Lesson Objectives
•To gain a clearer understanding why bullies bully.
•To help you make better choices when dealing with bullies.
•To help you reflect on your own actions.
Meet Kenneth
He considers himself a nice guy, has some
good friends and most people like him.
He thought his life was pretty cool.
But like all of us do, Kenneth came across some rubbish in his life that he needed to
deal with…
Kenneth tried to sort his rubbish out…
…but more rubbished kept appearing and he didn’t know how to deal
with it!
The next day Kenneth’s neighbour Colin went into his garden to find out his garden
had been trashed!
Colin wondered what he should do?
Discuss:How do you think
Colin feels?
Discuss:What do you think Colin
should do?Click on the options below
Throw all the rubbish back over and tell Kenneth how
awful he is!
Clean the rubbish up and forget it ever happened
Build a higher fence to try and stop the problem
happening in the future
Ask Kenneth why he has so much rubbish and try to help him get rid of it in
a better way
You are awful and you can take
your rubbish back you meanie!!!
Shut up! I don’t like you
anyway!
Discuss:What do you think Colin
should do?
Throw all the rubbish back over and tell Kenneth how
awful he is!
Clean the rubbish up and forget it ever happened
Build a higher fence to try and stop the problem
happening in the future
Ask Kenneth why he has so much rubbish and try to help him get rid of it in
a better way
An aggressive approach can often only cause more arguments between you and a bully and often make things worse.
Return to selections.
Discuss:What do you think Colin
should do?Throw all the rubbish back over and tell Kenneth how
awful he is!
Clean the rubbish up and forget it ever happened
Build a higher fence to try and stop the problem
happening in the future
Ask Kenneth why he has so much rubbish and try to help him get rid of it in
a better way
A passive approach to bullying can mean the problem never gets solved, in fact it is likely to get worse as you will be
seen as an easy target.
You may now start to see the bullying as your problem that you have to deal with
and start to take it out on others.
Return to selections.
Isolating yourself from the bully probably means you will make compromises to your
life.
It could also mean the bully will have to start dumping his rubbish on someone else!
Return to selections.
Discuss:What do you think Colin
should do?
Throw all the rubbish back over and tell Kenneth how
awful he is!
Clean the rubbish up and forget it ever happened
Build a higher fence to try and stop the problem
happening in the future
Ask Kenneth why he has so much rubbish and try to help him get rid of it in
a better way
Hey Ken. Do you realise
you’re dumping all your rubbish into my garden? It’s making me really unhappy.
It’s NOT MY RUBBISH!!!!
Would you like to borrow my brush
and wheelie bin? I also have a trailer if
you want to take trips to the rubbish
tip?
…err… really?
That would be great.
Thanks.
The hardest option is be assertive, but bullies are bullies often because they have rubbish in their lives that they need to deal with, but can’t
without help and support. It may not always be your help and support, but telling a teacher, parent or friend might be more appropriate.
Return to selections.
Discuss:What do you think Colin
should do?
Throw all the rubbish back over and tell Kenneth how
awful he is!
Clean the rubbish up and forget it ever happened
Build a higher fence to try and stop the problem
happening in the future
Ask Kenneth why he has so much rubbish and try to help him get rid of it in
a better wayContinue…
Bullies dump rubbish on people in many forms:
Being Called
Names
Being Teased
Being hit or
attacked
Having your
possessions
taken and
thrown
Having rumours spread about you
Being ignored and
left out.
Racist or
gender
attacks
Being pushed or
pulled
around
Abusing people on-line or by phone.
Why do Bullies dump rubbish?•They have their own problems - they
may feel upset or angry or feel that
they don't fit in - perhaps they have
problems at home? •Maybe they get bullied themselves, perhaps by someone in their own family or
other adults? •They're scared of getting picked on so
they do it first •They want to show off and seem tough because they are afraid of what people think of them •Many don't like themselves and so take it out on someone else