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VOLUME 20 / ISSUE 3
Magazine
A ParentThoughtGetting Rid of the Gloom
and Guilt
HukillBurgers
Family Camp
is on the Way
Fall 2010
UnexpectedVisitor
Whos There?
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On the
Coveraking burgers can be dan-
rous work!
m from Camp Daniel slaves
the grill for the campers at
is years camp.
2
3
Editors Letter
6
Fitness
9
Outdoor Adventures10
Moms Moments
12
Crafting Community
14
Community Lifts
16
A Parent Thought
18
Caregiver Conversations20
Life on the Horizon
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One of the things I miss most about living in the Midwest is the leaves swirling athe yard and the piles we would create as we raked the leaves together. The entertainment for hours to any child with an imagination.
Here at Lift we try hard to be creative in thinking of new ways to entertain our familidisabilities. I am so excited to announce to you that this month we have launched
those new ideas. Check out the article on page 14 to nd out about a new adventure
away, for families that will be in J uly 2011. Registration opens in November so dont m
You can nd out more about Breakaway on our website at www.liftdisability.net/brea
Along the lines of creative we have added a new column for all you crafty folks. Chec
on page 16. Crafting Community is a new program of one of our partners, Access Lif
for craft groups in your area to be opening soon. To nd out more check out their wwww.access-life.org
Whether you are crafty or just enjoy creation we hope you have a fall that is lled withof fun and moments to remember. ENJOY!
Rhonette
Editor i
regular features
Editors Letter
The leavesare swirling...
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EDITOR IN CHIEFRhonee HukillSENIOR EDITOR Mike Beates
CONTRIBUTING EDITORS
Caregiver Conversations Rhonee HukillCommunity Lifts Jim Hukill
FitnessHeather PenningtonLead Jim Hukill
Life on the HorizonChris MaxwellMoms Moments Nicolee Samuel
Outdoor Adventures Doug GoddardSibling Sidelines Lile Tony Piantine
The Lighter SideJane Petrak
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dont know about you, butfall is one of my favoritemes of the year. Breath-
g the fresh crisp air, hear-g the fallen leaves crunch
nder wheels or feet, seeing
he absolutely vibrant colors
hat God displays in once true
reen colors is fascinating.
he heart of Godnd His love for
s is illustrated
such a beauti-
ul time of sea-on change.
This heart of
od is the life-
ving Gospel ofesus, just like
he human heart
the center of
he cardiovas-
ular system
nd our source of life. When
e trust God with our whole
eart and lean not on our
wn understanding like Prov-
rbs 3:5-6 says, our lives linep much more with living for
od. After all, Jesus says the
rst and greatest command-
ment is to, Love the LORD
our God with all your heart
nd with all your soul and
ith all your strength (Mat-
Guard Your Heart for Fall: Wellspring of LifeY HEATHER PENNINGTON
thew 22:37). So what does it
mean to involve our whole
hearts in the physical act
of worship in caring for ourTemples the house of God
in us? It means exercising
and challenging that heart to
be its absolute best so that
we may live to glorify Him.
To set our hearts on thingsabove is our tness focus for
this issue (Colossians 3:1).
In the fall, as the days are
shorter and the weather getscooler, we tend to be less
active. It is important, when
we think about our bodies
being Temples of the Holy
Spirit, that we continue to
stay physically active so that
we can continue to chal-
lenge that life-giving source
of our lives: the heart. We
dont want it to get stagnant
and have our cardiovascularhealth diminish during the
fall and winter. This is true
also in our spiritual lives as
Proverbs 4:23 reminds us,
Above all else, guard your
heart, for it is the wellspringof life.
The heart is a muscle like
every other muscle in our
body. In order to improve
and ward o decline, it
must be challenged or over-
loaded. But, we also know
that it is very important notto overload the heart too
much. Every person has
an age-determined target
heart rate that helps deter-
mine intensity. I t is a simple
calculation based on age
that allows a person to know
their Predicted Maximum
Heart Rate (PMHR), or the
maximum beats per minuteour heart should pump for
maximum health. Once this
is determined, percentages
of this maximum can be
gured to make sure that we
are exercising safely and ef-
fectively to benet our heart
health for overall wellbeing.
