Module 7 - Lesson 3 - How To Implement Module 7 Of The Adrenal ReCode Webinar Christa: Hi, party people.
Kris: Hello.
Christa: We're here with Mama Kris, Emotional Mastery Coach.
Kris: Hello.
Christa: We're going to dive into much of the seven already. Hi, let us know what is new and good. That's what we want to know since we last connected with you, what is new and good? Tonight, we are going to take questions [00:00:30] on Module 6. We want to hear what happened. Did you release some trapped negative emotions? How was that presence challenged? How did that go for you? Let's hear about your forgiveness process. Kris is here to answer any questions. Then, we're going to bring our lovely life coach, Ms. Tammera Logan is here as well.
Kris: Come on in.
Tammera: Hi, everyone.
Kris: Hello.
Christa: You get the dream team right here. Then we're going to move into [00:01:00] Module 7 which is all about empowerment. It's going to be about revolving your belief, so building the bridge to now create that present self. Let's say hi and see ...
Kris: Hello.
Christa: ... who we've got here, Vicky from South Florida.
Kris: Hi, Vicky.
Christa: I love this comment. Denise says, wonderful challenges, beautiful results. Awesome. Usually beautiful results do come from wonderful challenges. Hi, Kelly from Ohio.
Christa: Laurie from Oregon, Michaela, our friend Michaela from L.A. It's so good to be with you. Vancouver, Lisa. Kathy from P.A., Jennifer. Pauline, we love here, always tuning from Australia.
Kris: Yeah, Australia.
Christa: It's summertime there. Well, harness that roof. Yes. Laura Anne from New York. We're glad to have you here. Let's see. I know we have a delay on the webinar, but go ahead and post any questions [00:02:00] or any feedback from Module 6. We really want to hear what's new and good, what were your challenges, and how can we help you. I also want to say and we were talking right before this and the last webinar that we have, we're going to talk about living The ReCode. I want you to think of everything you're going through now, everything you're sampling. I know the modules have come fast. They've come week after week. We're taking a break next week.
Christa: It's going to be [00:02:30] straight up Q&A, anything you possibly want to talk about anything your heart desires with Jeanne and I, then we'll move into Module 8 after that. Try to not perfect anything or if you feel that you're behind. Basically, we're giving you all the tools and the process that we know works. Look at it like a buffet. Some of you are going to really resonate with the trapped negative emotions. That's going to be the needle mover for you. Some of you are going to say, "This belief system work is changing my life." You [00:03:00] know we're talking about healthy boundaries tonight, which it's got to change your life. I mean, that got to change your life.
Christa: You're going to be focusing on different things and you don't have to do it all at once. Something I wanted to suggest, you've been used to being here with us for an hour-and-a-half every Tuesday. I would leave that slot open to do your ReCode work after the webinars end, because you're already used to it, just a suggestion. [00:03:30] Okay. Let's jump in. Hi, Rhonda and Sandy from Savannah. Vicky, she says, a challenge, how to separate present feelings from feelings around the emotion I'm working on? I'll let you take that one, Kris.
Kris: Okay, all right. Present feeling. One of the things that I want you to try to do, I know it's a bit of a challenge is [00:04:00] the feelings that you're feeling in the present moment if it's a negative feeling. For instance, if I'm feeling just say anger. That's a common emotion. If I'm angry in this present moment, it's because of something in the past or something maybe that I'm upset about
that's looming in the future. In this present moment, that emotion is attached to something that either has happened [00:04:30] or has not yet happened. It's attached to a story. The way to release that emotion in the present moment is just ... It sounds harder than it is especially when you're in the midst of a heavy emotion.
Kris: If you can get still and get quiet and go within, don't resist that emotion but release your story, release I'm angry because of this or I'm anxious [00:05:00] because there's something in the future. I just go directly to that emotion in that present moment. What happens is it loses its energy, it really does. It loses its energy and it's much more manageable. When that happens, I might still be feeling some anger in the present moment but it's lessened. That's where the work begins. That's the challenge, is staying in the present moment, not ignoring your emotions and [00:05:30] just stuffing them away. We don't want you to do that. We want you to look at them without the story attached to them. I hope that helps you.
Christa: I think that's beautifully explained. Vicky, yeah, separating present feelings from the feelings around the emotion you're working on, the way to do that is to detach from the story and go right to the emotion and not why you have the emotion. Yeah, that's great. Rhonda, yes, good material behind. Thank you, Gina, from Islington for sharing [00:06:00] a powerful experience with the forgiveness process. Yey! So much lighter.
Kris: Awesome.
Christa: That's wonderful, wonderful. Laura Anne in New York, feeling amazing, still processing forgiveness issues but feeling full of hope. Awesome.
Kris: Wonderful.
Christa: Another thing that we're talking about with Tammera before we started is that this isn't a linear process. You might be doing this work for a long time to come. It's not like four weeks to an amazing life. That does not how a human spirit works. [00:06:30] This is why we want you to have these tools, and we'll talk about living The ReCode. Then based upon whatever is happening in your life at the time, you'll have all of these tools and you say, "Okay, this is what is screaming the loudest and this is what I'm going to give attention to and I have the right tool to help myself heal." That's what we want you to be able to do. Ruby, Kris was talking about you earlier.
Christa: She says, I have some questions about the forgiveness [00:07:00] exercise with one person many times. There are multiple incidences. Do I do the forgiveness mantra around each incident with the person or just mesh them all together? A few key people in my life there are incidents. I would take your time and break out the incidents. I think that's what Silva would say, who is the psychologist who put the forgiveness process together. Again, you don't want to get too attached to the story. The incident has to be [00:07:30] on a bullet point. It's like the time my dad yelled at me for this, the time this happened. I think it's important because especially with parents.
Christa: I'm sure you would agree that's the biggest rock. You can't just do a swift forgiveness process on the parents. I would do the incidence. Yeah, Tammera is nodding too. Okay, we are all in agreement. Leila, I went through the process for one of my limiting beliefs. This process really works. [00:08:00] Yes, it does. Such freedom and peace, I feel so wonderful. It makes me so hopeful for the future.
Kris: Wonderful.
Christa: I have chills. You should be very hopeful for the future. Thanks for sharing. Ruby says, I keep having powerful releases and profound insight every time I do the negative emotions, release meditation. I saw you said that in the Facebook group. It's so powerful. Awesome.
Kris: Wonderful.
Christa: Thank you, Kris, for contributing this.
Kris: My pleasure.
Christa: Yeah, letting go of our story. It's [00:08:30] amazing. You see how awareness is the first step because so many of us don't even know we're operating from our story or feeling things from our story. Once you know, then you have a choice to not do that.
Kris: Absolutely.
Christa: Okay. Mary, catching up, almost finished with Module 6, work eased up yesterday and I went at it today. Good. Lots of tissues. See, then you're releasing. You are releasing sadness and grief and then relief getting this far. Thank you for your hard work in putting [00:09:00] this together, it's quite a
body of work. Thank you. Thank you for that, those kind words. Sandy, also lots of tears this week, emotions making their way to the surface. This is great. It's an emotional detox, finding that tightness in my body is fully related to negative emotions. Yes, now aware how trauma from childhood was so traumatic. This is wonderful. What's the best way to start dealing with the trauma?
Kris: Well, you're dealing with it now, [00:09:30] Sandy, by doing this work. The best way is just be patient with yourself, know that this is a process and it takes time. It's not going to just go away after a couple of days or weeks. You've lived with this, dealing with this all of your life especially if this happened to you when you were a child. Be very patient with yourself. You've began the journey and you will get support. I wish you many blessings with this.
Christa: [00:10:00] Throughout this process, Sandy, and you may find that you want to work with Kris privately or you want to work with Tammera privately. We also have other therapists. If you write into customer service and you give a little bit more of a background, we can recommend the right person for you if you want to be able to work privately because it depends. Sometimes you don't even think you had a traumatic childhood. If you're [00:10:30] doing this work and then you get blindsided and shoved and it feels like an avalanche, that's the situation where you may want to have some help because the feelings are so big that you need to be able to release them quicker. All right. Kathy, got very excited when I did the empowering belief section. Wooh!
Kris: Wonderful.
Christa: Yeah. I want to know, who did the empowering beliefs whose done the boundary exercises, all of that? I'm not hearing anything about the presence challenge. I want [00:11:00] to know if you did it. Is that because you didn't do it? Just be honest and let us know. This is the presence queen over here. Kathy, it is so exciting to think of life as I envision. Yes, I'm having a hard time dealing with the following. Okay, P.A. is forcing all residents to get a smart electric meter and I feel like we've backtracked. Yeah, those smart meters are bad. Really had a tough day. [00:11:30] What do you when fight or flight feels maybe correct? I feel totally helpless.
