LOVE, COMMITMENT, AND SELF-RESPECT

Michelle PavlickPSY220

February 27, 2011Lisa A. Tobler, MS

ATTACHMENT

STYLES

Warm and responsive

Cold and rejecting

Ambivalent and inconsistent

EXPLORING LOVE

Commitment Passion Intimacy

Caring 44% Happiness 29% Wanting to be with other

person 28% Commitment 14%

My Features of Love Poll Taken - Crucial Features

LOVE’S TRIANGLELikingInfatuated LoveRomantic LoveConsummate Love

BUILDING CLOSE RELATIONSHIPSTime to talkHandle Conflict ConstructivelyExpress admirationShow AffectionCreate Shared Meaning

ROMANTIC ATTACHMENT STYLES

Secure – trusting, caringAvoidant – dismissing,

highs and lowsAnxious – emotional,

possessive

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T IN STR

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Avoiding negative goalsDistressed and anxious

Seeking positive goalsBoldly approaching

conflict

REASONS FOR STRIVING Extrinsic – Someone

thinks it is good Introjected – Avoid

feeling anxious Identified – Important

goals taught to me Intrinsic – Enjoy the

experiences

SELF-RESPEC

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Thoughts

Feelings

Actions

SELF-CONCEPT - OUR POSSIBLE SELVES

Culture Evaluate Self Social Strengths &

Weaknesses

SELF-ESTEEM

SELF-WORTH

Love, acceptance, and self-esteem

MULTIPLE CONTINGENCIES

Liability or Asset?

PRACTICING SELF-FORGETFULNESS

Cultivate Other Strengths

Experience Awe

Focus Beyond Self

Model Humility

Demonstrate Balance

LEAR

NIN

G TO

LOVE

Commitment to

break the cycle

REFERENCESAxia College (2004). Self-Respect. Retrieved from Axia

College, PSY220 website.

Axia College (2004). Love. Retrieved from Axia College, PSY220 website.

Axia College (2004). Commitment. Retrieved from Axia College, PSY220 website.

Michelle Morand (2011). What is Self-Respect? Self-Growth.com Retrieved February 27, 2011 from http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/what_is_selfrespect