Love and Respect

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Ephesians 5:33 ESV

• Love And Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is a phenomenal marriage tool that should be in the hands of every husband and wife. 

• This book has drastically changed my approach to marriage.

Presenting:Stop the Crazy Cycle

The Crazy Cycle

WHAT IS THE “Crazy Cycle”?

When a wife feels unloved, she tends to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband.

“Crazy Cycle.”

WHAT IS THE “Crazy Cycle”?

When a husband feels disrespected, he tends to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife.

And around and around they go—on the “Crazy Cycle.”

“The Crazy Cycle” happens when spouses focus on their own needs and overlook the needs of the other.

“But all this information will do a marriage little good unless both spouses commit themselves to the practice of being UNCONDITIONAL.”

……..with the husband ..with the husband giving the wife giving the wife UNCONDITIONAL LOVE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and by the wife giving her and by the wife giving her husband UNCONDITIONAL husband UNCONDITIONAL RESPECT!RESPECT!

Very IMPORTANT THING:

Unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her.

It’s the secret to marriage that every couples seeks, and yet few couples ever

find.

“As far as the Lord is concerned, men and women need each

other.” 1 Corinthians 11:11 (CEV)

(She needs his love; He needs her respect)

“Love and respect are means to use

wisdom and understanding to

establish your home”

Proverbs 24:3 (CEV)

KEY: “Love and Respect

Must Be Unconditional”

CASE STUDY• Married for 12 years.

• No sex for more than 10 years after giving birth.

• Husband sleeps in another woman's house every weekend.

How Does A Husband Spell Love To His Wife?

C-O-U-P-L-E

ClosenessOpennessUnderstanding PeacemakingLoyaltyEsteem

ClosenessMove toward her

Accept her need to talkand connect

OpennessShare your thoughts with her

UnderstandingJust listen

Be careful in “fixing” her problems

PeacemakingResolve problems

Say you are sorry

LoyaltyBe loyal forever

Promise that she is love of your life and your only woman

EsteemGive your highest value to her as a person

Let her know what she does and think are important

Husband Spell Love C-O-U-P-L-E

How Does A Wife Spell Respect To Her Husband?

C-H-A-I-R-S

Conquest Hierarchy Authority Insight Relationship Sexuality

Conquest Appreciate his desire to work and achieve

Stand behind; support endeavors

HierarchyAppreciate his desire to protect and provide

AuthorityGive primary authority

Let him be the leader

InsightAppreciate his desire to analyze and counsel

RelationshipAppreciate his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder friendship

You should be both friend and lover

SexualityAppreciate his desire for sexual intimacy

Honor his need for sexual release even though you do not need it

Husband Spell Love C-H-A-I-R-S

START ENERGIZING THE CYCLE:

Understand that Men have Blue Sunglasses and

Hearing-Aids, and Women have Pink Ones!

Unlike Hollywood, the Bible is very realistic.

Marriage is difficult, in large part because men and women are so different.

Whoever is more mature should change first.

He/She may not respond to your change in the way and in the timeframe you like.

You have no control over how and when they choose to change.

CASE STUDY• Married for almost 20 years.

• Woman is very busy taking care of sister with cancer.

• She has no time for the husband.

THE ENERGIZING CYCLE:

If there is no Love and Respect among couple, how can you expect your children to show Love and Respect?

COUPLE

CHAIRS

NEED OF WOMEN NEED OF MEN

ClosenessOpennessUnderstanding PeacemakingLoyaltyEsteem

Conquest Hierarchy Authority Insight Relationship Sexuality

NEED OF WOMEN NEED OF MEN