Mr X’s Lost Tapes
How To Handle Women Like A True Player
By Johann Ingram (aka Mr X)
Updated Edition
Also by Johann Ingram:
The Player’s Guide For Seducing Women (click here)
15Tactics – Advanced Subliminal Seduction Techniques (click here)
How To Maintain A Woman’s Interest... For Days
And Weeks
Technique #1: Planting The Seed
lanting the seed is defined as mentioning something now, and
capitalizing on it later; If you want to make a woman feel like
she’s about to be treated to something special, learn how to plant
a seed.
If I’m having coffee with a young lady, I will turn the conversation to
my plan: steak, for example. Somehow I’ll work it into the conversation
and mention the fabulous new steak place in town that got great reviews.
A few days later I’ll remind her about the steak place we discussed and
ask her if she wants to go. The seed I planted created the intrigue, now
it’s time to capitalize on the notion.
The seed you plant can apply to movies, bars, book signings, beaches, or
live music. The key is to weave it into conversation, don’t let on to the
fact that an invitation is pending, but later return to the idea now that
you’ve created its own wonderful reputation.
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How NOT To Get Played By Women
Technique #2: Identify the Loophole Language
Player does not get played. When A Player is playing he needs
to keep his ducks in a row. It’s tough to work out a strategy
with women that are always looking for the bigger and better
deal, hedging their bets, and flaking at the last minute.
Here are some examples of loophole language:
I guess
Sure, maybe
Can I give you a definite maybe?
Sure, call me
Let’s touch base later and see where we are
If she asks, who’s going to the party, if will there be food or if she can
meet you there but possibly leave early to meet a girlfriend who’s in
from Toledo, she’s qualifying the entire night—in other words, spending
time with you is okay, but not unless the rest of the evening meets her
criteria. Why should she be able to bail out if the food doesn’t sound
good? The loopholes in her language provide the option to jump ship.
If you sense a hedge, give her a deadline. When you say, ―The party’s on
Saturday night, you wanna go?‖ And she asks, ―Can I let you know Saturday
afternoon? I may be going to Europe for six months to take singing lessons,‖ you’ll
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know she’s lying and may grab you as a last-minute resource. You can’t
take that risk. Tell her you’d like a definitive answer by Thursday or you
won’t go—and of course you’ll go, only with someone else.
If she can’t be fair and honest up front, she should suffer the
consequences: an evening tucked at home eating rice cakes watching
Malcolm in the Middle while the rest of the single world is having a grand
old time.
How To Appear Classy In Front Of Your Woman
Technique #3: Never Talk About Price
hen you’re in the presence of a woman and want to avoid the
perception that you’re a chump, never talk price. I don’t
care if you are looking at a menu that offers $75 chicken
fingers or $1 Remy Martin snifters, keep your yap shut. The mention of
price kills any semblance of romance and joie de vivre, and sensitizes
those around you to their spendthrift habits.
I had dinner at a bar last week with a young lady and there three guys a
couple of barstools away. We sat on the side angle of the bar with a full
view of them and the other patrons. When their check arrived, they
circled it the way cats gather around a rubber mouse. There was a lot of
whispering, pointing, and one guy moved the check toward a candle on
the bar for a closer look.
Here are a few things to avoid:
Don’t reach for a pen and do quick math on a cocktail napkin
Don’t use a wallet calculator
Don’t push your glasses to the end of your nose as if reviewing a tax return
Don’t ask “What’s 14 per cent of one-eighty?”
Never say “I don’t tip on the tax.”
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The three cheapskates that haggled over their check actually made
audible noises:
“I only ate one of the stuffed mushrooms”
“He said the Heineken was on the house.”
“Who ordered the broccoli?”
“I never carry cash, but I have a debit card.”
“Let me get yours now and you can pay me back when we get to the house.”
Meanwhile, two women stood behind them impatiently waiting for their
barstools and two much-deserved cocktails. These are the same kind of
guys that jog through a trade show with coffee cups and pens yelling,
―Look at all this free stuff!‖
If you mention to your date ―for fifteen bucks a martini you should get
as many olives as you want,‖ she will feel obligated to suck the olives dry
because the pimento is probably worth two bucks. We know the food is
expensive, we know the pens are free, but keep your thoughts private
and never talk price.
