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LordLordPart 2 – The Key to SuccessPart 2 – The Key to Success

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► See things from God’s point of viewSee things from God’s point of view

► In the Lord for lifeIn the Lord for life

► Picture of Christ and EcclesiaPicture of Christ and Ecclesia

► Hold the standard high with the Hold the standard high with the

right attituderight attitude

► Principles go back to EdenPrinciples go back to Eden

Marriage Part 1 – SummaryMarriage Part 1 – Summary

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4. The Key to Success4. The Key to Success

1.1. Common groundCommon ground

2.2. CommunicationCommunication

3.3. SelflessnessSelflessness

4.4. Decide to loveDecide to love

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Good RelationshipsGood Relationships

► Abraham & God Abraham & God ((Gen 12:1-4; 18:16-33Gen 12:1-4; 18:16-33))

► David & God David & God ((1Sa 23:2+4+9-12; 30:8; 1Sa 23:2+4+9-12; 30:8;

2Sa 2:1; 5:19+232Sa 2:1; 5:19+23; plus numerous Psalms); plus numerous Psalms)

► Jesus & disciples Jesus & disciples (esp. (esp. Jn 13Jn 13))

► Jonathan & David Jonathan & David

► ……

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Jonathan & DavidJonathan & David1Sa 141Sa 14 1Sa 171Sa 17

v6v6 - the garrison of these - the garrison of these uncircumciseduncircumcised

v26v26 - who is this - who is this uncircumcised Philistineuncircumcised Philistine

v12v12 - Come up to us, and we - Come up to us, and we will shew you a thing.will shew you a thing.

v44v44 - Come to me, and I will - Come to me, and I will give thy flesh unto the fowls give thy flesh unto the fowls

v13v13 - And Jonathan climbed up - And Jonathan climbed up … and they fell before … and they fell before Jonathan.Jonathan.

v48f.v48f. - David hasted, and ran - David hasted, and ran … and he fell upon his face to … and he fell upon his face to the earth.the earth.

v10v10 - for the LORD hath - for the LORD hath delivered them into our handdelivered them into our hand

v47v47 - and He will give you - and He will give you into our handsinto our hands

v6v6 - for there is no restraint to - for there is no restraint to the LORD to save by many or the LORD to save by many or by few.by few.

v47v47 - the LORD saveth not - the LORD saveth not with sword and spear: for the with sword and spear: for the battle is the LORD’S.battle is the LORD’S.

=> Common Ground!!=> Common Ground!!

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Jonathan & DavidJonathan & David

► CommunicationCommunication

1Sa 19:2f.+7; 20:1-23; 23:15-181Sa 19:2f.+7; 20:1-23; 23:15-18

► SelflessnessSelflessness

18:4; 20 18:4; 20 esp.esp. v32-34; 23:17 v32-34; 23:17

► LoveLove

18:1+3; 20:17; 2Sa 1:2618:1+3; 20:17; 2Sa 1:26

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4. The Key to Success4. The Key to Success

1.1. Common groundCommon ground

2.2. CommunicationCommunication

3.3. SelflessnessSelflessness

4.4. Decide to loveDecide to love

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► Works in the worldWorks in the world► Our faith – Our faith – “heirs together”“heirs together”

One common aim: the KingdomOne common aim: the Kingdom Serving God togetherServing God together Common understanding of our roles Common understanding of our roles

in marriagein marriage Praying togetherPraying together

4.1 Common Ground4.1 Common Ground

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4.2 Communication4.2 Communication

► No good relationship without it!!No good relationship without it!!

► Goes both waysGoes both ways

► Is it helpful?Is it helpful?

► ““Let not the sun go down…”Let not the sun go down…”

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4.3 Selflessness - 4.3 Selflessness - Php 2:1-5Php 2:1-5

► One flesh – one mind! – One flesh – one mind! – v2v2

► ““All the way” – All the way” – v4v4 Admitting faultAdmitting fault

Saying sorrySaying sorry

► Sacrifice – esp. the husband (like Sacrifice – esp. the husband (like

Christ! Christ! v5ff.v5ff.))

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4.4 Decide to Love4.4 Decide to Love► PhileoPhileo – – AgapeAgape► Can be used interchangeablyCan be used interchangeably► Important differenceImportant difference

Phileo – feeling, affection (“kiss”)Phileo – feeling, affection (“kiss”) Agape – conscious decisionAgape – conscious decision

► Results may be the sameResults may be the same

► What What startedstarted with with PhileoPhileo, must in , must in due time due time developdevelop into into AgapeAgape!!

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4.4 Love – 4.4 Love – 1Cor 131Cor 13

► PatientPatient

► KindKind

► Not jealousNot jealous

► HumbleHumble

► Not proudNot proud

► Not rudeNot rude

► SelflessSelfless

► CalmCalm

► ForgivingForgiving

► HonestHonest

► ProtectingProtecting

► TrustingTrusting

► HopingHoping

► PerseveringPersevering

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OverviewOverview

► God’s Point of ViewGod’s Point of View► A Word about DivorceA Word about Divorce► Roles in MarriageRoles in Marriage► The Key to SuccessThe Key to Success

Common GroundCommon Ground CommunicationCommunication SelflessnessSelflessness Decide to LoveDecide to Love

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MiscellaneaMiscellanea

Being one means:Being one means:

► United frontUnited front

► Keep it private!Keep it private! QuarrelsQuarrels

CriticismCriticism

Private lifePrivate life