife.
• Familyhistory
• Personalcorevalues
• Dreamsandambitions
• Education
• Stageinlife
• Uniqueness
• Strengths&Weaknesses
• Note:Rememberincoachingyouareonlytryingtohelpthisperson
move2-3degrees.
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3. BePrescriptive
• Nota“ToDo”listbutactiveparticipation(i.e.leadingtowarda
constructivegoaltogether).
• Nudgethemtoanotherlevelbychallengingthemtoreadwidelyon
pertinenttopicsandtowritetheirthoughtsdown.
4. BeBiblical–ourauthoritycomesfromtheScripturestheWordofGod.Itis
ouranchor.
• Thisiswhereweanchorourclient’slife.
• Theyarelookingforalifeofpurposeandthatisonlyfoundinthe
Scriptures.cf.Psalms127:1;John15:1,5;John10:10
II. WhatSeparatesPeople
Whatdelineatesbetweenthepeoplewho“wanttodoit”andthosewhoactually
“doit”.Herearefourteen(14)thingsthatseparatethosewho“do”fromthose
who“don’t”:
A. FocusontheFundamentals
1. FocusontheFundamentals,thatis,whattrulyseparatespeople.
2. Don’tgetdistractedbythatwhichisinsignificantbutfocusonthosethings
thatwilltakeyoutoyourgoals.
3. Eliminatethosethingsinyourlifethatdonotmatter.
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B. HaveDiscipline
1. Bewillingtopaythepricetoexecutewell;willingtoworkharderthanthe
nextguy.
2. Practicelikeyouplayandplaylikeyoupractice.
3. Work,practiceandrepetitionwilleliminatethe“fearfactor”-whichisthe
greatestbarriertosuccessfullyreachingyourgoals.
4. Cf.1Timothy4:7b
C. PlaytoYourStrengths
1. Identifyyourgiftsandabilitiesandbehonestaboutthem.
2. Focusonwhatyoudobest.
3. Don’tallowyourselftobeputinthewrongslotinyourquestforyourlife
goalsparticularlyinyourvocation.
4. GodhasaplanforyoubasedonhowHemadeyou-Jeremiah29:11
D. FollowInstructions(Proverbs11:4;Proverbs10:13)
1. Havealifelong“teachablespirit.”
2. Beobedienttodothatwhichyouneedtoknowto“getbetter”.
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E. MaintainAGoodAttitude
1. Yourattitudewilldetermineyoursuccess.
2. Attitudesleadtoself-fulfillingprophecy.Ifyouthinkyouwillfailyou
probablywill.Thereverseislikewisetrue.
3. Yourattitudeisreflectedinyourcountenanceandbodylanguage.Smileand
walkconfidentlywithyourheadup.Lookpeopleintheeyes.
F. YouHaveToBelieve
1. Cf.Philippians4:13,youcandoallthingsthroughChristwhoisyourstrength.
2. Believeinyourself.
3. BelieveinGod
4. Cf.1Samuel17–StoryofDavidandGoliath
G. YouHaveToBeGoal-Oriented
1. Successinlifeisaboutsettinggoalsandlettingnothingdistractyoufrom
theiraccomplishment.
2. NotePhilippians3:12-15–alwayspressforwardevenwhentemporarily
blockedorstopped.Don’tgetdistracted.
3. Persistence&Perseverancealwayspayoff.
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H. Think
1. Ineverysituation.
2. Alwayshaveacontingencyplan;thinkaheadforeverypossiblescenario.
3. Positively–Philippians4:8
I. MentalToughness
1. Lifeisastruggleandwilltrytodefeatyou.Knowthat!
2. Cf.John16:33
3. Taketheblowsandkeepmoving.Cf.Hebrews12:1-4;Philippians3:13-14
4. Facingadversitywithoutgivingupseparatessuccessfulpeoplefromthose
whoquit.Problemswillneverbetheissue,it’showyoudealwiththem.
J. MakeAdjustments
1. Don’tmakeexcusesforerrorsandfailures,adjust.
2. Youhavetomakechangesinordertosucceed.
3. Executeyourplanwithintentionality.
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K. TeamworkMakestheDreamWork.–“Howdidtheturtlegetonthefence?”
1. Youmustlearnthatitisnotjustaboutyou;lifeisateamsport.
2. CultivaterelationshipswithothersandwithGod.
L. BeAggressive,Don’tBeTentative
1. Don’tbedrivenbyfear.
2. Attacklife.
M. Play–Up
1. Constructivediscontent,don’tgetsatisfiedwithwhereyouareinlife.
2. Maintainyourpassion.
3. Lookfornewchallenges.
N. FinishWell
1. Don’tquit.
2. Thegoalistofinishwell,leaveamark-makeanimpact.
3. Leaveitallonthefield–doyourbest.
III. Conclusion
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MLCL102:
Unity:TheFirstTaskofaLeader
RolfeCarawan,M.Ed.
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I. Introduction
A. Storyofbuildingunityonaperenniallosingprepschoolfootballteam.
B. ItistheFirstTaskofEveryLeadertoBuildUnity.
1. Successdoesnotcomeapartfromunity.
2. Unitydoesnothappenbyaccident.
3. UnityisexpressedintheGodhead(Trinity)– Father,SonandHolySpirit
C. UnityisaPartofGod’sPlanforUs.
1. John17:11
2. Oneofthegreatestchallengesofbeinginleadershipisthatyou’realwaysout
thereforsomeonetocriticize.
3. John17:22-24
4. Ephesians4:1-3
5. Colossians3:14
D. PowerofUnity
1. TowerofBabel(Genesis11:1-9)
2. InUnityNothingIsImpossible(v.6)
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II. MythsAboutUnity
A. YouMustBe100%UnifiedtoBenefitfromUnity’sInfluence.
B. UnityisJustAnotherWordfor“Uniformity”.
1. Reality – Unity occurs when free individuals choose to come together
voluntarilytoaccomplishagoal.
2. Unityisneveraccomplishedbycoercion.
C. DiversityisNotHonoredinUnity.
1. Reality–Unityrequiresadiversityofgifts,abilitiesandpersonalitiesinorder
forgoalstobeattained.