How To Handle Multiple Relationships – Avoid This
Pitfall!
Technique #4: “Holidays”
f you’re dating several women, you understand they look forward to
special occasions. If they love the summer, you’re safe because
there are ninety days in the season from which to choose. If they
love Valentines Day or Halloween, you’d better get your excuse in early.
Unless you’re really crafty, it’s tough to pick one girl for a special
occasion without the others wondering where the hell you are. What’s
worse, her friends will ask about you: ―you mean Johnny didn’t ask you
to dinner?‖ Her friends unwittingly rub it in her face.
I dated a woman with kids and had no choice but to go to a Labor Day
barbeque with her and her neighbors. If you like lawn darts and croquet
with people you don’t know, don’t miss this event; if you’d rather a
Martini than a warm beer in a plastic cup, then listen closely: two weeks
prior to these mandated dates, tell her you’re booked with something
else. Maybe just mention it at dinner—it’ll become clear later that that
day falls on the special occasion. Do this with every woman you date
and then think of how you’ll dodge their booty call that evening when
they call drunk from a ladies room.
Christmas is very difficult. If you get asked to her house and you like
her, that’s a huge compliment. When she introduces you to her mother,
she wants a boyfriend. If you’re ready to settle down, that’s cool; if you
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still plan to play the field, this can make you uncomfortable. Do you
bring one gift for her or something for everybody? Plus, while you’re
playing Pictionary with her great-grandmother, your cell phone is
vibrating your leg black and blue with holiday wishes from your other
girlfriends. Unless all your girlfriends left the state, this is tricky, so clear
your calendar by getting your excuse in early.
A Simple Hack To Sound Confidently Attractive To
Any Woman You Want To Seduce
Technique #5: “Optimistic Language”
f you’re making a date, especially if it’s spontaneous, use optimistic
language. Hesitant language is a fissure that reveals your true
feelings. Optimistic language is a velvet curtain hiding the man
behind it.
Avoid the following words and phrases:
Uh, I guess
Sure, why not
I will if you will
Where’s the confidence?
Use the following:
Absolutely
Perfect
See you in twenty
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In the land of the blind, one-eyed guys get to be king. Take control of
the conversation and keep it short and sweet. The longer you debate
over where to meet, how to meet, and whether or not to meet, the faster
your engine loses steam. People are drawn to definitive plans and
people with purpose; be sure you have both.
How To Use Social Proof To Get Women To
Approach You
Technique #6: “The Welcome Mat”
eople wonder why I always have a girl beside me at a bar. It’s
because I know how people think. If you adjust your seating
properly, women will go to you like pigeons after popcorn.
If you’re alone or with friends and are seated at the bar, leave a
noticeable, open space between barstools. Turn in your barstool so you
are facing your drinking buddies; don’t put your elbows on the bar at
stare at the TV. The more peripheral vision you have the better.
I was at a sports bar testing my theory with a couple of friends. I moved
my barstool a few inches to the left, my friend moved his a few inches to
the right and I turned his direction as if I really cared about what he had
to say. As the bar got busier and people needed drinks, they naturally
gravitated toward the open space we created to get the bartender’s
attention. They stop, order, pay and leave.
If someone you’re not interested in stops to order, don’t start a
conversation. If you start talking, they’ll set up shop and fill the open
space. If they ask if the space is taken, tell them ―yes, we’re waiting on
some food.‖ Make them feel like they’re in your way and they’ll vanish
sooner
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If someone you are interested in stops to order, make space and be
cordial. If you think there’s a chance to qualify or begin conversation,
take it. You have sixty seconds from the time they order and drinks
arrive. If the bar is busy and she’s going to have a hell of a time holding
her martini, set down a bar napkin and tell her she can use the space.
They make accept or refuse, and either way you’re okay. If she leaves,
you’re available for a fresh rotation.
