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Mastering DetachmentA Win Without Pitching Webcast | October 22nd 2015
Agenda The Seven Masteries So far… Our attachments Detaching in the moment The Jedi mindset Q&A
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The Seven Masteries Process vs. behavior What are you thinking? How are you behaving? What should you be doing?
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The Seven Masteries1. Focus
2. Purpose
3. Leadership
4. Detachment5. Silence
6. Directness
7. Money
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Focus Recap Practitioner or vendor The source of differentiation and power If the firm won’t, you must “I am the expert. (I am the prize.)”
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Purpose Recap Working from a higher calling, beyond the client Brings motivation beyond the job in front of you Individual purpose augments (compensates for missing) firm-
wide purpose “I am on a mission to help…”
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Leadership Recap
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Leadership is seeing what others cannot, doing what others will not and creating courage in others to follow
Leading in the sale is challenging the client in a way that grows them and creates future value for all
The physiology of leadership is calm presence
MASTERING DETACHMENT
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The Detachment Mindset The focus mindset…
“I posses expertise of great value to you.” Followed by purpose…
“I am on a mission…” Then leadership…
“I can do this (help)… if you let me lead..” And finally detachment…
“I know however that all will not follow, and that’s okay.”
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Detachment Defined
“Detachment is a state of mind in which you witness, clearly and calmly, with good will, whatever you are seeing, hearing, thinking,
enjoying or suffering as if you are not bound or preoccupied by them.”
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Attachment and Detachment Attachments are things we need from the relationship that are
not beneficial to the client or this type of relationship They get in the way of delivering value to the client They’re personal and often manifest as improper or impulsive
behavior or behavioral blocks: Talking about money Corralling decision makers Asking uncomfortable questions Pushing too hard, suggesting inappropriate solutions Agreeing to meetings or proposals
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To What Are We Attached? Three primary internal attachments:
The need to win (achievement) The need to be liked (affiliation) The need for authority or respect (power)
And a primary external attachment: Money
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A Framework for Detaching1. Identify it
2. Release it
3. Focus on the another behavior or goal
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1. Identify Your Attachment In advance of the interaction ask: what is it that I need from this
person? Tests:
Four tools: sales, marketing, PR & networking Two piles: money & respect
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2. Release ItNeed The money
The win
The relationship
The respect
Mantra “I’m rich – money means
nothing to me.” “If this is meant to be, it will
be. I will not force it.” “The relationship is the
reward, not the path.” “I will be kind in my words
and understanding in my behavior.”
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3. Focus on Another Behavior or Goal The “thing” (proper point of sales process) What you do next (the new behavior) is what rewires the brain The goal “My objective is to help you (benefit) and (benefit).” Say or just think it Benefits are the clients, unearthed earlier in the sales cycle The Three Rs from webcast The Objection
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Recap1. Identify your attachment
Don’t deny it In advance where possible & when it arises
2. Release it Float it away using your new language The hard part (practice)
3. Refocus on the goal Proper point of sales process State the goal (benefit and benefit) and the proceed
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Furthering Detachment Progress Study models for:
Meditation/mindfulness Addiction OCD Personal growth
Increase the gap
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The Jedi Mindset “I am the expert; I am the prize.” “I am on a mission to…” “I can only do this [help] if you let me lead. (Follow me.)” “I accept that all will not follow, and that’s okay.” Repeat the mantra beforehand Include or add your specific detachment mantra
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Questions? Start typing…
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Summing Up Many attachments get in the way of the sale but the primary ones
are achievement, affiliation, respect and money Identify what you typically need and work on that over the long
term In the moment: 1. Identify, 2. Release, 3. Refocus The Jedi mindset:
“I am the expert. (I am the prize.) “I am on a mission to..” “I can only do this if you let me lead.” “All will not follow, and that’s okay.”
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Coming SoonWebcasts Lessons for the Front Line | November 5th The Best Year Ever | December 10th Mastering Silence | January 7th
Next WWP Program January 2016
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