2. Unityneedsdiversitytobesuccessful,itspartoftheDNA.
D. UnityisaUtopianIdea.
III. HowDoWeIncreaseQualityofService&ProductivityInAn
Organization?
A. ThroughPeopleWhoAreEngagedtoTheirMaximumInvolvement.
B. GallupSurvey–5.4millionworkers.
1. 29%consideredthemselvesfullyengagedintheirwork.
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2. 55%admittedonlypartialengagementintheworkplace.Thatistosaythatin
theirjobs80%ofwhattheydidwasnotfulfillingandmotivating.
3. 16%admittedtobeingactivelydisengaged-thatistosaytheywere
intentionallyunderminingproductivityintheirworkplace.
C. ResearchofDr.Wright,UniversityofNevada,Reno.
1. Anorganizationcouldlosefrom40minutesto2hoursofproductivityper
workerperdaydependingontheworker’slevelofunhappinessonthejob
andinoutsidecircumstances.
2. Toincreaseanindividual’sengagementatworkhisleveloflifesatisfaction
mustbeaddressed.
3. Threeareasofsatisfyinglife-
• Unitywithself
• Unitywithmission
• Unitywithothers
4. Unityw/self
• Clarifyingourcorevaluesandattitudes.
• Comfortableinourownskin.
• Content,nolongercomparingmyselfwithothers.
5. UnityofMission
• Hastodowithvision,purposeandgoals
• Yourpersonallifemissionmustbecongruentwiththoseofthe
organizationyouworkwith.
• Missionprovidesmeaningforourlives
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6. UnitywithOthers
• Peopledon’tleavecompaniestheyleavemanagers
• Relationshipsareimportanttoproductivityintheworkplace
• Friendsareneededintheworkplace
7. Three(3)Deadly“D’s”thatSabotageEngagement
• Discontent
• Dissent
• Discord
IV. PersonalBenefitsofUnity
A. IncreasesEnergyLevel.
B. IncreasesFocus.
C. Decreasesfrictionanddiscontentinworkplace.
V. OrganizationalBenefitsofUnity
A. Givesacompetitiveadvantage.
B. IncreasesMorale
C. ProvidesGreaterTeamwork
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D. GreaterLoyalty
E. InnovationSoars
VI. SixEssentialsofUnity
A. Agreement
B. Trust
C. ExcellentLeadership
D. Altruism
E. Communication
F. Interdependence
G. Commitment
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VII. PhasesofLeadership(RobertClinton)
A. SovereignFoundations
1. Gender
2. Family
3. Aptitudes
4. Abilities
B. InnerLifeGrowth
1. Corevaluesdeveloped
2. Connectchoicesandconsequences
3. Spirituallifecrisisleadingtodeeperdependenceongod
C. Ministering,MaturingPhase
1. Commitmentstoministryandorganization
2. Understandingofourselves
3. Achievealevelofcomfortinourownskins
4. Exploreourgiftsdeeperandnurturethemwithintentionality
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D. LifeMaturing
1. Purposefulpursuitsinlinewithourlifemission
2. Walkinginourgiftedness
3. Gainingexperienceatmanylevels
E. Convergence
1. Confidenceborneoutofexercisingourgifts
2. DoingwhatIamsupposedtodo;whatIwascreatedtodo
3. Self-actualizedinChrist
F. Afterglow
1. Celebrationofalifewell-lived
2. Dramaticimpact
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MLCL103:
AmbassadorsforChrist:TheMessageofServantLeadership
EricScalise,Ph.D.
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I. Introduction
Leadershipisdescribedinmanywaysbutallcanbereducedtothisword–
INFLUENCE.
A. ServantLeadership
1. 1970–RobertGreenleafcoinedtheterm“servantleader”.
2. ItdescribestheBiblicalconceptofservantleadershipintheministryof
reconciliation.
3. “AllthisisfromGod,whoreconciledustohimselfthroughChristandgaveus
theministryofreconciliation:thatGodwasreconcilingtheworldtohimselfin
Christ,notcountingmen'ssinsagainstthem.Andhehascommittedtousthe
messageofreconciliation.WearethereforeChrist'sambassadors,asthough
Godweremakinghisappealthroughus.WeimploreyouonChrist'sbehalf:
BereconciledtoGod.”–2Corinthians5:18-20
B. MinistryofReconciliation
1. Allformsofministryandallleadershippositionsaretiedtotheconceptof
the“ministryofreconciliation”.Everyoneneedssomeformofreconciliation.
2. Somepeopleneedtobereconciledtothemselvesbecauseofpersonaland
familydysfunctions,notbeingatpeacewiththemselves.
3. SomepeopleneedtobereconciledtoGod.
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4. Somepeopleneedtobereconciledtoothersbecauseofbroken
relationshipsandunforgiveness.
5. Leaders(coaches)domuchoftheirworkinthecontextofreconciliation.
C. Ambassador
1. ThetermAMBASSADORcomesfromaCelticwordmeaning“servant”.
2. AnothertermorsynonymisPLENIPOTENTIARY–“adiplomaticagent
endowedwithfullpowertotransactbusiness.”-Webster’sDictionary
3. Thistermdescribesanambassadorasonecharacterizedby:
• Dignity
• Integrity
• Respect
4. Plenipotentiaryleadershipisbasedoncorevaluesthatarebiblically-based
andwillproduce“resolutegenuineness”.
II. Principles/CharacteristicsofaGreatAmbassador
GodHimselfisaSovereignLeader-"Knowthereforetoday,andtakeittoyourheart,
thattheLORD,HeisGodinheavenaboveandontheearthbelow;thereisnoother.”
Deuteronomy4:39(NASB)
Heleadswithmajesty,power,andauthority.
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A. AmbassadorsAreAppointedorChosen.(1Peter2:9)
1. GodhassetusaparttobeHisambassadors.
• SoweareChrist’sambassadors;Godismakinghisappealthroughus.We
speakforChristwhenweplead,“ComebacktoGod!”2Corinthians5:20
(NLT)
2. WearecommissionedasleaderstocarryoutGod’smission.
B. AmbassadorsAreEntrustedWithAMission.(1Cor.2:4)
1. WerepresentGodnotourselves.
2. Wehavebeengivenamission–thegospelofChrist,aministryof
reconciliation.
