MANAGEMENT OF SELF

Group 3Hom Nath GaireRahul DeshpandeSuresh ChandraVarun Ganotra

MANAGEMENT OF SELF• Self-management is a key skill needed in all

facets of life.

• The ultimate goal of self-management is to enable you to achieve the life you want.

• Although many people relate self-management to time management, it is actually a much broader concept than mere time management.

Understanding SelfIn order to understand oneself one should analyse their assets & liabilities and try to maximise their assets and convert their liabilities into assets.

There are four ways of understanding one self:-• Assumed Self• Manifest Self• Objective Self• Requisite Self

“Success doesn't come from self deprivation, it comes from self management” ― Constance C. Friday

Ways of Understanding Self

Assumed Self – What I Think I am

Manifest Self – World Perceived, What others think I am

Objective Self - Who really I am

Requisite Self – Who I should have been

Assumed Self

Assumption of a person about himself / herself is known as the assumed self. In Order to get a proof of our assumption about our self we validate our assumptions about our self from others. We respond to others on the thinking of ‘What I think I am’.

Manifest Self

The part of behaviour of one’s self which one projects to others ie. to the world. This is the part of self which is projected to the world. It is represented by the idea ‘What others think I am’

Objective Self

Subconsciously a person is aware what he / she really is (objective self) but the conflict in our mind makes us assume a different perception of our self.

Requisite Self

The requisite self clearly defines about what one should have been ie what behaviour and personality should have one possessed. What is that is required of me.

Gaps in Types of Self

There always exists gaps between the Assumed self, Manifest self, Objective self, Requisite self.

In an Organization one should try to minimize these gaps other wise they will lead to distortion of one’s image and others may doubt on one’s integrity.

Habits

These gaps as discussed can be filled by bring about a shift in our paradigm. Thus our character, basically, is a composite of our habits.

“Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.

A habit as the intersection of knowledge, skill,  and desire.

“If you want to change the world start to change yourself first” --- Swami Vikasananda

Types of Habits

Be Proactive

Be Proactive is about taking responsibility for your life. You be reactive and can't keep blaming everything on others.

Instead of reacting to or worrying about conditions over which one has little or no control, proactive people focus their time and energy on things they can control.

Begin with the end in mind Envision what you want in the future so that you know concretely what to make a reality.

This is the mental creation, It's about connecting with your own uniqueness and then defining the personal, moral, and ethical guidelines within which you can most happily express and fulfil yourself.

Begin with the End in Mind means to begin each day, task, or project with a clear vision of your desired direction and destination, and then continue by flexing your proactive muscles to make things happen

Put first things first

It is about life management as well--your purpose, values, roles, and priorities. What are "first things?" First things are those things you, personally, find of most worth. If you put first things first, you are organizing and managing time and events according to the personal priorities you established.

A manager must manage his own person. Personally and managers should implement activities that aim to reach this habit.

Think Win Win

We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing--that is, if I win, you lose; or if you win, I lose. Life becomes a zero-sum game.

Win-win sees life as a cooperative arena, not a competitive one. Win-win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win-win means agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial and satisfying.

To go for win-win, you not only have to be empathic, but you also have to be confident. You not only have to be considerate and sensitive, you also have to be brave. To do that--to achieve that balance between courage and consideration--is the essence of real maturity and is fundamental to win-win.

Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

Like most people you pretend that you are listening and you may ignore the other person completely, this happens because most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand. You listen to yourself as you prepare in your mind what you are going to say, the questions you are going to ask, etc. You filter everything you hear through your life experiences, your frame of reference

Use empathic listening to be genuinely influenced by a person, which compels them to reciprocate the listening and take an open mind to being influenced by you. This creates an atmosphere of caring, and positive problem solving.

Synergize

Synergize is the habit of creative cooperation. It is teamwork, open-mindedness, and the adventure of finding new solutions to old problems. It's a process, and through that process, people bring all their personal experience and expertise to the table. Together, they can produce far better results that they could individually. Synergy lets us discover jointly things we are much less likely to discover by ourselves.

Sharpen the Saw

Sharpen the Saw means preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have--you. It means having a balanced program for self-renewal in the four areas of your life: physical, social/emotional, mental, and spiritual.

As you renew yourself in each of the four areas, you create growth and change in your life. Sharpen the Saw keeps you fresh so you can continue to practice the other six habits.

All it takes is the desire, knowledge, and skill.

“A person who refuses to manage himself and discipline his flesh will be disciplined and taught by life itself.” ― Sunday Adelaja

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