Typically, a healthy heart rate
range is between 55-85%
of your Predicted MaximumHeart Rate and is expressed in
beats per minute (bpm).
Here is the calculation with
an example of someone whois fty years old:
Calculate: 220 age (50
years) = 180 beats per minute
(bpm) PMHR
Multiply 180 by 0.55 to get55% of the PMHR which is
about 100 beats per minute.
Multiply 180 by 0.85 to get
85% of the PMHR which is
about 150 beats per minute.
Therefore, the target heart
range for a fty year old is 100
150 beats per minute. The
simplest way to monitor this
is during activity of any kind is
to stop and count your heart
rate for 6 seconds, then add azero to the number that you
counted. You have arteries
to the right and left of your
Adams apple and this is usu-
ally a good place to check
your pulse by placing yourrst and second ngers on
your neck. This is a simple way
to ensure you are challenging
your heart enough for benetbut being careful not to exert
too much. Some individuals
wear a heart monitor that can
FitnesFitness
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PENNIN
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be purchased inexpensively
to help monitor intensity for
activity.
So lets get out there
and enjoy this magnicent
season and the cool crisp
air. Here are some tips and
suggested activities for car-diovascular activity dened
as any repetitive movement
that involves your largest
functioning muscle groups:
Cycling (leg or arm),walking, pushing a wheel-
chair, swimming, station-
ary arm or leg bike, raking
leaves, jogging, simple arm
swings or movements, danc-
ing, and much more!
Set a goal of 3-5 times
per week, starting with 10
minutes a day and work-
ing up to 30-45 minutes per
day.*
Remember to calculate
your target heart rate range
and then keep moving to
make your heart happy and
healthy for the fall. Let us
turn our hearts and minds
to continually followingJesus so that our spiritual
and physical health has our
hearts set on HIM.
*See a physician before beginningan exercise program if you have anyquestions or concerns with specichealth conditions or medications.
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las Lake. None of them were
worthy of mounting on the
wall, but they were rsts forme just the same. Ive caught
plenty of 5, 6, and 7 pound
bass in my lifetime. This was
a season of resting in Gods
outdoors not conquering it.
Often times God presses us
through lifes events, situa-
tions, and circumstances so
we have to take time to stop
and rest. That, my friend, is
a good thing. It is a bless-
ing to be enjoyed. There is
joy in the journey and in the
seasons of life. God is therein each one, always with us.
Rest in Him every day and
along the way.
This summer has been abusy one for Leanne andme but also a very reward-
ing one. I have not been
able to get out and sh as
much as Id like or as much
as I normally do because of
our ministry travel schedule.However, the times I have
gone shing I have enjoyed
myself thoroughly. Ive qui-
etly delighted not in the size
or quantity of sh caught
but in the time spent with
family and friends.
During June, July, and
August, while preparing for
our community outreach in
East Tennessee, we went out
shing with my dad several
times. Before going any fur-
ther, you should know thatmy dad is not a huge sher-
man like me. He does own
a pontoon boat but loves
taking folks out and show-ing them the local birds,
trees and coves on the lake
as much or more than trying
to catch the sh in it.
In turn, our outings on
the boat were very dier-
ent from my normal sh-
ing trips. They were not the
usual focused intense time
on the water I spend guid-
ing the trolling motor to and
through every piece of wood,
grass or rocks that might
hold a lounging bass. Rather
we enjoyed leisurely tripstrolling for whatever might
bite and even engaged in
sightseeing! Yes, thats right!
I sat on the deck holding
my rod in the water while
we trolled and looked at the
scenery.
This left me feeling a bit
like a sh out of the water at
rst. But as I breathed in the
fresh crisp morning air and
felt the cool breeze blowing
across my face, I settled into
the new routine. This relaxedapproach gave us time to
talk about the weather, foot-
ball, and friends. Often times
we were all simply silent andstill, basking in Gods beauti-
ful outdoors.
