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Parent – Teacher –
Student Interview ONE (updated 23/11/17)
Step 1
Intro Videos
Watch one or more videos per session at the beginning. Depending on circumstances.
You Only Live Twice ᴴᴰ ┇ Short Film ┇ The Daily Reminder
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hXZVW--1cG8
So when do you think you will die? Every household
will hold a funeral. Whose funeral is it going to be?
Mum? Dad? You?
What if Tommorow is Your Last Day ┇ Thought Provoking ┇ by Sh. Feiz & Dr. Haitham
┇HD┇TDR
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https://youtu.be/WXvCwl4VF8c
Let’s play the video clip again and pause at the
questions in front.
Every Soul Shall Taste Death : Death in Islam ᴴᴰ ┇ The Daily Reminder
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=koEeFIs3bxM
Wearing Hijab is Fard, Praying 5 times a day is Fard, wearing proper
kinds of clothes is Fard. If you don’t do them when you are supposed
to, you’re doing Haram.
What If You Died Doing Haram? - Islamic Reminder
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1sUkuFIziI
What will you see seconds before you die?
What Happens Few Seconds Before You Die?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWfNYztUM1U
Step 2
Mum is to face daughter, hold daughter’s hand and read a Mother to daughter poem (See document
entitled mother daughter poems)
Mother and daughter are to stare into each other’s eyes for 5 minutes
Teacher is to prompt them:
Teenager, think about the time when you were in kinder or prep. Remember how your mum was
treating you back then. Remember who took you to the playground and who gave you special foods
that you liked. Remember the time when she laughed at you when you did something funny when
you were a little girl.
Mum, think about the time when she said her first words and when she took her first steps and
when she first smiled. Remember about how you used to comb her hair after shower and shampoo
her hair in the shower. Remember how you used to burp her after feeding her milk when she was a
baby.
Teacher is to ask how each other feels.
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Step 3
Parent’s homework
Look at the “Homework for Parent Teacher Interview Nov 2017” document. Parent should
do this homework before the next Parent Teacher Interview.
https://storiesformuslimkids.wordpress.com/portfolio/parents-homework/
Student’s and Parent’s Homework
Look at the “Parenting Tips Part 1” document. Parents and students should watch one
lecture or video clip per day until the next Parent Teacher Interview. If the lecture is too
long, they should divide it up into manageable portions. Ask them to choose their own
manageable chunk of time and keep it consistent, even if it is a tiny amount.
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him,
said, “Take up good deeds only as much as you are able, for the best deeds are those
done regularly even if they are few.”
Source: Sunan Ibn Majah 4240
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani https://abuaminaelias.com/dailyhadithonline/2015/09/14/hadith-
on-deeds-the-best-deeds-are-consistent-even-if-they-are-small/
Step 4
Look at the “Parenting Tips Part 2”. Parents, read it when you are free. We’ll discuss more about this
in the next few interviews, in shaa Allah.
https://storiesformuslimkids.wordpress.com/portfolio/parenting-tips-part-2/
Step 5
Go through the list below, in shaa Allah.
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1. To Teen: Why do we need to do this interview session?
(a) We need you to follow Allah & His Messenger because Allah knows you best.
You don’t even know what is best for you. You think you do. But you don’t. Your
Maker knows best. So, follow Him and His Messenger.
(b) We need to remind you to FOCUS – Jannah not Dunya
(c) We need you and your parents to start healthy habits from now
(d) We need to clean your heart
(e) We need to protect you from Jinn
(f) We need to give you enough information so you can avoid making bad decisions.
For example: Awful behaviour towards parents & elders, bad friends, drugs (See
an article on how drugs affected a family; newspaper cutting), smoking, not
wearing hijab, drinking, clubbing, etc…
(g) We need you to stop sinning openly and persistently
(h) We need you to start depositing into your Akhirah account
(i) We need you to prepare for death
(j) We need you to aim to die in the most pleasant of ways, to die as a Muslim, to
die in submission to Allah’s laws
2. To Teen: Let’s have a look at your Salaah Chart. Why is it important to pray five times daily?
3. To Teen: Let’s have a look at your Quran Chart. Why is it important to read Quran daily and
listen or read a bit of Tafseer daily?
4. To Teen: Let’s have a look at your Dhikr Chart. Why is it important to remember Allah and
do Dhikr daily?
5. To Teen: Let’s have a look at your actions. Why is it important to do righteous actions and
avoid sinful actions?