Christa: Well, let's go through the webinar because tonight is about empowerment. We're going to talk about ways that you hold power. I want you to ask this question again after you listened to the webinar. This is a total side note here in California. You can make a big stink about the smart meters. You can pay something like $250 and they'll remove your smart meter and put an analog
back. [00:12:00] There's a lot of these different EMF neutralizers that you can stick on your smart meter. I put them inside to keep all the Wifi and all that close to one place away from veterans and everything. This is good, Kris. This is good because this can happen to a lot. Sandy, I keep having waves of denial trying to push the emotions back down. That's very natural. We'll call it resistance.
Kris: Absolutely, absolutely. Sandy, I would love to talk to you about [00:12:30] this in further detail. I'll be on Facebook answering questions on Thursday from 9:00 to 10:00 Pacific Standard Time. I would like if you could write this in and I'll give you a much more detailed response. This is normal. This is natural. The last thing you want to do is try to push them back down. You want to let them come up and be in a place where you feel safe to be able to do [00:13:00] that. I would like to be able to write in more detail to you. If you can, log on to Facebook on Thursday between 9:00 and 10:00. If that time doesn't work for you, you can send me a private message through Facebook and I'm happy to answer that question for you.
Christa: Or I think it would be helpful if you post it in because everybody is having waves of denial.
Kris: Absolutely.
Christa: If you can't make the time, just tag Kris. That way, everybody can ...
Kris: Yeah, that's great, perfect.
Christa: ... benefit because this entire of The Adrenal ReCode is about [00:13:30] releasing resistance, physically, mentally, emotionally. That's the way to have a good life.
Kris: Yeah, and also you've lived all of your life with the pattern to when an emotion comes up, it's not appropriate to feel it so we stuff it back down. It's normal. You're just going on your patterns that you've lived all your life on. We're asking you to do something different. I'll explain it in more detail through Facebook.
Christa: This was a lot of compensation skills that we've all had to [00:14:00] develop, but we don't need them anymore.
Christa: I like this comment. Emilia says, I'm catching myself on these bad thoughts of release. Very interesting I see it all the time now and that is very natural ...
Kris: Huge.
Christa: ... and necessary. It's a part of the transition process. I'm sure, Tammera, you can speak to this. Do you want to speak to that? When you start to see them when you do your belief work, then it's everywhere. It's like what you wrote like if I ask you to look for everything blue in the room, you're going to see everything blue and you're never going to see anything yellow.
Tammera: [00:14:30] Yeah. I think the first step to change is always awareness. It's good that you're being aware of it and seeing it, because then you can interrupt the pattern and make a new choice in the moment.
Christa: Exactly.
Tammera: An easy way to do that is when that arises like having what's the truth statement, like the truth is and you fill in the blank with your new belief that we'll be covering tonight.
Christa: Yup.
Kris: Wonderful.
Christa: And not [00:15:00] judging yourself. That whole awareness like Tammera said, it's like observing the inner critic when these things come up without judging just, ah, huh, that's happening. Rhonda, it's truly amazing that these emotions get stuck in us from what we repeat to ourselves on the daily as it is.
Kris: We're going to be talking about that tonight in the webinar about our thoughts and how things get stuck.
Christa: Yes. Okay, Jenny is having trouble identifying where in her body she feels her [00:15:30] trapped negative emotion. Can you speak to that?
Christa: I'm having trouble identifying where in my body I can feel a trapped negative emotion.
Kris: That's normal and that's okay. I mean, it's great when you can articulate where in your body you can sense it or you can feel it, that's great. If you can't, that's okay too. If you have an emotion that you know that you feel a negative emotion that's common [00:16:00] to you and that you really are willing to release and you can't find the specific area in your physical body that you need to release it from. You can still do the work, you can release the word, the emotion, and then seal in the positive emotion and you're just fine. Don't get hang up on not knowing exactly where in your physical body is located.
Christa: Great. Jennifer has been working on releasing negative emotions. When I reached resentment, I thought it would be an easy one, but I began to work on it, I almost literally [00:16:30] choked. There was so much pressure in my throat. Since then, I've had two consecutive days with minimal anxiety.
Kris: That's wonderful. Good for you.
Christa: That's a blessing.
Kris: What a brave, brave woman you are.
Christa: Gustavo, I had a realization that my anxiety isn't just mine. Uh-oh, empath, but 57% of my first cousins are dealing with this. I also found out it runs in all my aunts. Does this work dig into generational energy?
Kris: Absolutely, yeah. We're carrying [00:17:00] the emotions from our parents, our grandparents, and so on. There's a ...
Christa: Seven generations back, right?
Kris: Yeah, exactly, seven generations back that we are carrying the burden. If our parents hadn't dealt with it, then they give it to us. We inherit it. You're doing work for generations by healing yourself, you're healing future generations as well.
Christa: That's pretty amazing. Susan Erika, thank you so much. I've been on this self-discovery [00:17:30] journey for 32 years. I'm at a place of letting go perfectionism. I love that. Today has been so awesome. I've had such a
wonderful ReCode day with studying modules and webinars, cooking and baking. Thank you all.
Kris: Wonderful.
Christa: You are so welcome. I'm so glad you're here with us. Okay, let me see. I'm just going to check. Okay, we're going to answer up to Ruby and then we're going to jump in to our presentation. Ms. Monica, I have realized that I've been in adrenal fatigue since a young [00:18:00] child. I feel like I'm meeting a brand new person that is me and I can't wait to meet who I really am with all the crap attached to me from my story. I'm a health practitioner. Think about how many people you're going to help, so excited to help others in a new way from my overflow in the future. That is so beautiful.
Kris: It's beautiful.
Christa: Thank you for sharing, Monica. My story resonates with you. I think probably I've had the same thing. I didn't know what it was like to have a healthy nervous system ever and then all of a sudden, [00:18:30] it feels like you're living a completely different existence. This is fantastic. Mary realized, I realized where my fear and emotions. They're in my chest and throat. My breast cancer risk number is in my thyroid. Wow, that's powerful. It makes sense, a whole different kind of medicine, isn't it?
Kris: Yes, it is.
Christa: Yeah, I have chills. This is seriously deep stuff. Well, Kathy did the presence challenge and it was eye opener and a great [00:19:00] day. Good. Now, can you do that another day, and another day, and another day, and now it's a great life. All right. Ruby, I did empowering beliefs exercise. It's so juicy. It's rarely easy. Right, with persistence, love, and acceptance. It help started on the boundaries we didn't complete. Big stuff. Yeah, I'm excited to talk about boundaries tonight. Ruby loved the presence challenge. Oh, blew my mind.
Kris: Wow.
Christa: Oh, you're resonating with Kris. Okay, I had a huge insight when I tried [00:19:30] to go to yoga, had started rushing, couldn't find my keys, later realized they're in the ignition. Yes. You see, this is great. Checked in and I really wanted to sit by the creek and watch the rain and the rushing wild water. I made a snack and put broth in a thermos, took my huge umbrella and sat on
the rocks next to the creek. It was profound. The river gave me stories and reflected to me.
Kris: Beautiful. That is present moment awareness.
Christa: Yup, earth cleanses what doesn't serve. There's so much to unpack with that. It was huge, ain't that right? You just share all [00:20:00] the deep insight from the presence challenge. Good.
Kris: Wonderful. Good work, Ruby.
Christa: This is sharing enough. Good work. I just want to commend you guys, you are so brave. It's like, you know what, what else is there to do in life? This is the meat of it to this work. You'd be living a real authentic life with full access to yourself, which is why we put this together for you. No more messing around. Human life is finite. [00:20:30] Let's just live it to the fullest extent, and this is the way to do that.
Kris: Yes, it is.
Christa: Okay. Without further ado, we are going to swap our coaches. Tammera is coming in and we're going to dive into Module 7. We are bridging the gap. This is our goal. We're going to bridge the gap with this module from your memorized self to your present self. Then, we're going to do some boundary work that helps us lock this in [00:21:00] because it is not an overnight process as I know, you know. All right, Ms. Tammera, empower us.
Tammera: Empower us. WONDER WOMAN caps on. Just kidding.
Christa: Like it.
Tammera: I'm first going to start with the identifying your empowering beliefs handout. This is where we start to create your present self with more healthy empowered ways to think, act, feel, and be. You're going to use [00:21:30] Kris' release trapped negative emotions exercise where you identified your three positive replacement emotions. You're actually going to be putting that on column two of the belief chart. Examples might be acceptance, confidence, feeling valuable. Then, to reference the present self-belief chart, this is where we're going to start bridging that gap from living [00:22:00] and operating out of our memorized self to being more in our present self. This is where we start to design or map out that recipe of what are the empowering beliefs that I
have, feelings. From that place, what are the actions that I take to get the results that I really want in my life?