I’ve had ten women stop by in a two-hour period. You can’t get that
same exposure weaseling around the bar without looking desperate. If
you create your own sweet spot, you can get a card before she leaves or
goes back to her table. This tactic also works if you sit near the jukebox
or ladies room. Grab seats where the female turn-over rate is high and
drop your welcome mat.
The Proper Way To Spoil Your Woman
Technique #7: “Gift Giving”
ou can only survive the game if you tickle their heartstrings
occasionally with a thoughtful gift. Gifts range in size and
price, so be aware that it will be judged on different levels.
You don’t need my ideas about expensive gifts. If they’re expensive,
they speak for themselves. I stay clear of expensive gifts for one reason:
they’re tangible. They will show it to their friends, coworkers, and
possibly their mother. ―Look what Johnny bought me! Isn’t it
beautiful?‖ If it’s real and expensive, it’s tough to forget.
If I spend big dollars, I prefer to make it an event for both of us for two
reasons: they leave no paper trail and I get to enjoy it too. Take her up
to the mountains, to wine country, to the beach resort, or into the city
for a fabulous weekend. It shows you aren’t afraid to spend a few
bucks, but she can’t flash the gift at dinner.
Here are some thoughtful gifts I’ve received from girlfriends that cost
nothing:
lucky pennies she found and told me to make a wish
5 packs of pop rocks as a joke because I said I loved them as a kid
a favorite song burned on CD and left it in my car CD player as a
surprise
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These are more fun and less stressful than trying to pick out the perfect
tie or guess my shirt size. These are funny, cute, and thoughtful. Be
charming, not alarming in your gift selection. These gifts will never
replace the Tiffany bracelet, but they fill in the gaps between larger
expenditures.
How To Manufacture A Positive Impression In Her
Mind Of Your Character
Technique #8: “Guilty By Association”
ever share the Tales of an Idiot told by a close friend. Birds of
a feather flock together, and your girlfriend will instantly
discount your character. Men and women have different
senses of humor. The rogue behavior of others you know reflects
poorly on your character.
If you tell incriminating stories about your friends, you incriminate
yourself and divide the genders. Anytime you tell a story about a
roommate who hired a hooker, even if you’re disgusted at his behavior,
you lose points.
If your friend is A Player, you must be a Player
If your friend goes to church, you are a good soul
If your friend is gay, you’re gay
If your friend is a successful businessman, you have potential
If your friend is an asshole, you subscribe to his tactics
If your friend is a drunk, you drink too much
It’s better to share a touching story about your friend donating his time
helping redheads get asked to the prom, or donating money to a special
interest group that is protecting endangered fire ants. Create your own
desirable character by the falsified stories you tell your women.
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How To Increase Your Social Value Using Scarcity
Tactics
Technique #9: “When To Leave”
ever be the last to leave a movie theater; don’t stick around
until you give back your winnings in Las Vegas; don’t be the
last to leave a party, or someone will hand you a broom and
tell you to get busy.
Before the evening goes from fun to boring, I slither away like a snake in
olive oil. The key to power, attention and your reputation is scarcity.
You decrease your value by opening and closing dinner parties. People
who arrive later and leave earlier maintain their mystique; when the party
begins to slow, bow out gracefully.
I don’t say goodbye to the forty-two people I was introduced to: that’s
another amateur move. Unless you’re running for mayor, grab the key
person at the party and thank them. Anybody else who gets a wink or a
handshake on your way out is fine. Walk decisively toward the door and
disappear.
Nothing drains me faster than long goodbyes. I don’t like to recap all the
small talk on my way out.
“Bye Debbie; I hope you find your ferret”
“Congratulations on your acquittal, Steve, really”
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“See you dude. I’ll send you that email—soon as I run naked through a
synagogue”
If you are whooping it up with a hottie, focus on getting her out of there
with you so she doesn’t get stuck. Save yourself the frustration of an
evening packed with courtesies to people you may never see again.
Player Etiquette – The Wallet
Technique #10: “Wallet Rules”
ou’re A Player, not a woman who carries enough crap in her
purse to stock a gift shop. If you have a leather, bi-fold wallet
packed with stuff you use annually, it’s time to flush the system.
