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Refreshing

Dailyin Gods Word

Emphasis on

Marriage

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DEDICATION

This devotional is dedicated to Annie B. Rouse and JettaMathews. Both of these dear ladies' husands !assed awa"this "ear. Mrs. Jetta and Bro. Charlie Mathews were #arriedover $% "ears& and #" #o# Annie B. Rouse( and #" dadwere #arried over )% "ears.

These two dear cou!les are certainl" worth" of honor for their

dedication to *od and to each other.

Than+ "ou, Mrs. Jetta and Mo#, for ein- an ea#!le of what*od intended for #arria-e to e.

/astor Mi+e Rouse

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Fixing Your MarriageAu-ust 0

Bile Readin-1 Colossians 21340$

5e" 6erse1 6erse 0$ 4 Let the word of Christ dwell inyou richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishingone another in psalms and hymns and spiritualsongs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.

5e" 7ords1Let the word of Christ dwell in yourichly with all wisdom

Man" #arria-es toda" are ro+en and need fiin-, andone of those verses that could -o a lon- wa" in fiin- a#arria-e is Colossians 210$.

A cou!le decided that the" should do so#ethin-to-ether to stren-then their #arria-e. The" decided to -oduc+ huntin- to-ether. The"8d heard of other !eo!le -oin-duc+ huntin- with do-s, so the" fi-ured the" needed to u" a-ood huntin- do- and u" the do- the" did. The" -ot all of

their e9ui!#ent and their do- and too+ off to -o duc+ huntin-for the da". The" tried -ettin- so#e duc+s, ut the" ca#e tothe end of the da" and hadn8t -otten one. The husand loo+edat the wife and said, :;one", we8ve -ot to e doin- so#ethin-wron- here. 7e haven8t cau-ht a duc+ "et.irst a #an sanctifies his wife and then he continues tosanctif" her " continuousl" rin-in- her into the real# of his

love and +indness and she!herdin- care, until the" are utterl"and co#!letel" one.o #en, net ti#e "ou eco#e frustrated with "our

wife, re#e#er she's "our lolli!o!. Ma+e "our one with "ou

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7hat to do1Re#e#er that the nu#er one is the nu#er of

*od. If "our #arria-e is to e *odl", "ou can't e two&"ou #ust e one.

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Bile Readin-1 Fu+e 0$10435e" 6erse1 6erse 3 L *nd the lord commended theun)ust steward, because he had done wisely! for thechildren of this world are in their generation wiserthan the children of light.

5e" 7ords1 wiser than the children of light

The followin- is ta+en fro# an article written to AnnFanders.

Dear Ann Fanders1 =ou have !rinted #an" lettersaout etra#arital affairs. ;ere are so#e thin-s "our readersshould e aware of1

Aout half the #en and a third of the wo#en who arecheatin- sa" the" are !erfectl" content and there is nothin-wron- with their #arria-es.

Bein- reli-ious does not !revent infidelit".7o#en are as willin- as #en to have an affair.>ewer than 0% !ercent of those havin- an affair will

divorce their s!ouses to #arr" their lovers. A lar-e !ercenta-eof those who do often have another divorce.

/eo!le who have affairs are #ore li+el" to e divorced,distressed and disa!!ointed.

The che#istr" that drives an affair lasts an"wherefro# a few wee+s to three "ears efore it cools down.

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Infidelit" can ha!!en to an"one. ;ere are a few ti!sfor "our readers to affair4!roof their #arria-es. I call the#:the four /8s< for !revention1

Be !rotective of "our #arria-e. Avoid ris+" situationssuch as lon- lunches with a co4wor+er or drin+s for two afterwor+. Most !eo!le do not !lan to e unfaithful.

Be !ositive. Foo+ for what is ri-ht in "our s!ouse andtell hi# or her dail". /eo!le who have love affairs are oftenloo+in- for a!!reciation and affir#ation.

Be !olite. Alwa"s tal+ to "our s!ouse with res!ect. Becareful what "ou sa" to each other and how "ou sa" it. howcourtes" and carin- in the wa" "ou treat one another.

Be !la"ful, and #a+e fun, se and hu#or a #ainsta" in"our #arria-e. chedule ti#e to !la" with one another, andhave a :date ni-ht< at least once a wee+.

Now the 9uestion is, wh"G 7h" does the world -etthis ut so #an" of the Christians don'tG 7h"G

7hat to do1

5ee! "our s!ouse as the love of "our life.