Christa: Yup, shifting a whirlpool.
Tammera: Yeah. I'm just going to go through the six steps to [00:22:30] create the belief chart and then both Christa and I will give our present self-examples.
Christa: Yeah. You don't have to remember any of this, I know. We've got a big presentation tonight. This is all in your handouts and it's all printed out. You can print it out. It's all very clear. This just to help you understand where you're headed.
Tammera: Yeah. The first column is about qualities and values, so identifying who is it you really want to [00:23:00] be or another way to say that is what are the values that you want to be grounded in and live from in your life. Cultivating and embodying those qualities and values, and then using your positive emotions in column two, and then column three is thoughts and focus. When you're embodying your qualities and values and feelings, what are the thoughts that then come from [00:23:30] those qualities and feelings? What are the thoughts that you want to put your energy behind? What do you want to be focused on?
Tammera: Because it's that camera lens shifts like if we're on anger or anxiety, the camera lens focuses in on that with the memorized self. Now, we're using a different camera lens that will help us focus in that desired direction. Then, [00:24:00] beliefs. In the identifying your empowering beliefs, there's an examples of empowering beliefs for both love, safety, and belonging, and also self-value and self-worth or self-esteem. Those are just examples. You can use them if they resonate for you or just use them as inspiration to create your own belief statements because what they truly need to do is resonate for you and have juice for you. [00:24:30] Then, from that, we'll go into column five, which is our behaviors and our actions. When you're embodying your qualities and feelings and beliefs, what are the behaviors or actions that you take when you're in that state of being?
Christa: It's really manifestation 101. As you're filling it out, you wanted to imagine that you're feeling like the way you want to feel and what would you do feeling that way versus another way.
Tammera: [00:25:00] Yeah. Now, probably backtrack and another way when we're thinking about qualities and focus, another way to turn that camera lens is with an
empowering question. Let's say one of my values and qualities that I want to live is love. Way to do a pattern interrupt or focus is what would love think right now or what would love focus on right now. Or if it's courage, how [00:25:30] would courage respond in this moment?
Christa: I love that.
Tammera: Those are ideas for behaviors and actions. Then, the last one is ReCoded results. Embodying those qualities and feelings and behaviors, what are the results that you create and experience in your life? Or what are the new possibilities that open up for you? What I also want to say about this is sometimes you can have the same results like if you're like a high [00:26:00] performance achiever and you get great results from your memorized self, sometimes the results that you want to get, you can actually put down in this column. The energy behind it is going to be totally different. Rather than being filled from mine was hypervigilance fixing myself all the time and shifting it into really embodying self-worth and self-love, the energy behind it is going to be different so I don't get exhausted.
Christa: Yes, exactly, [00:26:30] so you still get positive results. There's positive energy going into those positive results. Yeah, great.
Tammera: I'll just go through one of my examples, and this is a live belief chart, you can upgrade it. You just want to probably start with three qualities to start with. The ones I chose were authenticity, love and compassion, and I most want to feel in my life, wholeness, love, authenticity and freedom. Sometimes they can be the same, but not always. [00:27:00] Somebody might have a value of adventure, but that's not really a feeling. Sometimes they might overlap, not always. Then, focus on thoughts. What do I focus on and think about to feel these feelings? Because I actually choose to focus on acceptance of those parts of me versus dismissing them or discounting them.
Tammera: Then, I choose to think and affirm my qualities, traits, things that are my gifts. [00:27:30] Then also, I choose to notice maybe where are those places where I do feel safe to just be my authentic self and feel that peace in my body and safety, and noticing those times. Then, ReCoded beliefs is I am always growing, expanding and evolving and whole in this moment versus that fixing energy. I'm lovable and I am enough. Everything I do and say [00:28:00] is okay. Then, let's see here.
Christa: I think we have a slight mishap. For number five ...
Tammera: Column five is the ReCoded behaviors and actions. When I'm actually embodying these qualities, values, feelings, and thoughts, and beliefs, and [00:28:30] actually show up more open and allowing versus contained and rigid and controlling. I actually trust myself more and I allow myself to share more of who I am and be voluntarily vulnerable when I want to share what I feel. Then, ReCoded results. When I'm embodying these beliefs and behaviors, what I create from this space is actually more authentic, intimate, real relationships with people [00:29:00] that I actually trust. I am more honest because I love myself and actually I show up as more of a trustworthy person because I'm more authentic.
Tammera: I'm better at setting healthier boundaries for myself and actually communicating those boundaries with respect and love. I have more energy and vitality for the things that are important to me. It's a more natural energy versus coming from that hustling from my worthiness energy and pushing energy.
Christa: [00:29:30] You embody all of this.
Tammera: Thank you. All right, you're on, girl.
Christa: We have a couple of exercise in here. Guys, I was thinking it might be helpful as you're filling this out if you haven't yet, you definitely want to look at your original memorized self. Also, you may want to print out the examples of the memorized self and then print out the examples that we have of our present self. You can draw that bridge, help you draw [00:30:00] the bridge for yourself. If you remember, my limiting belief was I have to do everything by myself. I shared with you really intensely what that created in my life. I did this work and then life is really completely different. It's like, okay, well, what are the qualities and the values and the traits that I want to live by?
Christa: I want that to be authenticity, grounded, strong. What [00:30:30] are the feelings that I want to feel? When you think of I have to do it all by myself, the opposite feelings of those are support, safety, relaxation, connection, and joy, it totally flips the script. I'm going to say, it totally flipped the script for me in terms of experience of life. What am I focusing on and what am I thinking about to be able to feel those feelings that I wanted to feel? [00:31:00] Well, I
started to choose to notice all the places and all the ways I'm supported, the ways I'm connected to myself and others and my higher power. The module mantra from 6 is what we focus on expense. That is very true here.
Christa: You start focusing. I started to understand that my friends and family and neighbors, they love and support me and Austin. Diva was my dog. This was really amazing. [00:31:30] When I wrote out the focus and thoughts, I received their help graciously and it provides greater love, connection, belonging, and feelings. I'm just going to tell you, I'm diverging a little here but Austin turned one on Saturday, my son. We had a birthday party for him. Kris was here and all the neighbors were here. I just looked around and all the closest people to him that have been so crucial in helps me with Diva and helps me, usher me into motherhood. I was like, [00:32:00] wow.
Christa: It was like the revolved belief personified in real life. I am so supported. That old belief having to do it by myself, it is obliterated. That's where we want to get to you so that you are looking around in living color and your life is your empowering belief. I know that I'm safe. I know that I can relax. I know that all is well even if I'm still dealing with external [00:32:30] stressors. Repeating the mantra, any time something happen that could be scary, things happen for me, not to me. If you perceive something is bad happens, you can find silver lining and you can shift it. Trust that everything no matter what is occurring for my highest invest good and that the best part of my life is unfolding.
Christa: That recoded or desired belief is helpful and supportive to relax. Because remember, thinking you have to do it all by yourself [00:33:00] makes you put yourself into complete overdrive, drives you into adrenal fatigue, thyroid dysfunction, creates the anxiety and the insomnia. When you give yourself permission to be supported and to relax, you get a completely different physiological response. Then, recoded or desired behaviors or actions, so what do I do now that I've revolved this belief? I asked for help I need. It used to be hard for me to do that. I asked for support when I need it. I take the time to go to yoga class instead of working through [00:33:30] it.
Christa: My old self would be like, I don't have time. I have to get this done. I don't do that anymore. I'm open to miracles from the unseen world. I can see beauty all around me just like Ruby was saying, sitting at the creek. You're able to be more present and experience more joy in the small moments because that's what life is, a series of small moments. Feeling more grateful. Gratitude is the grand neutralizer to stress and adrenaline and to be able to feel more alive and grateful [00:34:00] and connected, and then see what type of high
integrity, authentic, strong, and grounded people that you attract into your life. That's really happened for me and then to be able to perpetuate that feeling.
Christa: Of course, you can sleep easier and deeper and wake up happier and more refreshed. That doesn't mean your life is perfect. You're always going to sleep perfect. This is what happens as a result of doing this work. Feel taken care of by myself first and foremost, know [00:34:30] what I need and receive it even if that means setting boundaries with other's request which we're going to talk about next. You can be okay with letting go of people in your life whose energy doesn't match yours. That definitely happen for me and my circle shrank. It went much deeper. I wouldn't have it any other way. What are the recoded beliefs?