Now dont get me wrong
here, we shed. In fact, I
caught my rst walleye,
drum, and smallmouth bass
while trolling around Doug-
Outdoo
Adventu
Taking TimeBY DOUG GODDARD
Outdoor
Adventures
DOUG
GODDARD
is a c5/6 quad-
riplegic from
a 1983 diving
accident the
summer be-
fore his junior
year in high
school. He came to know the Lord
through this experience and be-lieves that God not only has a plan,
but a good plan for folks aected by
disabilities. One of the many bless-
ings Doug enjoys, on top of being
married to his best friend Leanne,
is that of Gods great outdoors. He
loves to sh, hunt, explore, and just
be outdoors. Despite his disability,
with Gods help, he does!
He makes me lie dowgreen pastures, he leadsbeside quiet waters
restores my s(Psalm 23
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COUNTRY APPLE DUMPLINGSServes 16
2 large Granny Smith apples, peeled and cored
2 (10 ounce) cans refrigerated crescent roll dough
1 cup butter
1 1/2 cups white sugar
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1 (12 uid ounce) can or bottle Mountain Dew
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease a 9x13 inch baking dish.
Cut each apple into 8 wedges and set aside. Separate the crescent roll dough into trian
Roll each apple wedge in crescent roll dough starting at the smallest end. Pinch to seaplace in the baking dish. Melt butter in a small saucepan and stir in the sugar and cinn
mon. Pour over the apple dumplings. Pour Mountain Dew over the dumplings. Bake
to 45 minutes in the preheated oven, or until golden brown.
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NICOLETTE
SAMUEL has been
married 12 years
to her husband
Shaker. Combinedthey have 3 chil-
dren. With her
husband as Pastor,
Nicolette nds
herself very involved in chur
istry. Over the years she has
many lessons, many of whic
from her daughter, Hannah
has Down syndrome.
As I walked behind her into
the living room, I saw a man
standing there just inside
the open front door. It took
me a little while to realize
that it was a police ocer. Atthis point just let me inter-
Unexpected VisitorY NICOLETTE SAMUEL
ms Moments
m really not certain if there
is any lesson or teachingpportunity in the following
ory. But, like most stories
volving my daughter Han-
ah, it is just really funny. At
ast it was after the initial
hock wore o. So, let me be-
n with a little background
f the events leading up to
he incident in question.
It was a hot summer day.
had just nished mowing
he lawn and was in dire
eed of a shower. Hannah
as watching a movie in
he living room, which iscated at the front of our
ome. After informing her
f my intentions, I headed
o the guest bedroom in
he back of our home to
emove the sweat that had
my clothing plastered to
my skin. After a short, but
vigorating shower, I went
riey to check that Hannahas still where I had left her,
nd then returned to blow
ry my hair. I n what seems
ke a very short amount of
me, because only half of
my short hair was dry, Han-
ah was calling to me from
he door of the guest room.
When I shut o the dryer,
she informed me there was
a man who wanted to talk to
me. I was a little confused
so I asked, On the phone?
No, come she said as shemotioned for me to follow.
Moms Mom
ject that, yes, I was dressed.Although, Im sure that the
look on my face and the
stream of incoherent words
that came out of my mouth
would be enough evidence
to cause an ocer of the law
to question my mental state.
Before he could say a word, I
spewed a multitude of ques-
tions. Was she outside?
How did you get in here?
Did you open the door?Whats going on?
When I nally let him
speak, he told me the follow-ing. Maam, Im just follow-
ing up on a phone call, its
standard procedure. We re-
ceived a call from a telemar-
keter who claims that theycalled this number intending
to sell insurance, and a small
child answered the phone.
The child informed the caller
that they were all alone and
hadnt eaten anything for
2 weeks. At this point the
ocer looked over at my
daughter, who was content-
edly watching her movie and
munching on peanuts. Then
he looked back at me andsaid, Obviously, shes ne.
