Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch- Life GameTransactional Analysis

Prepared By

Manu Melwin Joy

Assistant ProfessorIlahia School of Management Studies

Kerala, India.

Phone – 9744551114Mail – manu_melwinjoy@yahoo.com

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Life Games

• All games have animportant and probablydecisive influence on thedestinies of the playersunder ordinary socialconditions.

• But some offer moreopportunities than othersfor life long careers andare more likely to involverelatively innocentbystanders.

• This group may beconveniently called LifeGames.

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• NIGYSOB is a twohanded game in whichthe aim is justification.

• It must be distinguishedfrom the game “ Ain’t itAwful?” (AIA).

• NIGYSOB iscommercialized in athree handedprofessional form as thebadger game.

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• NIGYSOB is also played asa two handed maritalgame in more or lesssubtle forms.

• The best antithesis iscorrect behavior.

• The contractual structureof relationship with aNIGYSOB player should beexplicitly stated in detailat the first opportunity,and the rules strictlyadhered to.

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• In clinical practices, thequestion of payment formissed appointments orcancellations must besettled clearly at once,and extra precautionsmust be taken to avoidmistakes in bookkeeping.

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• If an unforeseen

contretemps arises, the

antithesis is to yield

gracefully without

dispute, until such time

as the therapist is

prepared to deal with

the game.

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• In everyday life,

business dealings with

NIGYSOB players are

always calculated risks.

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• The wife of such aperson should betreated with politecorrectness and eventhe mildest flirtation,gallantries or slightsshould be avoided,especially if thehusband himself seemsto encourage them.

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• Thesis – Now I have got

you, you son of the bitch.

• Aim – Justification.

• Roles – Victim, Aggressor.

• Dynamics – Jealous rage.

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• Examples.

– I caught you this time

– Jealous husband.

• Social paradigm – Adult –

Adult.

– Adult – See you have done

wrong.

– Adult – Now that you draw it to

my attention, I guess I have.

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• Psychological paradigm –

Parent - Child.

– Parent – I have beenwatching you, hoping youdid make a slip.

– Child – You caught me thistime.

– Parent – Yes and I am goingto let you feel the full forceof my fury.

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• Moves.

– Provocation – Accusation.

– Defense – Accusation.

– Defense – Punishment.

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• Internal psychological

advantages – Justification

for rage.

• External psychological

advantages – avoids

confrontation of own

deficiencies.

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• Internal social advantages

– NIGYSOB.

• External social advantages

– They have always out to

get you.

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• Biological advantages –

belligerent exchanges,

usually ipsisexual.

• Existential advantages –

People can’t be trusted.

References

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