Christa: With these empowering beliefs and feelings, what are these desired results? Well, I can attract a partner who gives [00:35:00] what I give, a true life partner that offers the same positive qualities I give. I wouldn't accept anything less. Mutual support, respect, and admiration and all of my relationships. Every interaction becomes this beautiful figure eight of giving and receiving in a natural flow. That leads to true intimacy. It's a little redundant, but clear authentic and real relationships and a rock solid sense of community, that has totally [00:35:30] flipped the script if I have to do everything by myself. Then, there's confidence. There's strength. There's energy.
Christa: We're going to talk about this abundance and unlike in unstoppable manifestation to live life purposely without hesitation. For me, this can lead to self-actualization and financial freedom if you're just living that highest expression of yourself. We will take questions. It's [00:36:00] okay. We'll take questions afterwards on your empowering beliefs. If you have anything there, Tammera will help you revolve your belief chart and answer any questions on those. I really think such a key part of getting where you want to go, being able to establish healthy boundaries. For empaths, it's probably the most important thing because it doesn't just happen.
Christa: You don't just fill out your belief chart and then you're living it. In order to live your life as your present self [00:36:30] with the feelings and the qualities that you identified in your present self-belief chart, you have to be able to establish and hold healthy boundaries for yourself. You can look at this as another way when we talked in Module 5 about the right accountability and took the accountability quiz. We said we want to get into the middle, which is an expression of integrity, establishing healthy boundaries probably the number one best tool for those who are on the right side of the continuum.
Christa: The people pleasers, the perfectionists, [00:37:00] the codependence, the empaths, this is such important work for you that will change your experience of life. This is a way to have parameters, an intelligent, compassionate, and fierce way. That's an expression of integrity for you. We're going to talk about what it means to claim your power. Kris is going to talk about that next, because then you will embody this present self. Now, doing [00:37:30] these things combined with the clinical and the emotional mastery work in The ReCode, that's going to create this inherent safety in your nervous system that is what's going to allow you to live a ReCoded life in a way that you don't go back.
Christa: You are going to be the protector of your own peace and joy. That's what establishing healthy boundaries is about. When you can trust yourself to that degree, that will lock in a quite nervous system state for you. [00:38:00] I'm going to go through the exercises quickly because they're laid out very well in your handout. There's charts that go with them which will make them make a little bit more sense. In order to get to the place where we can start to learn how to establish healthy boundaries, this is going to be an ongoing practice for many of you for years. It's just saying yes to the work. Saying yes to a no.
Christa: You're going to download your boundary exercise for those of you who haven't already. You're going to [00:38:30] look back again without judgment and list the last 5 or 10 times that you said yes to a no. Somebody ask you for something, you were tired, you didn't want to do it, you didn't have the money to give or didn't want to loan something of yours but you did it to be nice, just list those. It could be you wanted someone to take off their shoes in your house, but you didn't want to ask them. It could be really those little simple things. [00:39:00] This boundary exercise that I interviewed Dr. Silva before I put it together for you because I wanted to get to what was underneath of it.
Christa: Dr. Silva who put together the forgiveness process, she's a doctor of psychoneurology and she said that basically whenever we say yes to a no or we don't have the capacity to stand up for ourselves or command respect, it's totally different than trying to demand it. Commanding it by holding power [00:39:30] in your being. Whenever we do that, she says, "Okay, we have to understand that there's a need behind that. We made this decision we have a need." What could that need be? Our three main motivators for doing things that are not good for us, so we either have a need for love, approval or appreciation which is why we started with the belief work.
Christa: As you can see, there's many layers. You're going to see where the limiting beliefs come up here again with the boundary [00:40:00] work and why we need to look at this again with a different lens in order to move forward in a lasting way. Boundary exercise two is going to look at your emotional need. You'll go back to those 5 or 10 situations that you listed and you're going to say, "Huh, okay, so I did this because I wanted love. I did that because I wanted approval. I did this because I wanted appreciation." Think about like people will sign up for conferences that are thousands of dollars out of a need for approval.
Christa: They will do really [00:40:30] things that are so far outside of the realm of what's good for them out of a need for appreciation. It makes a major negative impact in their life. Just look at this, just look at it without judgment for yourself and go back to your tools that Tammera has taught you in the Byron Katie work of the inquiry practice, just inquiry and observation without judgment. Then, of course, Kris would say we've got to somatically release [00:41:00] these from the body. We're going to revisit each situation and you're going to look at those 5 to 10 things on your list. What happens is neuropathways, they get formed over a long period of time.
Christa: We want to be able to create new neuropathways with the same type of somatic release or releasing it from the body. You'll go through an exercise where you're dropping out of the mind into the body with breath, you'll list those same situations again. You're going to notice [00:41:30] where you feel the trigger in your body, how does it affect you in your body when you say yes to a no and you'll write that down. You're going to use these new found skills from Kris by releasing these trapped negative emotions and then you will replace it with self-love, self-approval, or self-value, or appreciation.
Christa: This is going to be really powerful to help change your being so you don't have to attract situations that basically cause you to betray yourself because that's what it [00:42:00] is when we don't have enough boundaries. We're betraying ourselves. You're going to write your new responses. Now you've released the negative emotion, now you're filled with the self-love approval, self-appreciation, imagine you get a second chance. How would you lay a boundary different? You're going to list that out. You're going to basically rewrite your story. Then, we have to go back. We introduce the concept of energy vampires with that wonderful podcast dodging energy vampires in Module 5.
Christa: [00:42:30] We have to go back and look and do a little bit of an energy vampire analysis in our life. This relates to all of us because energy vampires are real but especially those of us who are empaths and extremely sensitive. There's going to be a table in your handout. You will make a list of everyone you spend time with and list if you feel tired, drained or spacy afterwards. We're just talking before the webinar. If you go in to a lunch or you go in to a vacation or something and you're feeling [00:43:00] excited, and happy, and present, and ready, and within 30 minutes all of a sudden you feel like you need to pass out on their couch, that's a sign you're in the presence of an energy vampire even if what's going on on the surface is they're offering you drinks, they sound like they're in a positive mood.
Christa: It's energy and that's bigger. It's bigger than what's happening, what people are saying. Their energy precedes them. You will close your eyes and you'll take a deep breaths, try to drop into a meditative state and just [00:43:30] look objectively at each relationship and see what it's reflecting to you. We're talking about the major relationships in your life and ask yourself, do you use your voice to express what is right for you? Just put yes or no, and then ask yourself if you need more detachment. Detachment is the secret sauce in setting boundaries and in personal accountability because your job is to be able to detach, do what's right for you and let go of the outcome.
Christa: In your interactions [00:44:00] with this person or these people, do you feel you need more detachment? Put a yes or no. Again, this will make a lot more sense when you see the whole thing printed out. You're going to ReCode your way of operating away from definitely people pleasers. We've got this what's good for you is good for me. The yes comes out of our mouth before they even finished asking us the question. We don't even get a chance to think does that work for me. Giving when we don't have the desire or capacity to give is not [00:44:30] a kind thing to do. That people pleasing, it comes from a weak place, it comes from a lack of self-awareness and self-approval.
Christa: It injects toxic energy into a relationship for both people. We really need to own our part in that. This is, again, where we get to release victimhood. You can release victimhood, you can release anger, and you get to get to that place of right accountability. You're going to work on [00:45:00] saying yes over this next couple of weeks. I want you to work on saying yes only when it's a yes because when you say yes to a no, it's a no to you. That puts us in the opposite direction of empowerment. When you do that, your immune system gets weaker. Boundary exercise five is going to be saying yes only when it's a yes.
Christa: You're going to fill into each of the situations and the relationships you listed in the exercise and then you're going to notice where [00:45:30] you have felt out of integrity with yourself and ended up getting mad at the other person for crossing your boundaries. Because remember, when you blame others, you give up your power to change. If you can really notice this, it will absorb so many negative feelings and maybe you do another forgiveness process for yourself and you correct and continue and you start setting boundaries. When you've revolved your situation, our last boundary exercise is this is going to enable you [00:46:00] to go back and reclaim your power in those instances.
Christa: Starting with a clean slate, you'll be mindful in the future. I want you to be mindful of setting boundaries in the moment if you can. If not, we're going to talk about that too that you can continually build your confidence and self-respect. It's going to be like a muscle that you build and then you're going to trust yourself in such a different way and that's going to create so much safety for you. Doing this in your daily life, step one, make a list of circumstances [00:46:30] in your ReCode journal that come up. A lot of times whenever we say yes to something, people who said, "I said yes to The ReCode and all this stuff came up for me."
Christa: You're saying yes, you're probably, if you're going to commit to the boundary work, the universe is going to give you opportunities to set boundaries. People might come out of the woodwork over the next 7 to 14 days pressing those boundaries because you have to practice. You say, "Great, thank you." For those of us that aren't used to saying no, we can't just flat [00:47:00] out say no in the moment. Write these statements down and use them over the next seven days. I really want to hear. I'm going to start the webinar next week with what happened here. You can say, "Thanks for asking but not right now. Thanks for asking, I'll consider that and get back to you.
