The Counselling ModelModule 7
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My “Back Cover”My Strengths & Spiritual Bypassing
Release the Breaks… The true nature of success & happiness is not achieved by finding ways or
reasons to be so… It’s about releasing yourself from why you’re not already
For You… … And However You Intend To Use It
Critical Reminders… ➔ Bound Nature:
● Intensely Emotional & Reactionary ● Validation/Recognition● Comparative● Superior/Inferior● Cynical/Angry● Jealous/Envy● Fear/Analytical/Worry
How Does it Feel?
Critical Reminders… ➔ Free Nature:
● Tranquil & Calm● Rich in Self-Love & Worth● Connected & Present● Even-Flow● True-Self
How Does it Feel?
Simply Know Where We Stand...
Sawubona
“Positive Patty” & “Negative Nancy”
ReferralsPerhaps Much More Than You Realize…
Object Referral➔ Our success and happiness is tied to ‘stuff’
➔ The outcome of the success ● Weight Loss● Money● Romantic Love
➔ Bound Self Voice
➔ The man, boy & pony
Self Referral ➔ Detachments from all (but not delusion)
➔ ‘In the moment’ living
● What about when Bound Nature spikes?● Bring awareness to where you are sitting and focus on now…
The past is just a collection of moments that happened. The future, moments that will. The only true power we have in creating the life we
want is found now. In this moment. And yet, most people are spending this moment regretting the
past and stressing the future…
… If thought and emotion are wrapped into past experience and future expression, than where
and how do we locate the power to enhance self-referral and limit objective-referral?
Now: Through Silence(So Hum)
EsteemWhat Does It Really Mean?
Esteem...
Latin - “To Estimate” ➔ Am I good enough & worthy -
● Love● Happiness● Money● Career● Peace
“Outside” versus “Inside”
Is “Low” Self-Esteem Possible?
‘Self’ or ‘Them’(inside) (outside)
Take You Outside…
➔ Comparative ➔ Future➔ Past
Take Time to Consider…
I can easily talk about my good points, skills, achievements and success with others
I assert myself PEACEFULLY with people who violate or ignore my rights
My thinking is not clouded with irrational beliefs or fears
I do not overact or become de-energized by resentment, anger or feelings of lacking
acceptance from others
I am AUTHENTICALLY content with who I am, how I act and what I do in life
I am FULLY aware of when I no longer feel in Free Nature but do not react from Ego
I feel TRULY satisfied with my life achievements thus far
The ‘Faces’ of Outside Living
The Pretender➔ Acts happy & successful outwardly➔ Inwardly, terrified of failure or disappointing ➔ Lives in fear of being ‘found out’ ➔ Requires continuous success to maintain mask➔ Perfectionistic, Procrastination & Competition
The Rebel➔ Pretend opinions don’t matter➔ Constant internal anger for not feeling ‘good enough’ ➔ Needs to ‘prove’ that criticism doesn’t bother him/her➔ Blame, Breaking Rules, Fighting Authority
The Failure ➔ Acts helpless or unable to cope➔ Waits for rescue➔ Lives in self-pity or indifference➔ Looks for guidance non-stop➔ No Assertiveness, No Achievement, Big Reliance
Combinations
The Triad - Pulling Life Inside
The Counselling ModelMaintaining Self-Referral:
➔ Self-Love (Boundaries & Emotional Involvement)➔ Compassion (Empathy vs Sympathy)➔ I Don’t Know (Conclusions)
The Counselling ModelModule 7
MINDSET PERFORMANCE INSTITUTE