Mistakes in Biblical Families… that Christians Make Today!

Mistakes in Biblical

Families…that

Christians Make Today!

INTRODUCTION…INTRODUCTION…

1. The Home is Extremely important…1. The Home is Extremely important…a. It is an essential need for mankind - a. It is an essential need for mankind - Gen 2:18-24Gen 2:18-24

b. It is the nest & training ground for the next generation b. It is the nest & training ground for the next generation Gen 2:24, Eph 6:4Gen 2:24, Eph 6:4


1. The Home is Extremely important…1. The Home is Extremely important…a. It is an essential need for mankind - a. It is an essential need for mankind - Gen 2:18-24Gen 2:18-24

b. It is the nest & training ground for the next generation b. It is the nest & training ground for the next generation Gen 2:24, Eph 6:4Gen 2:24, Eph 6:4

2. Our society is in decline as a result of the 2. Our society is in decline as a result of the decline of the homedecline of the home. . a. “As the family goes, so goes the nation and so goes the a. “As the family goes, so goes the nation and so goes the

whole world in which we live.”whole world in which we live.”

b. Our current trend has been seen in the ruination of past b. Our current trend has been seen in the ruination of past civilizations!civilizations!

c. Roles & Responsibilities obliterated, children left to c. Roles & Responsibilities obliterated, children left to themselves, Worldliness & Materialism, Chaos!themselves, Worldliness & Materialism, Chaos!


3. The decline in the home has greatly harmed 3. The decline in the home has greatly harmed the church as well!the church as well!a. Worldliness is commonplace in Christian homes!a. Worldliness is commonplace in Christian homes!

b. As the Family goes, so goes the Church!b. As the Family goes, so goes the Church!

c. We must Reverse this Trend!c. We must Reverse this Trend! - - Ro 12:2, 2 Cor 6:11-18Ro 12:2, 2 Cor 6:11-18





4. But, what behavior has caused this decline?4. But, what behavior has caused this decline?





4. But, what behavior has caused this decline?4. But, what behavior has caused this decline?

5. Let’s examine some mistakes made in 5. Let’s examine some mistakes made in Biblical Biblical familiesfamilies that are at the heart of many of our that are at the heart of many of our current problems!current problems!

a. What is the Christian Home to Look Like?a. What is the Christian Home to Look Like?

b. 6 Popular & Historical Mistakes in the Home!b. 6 Popular & Historical Mistakes in the Home!

I. What is the Home Suppose to I. What is the Home Suppose to be…be…

A. God’s word gives us many descriptions of A. God’s word gives us many descriptions of what the Godly home is to be…what the Godly home is to be…



1. Loving & Tender……………1. Loving & Tender……………Eph 5:22-6:4, Titus 2:1-8Eph 5:22-6:4, Titus 2:1-82. Working ………………………2. Working ………………………Prov 31:10-31, 1 Tim 5:8,16Prov 31:10-31, 1 Tim 5:8,16 3. Nurturing & Teaching ……3. Nurturing & Teaching ……Deut 6:4-9, Eph 6:1-4 Deut 6:4-9, Eph 6:1-4 4. Disciplined ……………………4. Disciplined ……………………Pr 22:6, 29:15, 13:24Pr 22:6, 29:15, 13:245. Organized ……………………5. Organized ……………………Gen 3, Eph 5:22-6:4, 1 Pet Gen 3, Eph 5:22-6:4, 1 Pet

3:1-73:1-7



1. Loving & Tender……………1. Loving & Tender……………Eph 5:22-6:4, Titus 2:1-8Eph 5:22-6:4, Titus 2:1-82. Working ………………………2. Working ………………………Prov 31:10-31, 1 Tim 5:8,16Prov 31:10-31, 1 Tim 5:8,16 3. Nurturing & Teaching ……3. Nurturing & Teaching ……Deut 6:4-9, Eph 6:1-4 Deut 6:4-9, Eph 6:1-4 4. Disciplined ……………………4. Disciplined ……………………Pr 22:6, 29:15, 13:24Pr 22:6, 29:15, 13:245. Organized ……………………5. Organized ……………………Gen 3, Eph 5:22-6:4, 1 Pet Gen 3, Eph 5:22-6:4, 1 Pet