Christa: I'll get back to you within 24 hours. Let me think about it." These types of things because we can't just say no if we're used to being a yes person. Understand that these exercises, [00:47:30] they're going to relate ... The boundary exercises, they relate to how you use your time. How you use your time partially dictates your energy, and your energy is what dictates your health. There's going to be step three to this, you're going to list three to five situations that are currently in your life giving you the opportunity to practice healthy boundaries and use the above information to use your voice and your personal power to speak up for what you need in a way [00:48:00] that is kind and compassionate yet firm.
Christa: Sometimes the pendulum swings the opposite way when we do this work. We can come across crass or rude or ... I've seen that too because we're so overprotective doing this work. It's that fine balance of how can you be kind and compassionate yet firm. Kris is going to help with that because I think the most powerful cohesive thing is how do you hold power in your being. [00:48:30] This is important. This changed my life with personal accountability, not taking things personally or being attached to the opinions of others. I am fully able to communicate my boundaries. If I do it in a kind and compassionate yet firm way and someone is hurt by it, that's their stuff.
Christa: Let them deal with their own, it doesn't belong to you. If you didn't do it in a kind way, then that's [00:49:00] partially your stuff. Play with this over the next seven days. You're my responsibility, speak your truth with integrity. Be brave. Before we meet, I want you to at least set one boundary in a meaningful way prior to we meet again. You're going to journal about the process before, during, and after and how it made you feel. Every next level of your life will [00:49:30] demand a different you. You're here because you want to be the next level of your life on all levels. I'm going to let Kris talk about what that means to hold power as we say.
Kris: Okay. This is very exciting topic. Let's go to the next slide here. All right, so we use the word holding power versus drained of power. I think most of us here have felt drained of power in our lives in many different circumstances. What we want you to [00:50:00] learn how to do is to hold power. To carry yourself emotionally in an energetic way that allows you to respond to life rather than to react to it, but we respond with presence, confidence, and speaking what is true for you in the moment. The key here is being in the moment, being present. This is something that it's taken me many, many years to learn how to do to not [00:50:30] instantly react coming from a family of I call them nuclear reactors.
Kris: It was something happened or I interacted with something and it was just some massive reaction, but slowing down being present and responding to a situation rather than to reacting to it. That's when you're holding your power. Yeah, you don't react. You're strong and steady or feeling of strength [00:51:00] and steadiness in your being. The way you do that is you see the other person in situation for who and what they are. You try to understand another person's capacity and maturity or lack thereof in order to respond from a place of measured power. You do this without judgment. Drop the shoulds and the shouldn'ts. They should be this way or they shouldn't have done something like
that. Respond to them in a place of measured power in the present [00:51:30] moment.
Christa: Can I interject?
Kris: Absolutely.
Christa: On that vein, it's so compassionate to try to understand another person's capacity or maturity. I remember having a friend. She said, "Listen, you can expect a five-year-old to communicate on an eight-year-old's level. If you can understand where the person you're dealing with, you need to meet them where they are when you're doing this work of holding power. An eight-year-old has [00:52:00] to come down to a five-year-old's level." You're thinking of it about that way of just meeting people where they are.
Kris: Right, very good. I love that. When you get really good at holding power, you don't react within your physiology which is the ultimate way to recode and keep your nervous system healthy. You stop the fight or flight response. Instead, you develop skills to respond with detachment. Now, that doesn't mean that you're not feeling, you don't detach and you have no more feelings. [00:52:30] You detach from the situation and you don't take offense. It's not about you necessarily and that's the empowered place to make choices from. This means that there is very little story or memorized beliefs in your view of the situation and your decision to respond.
Kris: You accept that the person you are working with is just doing what they are there to do and you don't get hooked or triggered. You don't take it personally. The boundary work will [00:53:00] help you with this tremendously, definitely will. Having strong boundaries is a key to holding power. You drop expectations and judgments of others. When we do this, the other will sense it and quite possibly respond differently. It won't be presented as so much of a challenges to you. There's I call it the domino effect. When we change the way we respond to life than life changes. It works that way. People around you won't trigger you as much and then hold your power.
Christa: It will neither improve [00:53:30] their relationship or if it's not a relationship you need like with an energy vampire and you keep setting boundaries. They'll have to go find their supply elsewhere. Either way, it's ...
Kris: Yes, you're not a food source anymore for them.
Kris: Yeah, absolutely. This is really important. The level you get hooked in and react is exactly where your work lies. Use the triggers as opportunities for evolution. If you're triggered, this is where you need inquiry. This is where you need slow [00:54:00] down and do the inquiry. You may also use a mental do over. How could I have done this differently? Those are all really important too. The next exercise, the awareness exercise, we want you to list all the ways that you feel that you have given away your power in the past. Some example are thinking others are better or smarter than you, doubting yourself and comparing yourself to others. I [00:54:30] should be more like this person or that person. Putting undue pressure on yourself. Again, the shoulds here, I shouldn't have done this or I should have done this. Drop your shoulds and the shouldn'ts.
Christa: I just want to say this, we have such a culture of compare and despair things to social media and they perfect Instagram picture. If you're feeling like that, a social media detox is an amazing thing to do. Take four or six weeks or do it twice [00:55:00] a year if you are a person that goes on social media a lot and it makes you feel bad when you get off. You have to stay on Facebook so you can hang out with us throughout The ReCode, but only use it for that. Don't go through your newsfeed.
Kris: Yeah, it's hard. Doing what the outside is dictating, I just want to go back to that really quickly. Doing or being or acting the way you think others expect you to act, that's a way to give away your power. Allowing negative emotions to control you, allowing them to unconsciously control [00:55:30] you. Now, we want you to list all the ways that you do hold your power if you can think in the past how you do hold your power, how you stand in your power. Taking care of your physical body, that's a huge one and which is what you're doing in this ReCode, putting yourself first. Putting yourself first is not selfish.
Kris: Putting yourself first is feeding yourself so that you can be stronger to feed others. Being selfish [00:56:00] is putting yourself first to cut off the energy for everybody else. Putting yourself first is key. Being gentle and patient with yourself. We're all a work in progress, being realistic with what you can accomplish based on your energy levels and life situation. Again, that's putting yourself first. Be realistic on what you can get done. Saying yes to yourself first. Checking in before responding. Having that pause, just [00:56:30] saying the yes to a no, if you can just pause even if it's just briefly rather than going on autopilot and saying yes, having that boundary and pausing, checking in, and slowing down like Christa was just talking about technology.
Kris: We're moving at the speed of light. We have information at our fingertips. Oftentimes, we move, we feel like we've got to keep up with this technology. We've got to keep up in life and we move so fast [00:57:00] the speed of light. That doesn't leave room for grounding, and grounding is a huge way to hold your power by consciously grounding, doing visualizations to ground yourself on a regular basis. That is a huge way to hold your power and to slow down.
Christa: I had a friend say to me once, "Rushing is an act of self-violence."
Kris: That's great.
Christa: Think about that. When you're creating space for yourself, it's like, yeah, [00:57:30] you don't. You want to ask yourself, am I giving away my power, do I always run 5 to 10 minutes late, do I push it, that type of thing. These were all micro ways that you can really support yourself. The other thing I want to say is, so couple times a year I delete the apps from my phone, Facebook and Instagram. I've deleted them from my phone now for the next month or so. I was just telling a friend about this the other night and then I caught up with him last night and he said, "Hey, listen, you inspired me [00:58:00] and I deleted those two apps from my phone. My screen time on my phone," because your phone tells you screen time, he goes, "It went from four hours to two hours. I have two extra hours in my day ...
Kris: That's awesome.
Christa: ... by deleting those apps to not go through that time slack."
Kris: That's awesome. I love it. I love it. Okay, all right. Holding power steps. We put this in a nice order for you to help you move through it. I would say, actually, becoming conscious [00:58:30] and present, pulling yourself into the present moment, breathing slowly and deeply and then going into the situation that has a potential to trigger you. Again, slow down. Say a prayer for protection. This is really, really powerful. When we ask for help from the unseen world, we get it. We're sovereign beings here on planet Earth. When we actually call [00:59:00] for protection, a real powerful energy opens up for us to be able to go forth with protection and power.
Kris: Send love and light from your heart to create the highest and best outcome before you get there. May the best possible outcome be manifest for all involved. When I remember to say that, may the best possible outcome be manifest for all involved, it always does, it always does. It's very, very powerful.