C. AmbassadorsAreFaithfulandLoyalToTheirSovereign.(Luke16:10)
1. Faithfulnessandloyaltyaredemonstratedovertime.
2. Theyare“earned”commodities.
3. Theytakestepsoffaithorexercisefaith.(Proverbs13:17)
D. AmbassadorsAreViewedAsDignifiedIndividuals.(Titus2:7)
1. Individualsofhighcharacter.
2. Theyhaveastrongsenseofmission.
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3. Theyoperateinauthoritywithhumility.
4. Theydon’tabusetheirauthority.
5. Theyare“abovereproach”.
E. AmbassadorsAreTrustedByTheirSovereignLeaders.
1. Theymustbetrustworthy.“Inthiscase,moreover,itisrequiredofstewards
thatonebefoundtrustworthy.”1Corinthians4:2NASB
2. Theyareextremelydependable.
F. AmbassadorsAreWise(notnecessarilythemosteducatedorsmartest).They
havethewisdomofGod.
“Thetongueofthewisemakesknowledgeacceptable,butthemouthoffools
spoutsfolly.”Proverbs15:2NASB
1. Theyarewiseintheirresponses.
2. Theyrepresentthecorevalues,philosophiesandprinciplesoftheir
sovereign.
3. Theyareobedienttothesovereign.
4. Theyunderstandthepowerofthetongue.
5. Theyarecoalitionbuilders.
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G. AmbassadorsAreSENT.(Luke9:1-2)
“AndHecalledthetwelvetogether,andgavethempowerandauthorityoverall
thedemonsandtohealdiseases.AndHesentthemouttoproclaimthekingdom
ofGodandtoperformhealing.”
1. Theyhaveamissionfromtheirsovereign.
2. Theyarepreparedfortheirmission.
3. Theyrepresentthesovereignnotthemselves.
III. Conclusion&Summary
Thethingswhichyouhaveheardfrommeinthepresenceofmanywitnesses,entrust
thesetofaithfulmenwhowillbeabletoteachothersalso.2Timothy2:2NASB
A. Leadership
1. Leadershipisaphenomenon,aconcept,aprocess.Itrequiresongoing
researchandstudy.
2. Weasleaders/coachesareplenipotentiaries(ambassadors)ofGod.
B. ALeaderAlwaysProducesFollowers.
1. Greatleadersproduceothergreatleaders.
2. Leadersunderstandthattheyarereally“servants”.
3. Thesignificanceofthefoldedburialnapkin
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MLCL104:
EssentialElementstoEffectiveLeadershipCoaching
DwightBain,M.A.,GeorgiaShaffer,M.A.
andEricScalise,Ph.D.
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I. Introduction
A. Thingsdon’tgetdonebythemselvesinanyorganization.Someonehastobe
thinking,planningandactingstrategically.
B. WewillexamineFiveEssentialElementsthatarenecessarytoeffective
leadershipcoaching.
II. Plans&Planning–EverythingStartswithaMasterPlan
A. BiblicalPlans
1. JoshuahadbeengivengoalsandplansbyMosesandwasinstructedin
Joshua1tomoveforwardwiththoseplansandthatbecauseofGod’s
presenceandtheplansheneednotbeafraid.
2. AChristian’sdaymustbegininGod’sWord.
B. ThePurposeofPlans
1. Plansfunctionasanorganizations’playbook.
2. Plansneedtobe:
• Writtendown
• Measurable
• Attainablebutstretching
• Ownedandboughtintobyeveryoneontheleadershipteamandwithin
theorganization.
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III. Personalities
A. EffectiveLeaders
1. Leadersneedtounderstandthemosteffectivecontexttheyworkwithin
basedontheirpersonalities.
2. Leadersmustbeabletointeractwithallthepersonalitiesontheirstaffs.
• Todothistheymustidentifythedifferentpersonalitytypesontheir
staffs.
• Theymustshareanddescribetheirpersonalitytypeandhowtheydeal
withrelationships.
3. Leadersmustbuildonstaffstrengths.
4. Leadersmustbewillingtoevaluateandre-slotpeoplewherenecessary.
5. Leadersmustbeproactiveinthisvitalarea.
B. Personnel
1. We’reonlyasgoodasourpeople.
2. Payattentiontotheneedsofyourteam.
3. Leadersmustbeequippersandencouragers.
4. Personnelproblemsarebestsolvedandaddressedduringthehiringprocess.
• Proverbs15:2“Wisdommakesknowledgeacceptable.”
• Knowledgeisthe‘what”andWisdomisthe“How”or“When”
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IV. Priorities&Focus
A. Multitasking
1. Toomanyleadersbelievethatmulti-taskingisthewaytogetthingsdonebut
researchhasshownthatnottobetrue.
2. Leadersmustidentifythemissionorgoalandeliminateandeliminate
everythingtheyaredoingthatdoesleaddirectlytothatgoalormission
achievement.
3. Aneffectiveleaderdoesn’tmanagetasksbutleadspeople.
4. Delegationisthekeytosuccess.
5. Leadersshouldalwaysbeaskingthemselvesthisquestion:“Whatisthemost
importantthingIshouldbedoingrightnow?”
6. Leadersmustunderstandtheprincipleofthe“Urgentvs.Important”
B. Perfectionism
1. Perfectionismstopsandlimitspeople.
2. Perfectionismoftenleadstoincompletetasksandgoals.
3. Leadersmustbewillingtoacknowledgetheirbrokennessinthisareaand
dealwithit.
4. Leadersmustbewillingtoacknowledgethiswiththeirpeople.
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V. Conclusion
“Thegreatestofleadersunderstandwhatitmeanstobecomeafolloweragain,and
allowotherpeopletospeakintotheirlives.”–EricScalise
Weascoachesandleadersmusthavecoachesinourownlives.
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MLCL105:
FindingYourVoice:EveryLeaderHasaStory
RolfeCarawan,M.Ed.