After the ocer left, and
my heart was back whereit belonged, I was over-
whelmed with the hilarity of
the whole situation. Life is
just never boring. So, now
I have replaced the chisafety door knob cover
double-keyed deadbol
I always take both my c
phone and the home p
with me whenever I tak
shower. Just in case!
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Saturday,November6th10-2pm 2010
presents
ver wonder what to
o with all the Christ-
mas Cards you receive
ach year? My Aunt
ave me an idea severalears back when I received
little packet in the mail
om her right before Christ-
mas. The package contained
beautiful collection ofnique gift tags made out
f Christmas cards she had
eceived. So now through-
ut the holiday season I
ollect in a special basket
he Christmas cards I receive
nd their envelopes. Then
fter the hustle and bustle
f the season is over, I can
se the cards to make giftgs for next Christmas. It is
quick and easy craft that is
so environmentally friendly
nd adds a personal touch to
our Christmas packages. No
wo tags are alike. It all de-
ends on the artwork used
n the card and how much
f each card you choose to
se. Sometimes one originalard might make two or even
Crafting
Community
Recycling witha purpose
three gift tags depending
on the size and artwork. Use
your creative eye to decide
if you would like to focus on
perhaps a word or phrase on
the card or even a small por-
tion of the featured artwork,like an angel or a bell. Once
the card is cut to the desired
shape and size simply puncha small hole in the top, side
or corner. You can then tie a
coordinating piece of yarn,
ribbon or cording through
the hole. Now the card is
ready to be signed and at-
tached to a Christmas pack-
age or goodie basket.
The best thing about this
activity though is that as
I take time to re-read thecards, I can pray for the per-
son or family who sent it to
me a year before!
Y LEANNE GODDARD
LEANNE GODDARD is Co-Found-
er of Access-Life. To nd a Crafting
Community in your neighborhood
go to www.access-life.org
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Hukill BurgersY JIM HUKILL
They were called HukillBurgers. Each eveningfter a hot, humid, evening
Worship service everyone
n the rustic campground
ould ock to a little shack.
was not much more than
n old work shed suspendedn cinder blocks, but people
ould line up at the counter
nd start barking out their
rders. Everything from ice
cream cones to soft drinks
were shouted out. Some-
times one would be in
complete awe that some of
these people had just left an
electrifying, spirited camp
service. It must be how God
feels at times as we all em-phasize our wishes.
The top order of any night
was a greasy burger paddy
sandwiched between two
precisely toasted buns. The
completion of any great day
of camping activities was to
sit with family and friends
while consuming an old
fashion Hukill Burger. They
were called that becauseeach year my family would
sign up to man the snack
shack for a week of fam-
ily camp. As others would
mmunity Lifts
sit listening to an exuber-
ant, demonstrative speaker
waving and proclaiming
the Word of God, my family
would slide out of the ser-
vice to prepare for the com-
ing rush of appetites.
To this day I remember the
exhilaration as my dad lifted
my wheelchair into that old
snack shack. I was positioned
against the counter, given an
order pad and instructed asto what inventory we had.
Soon the grill began to heat
up and the air was saturated
with the aroma of grease.
What great childhood mem-
ories come rushing in as
these images are replayed.
Ever since my teen years,
those days of having the
family gather for a week of
fun, fellowship, and a faith
renewal have held a trea-
sured place in my heart.
These deposits of life-chang-ing moments motivated me
passionately to pursue God
and passionately to pursue
relationship with others.They are truly moments I
want others to share.
Lift is delighted and enthu-
siastic to announce an op-
portunity for families facing
disabilities to join my wife,
Rhonette, and I for our rst
family Breakaway week of re-
freshment July 6-10, 2011 at
Lake Yale Baptist Conference
Center in Leesburg, Fla. This
is a dream come to life for
the Lift team and we want
our readers and families to
share in this moment.