3:1-73:1-7

B. The Home that God has established is a B. The Home that God has established is a REFUGEREFUGE from this world of Ungodliness! from this world of Ungodliness!• Webster’sWebster’s - shelter or protection from danger - shelter or protection from danger

or distress; a place that provides shelter or or distress; a place that provides shelter or protectionprotection


C. Problem is…many in the church choose not to C. Problem is…many in the church choose not to follow God’s Family plan and do things their follow God’s Family plan and do things their way!way!

• Proverbs 14:12Proverbs 14:12 - There is a way that seems right to a - There is a way that seems right to a man, But its end is the way of death.man, But its end is the way of death.

• In many cases, our homes are anything but a refuge!In many cases, our homes are anything but a refuge!





D. These same “ways” have been used in the D. These same “ways” have been used in the past, and the pain and suffering was past, and the pain and suffering was tremendous!tremendous!





D. These same “ways” have been used in the D. These same “ways” have been used in the past, and the pain and suffering was past, and the pain and suffering was tremendous!tremendous!

E. Let’s remind ourselves of these mistakes E. Let’s remind ourselves of these mistakes made by Biblical families so we can live made by Biblical families so we can live differently and truly make our homes a differently and truly make our homes a refuge refuge from the worldfrom the world..

II. Huge Family Mistakes in the II. Huge Family Mistakes in the Bible…Bible…


A. Husbands that Do Not Lead!A. Husbands that Do Not Lead!

1. God has established Roles, Man is to be the 1. God has established Roles, Man is to be the Leader!Leader!Gen 3:16-19, Eph 5:22-33, 1 Pet 3:1-7Gen 3:16-19, Eph 5:22-33, 1 Pet 3:1-7




2. Disaster Strikes when the Leader Refuses to 2. Disaster Strikes when the Leader Refuses to Lead!Lead!

a. Adam did not Lead in the Garden -a. Adam did not Lead in the Garden - Gen 3Gen 3b. Moses did not Lead in Obedience -b. Moses did not Lead in Obedience - Ex 4:24-26Ex 4:24-26c. Solomon did not Lead in Faithfulness -c. Solomon did not Lead in Faithfulness - 1 Kings 11:41 Kings 11:4






3. We see this often today…3. We see this often today…

a. Men do not Set the Spiritual Examplea. Men do not Set the Spiritual Exampleb. Men abdicate the Leadership role to wives, with sad b. Men abdicate the Leadership role to wives, with sad

consequences - Damage to wife & children!consequences - Damage to wife & children!







a. Men do not Set the Spiritual Examplea. Men do not Set the Spiritual Exampleb. Men abdicate the Leadership role to wives, with sad b. Men abdicate the Leadership role to wives, with sad

consequences - Damage to wife & children!consequences - Damage to wife & children!

4. Men: Lead, or Don’t get Married!!4. Men: Lead, or Don’t get Married!!


B. Wives that Do Not Follow!B. Wives that Do Not Follow!

1. God has established Roles, Wives are to 1. God has established Roles, Wives are to follow!follow!Gen 3:16-19, Eph 5:22-33, 1 Pet 3:1-7Gen 3:16-19, Eph 5:22-33, 1 Pet 3:1-7




2. Disaster Strikes when the Follower doesn’t 2. Disaster Strikes when the Follower doesn’t Follow!Follow!

a. Adam & Eve -a. Adam & Eve - Gen 3Gen 3b. Wives w/false teaching & Husbands –b. Wives w/false teaching & Husbands – Numerous!Numerous!c. Ahab & Jezebel -c. Ahab & Jezebel - 1 Kings 21:25 – she stirred him up!1 Kings 21:25 – she stirred him up!d. Sampson & wife, Delilahd. Sampson & wife, Delilah – Jud 14:15-18, 16:4,16 – Jud 14:15-18, 16:4,16







a. Women who flat out refuse to follow! a. Women who flat out refuse to follow! b. Women who contentiously “follow”! – b. Women who contentiously “follow”! – Pr 21:9,19; Pr 21:9,19;