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I. Introduction
A. TheTerm“FindingYourVoice”wasCoinedbyMaxDupree.
B. AsLeadersWeMustDecideWhatWeAreandAreNotGoingtoStandFor
Jesusreplied:"'LovetheLordyourGodwithallyourheartandwithallyoursoul
andwithallyourmind.'Thisisthefirstandgreatestcommandment.Andthe
secondislikeit:'Loveyourneighborasyourself.'AlltheLawandtheProphets
hangonthesetwocommandments."Matthew22:37-40NIV
C. God’sStory
1. Weareallcaughtupinadrama;wearepartofGod’sstory.
2. Weneedtodiscoverandinterpretourstory.
II. Jesus’ModelofLeadership
A. RelationalLeadership(i.e.ServantLeadership)
1. 1Timothy3:1indicatesthattoseektheofficeofan“overseer”isanoble
ambition.
B. MovingfromFollowertoLeader:WhenDoesItHappen?
1. Whenlife’sfocusmovesfrom“me”to“we”
2. Keyquestionofcoachtoclient“Whydoyouwanttobeleader?”
3. WhenGodgivesyouavisionandmissionforyourlife.
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4. Identifyingyourvisionandmissionrequiresfaith
5. ScripturalexampleofAbraham:
• HeneededfaithtoRISK.
• HeneededfaithtoTRUST.
• HeneededfaithtoSURRENDER.
6. God’criterionforsuccessisFAITHFULLNESS
III. WorldPowerModelvs.KingdomofChrist’sModel
A. WorldPowerModel
B. Standardization/Uniformity
C. Conformity
1. Performingacceptablepractices
2. Presentingacceptableimage
D. Pragmatism–howdoesitwork?
1. Canwemakeitworkagainthesameway?
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E. Production
1. Personalworthismeasuredbyabilitytoproduce
2. Produceswinners&losers
3. Disruptsunity
F. Centralism–attainingandmaintainingcontrolisofparamountimportant
1. Authorityisneverquestioned
G. Christ’sModelServantLeadership
1. “Jesuscalledthemtogetherandsaid,"Youknowthatthosewhoare
regardedasrulersoftheGentileslorditoverthem,andtheirhighofficials
exerciseauthorityoverthem.Notsowithyou.Instead,whoeverwantsto
becomegreatamongyoumustbeyourservant,andwhoeverwantstobe
firstmustbeslaveofall.ForeventheSonofMandidnotcometobeserved,
buttoserve,andtogivehislifeasaransomformany."Mark10:42-45NIV
2. “Forwedonotpreachourselves,butJesusChristasLord,andourselvesas
yourservantsforJesus'sake.”2Corinthians4:5NIV
H. Variety–fosterasafeenvironmentwherepeoplecanbeproductiveand
contributionsareencouraged.
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I. Improvement–leaderssays...”Ibelieveinyouruniquedesign”
1. honorswhatGodisdoinginaperson
J. Scripture-Centered
K. Authenticity
L. Integrity
IV. Conclusion
Thejobofaleaderistoconnectour“voice”withour“touch.”
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MLCL106:
StrategiestoEmpowertheExecutivesYouCoach
GeorgiaShaffer,M.A.
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I. Introduction
A. Leadershipfailureshappenalmosteveryweek.Whathappened?Theydidnot
materializeovernight.Theyoccurredovertime.
B. AccordingtoDanielGoldman,themoresuccessfulaleaderbecomestheless
self-awarenesshetendstohave.Theytendnottoseetheirbesettingsinsand
wheretheyaremostvulnerable.Theyfailtobeabletoidentifyissuesthatwill
hindertheirleadership.
C. Acoach’sjobistohelpleadersdevelopakeenerself-awareness.
D. Acoachhastodevelopa“plan”foraleadertobesuccessfulandwithinthisplan
wehelpthemdealwithself-awareness.
II. ThereAre5QuestionsForYourClient:
A. WhatArethe“WhatIf’s”thatAreCausingYoutoWorry?
1. Whatisstealingyourenergy?
2. Diffuseyourfearsandconcerns
3. Designcontingenciestodealwiththe“whatif’s”.
4. Brainstorm“thenextstep”aftercomingupwiththecontingencyplans.
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B. WhatHindersYourAbilitytoConnectwithPeople?
1. Findtherightpeopleforthejob–keepthosepeople.
2. Thecoreofsuccessfulleadershipisrelationships.
3. AccordingtoTimSanders,therearefourqualitiesnecessarytoconnect.
• Befriendly
• Bereal,thatis,authenticandgenuine
• Haveempathy
• Berelevant
4. Discusswhatcauses“disconnects”inyourrelationships.
C. AreYouLivingandLeadingBeyondYourLimitations?
1. Istheleaderdepletinghisenergiesunnecessarily(dangerouslydepleted)?
2. Whataresignalstheyareheadingfortrouble?
3. Emotionalstresscausingdepletion
4. Physicalissuedrainingthem
5. Spirituallyrunningonempty
6. Istheleadertryingto“doitall”?
7. Needtofocusontheimportantvs.urgent.
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8. LeaderneedstounderstandGodasthesourceoftheirpowerandstrength.
9. Leadermusthaveactivitiesinhisschedulethathelphim“recharge”andre-
energize”
D. AreYouManagingYourEmotionsorVice-Versa?
1. Mostleadersareawareoftheiremotionsbuttheyarenotviewedas
priorities.
2. Leadersmustbeawarethatwhenemotionsareignoredlongenoughthey
willeventuallycausemajorproblems.
3. Leaderswillsaythingslike“…aroundherewedon’tfocusonnegatives”
4. Theyneedtounderstandthatdealingwithemotionalissueshelpsavoid
“negatives”andisapositivething,beingproactive.
5. Questionsforreflection:
• HowoftendoIactoutmyfeelingsandemotions?
• Whatdothosearoundmesayaboutmyemotionalstability?
• Whatdomy“meltdownmoments”looklike?
E. WhatDesiresNeedtobeDiscarded?
1. Don’tconfuseneedsanddesires.Desireshavetohavearelationshipto
achievingthemission.
