Human Connections
Changing Lives
Address: PO Box 8281, Glenmore Park NSW 2745 Website: © 2013 www.humanconnections.com.au Email: [email protected]
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Scaling Questions Scaling questions can be used to assess the Client’s esteem, self confidence, investment in change,
willingness to work hard to bring about desired changes, prioritising of the problems to be solved, perceptions
of hopefulness, evaluation of progress and so on – things considered too abstract to concretise.
1. Start with identifying the area for scaling.
On a scale ranging from zero to ten where zero represents things at their worst and ten represents how things
will be when the problems are resolved, where would you place yourself today?
If zero represents ‘I don’t care’ and ten represents “I can really do this”, where would you place today?
2. What will be happening when they reach their goal on the scale?
What will be happening when you are at 10?
3. What steps do they need to take? What will be happening when you are on the way to 10? What would it take for you to move up a half a point
or even one point on the scale?
If, by the next session you managed to reach five, the halfway, mark, what are the new things that you are
going to tell me about?
4. What would others notice / say?
When you move form a 5 to a 6 what would others notice about you that they don’t notice now?
If your friends were here and I was to ask them, where would they put you on a scale now?
What would she / he say you needed to do, in order to move up one point on the scale?
5. How will others be different when they notice the differences?
When your mother notices these differences in you, what do you suppose she will do differently with you?
6. Past Successes
Let’s say that 10 means the best you can imagine feeling about yourself and 1 is the worst, what is the highest
you can imagine feeling about yourself? What were you doing differently at that time? What would it take for
you to make that happen again? When the figure improves one point, what will be going on in your life that is
not going on now? What is the first step you need to take to make it happen now?
7. Past failures
What is the lowest you ever felt? What did you do to get out of that?
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Scaling Scaling is a way to map progress, change and expectations.
Where are you now? What would it take to move up one point? (say 3 4) What will be happening when you are at 4? What else?
You can scale for motivation
You can scale for hope
You can scale for subjects e.g.,
How will you know you have moved up a point? What will be different?
0 5 10hopeless No problems
in class
0 5 10I am determined to do better
No motivation
0 5 10I am certain I can behave
I’ll never behavein class
0 5 10Maths is greatMaths is
hopeless
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Pathways of Constructing Solutions Establish the purpose of the interview. Assess motivation for change.
GOAL OR PROBLEM
ü What would you like to talk about?
ü How do you think our chat can be helpful to you?
ü How would you like things to be different?
ü How much would you like this to change?
Zero is not at all and ten is very much! ü What would happen if nothing
changes?
Hypothetical Solutions Miracle Question
Use your imagination…
Suppose that tonight, as you slept, there
was a miracle, and what you are speaking to me about has improved / became much
better?
ü What would you be doing differently?
Criteria For Well Defined Goals
ü In the positive ü In a process form
ü In the here and now ü As specific as possible ü In the client’s control
ü In the client’s language
Exceptions
ü How is this happening now? ü When doesn’t this happen?
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Address: PO Box 8281, Glenmore Park NSW 2745 Website: © 2013 www.humanconnections.com.au Email: [email protected]
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Being more solution focused helps us to really look into how change happened and why. By doing that we can try to come up with an answer to the question, ‘How does change happen?’ And the majority of the time the answer will be unique – the way I try to make change happen will be different from the next person. Neither of us is wrong. No one is better than the other.
Summary of tools for change in Solution Focused Therapy Stage of Change
Tools in SFT Examples of change focused questions
Preparation Search for client resources. Preferred future – the Miracle Question. Goal setting
What is it that you could use to help make this change? When this change has been made, what is it that you see as being different in your life?
Action Behavioural experiments. Exceptions. Reframing.
How do you think things would be different if you tried relaxing every day instead of just once a week? Are there times when you’ve felt some of these changes have occurred already?
Maintenance Compliments. Relational questions. Scaling.
How could you maintain this change? Who else has noticed that a change has started to happen? That sounds like a great change – how did you manage to do that? If you are currently at an eight on your scale of where you want to be, what would being a nine look like?
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ACTION PLAN
What would you need to do in the next few days to ensure you apply some of these skills?
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COPYRIGHT NOTICE
ABOUT HUMAN CONNECTIONS
Human Connections is an Australian business based in Sydney, committed to connecting people in schools, families and the workplace. With qualifications and university degrees in both education and counselling Rocky brings great experience both as a teacher, Year Coordinator, therapist and life coach.
Rocky has successfully conducted presentations to thousands of clients. In particular, he has focused on the transition into senior school. His focus on emotion and stress management, motivation and peak performance brings to clients the latest techniques used by successful corporate and sporting people around the world. Clients will participate and experience techniques in energy psychology, Neuro-Linguistic programming, self-hypnosis and meditation.
What we do: Go to www.humanconnections.com.au to find out more.
1. Peak Performance Student Sessions: These student sessions are mostly targeted to Year 7 (Big Fish into Little Fish Workshop) 10, 11 and 12 students. The focus is on motivation, goals and emotion management techniques. The information pack has further details. However, the sessions are between 90 minutes and a whole day workshop. In addition, we hold study skills days with Prue Salter from ELES where the group is split in half and each spends half a day with a presenter.
2. Parent Evenings: The parent evenings were born from the overwhelming feedback by
students that a major part of their pressure was from their parents. The session runs for 60 minutes and is titled, “Helping your child through senior school and the HSC.”
3. Counselling: Rocky Biasi from Human Connections is a clinical Member of the Counsellors
and Psychotherapists Association of NSW and runs a private practice. In addition, Rocky offers counselling to teachers and clients in a variety of schools.
4. Professional Development and Mentoring: Human Connections conducts a range of
professional development workshops, including “The Accidental Counsellor”, “Teaching Toward Success - Helping Clients Reach their Academic Potential” and “Conscious Classroom Management.
Please note: all materials in this handout are protected by copyright. If you wish to use any of this material with clients/parents you need to acknowledge the source as follows: Source: www.humanconnections.com.au
As director of Human Connections, Rocky Biasi is a classroom management and interpersonal skills specialist with a practical approach to behaviour management.
With over 15 years’ experience as a counselor, teacher and Year Coordinator to every year group from Yr 7 – 12, Rocky has a wealth of experience both practical and theoretical that can help teachers and schools work toward becoming more effective and efficient in their roles.
His extensive training and research from the field of Peak Performance Psychology equips him to consult with teachers and clients about how to move from where they are to where they want to be.