[00:59:30] Visualize the outcome you want to see, how you want to feel and hold power in the situation. Then, most importantly, let it go. Let it go. I want you to say that. When all else fails, fake it until you make it. It's a lot about memory, creating memory patterns and then living it. I had a situation in my life, I won't go into detail about it.
Kris: I use this mantra, fake it until you make it. It actually works. Before you know it, I was doing [01:00:00] it and I was not having to fake it. Yeah, doing the simple five-minute process centers you and diminishes the hook. We get hooked and that knocks us off our feet. We're certainly not in our power when we get knocked off our feet. Of course, in miracles, what an incredible, incredible book. I read this years ago. I love this quote, "The thoughts you hold are mighty and illusions are as strong in their effects [01:00:30] as the truth." It also explains if you hope to spare yourself from fear, there are some things you must realize and realize fully. The mind is very powerful.
Kris: It never loses its creative force. It never sleeps. We are being thought, this is coming up that we are being thought just like we digest. It never sleeps. Every instant it is creating, it is hard to recognize that thought and belief [01:01:00] combine into a power surge that can literally move mountains. There are no idle thoughts, all thinking produces form at some level. Notice your thoughts become conscious move from a thinking to being, a place of thinking, constantly thinking to being. We do that by being in the present moment. Know how [01:01:30] to access your power, recognize where you have been creating a place of powerlessness based upon ingrained thought process of waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Kris: That's anxiety. How many of us are in this habit of just things are going okay and our life are pretty good and we're just waiting for the other shoe to drop. That's anxiety. That's not living in the present moment. That's living in the future. We have no power in the future. [01:02:00] If you are powerful enough to create chaos and powerlessness through your thoughts, worries, and visualizations, you are powerful enough to create the opposite effect. It seems like it's more natural to create these worries and powerlessness. We are able to do that. We sure as heck are able to create the opposite. [01:02:30] Choose to stand in your own power with the following steps.
Kris: Choose to focus on something other than your story or the lies we tell ourselves. We're so wrapped up in our stories, so many of us are. Find something to be grateful for every day. Gratitude neutralizes fear. Gratitude which goes to number three automatically puts us in the present moment. When we drop our story and we just focus on what we're grateful for, it
[01:03:00] immediately will put us in the present moment. List your choices. What are my choices in this present moment for stepping into my power? Meditate or get quiet or write and ask to make a decision from your higher self and for your highest and best good. Again, this is all about slowing down.
Kris: Make the choice that is best for you no matter who might be upset with your choice be [01:03:30] the truth always creates the right reality even if it create some hurt feelings or shock upon initiation. This goes back to being in the place of self-first. When you are in self-first, you feed yourself and others will sense this. Even if they are upset with your choices in the moment, their energy will shift to match yours. If it doesn't, then they will fall off, fall out [01:04:00] of your universe.
Christa: Those of you who are unattached romantically, think about how much time and energy this can save you in your dating life.
Kris: Very true, very true. All right, this is a wonderful excerpt from the Dao De Jing. It says, "The great way is easy, yet people prefer the side paths. Side paths are getting trapped in thought. [01:04:30] Be aware when things are out of balance. Stay centered within the Dao." The Dao in this sense means harmony with what is.
Christa: Loving what is.
Kris: Loving what is, yes. We have forgotten who we really are and it is our mission to wake up and claim our power, and with that comes unimaginable gifts and glory.
Christa: Amen.
Kris: This is what you guys are doing. You are waking up to who you are.
Christa: [01:05:00] Our ReCode Mantra for Module 7 is, what's the best that can happen? Start asking yourself that. What's the best that can happen? Now, we're coming back to you. What we're going to do ...
Kris: To Tammera?
Christa: We're going to do another hot seat switch, yes. Tammera is going to come in and answer questions on the empowering belief. We're coming back ... or [01:05:30] big. Hi. Hi. We're back. That was a lot that we just shared with you. We just want to hear questions, comments, concerns, those of you who already
started doing your empowered beliefs, how can you share your experience that can help those who haven't started, what are the questions there. You can also ask questions on the boundaries. [01:06:00] Let's see. Okay, and we have a little bit of a time lag here. There we go. Nancy says, you mentioned that being late is connected to powerlessness, how so?
Christa: You have the power to be on time where you can show up calm and clear and grounded and enjoy your drive and your thoughts collected because power comes from presence. Or you can be late [01:06:30] and you can feel rushed. You can feel hurried and that can activate your sympathetic nervous system. You show up with a completely different kind of energy. It's hard on you. It's also hard on the other person and whatever meeting or wherever you're showing up. It's not always the greatest thing. Let me know if that makes sense. All right, yeah. Ruby says, I love hearing from everyone on the webinar. Yeah, thank you for all [01:07:00] your sharing. It's a beautiful part. Mckayla ... Oh, hang on.
Christa: Before we get there, Ruby jumped in first. Ruby, where can I find more info about carrying trauma for seven generations? Wow. Why don't you and Kris pick up that discussion on the Facebook group on Thursday? She's really good with that. When you do this kind of healing work, you can heal seven generations back and heal for seven generations forward. We're talking about shape shifting, dimension [01:07:30] shifting here. Mckayla, I'm having trouble with the present moment exercise. We may have you jump in here, Kris. How do you recommend staying present when dealing with a major life stressor? I recently found that my company is closing and I won't have a job soon. I'm worried about paying my mortgage and obsessively looking for jobs and worried about the future. Any advice?
Kris: Okay.
Christa: Okay, sorry for all the ...
Kris: No. Yeah, that's a tough one. That's tough when you're in a situation [01:08:00] like that that creates a lot of worry. The thing is, is be patient with yourself. You are going through a big life change. You just take little snippets. At this point, just take it little snippets. Try to detach yourself because it is ... I mean, I know it's happening but it is a story. You have a lot of fears about the future, but the future is not here. The future is in the future and things may or may not happen. We [01:08:30] have no control over that. If you can develop a sense of presence in this moment regardless of what's happening around you, what
happens is it's very interesting and it's actually quite miraculous. Because I've been in a similar situation ...
Christa: She told the story last week on the webinar where she was moving towards financial hardship, extreme financial hardship, lose her house, and the presence is what she did it for her.
Kris: [01:09:00] Instead of focusing on all the things that I could be terrified about, and I had many, I chose at that moment, it was a brave choice but I chose to focus on gratitude in that moment right then because I'm not promised the next minute and I can't build a time machine and go in the past, but focus on that in that moment. What happened was, I felt a glimmer. It started off as just a slight glimmer of peace and then it began to grow. Then, of course, [01:09:30] I'd go throughout my day and I'd be worried about this, that or the other thing. Then, I would still exercise. It's an exercise, it really is. It's like a physical exercise, mental, emotional, physical exercise.
Kris: Bring myself back into that center place of gratitude. What happened was, the miraculous thing that happened was, is that peace began to grow. My outward life started shifting. More opportunity started coming in. More money started coming in. More business opportunities [01:10:00] for my husband came in, job opportunities, and so on and so forth. That little glimmer of peace that I was feeling when I brought myself into the present moment grew exponentially throughout the days, weeks, months, and so on. Just when you're feeling that panicked feeling, just practice bringing yourself right into the present moment. There's always something to be grateful for no matter where you are in life. I hope that answers your question.
Christa: I think, yeah. I think that helps a lot. I just want to give [01:10:30] you a different perspective from my own life too. Because I think this is really the nitty-gritty. This is your inner recode and you've been given an opportunity where you can give in to fear and you can backtrack. Or you can move forward into love. What's the best that can happen? Do the work. Do your empowering beliefs. Start to work through the fear and what helped me, so a similar situation, a life stressor. Here I was, filed for divorce and a restraining [01:11:00] order. I'm pregnant. Divorce attorney is saying, "He's going to try to take you for everything and he's never going to feed that kid the way you wanted." Fear, fear, fear.
Christa: You've got to find a way to connect to your higher self, to do a meditation, get in your emotional elevator, rise above the energy of fear and intimidation because it's a low vibration energy. Get yourself to a higher vibration of love
and peace and where you want to be. I'll tell you, within a couple of months of [01:11:30] going through this, my life situation wasn't different. I'm still dealing with a maniac, but I was able to be able to be joyful and at peace and feel happier than I have felt in so long. I don't know how it's all going to shake up. In some ways, I still don't know how it's going to shake out. I can trust. I can travel up that elevator.
Christa: If a trigger comes, I can feel the trigger and then I get to choose. Do I want to detach? When the fear comes, that's your trigger, the [01:12:00] fear of poverty, the fear of paying your mortgage. Don't allow yourself to go down all the way to the worst case scenario or at least allow yourself to go to the best case scenario. Because what's real? Whatever you give power to is real.