27:1527:15







a. Women who flat out refuse to follow! a. Women who flat out refuse to follow! b. Women who contentiously “follow”! – b. Women who contentiously “follow”! – Pr 21:9,19; Pr 21:9,19;

27:1527:15

4. Women: Follow, or don’t get Married!4. Women: Follow, or don’t get Married!


C. Families Following a Sinful Leader!C. Families Following a Sinful Leader!

1. Husbands & Fathers are the Leaders…but, we 1. Husbands & Fathers are the Leaders…but, we must not Follow when they are SINFUL - must not Follow when they are SINFUL - Acts Acts 5:295:29




2. It is disastrous when one Follows a Sinful 2. It is disastrous when one Follows a Sinful LeaderLeader

a. Kings of the Divided Kingdom –a. Kings of the Divided Kingdom – The “2 Kings The “2 Kings Cycle…”Cycle…”b. Ananias & Sapphira -b. Ananias & Sapphira - Acts 5:1-11Acts 5:1-11






3. We see this often today3. We see this often today

a. Husbands & Fathers - Ungodliness Destroys familya. Husbands & Fathers - Ungodliness Destroys familyb. Parents - Ungodliness/Falsehoods hurt childrenb. Parents - Ungodliness/Falsehoods hurt childrenc. Jesus’ warning -c. Jesus’ warning - Matt 10:37…Love Him above all!Matt 10:37…Love Him above all!






3. We see this often today3. We see this often today

a. Husbands & Fathers - Ungodliness Destroys familya. Husbands & Fathers - Ungodliness Destroys familyb. Parents - Ungodliness/Falsehoods hurt childrenb. Parents - Ungodliness/Falsehoods hurt childrenc. Jesus’ warning -c. Jesus’ warning - Matt 10:37…Love Him above all!Matt 10:37…Love Him above all!

4. We must not Follow Sin, despite the 4. We must not Follow Sin, despite the Relation!Relation!


D. Families that Ignore Discipline D. Families that Ignore Discipline ProblemsProblems

1. Parental Discipline is Essential in a Healthy 1. Parental Discipline is Essential in a Healthy FamilyFamily• Discipline is a Show of Love -Discipline is a Show of Love - Pr 13:24, Heb 12:3-11Pr 13:24, Heb 12:3-11




2. Many Tragic Examples of a Lack of Discipline2. Many Tragic Examples of a Lack of Discipline

a. Eli did not Discipline his Sons -a. Eli did not Discipline his Sons - 1 Sam 2:12-3:131 Sam 2:12-3:13b. Samuel did not Discipline his Sons -b. Samuel did not Discipline his Sons - 1 Sam 8:1-51 Sam 8:1-5c. Proverbs warnings…c. Proverbs warnings… Pr 29:15 no correction - Pr 29:15 no correction -

Shame!Shame!






Shame!Shame!

3. Many Christians Ignore discipline of the 3. Many Christians Ignore discipline of the family!family!

a. No Discipline In the Home! - Rod of Correction!a. No Discipline In the Home! - Rod of Correction!b. No Discipline In the Family! -b. No Discipline In the Family! - 1 Sam 3:131 Sam 3:13






Shame!Shame!