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2. Don’tconfusedesireswithurgentmattersthatarescreamingforyour
attention.
3. Desiresbecomingdemands–leadingtodisconnect.
4. “Whatcausesfightsandquarrelsamongyou?Don'ttheycomefromyour
desiresthatbattlewithinyou?”James4:1NIV
III. Conclusion
A. Agreatexercisetodowithyourclientsistoworkthrougheachofthese5
Questionsandratehoweachappliestoyourclientby1-5scale.
B. Youcanexpectresistancefromyourclientsinthisarea.Remember,resistanceis
usuallyanexpressionofadeeplyheldneedorvaluethatcausesinnerconflictin
yourclient.
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MLCL107:
LeadingThroughToughTimes:ManagingChangeandTransition
RolfeCarawan,M.Ed.
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I. Introduction
A. ReadingEcclesiastes,Chapter3
Foreverythingthereisaseason,atimeforeveryactivityunderheaven.Atimeto
bebornandatimetodie.Atimetoplantandatimetoharvest.Atimetokilland
atimetoheal.Atimetoteardownandatimetobuildup.Atimetocryanda
timetolaugh.Atimetogrieveandatimetodance.Atimetoscatterstonesand
atimetogatherstones,Atimetoembraceandatimetoturnaway.Atimeto
searchandatimetoquitsearching.Atimetokeepandatimetothrowaway.A
timetotearandatimetomend.Atimetobequietandatimetospeak.Atime
toloveandatimetohate.Atimeforwarandatimeforpeace.Whatdopeople
reallygetforalltheirhardwork?IhaveseentheburdenGodhasplacedonusall.
YetGodhasmadeeverythingbeautifulforitsowntime.Hehasplantedeternity
inthehumanheart,butevenso,peoplecannotseethewholescopeofGod’s
workfrombeginningtoend.SoIconcludedthereisnothingbetterthantobe
happyandenjoyourselvesaslongaswecan.Andpeopleshouldeatanddrink
andenjoythefruitsoftheirlabor,forthesearegiftsfromGod.AndIknowthat
whateverGoddoesisfinal.Nothingcanbeaddedtoitortakenfromit.God’s
purposeisthatpeopleshouldfearHim.
B. GodisinvolvedwithusinanongoingstoryordramawhichHeisstillwriting.
C. GodhascalledustolivewithinthistensionnotedinthisportionofScripture.
D. Lifeisnotsomuchwhathappenstousbuthowwereacttoit.
E. WearelivinginaculturecharacterizedbyIRRESPONSIBILITY.
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II. GodHasCalledUstoLiveinthisCultureandBeDifferent
“Whatwebelievetobetrue,wedo.”QuotebyRolfeCarawan.
A. Godismoreconcernedwithwhowearethanwhatwedo.
B. Ascoacheswearetobethosethat“comealongside”(paraclete)ofourclients.
Wearetobemotivatorsandencouragers.
C. We,norourclients,canallowourselvestoassumethe“victimmentality”ofso
many.Thatjustleadstoanegativeself-fulfillingprophecy.
III. HowDoWeDistinguishBetweenVictor–VictimMentality?
A. Victor–onewhostrivestoovercome
Victim–onedefeatsthemselvesbytheirbeliefsandbehaviors.
B. Victor-“Youcancountonme!”
Victim-“I’lltry”
C. Victor–“Iwillshapecircumstances,thesituationwillnotcontrolme!”
Victim–“ThereisnothingIcandoaboutit!”
D. Victor–“WhatcanIgainfromthisexperience,eveninfailure?
Victim–“Ijustneedtogetthroughthis,ifIcan.”
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E. Victor–“MaybeI’mtheproblem,ifsoIcanchange!
Victim–“Thereshouldnotbeanyproblems”.
IV. Conclusion
A. “LordoftheRings”-FrodoandSam.
1. Theyhadmanyopportunitiestoturnback;toquitbuttheydidnot.
2. Theyperseveredbecausetheyhadahopeandacause.
3. Theybelievedinsomethinggoodthatwasworthfightingfor.
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MLCL108:
CulturallyCompetentLeadership
MarkCrear,Ph.D.,ParisFinner-Williams,Ph.D.,J.D.,Esq.and
EricScalise,Ph.D.
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I. Introduction
A. Whatdoyouseeaskeyleadershipprinciples?
1. Dr.Crear
• Effectivelistening.
• Peopleempowerment.
• Leadershipbyexample.
2. Dr.Finner-Williams
• Knowingyourskillsandyourmission/purpose.
• Integrity
• Doingwhatyousayyouaredoing.
• Holdpeopleaccountable.
B. Whatdidyouappreciateaboutbeingcoached?
1. Dr.Crear
• Coach’sbeliefinmeasanindividual.
• Coachworkingwithmeasajoint/equalparticipantintheprocessofgoal
settingandaccomplishment.
C. Whatisacoach’sjob?
1. Dr.Finner-Williams
• Coachselectsandscreensclientsnotviceversa.
2. Coachassiststheclientinskillsetandabilitydevelopmentandinveststime
intheperson.
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3. All
• Acoachmustbeabletoseepotentialinpeopleandthenbeabletoassist
withnurtureanddevelopmentoftheleader.
• Acoachmustbeabletoassistpeopleto“stretchthemselves”andmove
outsidetheircomfortzones.
II. WhatDoesCulturalCompetencyLookLike?
A. Dr.Finner-Williams
1. Coachcanassesstheneedsofthecultureandindividualswithintheculture.
2. Coachmustbeopen-mindedandteachable.
3. Coachmustbeabletonotonlyassessneedsbutdevelopwaystodeliver
them.
B. Dr.Crear
1. Coachhastoeducatehimselfintheculturebeingaddressed.
2. Coachhastobeflexibleandadaptable.
C. ACoachhastoEngagetheCultureatAllLevels.
D. ACoachhastoEarntheTrustofthePersonsHe/SheIisServing.
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E. ACulturally-RelevantCoachUnderstandsandPracticesthePrincipleof“WalkA
MileInMyShoes”asBestHeCan.
