Love Language Series

#1 What’s Love Got To Do With It

This Series Will Cover…

O What’s Love Got To Do With It

O For God So Loved…

O Two Kinds of Love

O Object of Affection

O Love is 4 Dimensional

O The Fullness of God

O Introduction to the Five Love Languages

O Conclusion

A married couple was in a terrible accident where the woman’s face was severely burned. The doctor told the husband that they couldn’t graft any skin from her body because she was too skinny. So the husband offered to

donate some of his own skin.

However, the only skin on his body that the doctor felt was suitable would have to come from his buttocks. The husband and wife agreed that they

would tell no one about where the skin came from, and requested that the doctor also honor their secret. After all, this was a very delicate matter.

After the surgery was completed, everyone was astounded at the woman’s new beauty. She looked more beautiful than she ever had before! All her

friends and relatives just went on and on about her youthful beauty!

One day, she was alone with her husband, and she was overcome with

emotion at his sacrifice. She said, “Dear, I just want to thank you for everything you did for me. There is no way I could ever repay you.”

“My darling,” he replied, “I get all the thanks I need every I need every time I see your mother kiss you on the cheek.”

A mild-mannered man was tired of being bossed around by his wife so he went to a psychiatrist.

The psychiatrist said he needed to build his self-esteem, and so gave him a book on assertiveness, which he read on the way home.

He had finished the book by the time he reached his house.

The man stormed into the house and walked up to his wife.

Pointing a finger in her face, he said, "From now on, I want you to know that I am the man of this house, and my word is law! I want you to prepare

me a gourmet meal tonight, and when I'm finished eating my meal, I expect a delicious dessert afterward. Then, after dinner, you're going to draw me my bath so I can relax. And when I'm finished with my bath,

guess who's going to dress me and comb my hair?"

"The funeral director," said his wife.

There were three guys talking in the pub. Two of them are talking about the amount of control they have over their wives, while the third remains

quiet.

After a while one of the first two turns to the third and says,

"Well, what about you, what sort of control do you have over your wife?"

The third fellow says "I'll tell you. Just the other night my wife came to me on her hands and knees."

The first two guys were amazed. "What happened then?" they asked. "She said, 'get out from under the bed and fight like a man'."

The Greatest Love Story Ever Told…

O The Bible gives us the account of a Mighty

King whose undying love transcends lives,

cultures, and eras.

O The God of Glory So Loves You….

I “Love” You

What does that mean to you?

What does that mean to

“them”?

Object of Affection

O Language can tell you a great deal about a

culture and that culture’s priorities – the Inuit

(Eskimos) are said to have nearly thirty words

for “ice” which describe various colors, textures,

and uses, among other things (I don’t know if

this is true or not, by the way). Any group of

adults in the U.S. can probably come up with

that many words for money.

Two Kinds of Love

O Phileo

O Philos love, or brotherly/friendship love, is the next kind we will look at. Philosdescribes the love between two people who have common interests and experiences, or a fondness for.

O Agape

O Agape love is the final of the five loves we look at

here. Agape love is entirely about the lover, and has nothing whatsoever to do with the one loved. Agape

love, in its purest form, requires no payment or favor in response. The most common word for

God’s love for us is Agape (I John, John 3:16) and the

love we are commanded to have for one another (Matt.

5:44, I Cor. 13).

Four Dimensional

O So often people use the word “love” in a universal

one dimensional context.

O Expressions like “I love my car, I love my job, I love

my spouse, I love McDonalds…ect”

O The Love of God is not one dimensional it is in fact

four dimensional.

14For this cause I bow my knees unto the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ,

15 Of whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named,

16 That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man;

17 That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love,

18 May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height;

19 And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God.

20 Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,

21 Unto him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen.

- Ephesians 3:14- 21

Height

HOW TALL IS GOD’S LOVE?

Breadth

HOW WIDE IS GOD’S LOVE?

Length

HOW LONG IS GOD’S

LOVE?

Depth

HOW DEEP IS GOD’S

LOVE?

Love Languages

The Five Love Languages is an ideology

developed by Dr. Gary Chapman that discusses

relationships between couples. He stresses to his

audience in his book that all people express their

love for one another in various ways and it is

essential for couples to identify how they

communicate their love to one another so that

they are able to improve upon their relationship.

Website: www.5lovelanguages.com

Words of Affirmation

Language

The first way, according to Dr. Chapman, that

people express love is through verbal affirmation.

Love is expressed by simply telling one another

the positive aspects that are found within the

couple and their relationship. For example, words

of affirmation can include statements such as,

"You are a beautiful person," and "You are my

best friend."

