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Chapter Fourteen
Remarriage and Stepfamilies
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The Incomplete Institution Stepparents have few legal rights
concerning stepchildren Working to create a coherent family
life Stepfamilies create situations where
taken-for-granted rules do not apply Must create their own rules and shared
meanings Institution building is difficult work and can
take a toll on stepfamilies
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The Demography of Remarriage and Stepfamilies Declining marriage rates
Only 2/3 women and 3/4 men will remarry after divorcing
Remarriage Rates Younger women are more likely to remarry than
those that married later in life Women with three or more children less likely to
remarry Remarriage more likely among non-Hispanic
whites than Hispanics or African Americans
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The Demography of Remarriage and Stepfamilies Divorce rates among the remarried
More likely to end in divorce than first marriages – especially in first years
Selection effect Less likely to tolerate problems after first
divorce Persons in remarriage may be less skilled at
choosing compatible partner or holding a marriage together
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The Demography of Remarriage and Stepfamilies Increasing Cohabitation
Cohabitation has been an alternate choice of divorced people
Cohabitation rates for divorced people has risen
Increase in cohabitation has more than made up for the lack of remarriage rates among divorced
Substituting cohabitation for remarriage
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Redefining Stepfamilies Broadening definition of stepfamily to
include cohabitation Two adults are married or cohabitating At least one adult has a child present
from a previous marriage or relationship Definition allows for parents never
marrying One-fourth of stepfamilies are cohabiting and fit this definition
Common path for African-American families
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The New Extended Family Taken for granted in Western
nations that a conjugal family live in the same household until children are grownChildbearing outside marriage,
increase in divorces and remarriage have made this less likely
Divorce splits conjugal unit into two households
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The New Extended Family Stepfamily = household that
contains a parent with children from a previous union and that parent’s current partnerChildren from previous union are
stepchildrenParent’s current partner is
stepparentCan be even more complex, if more
than one divorce has occurred
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The New Extended Family Remarriage Chains = a path that
links individuals across households through the ties of disrupted unions and new unionsThese serve as support and
exchange networksSystem depends on cooperation of
all involved and can be easily disrupted
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Doing the Work of Kinship Blood relatives = people who share
common ancestors: parents and children, aunts and uncles, nephews and nieces, grandparents and grandchildren
Bilateral kinship = a system in which descent is reckoned through both parents’ lines
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Doing the Work of Kinship In American kinship, people must
establish a relationship to consider each other kin Seeing them regularly, giving or
receiving help, corresponding – repeated connections
To be a relative you must do the work of creating and maintaining kinships
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Building Stepfamilies After divorce, single parents and
their children develop coping skills to live differently
Stepparent comes into the new family systemDifficulty adjusting to this new person
Great variation in the types of stepfamilies being formed
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The Transitional Period
The first 2 to 4 years Stepparent goes from being polite
outsider to being “warm friend” Young children usually accept
stepparent Older children, adolescents may
resist and distance themselves
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The Transitional Period
Stepparent as Polite Outsider Don’t usually try to discipline Refrain from acting like parent Seek to be a warm and affectionate
adult role model figure Common practice to call them by
their first name
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The Transitional Period Adjustment of the Stepchildren
Increased behavior problems may occur at the beginning
Key factor is the age of the child when stepparent joins family
Younger children more accepting of parent-like relationship
Older children more likely to resist a parentlike relationship
Most difficult time to start a stepfamily seems to be when children are in early adolescence
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The Transitional Period
For a stepfamily to be successful, a remarried couple must build a boundary around themselves and work together to solve problemsTheir own marriage must be the
dominant relationship
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The Stabilization Period Stepparent Role includes
Warmth toward and support of the stepchildren
Little disciplining of the stepchildrenSupport for the biological parentTheir role is between a parent and a
trusted friend = intimate outsider Some children may experience a
“sleeper effect” – coming to terms with parent’s divorce as they grow older
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Differences Between Role of Stepmother and Stepfather Being a stepmother can be harder than
being a stepfather History of the “Wicked Stepmother” In typical remarriage chains today, children
live with mother and stepfather Stepmothers must establish relationship
during visits Stepfathers compete with noncustodial
fathers who may not see children very often
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Racial-Ethnic Differences Low-income and racial-ethnic
families face a different set of issues Parenting by mother and
grandmother Conflicts about raising children -
stepfather may be asked to take sides Makes it difficult for a stepfather to
remain in an intergenerational family system for very long
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Effects of Remarriage on Children Income is raised Another adult is around to help Well-being of children in
stepfamilies is no better, on average, than well-being of children in divorced, single-parent households
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Behavior Problems
Children in single-mother or remarried families do not do as well as those in nondivorced households 25-30% of single-mother and divorced
households reported behavior problems,
10% or less of nondivorced households reported behavior problems with children
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Age at Leaving Home
Children, especially girls, in stepparent families leave households at an earlier age than children in single-parent or two-parent households They leave to marry or establish
independent households
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Primacy of the Private Family The triumph of the private family
is that it does still exist, regardless of changes in divorce patterns over time
Marriage is now primarily an instrument of individual fulfillment Personal growth and romantic love
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Primacy of the Private Family
Changing nature of marriage has been an advance for women
Ability to divorce unilaterally Protections against husband dominance
Loss of economic protection Riskier to be a homemaker, withdraw
from the labor market
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Primacy of the Private Family Law assumes men and women are
economic equals, when that is not the case Women’s wages have increased, but
they are still not the same as men’s Women as single parents usually
suffer a steep drop in standard of living
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Primacy of the Private Family Men are not winners in every
divorceMen who gain the most are those
who care least about their childrenMen who pay the highest price are
those who care most about being a daily part of their children’s lives
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Primacy of the Private Family What should women and men do to
protect themselves in our current system? Women should develop good labor
market skills and maintain a connection to the labor market throughout the childrearing years
Men should spend a considerable amount of time in childrearing
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New Kinship Ties Cohabitation, divorce, nonmarital
childbearing and remarriage are altering kinship in two fundamental ways Breaking the correspondence between
family and household Importance of created kinship = ties
which people actively construct Different from assigned kinship = ties
that people automatically acquire at birth or through first marriage
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New Kinship Ties Creation of stepfamilies adds a
number of other potential kinship positions
Challenge of created kinship Kinship ties that can be created
through action can be lost through inaction
More likely to change over time