Here’s what you need: cash, ID, a credit card, and that’s it. People who
carry wallets packed with business cards, frequent flyer cards, pictures of
their nephew and ―notes to self,‖ will never earn their Player stripes.
Nothing is less cool than carrying a wallet the size of a hardback novel
pressing at the four corners of your pocket.
I used to carry my AAA card in case I had a car problem. One day
I had a flat tire and I didn’t have my card. I gave them my name,
they looked it up, and the truck was there in twenty minutes. I no
longer carry the card.
I used to carry a frequent flyer card and another card for my hotel
of choice. They have your information even if you can’t give them
the eighteen-digit account number. I no longer carry those cards.
I used to carry my gym membership card. I forgot it once, so I
gave them my name and it was not a problem. I no longer carry
the card.
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When you’re out on the town, out for coffee or just sitting around her
house, travel lean and mean. It’s an amateur move to carry three credit
cards, a library card, and a flipping fishing license. Carry cards on a
needs-only basis.
And as long as we’re on the topic of lean and mean, how many keys are
you carrying these days? If you have keys on your key ring you can’t
identify, leave it in a drawer at home. You can’t be A Player if you look
like your high school janitor. If I take a taxi, I carry one key: the front
door key. When you’re out chasing around you’re not going to need
your safety deposit box key, the key to your filing cabinet at the office,
or the tiny key that fits your old bicycle lock. Keep it lean and mean.
How To Trick A Woman Into Giving You “Credit”
For Things You Don’t Do
Technique #11: “Getting Credit”
t’s tough to spend quality time with all of your girlfriends, so it’s
important to get a little appreciation for things you don’t do. Time
is limited, resort to clever measures to let them know you care.
If you learn that one of your girlfriends is out of state with her family,
call her and invite her to a nice dinner at your place. She’ll be flattered
you asked, disappointed she can’t make it, and hot for you when she
returns. The key is to be absolutely sure she can’t make it; if you invite a
woman to your house for dinner and she actually is in town, you’ll kick
yourself during the entire meal you were forced to cook.
This technique also works if you learn she’s
Working late and can’t make the 7 o’clock movie
At a relatives birthday on Saturday and can’t spend the day with
you
Has a flight to Phoenix and can’t make the church keg party
Use sparingly and you’ll get credit for attempts at wonderful events,
although they never happened; but be careful about the kind of
invitation you send: if it’s repeatable, you may be asked for it at a later
date. Here’s what happened to me:
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I called Christine and said, ―Hi, Christine, what are you doing?‖
She said, ―I’m in Denver all week.‖
―Oh, I was going to cook up this nice big lobster for us tonight.‖
―Ooh, lobster--that sounds so good right now. You bought one?‖
―Yep, he’s walking across the kitchen counter—should I let him go?
Anyway, I was thinking about you and thought dinner would be fun, but
I guess you’re in Denver missing all the action.‖
She said, ―I know, don’t rub it in; can I get a rain check?‖
I said, ―Sure!‖
This passing invitation later resurfaced as a request. A month after that
phone call we went to the grocery store, and had to walk past the fish
counter to get to the wine section. She grabbed my arm and walked me
to a lobster the size of bagpipes. I bought twenty lemons, two pounds
of butter and pretended to enjoy myself. It’s tough to drop something
with big brown eyes into a vat of boiling water. That’s one example of
how women remember everything you say, and will call you out on your
suggestions anytime they’re so inspired.
How To Really Know A Woman... By Peeking Into
Her Cell
Technique #12: “Cell Phones”
er cell phone is the window to her soul. It tells you the
numbers she’s dialed, who has called, how long they spoke
and at what time this took place. This information is enough
to solve a felony, and definitely enough to tell you if she’s A Player.
When possible, take a peek at her cell phone. When she uses the
restroom, takes a shower, or goes to her car to grab her favorite CD,
take a quick peek. I don’t endorse snooping, but this isn’t like
rummaging through her closet. It’s a quick way to gauge if she’s a bigger
Player than you.