There is much planning
ahead, more announce-
ments to come, but we just
couldnt wait to share this ex-
citing news with you. Thereis a place for your family to
participate, so mark your
calendar and begin to make
plans to attend Breakaway
July 6-10, 2011. Unfortunate-
ly, there is no snack shack,
but there are many other
opportunities for folks to vol-
unteer and serve. So contact
us and join us for this greatweek.
I can still smell those burg-
ers fryin.
Community
JIM HUKILL is the Founder and
Director of Lift Disability Network.
Throughout hislife Jim has rolled
his wheelchair
past one bar-
rier after another
and the result is
a schooled life
in overcoming
limits.
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BARB
DITTRICHis
the Executive
Director and
Foundress
of SNAPPIN
MINISTRIES. To
hear her speak
on Grace
Amidst the
Gloom of Guilt contact SNAPPIN
to schedule an engagement.
A Paren
Though
Getting Rid of the Gloom and GuiltY BARB DITTRICH
t happened one Tuesday
morning. I was lamenting
ow guilty I felt for not being
ble to care adequately formy family because of ongo-
ng knee surgeries. At the
ame time, my girlfriend, Sue
was feeling bad about some
eople conicts she founderself caught in the middle
f. We were both comforting
ach other and realized how
lly we were for the guilt
we felt. Then we wonderedoud, Why is it that women
ways feel so guilty ? Were
o good at beating ourselves
p!
ts true! We can be incred-
bly hard on ourselves, es-
ecially as special needs
arents. There is a k ind of
uilt you cant just laugh o.
uestions haunt us: What if
had just done something
ierent in my pregnancy? Is
od punishing me? And forhose of us whose childrenave a genetic disorder: Is it
l my fault?
Once we get through the
iagnosis phase, the guilt
oo often remains. We feelke we can never do enough
for our special kids. As de-
pleted as we may feel, we
even feel remorseful aboutentertaining the thought of
taking a small break.
Here are some insights to
help you begin to address
the onerous emotion of
guilt:
1. Take a step backward. Un-
til you get out of the forest,
you often cant see the trees.Perspective is often essential
to determine if your guilt is
truly warranted or not. Ask
yourself: What would I say to
a friend who was in exactlythe same position that Im
in? Often, you will nd that
A Parent
Thought
youd go easier on the friend
than you are on yourself.
2. Adjust your expectations.
Stop expecting perfection
from yourself. You are a hu-
man being like every other
person in the world. The
future of the world does not
hang on your every action,even where your child is
concerned. God can and will
cause everything to work out
for the best, often in spite of
you (see Romans 8:28).
3. Forgive yourself. If God
sees t to forgive you (and He
tells us so numerous times in
His Word such as Colossians
3:13), shouldnt you cut your-
self the same slack?
4. Humble yourself to re-
ceive help. You may live un-
der the delusion that you can
handle everything on your
own without the interven-
tion of others. That is simply
foolhardy. Besides, we robothers of the blessings they
receive when they serve us
out of the kindness of their
heart.
5. Be practical about your
guilt. Did you make a mis-
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take? What do you plan on
doing about the mistake
now? Simply stewing in guilt
will not solve a problem.Come up with an action plan
for addressing any serious er-
rors you have made. This will
liberate you and help you to
move on.These are just a couple of
ideas to get started on deal-
ing with that overwhelm-
ing nag of regret. No matter
what, guilt needs to be root-
ed out of its dominant role in
order for a parent to be eec-
tive.
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of those loops is placed or
twisted onto a needle, but it
is never really secured untilthe garment is completely
nished and tied o. Until
then, the loops must always
remain on the needle. That
is why dropping a stitch is
so scary. If you ever let one
stitch o the needle with-
out having one beside it to
hold it together, you might
eventually unravel the entiregarment!
Caregiver
Conversations
a scary process. As I com-
pleted my rst few rows, I
was amazed to see that, rst,I had done it correctly, and
second, the garment was ac-
tually going to stay together.
