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Call to Attention Never in the history of calming down has anyone ever calmed down by being told to calm down.
Call to Attention
Never in the history of calming down has anyone
ever calmed down by being told to calm down.
Creating Classroom Connections
an introduction to Conscious Discipline
Presented by: Roxie Heist, TATS
Andrea Dunckel, FDLRS
Conscious Discipline is an evidence based comprehensive social-emotional learning and classroom management
program based on current brain research. Conscious Discipline empowers adults to consciously
respond to daily conflict, transforming it into an opportunity to teach critical life skills to children.
We tend to overlook or forget that children must be taught EVERYTHING.
Social skills are learned, not assumed.
Empathy, joint attention, self regulation, and relationships must be taught consciously.
First Three Years of Life Mental model of self Mental model for relationships Attachment systems Stress management Self regulation Ability to pay attention Motivation to achieve
It’s All About the Relationship
Children come to school with 3 questions
Am I safe? Am I loved?
What can I learn from this?
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Topology of Traumatic Wounds • Traumatic Wounds of Withholding in Childhood (love, shelter, food, clothing,
attachment)
• Traumatic Wounds of Aggression in Childhood (physical abuse/mandated reporting)
• Traumatic Wounds Caused by Stressful Events (we don’t help them learn to process these events)
• Traumatic Wounds Caused by Betrayal (don’t take it personal-find out what happened)
• Traumatic Wounds Caused by Long Term Duress (this is the water torture of trauma)
Conscious Discipline Brain State Model Executive State
(Prefrontal Lobes) What can I learn from this?
self-regulation system
Emotional State (Limbic System)
Am I loved? attachment system
Survival State (Brain Stem) Am I safe?
arousal system
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Safety
Survival
Unconscious
Online at birth
fight, flight, fool
what does it look like?
screaming, yelling
physical aggression
throwing
hiding
running away
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Connection
Emotional
relationships, attachment internal CD-ROM
motivation, attention
online at “no”
what does it look like?
whining, crying
focuses on negative
blaming, guilt
always/never mindset
am I loved?
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Problem-solving
Executive
impulse/self control
working memory
planning, organizing
online with “why?”
what does it look like?
calm
rational
asks “what can I learn from this?”
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Conscious Discipline Brain State Model
Executive State
(Prefrontal Lobes)
What can I learn from this?
self-regulation system
Emotional State
(Limbic System)
Am I loved?
attachment system
Survival State
(Brain Stem)
Am I safe?
arousal system
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Trunk
Kicking, fighting
Survival
Brain Stem
Back Seat
Complaining
Emotional
Limbic
Front Seat
Responsible
Focused
Prefrontal Lobe Brake=
Impulse control
Map=
Direction
Goal Setting
Priorities
Steering Wheel=
Flexibility
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My state dictates your state
Our state dictates our perceptions, which then dictate our behaviors.
We will perceive conflict differently from each state.
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Self regulation is the #1 skill needed for success in school and life
40% of young children are missing these
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Wiring the brain for self-regulation
Self regulation is the
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How to Breathe
Composure is self-regulation in action.
It is the prerequisite skill adults need before disciplining children.
What is discipline?
To discipline means to teach It is not punishment or rewards
It is a process, not an event
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Discipline • Intent to teach • Consistent • Sets clear expectations • Demonstrates positive behavior • Based on love • Focuses on what to do
Punishment • Intent to feel bad or hurt • Inconsistent • Unclear expectations • Expects child to “just know” • Based on fear • Focuses on what not to do
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Conscious Discipline is Positive Discipline
Use v
Conscious Discipline requires that we discipline ourselves first, and our children second
Creating a School Family
• creates an emotionally intelligent classroom • increases achievement and decreases disruptions • instills the language of safety • incorporates both independence and cooperation It is the heart and brain of the Conscious Discipline program
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It’s All About the Relationship
It’s All About the Relationship
Eye contact Gentle touch Presence Playful Situation
Connection is the glue that holds relationships together. Connection = Cooperation
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Connections on the Outside Create connections on the
Inside
Creating a School Family • Routines for predictability • Safekeeper job description • Rituals for connections • Brain Smart Start • Responsibility through classroom jobs • Classroom centers • Class meeting with music and movement
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We Wish You Well!
Resources Websites www.consciousdiscipline.com www.hope4thewounded.org www.pickanytwo.net Videos DJ Baptiste video: https://youtu.be/RXJGcqcJckA
Funny Dr. Bailey on managing emotions: https://youtu.be/4pHvNMHuLBY
Suggested Reading Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms, by Dr. Becky Bailey
Managing Emotional Mayhem, by Dr. Becky Bailey
Creating the School Family, by Dr. Becky Bailey
7 Ways to Transform the Lives of Wounded Students, by Dr. Joseph Hendershot
Reaching the Wounded Student, by Dr. Joseph Hendershot
Suggested Reading Continued Whole Brain Child, by Dr. Daniel Siegel (Early Childhood)
Brainstorm, by Dr. Daniel Siegel (adolescent)
Yes Brain, by Dr. Daniel Siegel
A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers will Rule the Future, by Daniel Pink
How to Talk so Kids will Listen & Listen so Kids will Talk, by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
Strong Winds and Crashing Waves, by Dr. Terry Wardle
Tattoos on the Heart, by Gregory Boyle
Roots of Empathy, by Mary Gordon
Presenters Roxie Heist TATS Regional Facilitator Northeast Region [email protected]
Andrea Dunckel Child Find/Parent Resource Specialist FDLRS Action [email protected]