Here are some things to look for:
If you see the name ―George‖ on her phone, it’s not a big deal
unless the call was made at two in the morning—worse if the call
lasted 44 minutes
If there’s a high volume of calls made during the wee, small hours
of the evening, it tells you that midnight’s her busy season. This
isn’t a gal who curled up with a Hemingway novel beside the
fireplace
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If you see nicknames programmed like ―Big D,‖ Charlie the Club,
Tommy the Tongue‖ drop the phone, wash your hands, and leave
the party
I like a woman who leaves her phone in her purse or turns it off when
she’s at my place. It tells me that she’s not trying to run a virtual social
life via her cell phone while I’m playing the xylophone in the living
room. She’s not sincere if she does the following:
Leaves the room every time her phone rings
Goes outside to finish a call
Looks guilty because her phone vibrated on your dining room
table
You notice she constantly clears her history of text messages and
phone calls—which is like wiping down the crime scene
If she goes to the bathroom and grabs her purse and her cell
phone—she’s peeing and scheming
Everybody has a cell phone and in the words of Yogi Berra ―You can
observe a lot just by watching,‖ and this is your opportunity to see if
she’s a sweetheart or a schemer.
This applies to you as well. If she catches any of the abovementioned
telltale signs, you will have some explaining to do. Hide some of your
past by using this red herring technique: Mislead the snooper by using
nicknames or fake names. I dated a girl who was a staunch Republican
and so I changed her name in my address book from Christine to
―Ron‖—short for Ronald Reagan. I dated a stock broker and entered
her name in my phone as Merrill Lynch. Any snooper would believe I
like having the key to my finances on speed dial.
Just to keep them off-balance, I program a few names I’d like them to
see. I switched a few of my pals names to Henry Kissinger, and
Margaret Thatcher—you should have seen her face when she peeked an
incoming call on my cell phone and saw The Dalai Lama on the screen.
How To Handle Women That You Cannot Conquer
Technique #13: “The Platonic Player”
very now and then, you meet a woman you can’t conquer. She
tells you how much fun you are, and vice versa. You go out,
meet for drinks, coffee and even go to the grocery store for the
occasional errand. If you’re getting laid, what are you doing with her?
Advertising!
It’s awkward when she tells you the kind of guy that really turns her on
and he’s nothing like you. I’m sitting there in an Italian suit and she tells
me she loves guys that own a household jackhammer and sports tattoos
of the middle finger between their shoulder blades. I, in turn, tell her I
like women that look nothing like her. If she is blond and sweet, I tell
her I like raven-haired Ava Gardener types that smoke filter-less Lucky
Strikes and drink their scotch neat. I might further rub it in by adding
―it’s better if they don’t shower, too.‖
If you’re seen in public with a hottie and people assume you’re a couple,
deny it, and deny it before she does. She can’t wait to take the upper
hand here, so beat her to the punch. When the bartender asked me,
―how long you two been together?‖ I stepped on the presumption
quickly: ―Her? We’re drinking buddies.‖ She could only add, ―Yeah,
drinking buddies.‖ I made it clear that she’s not on my radar screen for
two reasons:
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I get to be the independent person that apparently doesn’t give a rat’s
ass
Number two, you let everybody think that you have hot women in your
life that you play with, and even when you’re not playing, your female
pals or pretty hot
Sometimes you don’t want to go to the movies with three buddies.
Female friends can be fun and come in handy, but never sit around
waiting for the day she changes her mind and wants you in her bed.
You’ll look like the loser who waits in front of the post office for it to
open. Here’s how to demonstrate your independence:
Take phone calls from other women and leave the room as you
say, ―hey, babe‖
Leave an another girl’s earring in plain view if she’s at your place
Tell her to call you later and when she does, you’re making lasagna
at your house for another woman—be sure she hears festive music
playing in the background
You must fight fire with fire. If you allow her to control, she will step all
over you, expect you to drive, hold the door open, pay for valet, borrow
your CD’s, and pick up all the tabs. Women respect you more if you
hang with real women that return your affection.
The Best Way To Plan For A Date
Technique #14: “The Launching Pad”
very now and then, you meet a woman you can’t conquer. She
tells you Dates should originate at your house. Although it’s
chivalrous to go to her place and open her car door, find ways
to get the evening started at your place.