Note:Acoach(leader)cannotbeculturallyisolatedanduninformedifheisto
successfullyhelpothers.–Dr.EricScalise
III. HowDoesaCoachShowUnconditional-PositiveRegard,Acceptance,
RespectandGenuineness?
A. Dr.Crear
1. Re-evaluatepersonalpreferences,biasesandprejudicesandcheckthemat
thedoor.
2. Acceptpeoplewheretheyareinlifeandhelpthemreachtheirgoalsand
potentialfromthere.
B. Dr.Finner-Williams
1. Lookforpotentialinpeople.
2. Lookpasttheircurrentlifesituation,pastpersonalandfamilyhistory.
Note:TIMEcreatescredibilityandrespect.
Coachesneedtoalwaysexaminetheirownpersonalmotives.
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IV. AddressingtheLeadershipNeedsoftheAfrican-American
Community?
A. Dr.Finner-Williams
1. Coachesneedtoidentifytheeffectivenessbasedoncontentoftheiradvice
tothisculture.
2. Coachesneedtoidentifyqualitiesofsuccessanddeliverinaculturally-
relevantmanner.
3. Coachesmustidentifygapsineffectiveness.
B. Dr.Crear
1. Takeapositionofrespect.
2. Identifywiththecultureandpackagethecounselsothatitcanbeaccepted.
V. Conclusion
A. Acoachmustcomeinasa“servantleader”.
B. Acoachmustengagetheculturewithouttryingtochangeit.
C. Acoachmustbeperceivedasa“learner”andonewhoiswillingtoengulf
himselfintheculture.
D. TheAfrican-Americancommunitystillhasunderlyingissuesofsuspiciousness
anddistrust.Anyserviceproviderhastobeawareofthisandbeableto
addresstheseissues.
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MLCL109:
ServingMultipleGenerations
RolfeCarawan,M.Ed.
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I. Introduction
A. Dealingwithvariousgenerationsthatarepartofyourorganizationisalwaysan
issueincoaching.
B. Whatmakespeopledifferent?Thenaturev.nurturediscussionisalwaysraised
inthiscontext.
C. Godhasplacedsovereignfoundationsinallofourlivesandhasorderedour
livesandlifestory.Hedeterminedthetimeofourbirth,thatis,the
“generation”ofourbirth.
II. ConceptsofTime
A. TimeisChaotic
B. GodhasPlacedCyclesofTimeinhisUniverse
C. TimeisLinearandProgressive
III. DescriptionsandDiscussionsofMultipleGenerationsInTime
A. TermsUsed,Defined
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B. SocialGeneration
1. Agelocationintime
2. Generationsareformedevery20years
C. Speculum
1. Timespanofanormalhumanlife(80-100years)
2. Includes(4)generations
3. Ineveryspeculumtherehasbeenamajorsecularcrisisthatrearrangedthe
outerworldofpowerandpolitics.
4. Halfwaybetweeneachofthesecrisestherehasbeenanawakeningthat
revolutionizedthatgeneration’sinnerlifeofmorals,valuesandbeliefs.Asa
result,30-40yearslaterthatgenerationbegantoimplementthosevalues
andviewswithinthepresentculture.
5. Thiscycleseemstohavebeenconsistentatleastinthelast250years.
D. QuestionintheLate20thCentury:Willtherebeanothermajorworldcrisisin
the21stcenturybetween2005-2025?
E. CyclesofCrises
Thesecyclesofcrisesandawakeningswithinasocietycanbeunderstoodasfour
seasons:Spring,Summer,Fall,andWinter.
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1. Spring
• Occursrightafterthecrisis.
• Atimeofprosperityandfreedom.
• Survivalisassured.
• Thegenerationbornhere,astheycomeofage(18-25yearsold)rebel
againstthegenerationthatwentthroughthecrisis.
2. Summer
• Atimeoffightingforideals.
3. Fall
• Theculturebeginstodisintegrate.
4. Winter
• Acrisisthreatens.
• Atimewhereconsensusisbeguntobeformed.
• Moralauthorityincreasesandthereismoreorderandsacrifice.
F. EachGenerationhasaDifferentPersonalityType
1. Thegenerationthatgoesthroughthecrisiscomesoutwitha“Wecan
conquertheworldandallofitsproblems”attitude.
2. Thegenerationbornoutoftheshadowofthecrisishastrouble
understandingthemindsetandhowdeeplythepreviousgenerationfeltthe
crisisandwasmovedbyit.
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3. Everygenerationisdifferentandhasbeenshapedbywhatwashappeningin
theworldwhenthey“cameofage”,i.e.18-25yearsofage.
G. Acoachmustusethisknowledgetoidentifyhisclientgenerationallyand
discernhiscorevalues.Thisinformationisvitaltobeabletohelptheclient.
NOTE:Godisalwaysworkinginhistoryandinthesecycles.Ascoachesand
leaderswecanbe“harbingersofhope”becauseweunderstandthecycles
andgenerationalcharacteristicsandknow,insomeway,whatiscoming.We
canusethisknowledgetohelpdispelfearinourclients.
H. WhatIsACoachToDo?
1. Understandthatbecauseofeachgeneration’suniquebeliefs,valuesand
behaviorstheyalsohavePREDICTABLEwaysofrelatingtoothers.
2. Findoutwhatimpactedtheirclient’sgenerationandhowtheyarerelatingto
theworldbyaskinggoodquestionsandconnectingwiththeclientwiththis
knowledge.
3. Understandthatthereisnota“GenerationGap”butanattitude,values,
beliefandbehaviorgap.
4. Identifythegenerationoftheirclientsandrealizethattoconnectwiththem
istobuildarelationshipbyrespectingwhotheyare,wheretheyhavebeen
andhowtheyprocesslife.
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IV. IdentifyingWithandUnderstandingGeneration‘Y’
A. TheyareLookingforAUTHENTICRELATIONSHIPS
B. TheyareLookingforTRUTH
C. ToConnectwithThemYouHavetoProveYouHaveTheirBestInterestinMind
D. GenuinelyInvestTimeinThemandFindOutTheirFearsandDreams
E. UnderstandTheyareLookingforSecurity
F. UnderstandTheyWantFeedbackasWellas“ToBeHeard”
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MLCL110:
ProjectManagementforLeaders
DwightBain,M.A.