Kris: You can't argue with what is. That's where we get into a lot of misery. It's like this is happening and I don't want it to happen, and so I'm going to resist and I'm going to argue with what is. If we can surrender to the situation because when we're powerless, there's nothing [01:12:30] really we can do to change it. The only thing we have left is gratitude. I'm telling you, miracles happen and it will exponentially grow if you can stay in the present moment.
Christa: Right. How is this from my highest and best? Did you like that job? Was that job for your highest and best good? Maybe you couldn't make the decision to leave, so the universe made the decision for you. Now what's the best that could happen? Say thank you. Kris, I think you posted the guesthouse. I posted the ...
Kris: Yes, you did.
Christa: I posted it and maybe [crosstalk 01:12:59].
Kris: Then [01:13:00] Ruby posted it.
Christa: Yeah, Ruby reposted it. Look at Rumi's guest house like welcome whoever they are. You're talking about emotions. Even if there are crowd of sorrows, they are here to sweep your house empty of its furniture. They're clearing you out for a new way.
Kris: Right, something new.
Christa: It's really a perspective shift. I hope that this can apply to all of you no matter what's going on because life can be intense for all of us. You know what, we're going to choose to be happy anyway. Bring it and we'll be happy anyway.
Christa: Yeah. [01:13:30] Nancy, thank you. That's been a lifelong struggle with time. That's what I mean. That's why I brought it up because I think sometimes we're thinking boundary situations, we've got to make a crazy phone call to some relative of her. It's like we're not asking for those things. We're looking for these micro moments. Being late is something ... It's a micro moment and it's a way to establish boundaries within yourself and hold power within yourself before you have to start doing this with other people. Jenny want [01:14:00] to talk about it too. Okay, back to being late. Is this self-sabotage of some sort?
Christa: I certainly don't want to be recognized as I'm an introvert, so I don't do it for attention. I definitely wouldn't think that being late is doing it for attention. It could be a whole number of things. I can't answer what it is for you a self-sabotage. It could be a way of being kind to yourself like I'm going to give myself an extra 10 minutes. For me, when I was late, it was because I'm so productivity oriented, [01:14:30] I wanted to get one more thing done, that type of a thing. I also hated waiting. I don't want to get there early. There wasn't a self-sabotage thing but it's like, hey, I want respect and I want to be respected and being on time. It's the way I respect myself and respect the other person. I don't know that we need to dive into it or create a story around it. Okay, hi.
Tammera: Hi.
Christa: You guys are just playing music, a chance tonight.
Tammera: Next.
Christa: [01:15:00] Okay. Mary says, do some people feel negative feelings or negative physical issues after some of these emotional work? Should we be making physical or dietary changes at the same time? Do you want to start with that? I can jump in too or no? Kris, I'll just jump in. Yes. When I have done this belief system work and the awakening and I did a ... Somebody asked about ... What is that called? The landmark. I said, "Oh no, there is more [01:15:30] heart centered ways to remove your false personality or the memorized self." I'll tell you, my body has never been in greater pain. It was only two or three days.
Christa: As you're releasing these negative emotions and you're starting to remove the goggles and realize the truth of the situation, it's temporary. Yes, you can go through some type of physical pain. You know what, I would suggest for the dietary changes or to go towards healthy comfort foods. The ReCode is a really
good program [01:16:00] for that. Don't eat raw food. Eat cooked, grounding, warming, nourishing food. You many need a little more carbohydrates. You may need to have a plate of pasta, make it be a healthy pasta or something like that to feel like a little bit of a soothing balm. Let's see here. Susan Erika, how do we bring this together with the law of attraction, the secret being in reality and acceptance of the now and [01:16:30] thinking good thoughts? You can let me know if you want to jump in. You want to jump into that?
Tammera: Go ahead. I'll take a moment to think about it though.
Christa: Ms. Susan Erika, the law of attraction and the secret, that's the idea of manifestation. It's similar. The belief system work is similar because we're having you feel the emotions that you want to feel. We talked about claiming your power can be faking it until you make it. [01:17:00] It's like, hey, maybe I don't have anything to be grounded and joyful in this about. Going to just what it feels like, what you feel like to be joyful, what you feel like to be abundant. Mckayla, if you're worried about money, what it feels like. That's like the eliminating belief so much of creating a new life is feeling your way into it. In a lot of ways, I think that the empowering belief work is very similar to the law of attraction except it follows a [01:17:30] much more pointed practical approach. Would you say?
Tammera: Yeah.
Christa: Okay. Anything else you want to add to that?
Tammera: What I'm wondering if she's curious about is feeling the feelings like if we're releasing the negative trapped emotions, sometimes the law of attraction is like don't feel them. When we don't feel them and don't honor and release them, they stay trapped and running [01:18:00] in the background. What we're doing is kind of that flush out.
Christa: Thank you.
Tammera: Then, we're more clear.
Christa: That's exactly it. That's exactly it.
Kris: I love it.
Christa: Yes. Kris agrees. Sarah, I've been doing a gratitude exercise thanking my food. This is great, for giving it's life for my nourishment. I felt silly at the beginning,
but now I'm seeing so much more how life is a connected system. I feel more gratitude and joy. Thank you for sharing that, Sarah. It's [01:18:30] like you think what does it take to bring the plate of food you're about to eat to you. I think that's beautiful. These are micro moments to not only get present but to also hold power and get healthier. You're welcome, Mckayla. You say that is a really brave choice, but I know I need to make it. I think it's the only choice. I really think it's the only choice.
Christa: Marilyn, boundary reminder, reminder, reminder. No [01:19:00] hooks there. I'm going to bathe myself in boundaries. All right, amen sister. Thoughtfully and respectfully, such a great feeling of empowerment and freedom. Thank you so much. You are so welcome. This is just so fun for us. We're having a ReCode Party, the three of us tonight after we end because we are just so pumped and being able to get together and share this work with you. We're so proud of you. We're so glad you're here. Mary want to share with Mckayla. She went through something similar. [01:19:30] Looking back, it was scary but it turned out to be the best for me. I wouldn't have left the job, so the universe forced me to leave it. Awesome. All right.
Christa: Yeah, you too.
Kris: Yeah, that's [inaudible 01:19:45]
Christa: That's right, yes. You hear the coyotes?
Kris: Yeah.
Christa: I live right on the Canyon and we've got coyotes screaming in the background if you hear them. All right, Marilyn Taylor, I come from a background of being born in trauma. [01:20:00] Excuse me. Mom was in vitro and born into Nazi Poland. She recreated this environment for us never knowing safety. Yes, this is tough and a lot of you are in this situation. I started therapy at 17, I'm not 46. I've been in therapy most of my life. I've done EMR processing, working with the new EMDR therapist and doing this work. I'm stunned at how much pain I'm still processing. I have had moments of feeling like I'm never going to get better because after almost 30 years of [01:20:30] therapy, hasn't worked yet.
Christa: I feel like I'm never going to release the triggers and negative inner beliefs. Can you speak some encouragement or insight into my situation? Can we have you jump in? Thank you. I think a lot of people are going to feel like they've never had this feeling of safety.
Kris: Well, absolutely. We talked about earlier, you're not just processing it for yourself but for generations [01:21:00] back. I think one of the things that just comes to my mind is compassion and having compassion for your ancestors from your mom and for your grandmother or your grandfather, not just the female line but the male line as well. Breaking it down, what is the underlying [01:21:30] feeling? Is it I'm not safe? Really articulating the emotions. You've been through therapy for many, many years and I'm sure you probably have touched on that. Slowing down, looking at each emotion that comes up.
Christa: One at a time because it's so easy when you can see this whole mess of things to feel like you're never going to make any progress.
Kris: If I can leave you with some [01:22:00] encouragement, is that there is hope. There is hope. I know sometimes you probably feel hopeless especially since you've been at it for so long, but you're doing some big, huge work here. There definitely is hope that you will get to the bottom of this and in your life feel safe.
Christa: Thank you.
Kris: Thank you.
Christa: Okay.
Kris: [01:22:30] Tammera?
Christa: Well, Tammera be going over our empowering belief chart if we upload them on Thursday. Did mine, but I have a few questions going through it on this webinar help and I think I can go through it again and make some adjustments. I need to print out all the pieces like you suggested and look at them side by side.
Kris: It's 11:00 to 12:00.
Christa: Yeah. She will do that 11:00 to 12:00 on Thursday. You'll look if they post the empowering. Maybe they should tag you so you know and you'll look at it. Post it, Ruby. Go ahead and redo it and then post it and tag [01:23:00] Tammera. Nancy, such enlightenment. Everything you're teaching is confirming to so many things I've studied and learned my life over, but this course is tying it all together. Great. I still badly want to attract the inspiring positive hopeful, joyful people I love being around and contributing to. Would you say it's for
real? How soon after all this will it take to see the shifts in my life? Yeah, it's hard to say. People come into my life where I want ...