Pick an event that is much closer to your place than hers. You can’t ask
her to drive twenty miles to your house, and then get in your car and
drive two miles past her house. She’ll catch the obvious strategy. Create
a plan that makes starting at your house the most practical idea.
Remember, you want the evening to finish at your place so you can
control the environment and mood.
Tell her you have a great place in mind and it’s in your neighborhood.
Don’t ask if she minds driving to your place first, this isn’t an option.
Tell her with confidence to be at your place by eight for a glass of wine.
If she insists that you pick her up at her place and then zigzag all over
town for a two-hour dinner, this is the beginning of a difficult
relationship. Hey, you planned the evening; you’re paying for the
evening, she should accommodate you.
When she gets to your house, play the right music on, adjust appropriate
lighting, and have a few things planned for cocktails. In fairness to her,
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she agreed to go to your place, so you must make a prepared cocktail
presentation. She’ll appreciate the effort.
If you want her back at your house at the end of the evening, get her to
leave something at your house. I always suggest they leave their purse—
―Why carry it? I’ve got money; we’re going to dinner, not camping.‖ At
dinner, tell her you have something on DVD she’ll find hilarious; you
want to show her your autographed book collection or play an amazing
CD by a new local band. This plants the seed for a future activity at
your place. If you don’t screw it up at dinner, you’re in good shape.
If you’re hot for her, don’t let her take her own car and meet you
somewhere. She isn’t going to follow you to three more places without
getting lost; she won’t find parking, and definitely doesn’t want to pay
for three different valets. If she takes her own car, it’s going to be one-
stop-shopping. When you leave the first place, the evening is over. If
she has the option to get in her car and flee the scene, she might do it to
make a good impression and avoid going to your house to play doctor.
If she insists on taking her own car and following you around the city all
night, it means she is hedging her evening and wants the escape hatch to
cut and run the minute she feels like it. You may find yourself walking
alone to your car while she speeds away calling an ex-lover. I’ll take bad
ideas for a thousand, Alex. Tell her you prefer to keep it simple and take
one car.
Don’t Make This Amateur Player Mistake...
Technique #15: “What Time Is It?”
or some reason, we like to know what time it is at all times.
Time drives many of our decisions: When does she turn into a
pumpkin? When is it too late to open the bottle of wine? When
is the sun going to rise and destroy this good time? Be aware of the
time, but never get caught.
If she sees you glance at your watch, she’ll think you’re stressing about
another commitment. If you look at your cell phone, she’ll think you’re
waiting for a call that is more important than her company. If you’re on
top of her on the couch and crane your neck to read the clock, you’re in
deep yoghurt. You might as well reach for the remote so you can listen
to ESPN debrief the day’s events.
If you look at the clock, you should be okay for the next half-hour
without having to look again—―guest-imate.‖. Take another look
when you pee, go to the kitchen for more ice, or when she leaves the
room to call her husband-she-hasn’t-mentioned-yet. Opportunities are
too plentiful to make the mistake of doing it in her presence.
I got caught looking at the clock while my date was telling me a tiresome
story about her job in data storage and computer forensics. She not
only stopped mid-sentence, she stopped mid-word: ―. . . -- Oh, are late
for something?‖ she quipped at 2 in the morning. I denied it as if she
asked me if I found her great-grandmother attractive.
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I understand you need to rise early tomorrow. I realize you’re focused
on making your agenda work before you hear the Sunday paper drop on
your doorstep. Be cool. Never let time get away from you, but never
reveal your urgency, curiosity, or your stress to someone who is simply
trying to enjoy your company.
How To Completely Figure Out A Woman
Technique #16: “As The Twig Is Bent”
Player’s a guy who enjoys the company of the one he’s with. It
doesn’t mean she demonstrates all the attributes of a future
wife, but she should turn you on, not put you off; your time is
valuable, why be miserable? Be aware of her little personality quirks that
reveal themselves unbeknownst to her.