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I. Introduction
A. Questions:
1. Whatistheproject?
2. Whatchallengesareyoufacing?
B. Answers
1. Youbeginbyhelpingtheleaderdefinetheprojectandputitinto
manageablepiecesthatcanbesuccessfullyaddressed.
2. ProjectManagershelpleaderscometowiseconclusionstodealwitha
challengeandmakeagooddecision.
3. Alife-coachisa“safeperson”whobecomesasoundingboardforleaders.
II. PrinciplesforDefiningandDealingSuccessfullyWithAProject
AnacronymthatspellsoutP-R-O-J-E-C-Tandalsofunctionsasa“scorecard”for
evaluation.Eachaspectoftheprojectcanbeassignedanumber1-10,10being
thebestscore,whichthengivesusaclearpictureof“howwearedoing?”
A. (P)–Perspective
1. WhereDoIGetPerspective?
• Newspapers
• Magazines
• Radio
• Scriptures–perspectiveshouldberootedinScripture.
2. PositivePerspective:“Ifwecandreamit,wecandoit!”–WaltDisney
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B. (R)–Resources
1. Time–akeyresourcebutitlimitedto168hoursaweek.
2. Cash
3. Energy
• Howmuchdoestheleaderhave?
• Howmuchdoesthestaffhave?
• Whenyourunoutofenergyyouarevulnerabletotemptationandmoral
failure.
4. Information
5. Manpower–Ittakesateamtobuildadream.
6. Space–Squarefootage:parking,buildingsetc.
C. (O)–Obstacles
1. Example-Coachcanusethe“WebTechnique”graphicallyshowingall
elementsofchallenge.
D. (J)–Jobs
1. Effectivedelegationisamust.
2. Musthaveaunifiedteam.
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3. Leadermustavoidbecominga“controlfreak”–thisusuallyhappenswhen
somethinggoeswrong.
4. Follow-upandaccountabilityafterdelegationisrequired.
5. Goodcommunicationupanddownthestafflineisessential.
E. (E)–Economicsi.e.thebudget.
1. Goodbudgetmanagementisanecessity.
2. Asacoachyoudon’thavetobeafinancialgenius.
• Askgoodquestions
F. (C)–Communications
1. “Bucket”example.
2. Criticismattackstheindividual;Critiqueenhancespersonalperformance.
3. Assessperformanceforbetterresults.
G. (T)–Timing(schedules)
1. MasterCalendar
2. Everythingbecomesatimingissue.
3. Adjustmentsareinevitable.
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III. Conclusion
A. Coachwillhavetheclientscoreeachoftheareas1-10.Beatpossiblescore=
70.
B. Youcanthenhelptheclientseetheprojectstatus.It“quantifies”thesituation
andeliminates“subjective”evaluationsbasedoncircumstances,emotionsetc.
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MLCL111:
LeadersPartneringAtHomeandAtWork
RolfeCarawan,M.Ed.,LeaCarawan,M.A.,andEricScalise,Ph.D.
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I. Introduction
A. Couplesworkingtogetherbringauniquechallengetoanyorganizationor
business.
B. Linesbetweenworkandhome;businessandpleasureetc.canbecomeblurred
andsteppedovercausingstressandconflictthataffectsthebusinessandthe
family.
II. BalancingHomeandWork
A. Boundariesmustbeestablishedandstrictlymaintainedtokeepworkandfamily
separate.
B. Oneofthese“boundaries”shouldbe“time”.
C. Acoachmustnotpresumethatacouplealreadyhasahandleonthisarea.
D. Acoachmustunderstandandhelptheclientsunderstandthatthisisamatterof
“communication”andthe“differencebetweenmenandwomen”.
III. Communications
A. Coachesmustunderstandtheuniquedesignofallindividualsrelatingtohow
theycommunicatebutparticularlythedifferencesbetweenhowmenand
womencommunicate.
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B. Husbandsandwivesmustknoweachotherwellenoughtoknow“whenisa
goodtimetocommunicate?”
C. DifferencesInMale-FemaleCommunications.
1. Womenneedtotalkaboutthewholescopeoftheirliveseveninthecontext
ofbusiness.
2. Menarecompartmentalizedandwillonlytalkaboutworkandhavenoneed
tobringfamilyorpersonalissuesintobusinesscommunications.
3. Thecoachmustassessthepersonalitiesofhusbandandwifeanddetermine
whetherbothcandealwitha“samesex”or“oppositesex”coach.
4. Thecoachmaywanttousesometestinginstrumentsuchas“DISC”tohelp
thecoupleunderstandeachother.
5. Thecoachshouldnotmakegeneralizedassumptionsbasedongender.
IV. MakingBusinessDecisionsasaCouplevs.FamilyDecisions
A. Theorganizationalstructureandslottingshouldbebasedongiftingofthe
coupleandnotwhostartedwhat,etc.
B. Couplemustsetprioritiesandlivebythem:e.g.God-Marriage-Family-
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C. MainfocushastobeonGodandthehealthofthemarriageandfamilyif
anythingistosurviveincludingthebusiness.
D. Couplemustestablish“unity”andagreement.
1. Unityrequiresagreementon“corevalues”.
2. Couplemustunderstandeachotheratalllevelsandineveryaspectoftheir
individualpersonalitiesandworkwithinthegiftingofeach.
3. Couplemustknowhowtogiveeachother“space”.
V. Conclusion
A. Couplesmustbewillingtoloveandforgiveineverycircumstance.
B. Couplemustgiveeachotherthepermissiontohave“veryhonestdiscussions”.
C. Couplesshoulduse1Corinthians13:4-7asafilterfortheirinteractionswith
eachother.
“Loveispatient,loveiskindandisnotjealous;lovedoesnotbragandisnot
arrogant,doesnotactunbecomingly;itdoesnotseekitsown,isnotprovoked,
doesnottakeintoaccountawrongsuffered,doesnotrejoiceinunrighteousness,
butrejoiceswiththetruth;bearsallthings,believesallthings,hopesallthings,
enduresallthings.”1Cor.13:4-7NASB
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MLCL112:
BecomingaGreatLeader:RunningtheRacewithEndurance
EricScalise,Ph.D.