As I continued with myproject I began thinking
about the knitting process.You see, this age-old craft
uses needles to intertwine
a series of loops using yarn
or thread. The thing that
amazes me is that each one
Most people knowthat I tend to be attle loopy. Sometimes
my thoughts are slightly
beat, but that is not re-
ly the kind of loopy I was
hinking of. Those who know
me know that I love to knit.
fact, I usually have a basket
ull of half-nished yarn proj-
cts at the side of the couch.
Recently I started a gar-
ment that requires you to
rop stitches. This can be
m a Little LoopyY RHONETTE HUKILL
RHONETTE HUKILL has
been a full-time caregiver to
her wonderful husband, Jim,
for nearly 17 years. Together,
by Gods grace, they face the
everyday challenges of life with
disability.
Caregive
Conversati
The Bible uses the word knit a few
times. Some, I am sure, you can recall
o the top of your head. There is one,however, that caught my eye the other
day. In 1 Samuel 18 it says Now when he
had nished speaking to Saul, the soul
of Jonathan was knit to the soul of Da-
vid, and Jonathan loved him as his own
soul. It is said that David and Jonathan
had such a special relationship that they
were almost one heart and one soul. This
is also how we should be with Christ.
Our hearts should be joined or knit with
His so that we become one.
When I think about that loop ready to
be dropped o the needle, I cant help
but think of myself and the challenges
I face managing a life of disability. I twould be so easy for me just to drop
o the path God has for me. I am most
thankful for the secure loop next to me,
Jesus, who keeps me from unraveling
my whole life. In the end, if I trust that
secure loop and the pattern that is be-
ing formed, I will become a garment that
can withstand wear and tear. I will be a
loop among many being knit together to
create a beautiful piece of art.
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Compassion: A Month for LoveY CHRIS MAXWELL
Matthew 5:23, 24
Therefore, if you are oering your gift
t the altar and there remember that your
rother has something against you, leave
our gift there in front of the altar. First
o and be reconciled to your brother; then
ome and oer your gift.
February reminds us of romance. Songs,
ommercials, and cards inform us of the du-
es and delights we label as love. Valentines
ay gifts go on sale right after Christmas.
ets not wait until January for a resolution or
ebruary for love. Lets begin today.
This time, well leave o the songs, the
cenes, the stories. Instead, here is a Love
st. Glance at the assignment. See possibili-
es for acts of k indness. Choose to live in
ve, replacing missed opportunities with
ministry moments.
Smile at a friend. Thank them for the
many blessings they bring your way.
Smile at a stranger. A glance from eyes
f one displaying Gods love is such a con-
ast to the common looks of l ust or anger.
Forgive someone who hurt you. Real-
e how the loving God has forgiven you.
Write a note. Make a call. Send a check.
erve a meal.
Engage in conversation as the one
stening.
Do to others as you wish others would
o to you.
Life on
the Horizon
CHRIS MAXWELL is an Author,
Speaker & Director of Spiritual Life
www.chrismaxwellweb.com
Life on
the Horiz
Do something for someone who has
been kind to you.
Do something for someone who has
done wrong to you.
Verbally thank someone who has
cared for you, confronted you, corrected you,
cautioned you, and continued to love you
despite your mistakes.
Pray for someone. Keep it betweenyou and God. Believe He will bless them in
amazing ways.
Refuse to let a problem about an-
other person stay with you in this year. Loveenough to really, really, really forgive.
Resentment, bitterness, and a lack of
forgiveness anchor us to a past that cannot
be changed. We cannot go back and undothe damage of yesterday, but we can undo
the damage it i s causing us today. We do
that with t he act of forgiveness (Stephen
Arterburn: Healing is a Choice).
(From Chris Maxwells latest book Unwrap-
ping His Presence: What We Really Need for
Christmas. To order the book, visit his website
at www.chrismaxwellweb.com.)
Every good
and perfec
gift is from
above, coming down
from the
Father of
the heav-
enly lights
who does
not chang
like shiftinshadows
James 1:
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