I don’t judge a woman by how she treats me, I judge her by how she
treats others. I was at dinner about a year ago with a little sweetheart
who weighed a hundred and five pounds. Everything was going fine
until the waiter made a mistake with her food order, and then I saw her
dark side. She rolled her eyes at the waiter, was sarcastic and whispered
―Jesus-H on a popsicle stick,‖ followed by a deep swig from her Martini.
She was pleasant to me, but I’m her date: I’m paying, and I’m her ride
home. She can’t tell me where to stick it—at least not at the restaurant.
However, I’ve now been made aware that I may be next on the list of
who gets a tongue lashing for a minor offense. I can’t go on a date with
a different gal tomorrow if I have a black eye or a blister on my foot
because she made me walk home. As the twig is bent, so grows the tree-
-Watch for the little telltale signs that your date is really a powder keg
waiting to blow.
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How To Completely Sabotage Your Career As A
Player!
Technique #17: “Your Old Friend’s
Girlfriend”
our friend’s old girlfriend may be an easy target. She knows you.
You may have had group dinners, been skiing, or had to buy
her tampons. On the other hand, she may have seen you with
loads of other women, and thinks you need an acid wash.
Most guys have a code about the ex-girlfriend: it’s hands off until the
rocks melt with the sun. A friend’s old girlfriend is always perceived as
your friend’s property. You may have a chance with her because she’s
going to use you to get back at him. When she does, you’ll hate her for
telling him, and later you’ll hate your friend for letter the air out of your
tires and posting your picture on a gay website.
If you hook up with a friend’s old girlfriend, she’s going to tell people.
She can’t keep a secret and sooner or later, she’ll be in a bad mood and
throw it in his face. The joke’s on everybody—and it reveals our worst
traits: deception, , stealth, lust, jealousy, vengeance, dishonesty, and
morale lower than whale poop.
Everybody’s friendship is in trouble and its now a no-holds-barred
lifetime of cock blocking. You tell guys that your buddy’s old
girlfriend’s a nut job, and your buddy can’t wait to take a crap on your
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next promising relationship. Venture outside of your immediate social
circle, and find yourself a new girl with no ties to guys you know.
How To Be The Ultimate Chivalrous Player
Technique #18: “Chivalry”
little chivalry goes a long way.
Chivalry isn’t dead, but it does have the bird flu. If you pay
attention to the little things, they will believe that you’re
capable of the big things. Most guys take care of the big picture, but
Players have the big picture, and further accented with little details that
make a big difference.
Ordering a meal and opening a door is basic stuff; your grandfather did
that. A single guy like you needs to distinguish yourself from your
grandfather and other would-be players.
Here are the keywords: thoughtful and considerate. Keep those two
words close to third and fourth behind tits and ass and you’ll do fine.
Choose your opportunities carefully; be mindful of the choices you
make in terms of gesture and frequency. If you overdo the size of the
gesture or the frequency of the gestures, it will create an uneasy acid
reflux sensation in your date.
It’s thoughtful to hand her a book of matches from the restaurant
you visited.
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It’s thoughtful to offer her a cold bottle of water for the ride
home.
It’s thoughtful to return from Starbucks with a CD you just know
she loved.
I realized this isn’t handing her keys to a new BMW, but how many
times you can pull that stunt? This isn’t effective because of dollars
spent... it’s effective because of your attention to thinking on her behalf.
Many women save keepsakes from the men they love, and there ain’t
only keys to their car. They save short poems, a wine cork from the
night she and her ex drank and role-played the naughty student, and an
espresso spoon from the quaint bed and breakfast.
Keepsakes, not sweepstakes are effective. Cover the basics, and then add
these little sweeteners:
When you bring wine to her house, bring a dog bone for the dog.
Have her brand of green tea at your house.
Walk her to the elevator when she leaves in the morning.
Hail her the taxi, and give the driver the money to get her home.
If she has a child, bring something simple and appropriate.
Don’t make a big deal about these little gifts. Don’t wait for approval and don’t say ―ta-da!‖ when you hand it over. Downplay your efforts, give a little wink but don’t lean forward to accept the kiss.
If you have enjoyed this program, check out 15Tactics also by
Mr X –
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