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I. Introduction
Weliveinacultureofuncertaintythatclamorsforauthenticleadership.
II. BasicConceptsofLeadershipConviction
“Therefore,sincewehavesogreatacloudofwitnessessurroundingus,letus
alsolayasideeveryencumbranceandthesinwhichsoeasilyentanglesus,and
letusrunwithendurancetheracethatissetbeforeus,fixingoureyesonJesus,
theauthorandperfectoroffaith,whoforthejoysetbeforeHimenduredthe
cross,despisingtheshame,andhassatdownattherighthandofthethroneof
God.ForconsiderHimwhohasenduredsuchhostilitybysinnersagainstHimself,
sothatyouwillnotgrowwearyandloseheart.”
Hebrews12:1-3NASB
A. Aleadermustestablishandarticulatehis/herfoundationalconvictionsandcore
values.
B. Character,whichis:
1. MoralExcellence
2. Whatwearewhennooneislooking.
3. Formaldefinition–adeviceplacedonanobjectasanindicationoforiginand
ownership.
“AndyoubelongtoChrist;andChristbelongstoGod.”
1Corinthians3:23NASB
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4. Whatdoescharacterlooklikeinaction?
• Faithfulness
• Availability
• Authenticity
• Humility
• Unconditionallove
III. FactorsthatProduceGreatness
A. Capacity(InnateAbility)
“Aseachonehasreceivedaspecialgift,employitinservingoneanotherasgood
stewardsofthemanifoldgraceofGod.”
1Peter4:10NASB
1. Asbelieverswehavethe“capacity”ofGod
B. Goal-Oriented
“Doyounotknowthatthosewhoruninaraceallrun,butonlyonereceivesthe
prize?Runinsuchawaythatyoumaywin.Everyonewhocompetesinthegames
exercisesself-controlinallthingstheythendoittoreceiveaperishablewreath,
butweanimperishable.ThereforeIruninsuchaway,asnotwithoutaim;Ibox
insuchaway,asnotbeatingtheair;”
1Corinthians9:24-26NASB
1. Acoachhelpsaclientarticulatevisionandmissionandmovetoward
achievement.
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2. Acoachunderstandsthatagoal(tobesuccessful)mustbewritten,dated,
achievableandabletobeevaluatedandpassesthatalongtotheclient.
3. Acoachremindstheclientthatgoalsmustbereviewedandconsulted
regularly.
C. Time
1. Possiblythemostpreciouscommoditywepossess.
2. Successrequiresaninvestmentoftime.
3. Chronos–clocktime
4. Kyros–momentswhereGodisworking.
“Foreverythingthereisaseason,atimeforeveryactivityunderheaven.Atime
tobebornandatimetodie.Atimetoplantandatimetoharvest.Atimetokill
andatimetoheal.Atimetoteardownandatimetobuildup.Atimetocryand
atimetolaugh.Atimetogrieveandatimetodance.Atimetoscatterstones
andatimetogatherstones.Atimetoembraceandatimetoturnaway.Atime
tosearchandatimetoquitsearching.Atimetokeepandatimetothrowaway.
Atimetotearandatimetomend.Atimetobequietandatimetospeak.Atime
toloveandatimetohate.Atimeforwarandatimeforpeace.Whatdopeople
reallygetforalltheirhardwork?IhaveseentheburdenGodhasplacedonusall.
YetGodhasmadeeverythingbeautifulforitsowntime.Hehasplantedeternity
inthehumanheart,butevenso,peoplecannotseethewholescopeofGod’s
workfrombeginningtoend.
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SoIconcludedthereisnothingbetterthantobehappyandenjoyourselvesas
longaswecan.Andpeopleshouldeatanddrinkandenjoythefruitsoftheir
labor,forthesearegiftsfromGod.AndIknowthatwhateverGoddoesisfinal.
Nothingcanbeaddedtoitortakenfromit.God’spurposeisthatpeopleshould
fearhim.Whatishappeningnowhashappenedbefore,andwhatwillhappenin
thefuturehashappenedbefore,becauseGodmakesthesamethingshappen
overandoveragain.”
Ecclesiastes3:1-15NLT
D. Effort–HowdoIusethetimeIhave?
“Forthedreamcomesthroughmucheffort…”
Ecclesiastes5:3NASB
1. Successrequireseffortandhardwork.
2. Principleof“negativeresistance”infitnesstraining–producesstrength.
E. Consistency
“Therefore,mybelovedbrethren,besteadfast,immovable,alwaysaboundingin
theworkoftheLord,knowingthatyourtoilisnotinvainintheLord.”
1Corinthians15:58NASB
1. Aleadercannotbe“On”and“Off”;inconsistencyproducesinsecurityinyour
staff.
2. Successisnothowyoustartedbuthowyoufinished.
3. Consistentdailyroutinesandworkethic.
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F. Sacrifice
1. Leadershipiscostlyandattimesrequiresgreatsacrifice.
2. Christ“enduredthecross,notconsideringtheshame”
3. Leadersmust“countthecost”.Luke9:23NASB
“AndHewassayingtothemall,"IfanyonewishestocomeafterMe,hemust
denyhimself,andtakeuphiscrossdailyandfollowMe.”
G. Accountability(Teachability)
1. Aleaderneedspartnershipsthatkeephimauthentic.
2. Leaderscannotisolateandattempttodolifealone.
“Twopeoplearebetteroffthanone,fortheycanhelpeachother
succeed.10Ifonepersonfalls,theothercanreachoutandhelp.But
someonewhofallsaloneisinrealtrouble.”
Ecclesiastes4:9-10NLT
IV. Conclusion
Lifeisarace.Itisamarathonnotasprint.Itrequiresendurance,persistenceand
perseverance.Therewillbeobstaclesbutallcanbeovercome.Successisnot
howmanytimesyougetknockeddownbuthowmanytimesyougetbackup.
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