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Bile Readin-1 Matthew 0K104K5e" 6erse1 6erse 3 L He saith unto them, -osesbecause of the hardness of your hearts suffered you toput away your wives! but from the beginning it wasnot so.5e" 7ords1 because of the hardness of your hearts

I used to thin+ that ever" divorce was, in all li+elihood,a @%4@% !ro!osition& ut now, in #" #ore #ature "ears, andecause of #" ein- a !astor and dealin- with cou!les I +nowthat's not alwa"s the case. In #an" cases, it's one s!ouse ent

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on selfishness that leads to the divorce. As Jesus !ut it, it'sthe hardness of the heart.

I've often wondered if that s!ouse ever thorou-hl"understands the da#a-e the" are doin- to their children.

The followin- is an article written " ;. Nor#an7ri-ht entitled Alwa"s Dadd"'s *irl.

'Co#e into the livin- roo#, children.7e have so#ethin- we need to tell "ou.' That'show our !arents told us the" were not -oin- toe to-ether an"#ore. After the" told us the"were divorcin-, I sat under the tale and #"#ind re!la"ed a-ain and a-ain the words #"

father said. I didn't +now then what it all#eant, ut I soon learned. After Dad left, Iloo+ed throu-h the drawers where he +e!t hisclothes and found an old sweat shirt he leftehind. I hid it in #" roo# and +e!t it for"ears. I would clin- to it when I was lonel" forhi#. M" father ca#e ac+ to see us a fewti#es, ut his visits eca#e less and less

fre9uent. >inall" his visits sto!!ed co#!letel".I alwa"s wondered where he went. I wonderedif he thou-ht aout us ver" #uch. I ho!ed thathe did. But I -uess I'll never +now.

o efore "ou wal+ awa", re#e#er "ou didn't rentthe weddin- rin-s. Marria-e is intended for a lifeti#e for#an" reasons.

7hat to do1Re#e#er, life isn't onl" aout "ou

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Bile Readin-1 I /eter ?10400

5e" 6erse1 6erse 0 L herefore laying aside allmalice, and all guile, and hypocrisies, and envies,and all evil spea$ings,

5e" 7ords1 laying aside /lay aside0

The words la" aside are the sa#e words in the *ree+as the word for-iven. That reall" is what for-iven #eans1 tola" aside. But how #an" cou!les toda" are unwillin- to la"

aside the #alice, -reed, h"!ocris", env", and evil s!ea+in-that an-ers their ver" soulG The de!th of their an-er isillustrated " the ter# let freedo# rin-. Fet #e e!lain.

Divorced cou!les in Alu9uer9ue, New Meico, canta+e advanta-e of a new usiness in town. The co#!an" iscalled >reedo# Rin-s1 Jewelr" for the Divorced. >ounded "eweler and divorcee F"nn /eters, the co#!an" #a+es custo#ewelr" out of weddin- rin-s. Each custo#er at >reedo#Rin-s !a"s a fee, and the rin-4s#ashin- cere#on" e-ins44co#!lete with cha#!a-ne and #usic. Just efore thes#ashin- the M.C. sa"s, 7e will now release an" re#ainin-ties to "our !ast " transfor#in- "our rin-44which re!resentsthe !ast44into a to+en of "our new e-innin-. Now ta+e theha##er. to! for a #o#ent to consider the transfor#ationthat is aout to e-in "our new life. Read"G 7ith this swin- letfreedo# rin-

he then uses a four4!ound sled-eha##er to whac+her e#le# of love and fidelit" into a sha!eless !iece of#etal. And the cere#on" ends. The fact that wo#en are!oundin- their weddin- rin-s into !endants and #en are-rindin- theirs into -olf all #ar+ers doesn't sur!rise #e utit does sadden #e. These !eo!le are not free. The" are stillenslaved " the #alice that fills their soul. ;ow sad

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7hat to do1The onl" wa" to let freedo# rin- is not " ein- freeto e an-r" ut to e free fro# an-er. This onl"co#es fro# ein- filled with the ;ol" !irit.(

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Bile Readin-1 Jude 0)4?@

5e" 6erse1 6erse ? L 1ow unto him that is able to$eep you from falling, and to present you faultlessbefore the presence of his glory with e2ceeding )oy,

5e" 7ords1 to present you faultless

Just as our relationshi! with Jesus is heavenl" ecausewe are ;is ride. Our earthl" #arria-e should e heavenl" aswell, ut it will re9uire that we not e fault4finders.