3. Many Christian’s Ignore discipline of the 3. Many Christian’s Ignore discipline of the family!family!

a. No Discipline In the Home! - Rod of Correction!a. No Discipline In the Home! - Rod of Correction!b. No Discipline In the Family! -b. No Discipline In the Family! - 1 Sam 3:131 Sam 3:13

4. If we Love them, we will Correct them!4. If we Love them, we will Correct them!


E. Families that Allow Worldly E. Families that Allow Worldly InfluencesInfluences

1. Filth is Pumped into our Homes 1. Filth is Pumped into our Homes • Media & FriendsMedia & Friends




2. This Filth Contaminated God’s People in the 2. This Filth Contaminated God’s People in the PastPasta. Lot’s Family Killed & Perverted -a. Lot’s Family Killed & Perverted - Gen 19Gen 19b. Families of Israel -b. Families of Israel - Judges 3:1-7Judges 3:1-7





3. Many Christians Allow filth in their Homes!3. Many Christians Allow filth in their Homes!a. Problem - We have become careless with Inputs!a. Problem - We have become careless with Inputs!b. Evidence - Dress, Behavior, Attitudes, b. Evidence - Dress, Behavior, Attitudes,

FaithlessnessFaithlessness





3. Many Christians Allow filth in their Homes!3. Many Christians Allow filth in their Homes!a. Problem - We have become careless with Inputs!a. Problem - We have become careless with Inputs!b. Evidence - Dress, Behavior, Attitudes, b. Evidence - Dress, Behavior, Attitudes,

FaithlessnessFaithlessness

4. It’s Parents Job to Protect from Filth!4. It’s Parents Job to Protect from Filth!Philippians 4:8, 1 Tim 5:22Philippians 4:8, 1 Tim 5:22


F. Families Allowing Out of Control F. Families Allowing Out of Control Behavior!Behavior!

1. Example: Wrath, Divisions, Addictions or Vices1. Example: Wrath, Divisions, Addictions or Vices




2. This behavior Always Led to Tragedy2. This behavior Always Led to Tragedyaa. Cain & Able; Wrath - . Cain & Able; Wrath - Gen 4:1-8Gen 4:1-8b. Jacob’s Family; Favoritism, Jealously, Anger -b. Jacob’s Family; Favoritism, Jealously, Anger - Gen Gen

29-3729-37c. Ammon & Tamar; Sexual Sins -c. Ammon & Tamar; Sexual Sins - 2 Sam 132 Sam 13d. Absalom; Wrath & Materialism -d. Absalom; Wrath & Materialism - 2 Sam 13-192 Sam 13-19






3. Many Christian’s Ignore this Sinful Behavior!3. Many Christian’s Ignore this Sinful Behavior!• Many get mad at those that try to fix the issue!Many get mad at those that try to fix the issue!• If ignored, it will Increase & Propagate! -If ignored, it will Increase & Propagate! - 1 Cor 5:61 Cor 5:6






3. Many Christian’s Ignore this Sinful Behavior!3. Many Christian’s Ignore this Sinful Behavior!• Many get mad at those that try to fix the issue!Many get mad at those that try to fix the issue!• If ignored, it will Increase & Propagate! -If ignored, it will Increase & Propagate! - 1 Cor 5:61 Cor 5:6

4. 4. Self Control is Essential for Godly Self Control is Essential for Godly Families!Families! 2 Pet 1:5-112 Pet 1:5-11

Conclusion…Conclusion…

1. The homes in the World are Falling Apart!1. The homes in the World are Falling Apart!

2. Homes in the Church are following the same 2. Homes in the Church are following the same path…and this MUST stop!path…and this MUST stop!

Conclusion…Conclusion…

1. The homes in the World are Falling Apart!1. The homes in the World are Falling Apart!

2. Homes in the Church are following the same 2. Homes in the Church are following the same path…and this MUST stop!path…and this MUST stop!

3. To avoid the Family Mistakes of the past, we 3. To avoid the Family Mistakes of the past, we must have:must have:a. Husbands that Lead!a. Husbands that Lead!b. Wives that Follow!b. Wives that Follow!c. Families that forgo a Sinful Leader!c. Families that forgo a Sinful Leader!d. Families that Exercise Disciplined. Families that Exercise Disciplinee. Families that Avoid Worldly Influencese. Families that Avoid Worldly Influencesf. Families that Address Out of Control Behavior!f. Families that Address Out of Control Behavior!

4. Let’s commit to make our homes Godly & 4. Let’s commit to make our homes Godly & Stable!Stable!

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