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  • Life ReconstructionOvercoming Bitterness and Resentmentone thought at a time

  • DanielJamieDavidHeatherBeth

  • Mayor Ray NaginNew OrleansPastor DougCarbondale

  • Life ReconstructionOvercoming Bitterness and Resentmentone thought at a time

  • Life ReconstructionOne thought at a timeDo not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2 and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.2 Corinthians 10:5-6

  • stimulusissueperceptionthoughtsfeelingstalk, behaviorThe Anatomy of Anger, Bitterness and ResentmentAEFDDmind movies replays of incident(B )COriginal offense 9 unitshurtx per replay12 units rage, indignation 24 x 12 + 9 = 297x per replay15 units malice, revenge 24 x 15 + 297 = 657x per replay20 units self-pity, bummed out 24 x 20 + 657 = 1137Significance resistanceAngerNo one gets in my way! Fear Shes so stupidShe cant treat me that way!Perturbed, bitter, distraught, resentful, revengefulWithdrawn, Subversive or Aggressive The Pits!!

  • stimulusissueperceptionthoughtsfeelingstalk, behaviorThe Anatomy of Anger, Bitterness and ResentmentAEFDDmind movies replays of incident(B )COriginal offense 9 unitshurtx per replay12 units rage, indignation 24 x 12 + 9 = 297x per replay15 units malice, revenge 24 x 15 + 297 = 657x per replay20 units self-pity, bummed out 24 x 20 + 657 = 1137Self-worthNot invitedAngerIm being rejected! Fear That dirty so and soThey cant treat me that way!Perturbed, bitter, distraught, resentfulrevengefulWithdrawn, Subversive or Aggressive The Pits!!

  • Activating eventPerceptionFeelings Behavior ABCDExperienced Neglect Rejection Subconscious Message Im worthless unlovableNot invited To partyHurt IrritatedIncensedSelf-pityBummed Avoid,Snub friendComplainGossip

    People dontLike me.Something isWrong with me.Theyre mean.

  • Activating eventPerceptionFeelings Behavior ABCDExperienced Neglect Rejection Subconscious Message My worth is in Christ, I am beloved!Not invited To partyHurtPuzzledNo big deal Peaceful GraciousEngaging Ask about itTheyre havinga party.I wasnt Invited.People dontLike me.Something isWrong with me.Theyre mean.

  • Activating eventPerceptionFeelings Behavior ABCDExperienced Neglect Rejection Subconscious Message Im worthless unlovableNot invited To partyHurt IrritatedIncensedSelf-pityBummed Avoid,Snub friendComplainGossip

    People dontLike me.Something isWrong with me.Theyre mean.

  • Activating eventPerceptionFeelings Behavior ABCDExperienced Neglect Rejection Subconscious Message My worth is in Christ, I am beloved!Not invited To partyHurtPuzzledNo big deal Peaceful GraciousEngaging Ask about itTheyre havinga party.I wasnt Invited.A life transforming relationship with Jesus provides your four basic needs:LoveWorthSecurity Significance

  • stimulusissueperceptionthoughtsfeelingstalk, behaviorThe Anatomy of Anger, Bitterness and ResentmentAEFDDmind movies replays of incident(B )COriginal offense 9 unitshurtx per replay9 units rage, indignation 24 x 9 + 9 = 216x per replay12 units malice, revenge 24 x 12 + 216 = 504x per replay15 units self-pity, bummed out 24 x 15 + 504 = 864Self-worthNot invitedAngerIm being rejected! Fear That dirty so and soThey cant treat me that way!Perturbed, bitter, distraught, resentfulWithdrawn, Subversive or Aggressive The Pits!!Bitter Grudge

  • Ephesians 4:31-32Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

  • Antidote to Bitterness: ForgivenessThen Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. Matthew 18:21-22

    The apostles said to the Lord, "Increase our faith! Luke 17:3-5

  • Antidote to Bitterness: ForgivenessForgiveness originates with GodIs a judicial operation, not emotionalMeans you take the pain and pay the debtDoesnt necessitate interaction with offenderDoesnt expose you to further mistreatment by offenderGives best chance to confront offender effectively and sensitively. Releases the person from any penalty owed to you only, not to God or others offended.

  • stimulusissueperceptionthoughtsfeelingstalk, behaviorThe Anatomy of Anger, Bitterness and ResentmentAEFDD(B )Cthoughtsfeelingstalk, behaviorEDFmind moviesDSignificance Resistance That dirty so and soThey cant treat me that way!Perturbed, bitter, distraught, resentfulWithdrawn, Subversive or Aggressive PeaceSignificanceSecurity mind movies replays of incidentAngerNo one gets in my way!Fear Reconciliation Regret, Peace, LoveI forgive . . . Refuse to replay incidentWhats going on here?prayerGod show me . . .

  • stimulusissueperceptionthoughtsfeelingstalk, behaviorThe Anatomy of Anger, Bitterness and ResentmentAEFDD(B )Cthoughtsfeelingstalk, behaviorEDFmind moviesDSelf-worthNot invitedThat dirty so and soThey cant treat me that way!Perturbed, bitter, distraught, resentfulWithdrawn, Subversive or Aggressive PeaceWorthSecurity mind movies replays of incidentI wasnt invitedAngerIm being rejected! Fear FriendlyPeaceful, secureI forgive . . . Refuse to replayprayerGod show me . . .

  • What to expect when you forgive:You may not feel like you have forgiven.Expect to still feel hurt and pain.Take that pain to God for consolation.Seek to understand situation from offenders point of view. Analyze incident for personal responsibility.Expect to experience inner resistance to forgiving. Expect a flood of replays of the incident. Expect excuses not to forgive.

  • Ultimate Purpose: His Glory!Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God-this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:1-2

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