On her -olden weddin- anniversar", a -rand#otherrevealed the secret of her lon- and ha!!" #arria-e. On #"weddin- da", I decided to choose 0% of #" husand's faults,which for the sa+e of our #arria-e( I would overloo+, shee!lained. A -uest as+ed her to na#e so#e of the faults. Totell the truth, she re!lied, I never did -et around to listin-the#& ut whenever #" husand did so#ethin- that #ade #eho!!in- #ad, I would sa" to #"self, 'Fuc+" for hi# that's oneof the 0%.'

No one is !erfect. o #arria-e is the union of twoi#!erfect !eo!le, with their individual faults, ad haits andundesirale 9ualities. As Christians, #arria-e should e a!lace to !ractice -race. 7hen "ou can loo+ !ast the faults of"our s!ouse and concentrate on encoura-in- the#, "ou willfind satisfaction and !eace.

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7hat to do17e would all e etter off if we focused on correctin-our own faults rather than the faults of others.

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Bile Readin-1 1 I Corinthians 0210435e" 6erse1 6erse 3 L Charity never faileth! but

whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whetherthere be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be$nowledge, it shall vanish away.

5e" 7ords1 Charity never faileth

Do these words sound fa#iliarG Do "ou !ro#ise tolove "our s!ouse( and leavin- all others cleave onl" unto"our s!ouse( so lon- as "ou oth shall liveG

o#e "ears a-o the co#ic stri! #all ociet" showeda #an tal+in- to his wife. ;e is sa"in-, Of course "ou're #"valentine. Of course, I still love "ou. I've ust sto!!ed tal+in-aout it. Those who trul" love can't sto! tal+in- aout it.

If it isn't a record it surel" #ust e close. Accordin- tothe Boo+ of Fists 2, #ovie stars Rudol!h 6alentino and JeanAc+er were #arried on Nove#er @, 0K0K. 6alentino, theheartthro, was loc+ed out of the house on his weddin- ni-ht" the ride. Althou-h the le-alities too+ a little lon-er, the#arria-e lasted less than si hours.

Most #arria-es last lon-er than that toda", ut few!eo!le are satisfied with the lac+ of co##it#ent to lifeti#e#arria-e. This is a record we ou-ht not as!ire to. Fet usco##it ourselves to till death do us !art.

Re#e#er, it's a life4lon- co##it#ent

7hat to do1

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Tell "our s!ouse "ou love the#, not ust toda" utever"da"

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Bile Readin-1 II John5e" 6erse1 6erse 0 L he elder unto the elect ladyand her children, whom ( love in the truth; and not (only, but also all they that have $nown the truth;

5e" 7ords1 the truth

Mar+ the word truth. =ou will find it five ti#es in thefirst four verses. The word #eans to e real.

In our datin- we need to e real. Often !eo!le !ut ona facade to win the heart of a !erson& ut it's alwa"s wise tore#e#er that what "ou do to win the heart, "ou #ustcontinue to do after "ou #arr" the#.

There was a Catholic "oun- lad" who was thin+in-aout #arr"in- a non4Catholic "oun- #an. The #other said,:No wa", "ou +now that we cannot #arr" outside of our faith,and the onl" wa" that "ou can #arr" this -u" is if "ou turnhi# into a Catholic too.< The "oun- lad" went to wor+, ver"deter#ined to chan-e his reli-ion. he and her #otherwor+ed hard to-ether to turn hi# into a Catholic, and overti#e he e-an to rea+ down as the" sold hi# on the reasonswh" he should eco#e a Catholic. *iven his love for her, hewent to catechis# classes, and learned what it #eant to e aCatholic. >inall", he converted to Catholicis#, and in a few#onths the" were to e #arried.

A wee+ efore the weddin-, the "oun- lad" ca#e toher #other, soin- and awlin-. ;er #other said, :7ell,what8s wron-G< he said, :7e can8t -et #arried.< he said,

:7hat do "ou #ean "ou can8t -et #arriedG< :I can8t #arr"hi#,< she answered. The #other said, :I don8t understand.7h" notG 7e sold hi# on our faith. 7e sold hi#, and now heis a Catholic.< The "oun- lad" res!onded, :=eah, we sold hi#all ri-ht. Now he wants to e a !riest