Kris: It could be instantaneously.
Christa: It can [01:23:30] be.
Kris: It could be instantaneously. It doesn't have to be a long drawn out process. We can shift instantly if we choose to.
Christa: Don't do it for that, I guess, is the thing. Don't do it for the end goal or for the reward. Just do it to honor and respect yourself and to befriend yourself and to get stronger and to hold power, and then just start noticing what happens. We notice who falls away and who [01:24:00] comes in. Then once you start noticing and you'll start attracting more of that. You'll have to tell us. You're asking me a question that's like saying how do I jump in the physical part of The ReCode or when is it going to work, but your body tells the answer. Your energy is going to tell the answer in this case. Laura Anne, what is you know without a doubt that you need to let someone go who's in denial?
Kris: I know, I know that.
Christa: It creates a whirlpool of distrust [01:24:30] and heartbreak, but the depth of the love you have for that person takes your breath away so much that the thought of letting them go is devastating. It's the right tools that I'm struggling, which to know, which to use. Do I process in a mode of loss and grief? Do I stay in a mode of constant detachment? I have questions. This is, do drug and alcohol denial, how much chaos is it creating in your life, what are do they in denial about? What's [01:25:00] the cost of staying? I don't know. Is it possible to stay in a mode of constant detachment? This is like a conversation. It's not just something that you can answer.
Christa: I have so many questions here, just as a result of going through what I went through because I married this person because I loved him more than anyone in the world. Al-Anon for me was so incredibly helpful. I [01:25:30] don't think that you can stay with somebody who is choosing to stay in denial and not change and just live in that dynamic of I'm going to remain detached for the rest of my life. I've got to ask about the nature of the relationship. For me, I don't see that that is possible. I'm thinking about, Kris, do I process in a mode of loss and grief, how she was talking about how grief you end up [01:26:00] building your life around it. I think this is for further discussion, Laura Anne, for Kris on Thursday. If you're willing to, and if you don't want to do it publicly, I
understand, you can send an email into the team and I'll respond with my thoughts. I'll be there on Friday too. Is there anything else you want to say?
Kris: Yeah. If you want to send in a ticket, then I can respond to a little bit more detail to that.
Christa: Yeah, it's a situation. [01:26:30] You feel damned if you do and damned if you don't. You've got to be able to pick the right side for you. Thank you, Nancy. Emilia, to follow up on Nancy's comment, I'm almost always late because this really hit you, 10 to 15 minutes. From what belief can that stem from? I've been thinking during The ReCode course and I can't come up with anything. I don't think it has to stem from a belief. If I take [01:27:00] myself as an example, if I have to do everything by myself or being productivity driven, I have to produce in order to be loved or I am only as valuable as this productive as I've been.
Christa: There can be some ideas of where that is just like ... Any other ideas of being late, where else that could stem from if it's like an always thing? It could be from the opposite side of not valuing other people's time. That's like we have the whole empaths and then we have [01:27:30] the whole manipulators time. Being on time is part of right accountability, it's part of integrity. I would venture to say who cares where it comes from, just work on being on time and see what comes up from there. Sarah, I experienced being on time as leaving myself open for abandonment. Interesting. Thank you for sharing that. All right, Kathy. Christa, you are right. I needed to hear the whole power section. Good. Thank you for posting [01:28:00] again. I am the person dealing with the smart meter. As soon as you reminded me of the "this happens," yes, this happened for me, not to me I felt conned for the first time today.
Kris: Good, good.
Christa: Good. I'm so, so glad, Kathy.
Kris: That's power.
Christa: Yeah, this is power. You just did it. You just shifted it and held power. That's how quickly it can happen. When you get used to constantly doing that, your energy is different, your life is different. You operate differently. We talk about the memorized self. We want your present self to be the new memorized [01:28:30] self where you don't have to fight so hard for this. It's just becomes your new natural way of being. We're humans. We're going to be working on ourselves as long as we're alive. We will get triggers. We will get those things.
We'll be able to have a completely different toolkit and more grace and ease throughout all of it. We are going to take a couple more.
Christa: Althea, I find that I'm very protective of my boundaries. I tend to say no more than yes. [01:29:00] It is often harder than no for me. Okay, that's interesting. That's something to look at. Are you honoring yourself by saying no? Or are you closing off to anything in life? Is there anything else that you want to comment?
Kris: No. I think what you said is absolutely right. Have you built a wall?
Christa: Yeah, have you built up a wall where it's just ... You don't want to get in any type of memorized behavior. I always say yes as a memorized behavior. I always say no. There's something [01:29:30] to look at there. It's like, are you afraid of intimacy? Are you afraid of connection? Just asking yourself these questions. Sandy, is it important to let all the trauma bubble up and deal with it before creating the new real self? Don't want to get ahead of myself. No, no, no. There's million ways to do this program. I would do the empowering beliefs because sometimes it's the best way to go about it. We don't want you swimming in your trauma. You've been doing that already for a long time.
Christa: [01:30:00] Try this. See how it goes. Okay, a minute. I'm going to see if there's anybody that we haven't been able to ... I'm going to jump ahead here to Patricia because we haven't heard from her yet. All childhood mom said, "I love you because you're my daughter but I don't like you." Oh, I'm so sorry.
Kris: Wow.
Christa: Woof! Earliest memory of that was age seven. I feel like I attracted people that don't like me. Okay, advice from our coaches [01:30:30] there?
Kris: I'll let you to take this one, you want to take it?
Tammera: Yeah. I would do the memorized belief chart around that specific belief. Can you show me where it is?
Christa: Right here. All childhood mom said, "I love you because you're my daughter but I don't like you," earliest memory, age seven. I attract people in my life that don't like me.
Tammera: I would start with that belief in your memorized belief and just see what's operating in the background, what do I continually [01:31:00] focus on, what do
I think about myself, and then how does that influence how I'm behaving and showing up in different ways and what are the results. Just to see that map or that design of your memorized self. Then what you want to do in the present self is revolve it. Your new belief might be I love and accept myself or I like these things about myself [01:31:30] and I attract people that notice and appreciate those things might be an example.
Christa: I love it. That's wonderful.
Tammera: Yeah. Because in the journey of self-love, I haven't said this before but in the journey of love what oftentimes rises up for us is everything we don't love about our self. The journey of acceptance which is prior to love rises up as everything we don't accept about our self. I would just start with what do I choose to like ...
Christa: That's so [inaudible 01:31:59].
Tammera: ... about myself [01:32:00] in this moment.
Christa: And start looking for that. Yeah, over and over again.
Tammera: One of the things I didn't mention on the present belief chart was sometimes when we do a full out I am statement as a belief, that inner critic or that ego can get really loud and say, "No, you're not. No, you're not. No, you're not." A way to mitigate that is to have a transition belief like every day and every way I'm choosing to [01:32:30] like myself more and more.
Christa: That's wonderful. Thank you.
Tammera: You're welcome.
Christa: All right, team. We are going to end there. Tammera and Kris on Thursday, so make sure. It's going to be 9:00 to 10:00 a.m. Pacific.
Kris: 9:00.
Christa: 9:00 to 10:00 a.m. and then 11:00 to 12:00. Go do this work so that you can benefit from the time that these guys are there and they're live. Nancy was asking about the difference between the two of you. [01:33:00] Kris is an emotional mastery coach, helping you somatically release trapped negative emotions, getting you to that place of presence so you can get to a place of claiming your power. Tammera is a life coach that helps you identify basically
your disempowering beliefs, which is powerlessness, and help you move to that place of power. In a way, they do very similar work but just different paths up the same mountain which is why I wanted both of them here. They're [01:33:30] both so highly effective with everyone they work with. We're lucky to have you.
Tammera: Thank you, Christa.
Christa: All right, everybody. Next week, same time, same place. Jeanne comes back and it's just straight up Q&A, whatever you want to talk about, we're here. Then, Module 8. Even though Tammera won't be with us, we're going to rewrite our stories because this is the part of rewriting your story you're doing now by identifying empowered [01:34:00] beliefs. You got to live the boundary work. You got to start experiencing where you're whole and give away power before you can rewrite your story in a way that you can live it. Then we're going to talk about all the emotional tools and all the clinical tools and how to tell if what you need to do with your diet and your lifestyle and everything to make you feel comfortable for how do you go on and live The ReCode after this. That's the rest of our trajectory. We are going to have a glass of wine tonight [01:34:30] in your honor and cheers to you. You guys are brave warriors. We appreciate you so much. Have a wonderful night. Kris wants to say bye-bye.