Quality Time Language

Couples share their love for one another by

spending quality time together. This aspect

requires the individuals to focus their attention on

one another in ways such as open

communication, both listening and speaking, and

spending time with one another doing activities

that are enjoyed by both individuals.

Receiving Gifts Language

Another language of love that individuals can

share is the concept of receiving gifts. Some

individuals see the act of providing one another

with material objects, regardless of their cost, as

an act of love. Without these acts of giving and

receiving individuals who use this type of love

language will feel deprived of their relationship.

Acts of Service Language

Individuals who express love via the acts of

service language are prone to seeing such tasks,

like chores and various household tasks, as acts

of love. In order for two individuals to experience

the acts of service language together, both

individuals need to be willing to step outside of

their typical household routines and perform one

another's tasks for the sole purpose of being kind

to one another.

Physical Touch Language

The physical touch language is simply the idea

that individuals feel loved and comforted by being

in close physical contact with one another in

various ways, such as holding hands, hugging,

kissing and sexual intercourse. Physical touch

between couples can vary depending upon what

each individual in the relationship is comfortable

with.

This language uses words

to affirm other people.

For these people, actions speak

louder than words.

For some people, what makes

them feel most loved is to

receive a gift.

This language is all about giving

the other person your undivided

attention.

To this person, nothing speaks

more deeply than appropriate

touch.

Conclusion

O Love is a person and his name is Jesus Christ.

O God’s love for us is unconditional.

O God’s love is four dimensional.

O The Bible is God’s love story of redeeming

fallen mankind to redeem him eternally.

O There are two “main” kinds of love.

O Everyone has a “love language”.

O God’s love language is all five languages.

The Five Love Languages Test

By Dr. Gary Chapman

Read each pair of statements and circle the one that best

describes you.

1. A. I like to receive notes of affirmation from you.

E. I like it when you hug me.

2. B. I like to spend one‐on‐one time with you.

D. I feel loved when you give me practical help.

3. C. I like it when you give me gifts.

B. I like taking long walks with you.

4. D. I feel loved when you do things to help me.

E. I feel loved when you hug or touch me.

5. E. I feel loved when you hold me in your arms.

C. I feel loved when I receive a gift from you.

6. B. I like to go places with you.

E. I like to hold hands with you.

7. A. I feel loved when you acknowledge me.

C. Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me.

8. E. I like to sit close to you.

A. I like it when you tell me that I am attractive.

9. B. I like to spend time with you.

C. I like to receive little gifts from you.

10. D. I know you love me when you help me.

A. Your words of acceptance are important to me.

11. B. I like to be together when we do things.

A. I like the kind words you say to me.

12. E. I feel whole when we hug.

D. What you do affects me more than what you say.

13. A. I value your praise and try to avoid your criticism.

C. Several inexpensive gifts mean more to me than one large

expensive gift.

14. E. I feel closer to you when you touch me.

B. I feel close when we are talking or doing something together.

15. A. I like you to compliment my achievements.

D. I know you love me when you do things for me that you don’t

enjoy doing. TURN OVER

16. E. I like for you to touch me when you walk by.

B. I like when you listen to me sympathetically.

17. C. I really enjoy receiving gifts from you.

D. I feel loved when you help me with my home projects.

18. A. I like when you compliment my appearance.

B. I feel loved when you take the time to understand my feelings.

19. E. I feel secure when you are touching me.

D. Your acts of service make me feel loved.

20. D. I appreciate the many things you do for me.

C. I like receiving gifts that you make.

21. B. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you give me your undivided

D. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you do some act of service

for

22. C. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with a gift.

A. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with meaningful

words (written or spoken.)

23. D. I feel loved when you help me out with my chores.

C. I know you are thinking of me when you give me a gift.

24. C. I appreciate it when you remember special days with a gift.

B. I appreciate it when you listen patiently and don’t interrupt me.

25. B. I enjoy extended trips with you.

D. I like to know that you are concerned enough to help me with

my daily task.

26. E. Kissing me unexpectedly makes me feel loved.

C. Giving me a gift for no occasion makes me feel loved.

27. A. I like to be told that you appreciate me.

B. I like for you to look at me when we are talking.

28. C. Your gifts are always special to me.

E. I feel loved when you kiss me.

29. A. I feel loved when you tell me how much you appreciate me.

D. I feel loved when you enthusiastically do a task I have

requested.

30. E. I need to be hugged by you every day.

A. I need your words of affirmation daily.

Add Total Number of Answers Here:

A.____ Words of Affirmation

B.____ Quality Time

C.____Receiving Gifts

D.____ Acts of Service

E.____Physical Touch