6. Additional Reminders: “I’m not perfect. So I might as well give up”
7. Du’aa for righteous children and spouse
1. Why do we need to do this?
a. We need you to follow Allah & His Messenger because Allah knows
you best. You don’t even know what is best for you. You think you
do. But you don’t. Your Maker knows best. So, follow Him and His
Messenger. Fear Allah but at the same time, please love Allah. Fear
His punishment; don’t take His Forgiveness for granted. Remember
that His punishment is severe. Try your best to have a good balance
of hope and fear in Him. If you have too much hope, you will indulge
in many sins.* But if you have too much fear, you may be pushing
yourself too hard. So, try and balance the two, in shaa Allah. By the
way, who loves you most in this world? Your parents? Yourself? Or
is it Allah? Surely, Allah loves you most. He knows what is best for
you. So, trust Him.
Does Allah love everyone equally? No. Allah loves some people
more than others.
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What does Allah Love ? Powerful & Emotional | Bilal Assad ..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SYxs3KIS_Vo
Why is it hard for you to follow Allah’s rules?
When Shaytaan Enters heart | Full Animated Lecture -
Nouman Ali Khan
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tMtbz9PDzI
Allah knows better. Follow Allah’s rules.
This Video Will Bring Your Faith in Allah Back (InshAllah)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ILFHD2VnA_E
What is your purpose? Did Allah create you for entertainment?
THE MEANING OF LIFE | MUSLIM SPOKEN WORD | HD
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7d16CpWp-ok
“I’m still young. I have time to be religious when I get older.” Really?
Illustrated Explanation of Surah al Asr | Nouman Ali Khan |
[HD]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=izuQLatPqt8
b. We need to remind you to FOCUS – Jannah not Dunya
We're In Love With This Dunya, Sad Reality
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cbNvsz_ZXSg
The Worldly Life – DUNYA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J5AB3ZGc-mY
THIS DUNIYA IS DECEIVING - Short Reminder
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BJ-kWITusOQ
Oh Youth! - Leave The Dunya! ᴴᴰ ┇ Powerful Speech ┇ by
Sheikh Khalid Yasin ┇ TDR Production
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b6DMpPtSlxA
The Dunya Delusion ᴴᴰ ┇ Powerful Reminder ┇ by Ustadha
Yasmin Mogahed ┇ TDR Production
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dOe_ffE1Ftc
Reality Of The Dunya ᴴᴰ | Best Example
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3f7FkX39s4
What Is This Dunya Worth?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2fJNucwcXM
What you Prefer Duniya or Hereafter - Omar El Banna (Jot
down at least 3 dot points of what you have learnt from this
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longish lecture and other long lectures)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CBLpBaHowL8
c. We need you and your parents to start healthy habits from now.
Mobile phone / laptop usage in the home
See Timetable & See Parenting Tips Part 1 and Parenting
Tips Part 2 Articles
d. We need to clean your heart
What is your spiritual heart? Water bottle demonstration.
Your spiritual heart may shows signs that it’s diseased and it’s
got plenty of black dots and it’s not soft right now. How do we
know? These are possible symptoms of a black-dotted,
hardening heart. :
You are hesitant to put on the Hijab which is Fard
You don’t put on the Hijab at all when you are in front of non-Mahrams
You don’t like listening to recitations of the Quran
You love listening to non-Islamic songs
You love listening to musical instruments
You talk back to your parents
You dislike your parents
You make fun of your parents
You love watching useless TV programs or movies for long periods of time
You don’t like to go to Islamic classes
You don’t like listening to Islamic lectures when you are at home
You are impatient with your parents and elders
You are unkind to animals
You don’t do any dhikr or du’aa throughout the day, or if you do it’s very little (like it’s just
bismillah before eating and du’aa before going to the toilet and that’s it. Nothing much else)
You don’t read the Quran regularly
You like watching magic shows
You like reading horoscopes
You are superstitious
You lie easily
You commit some sins persistently
You don’t care about the Akhirah
You love materialistic and branded things
You love your hobby or job too much (for example you play video games excessively or work
almost all the time)
You smoke or do drugs
You drink alcohol
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You eat haram or questionable foods
You have a foul mouth
You like pornography or looking at shameless pictures
You do not dress appropriately
You let your family members dress inappropriately
You are happy when people fail
You are unhappy when people succeed
You want to keep up with the Joneses’
You love the Dunya too much
You love wealth and accumulating it
You like spending your money excessively
You don’t like donating your money to charity
You don’t look forward to death and the Akhirah
You don’t like talking about death and the Akhirah
You like talking about Dunya topics
You like doing sins, major or minor or both
You get angry easily
You get sad easily
Your friends are bad Muslims
You find it troublesome to pray 5 times a day
You don’t pray 5 times a day, but you make it all up before you sleep
You don’t pray 5 times a day, but you don’t make it up
You don’t pray at all
others
Read the “Heart Black Spot” document
Read this article https://www.islamweb.net/en/article/168257/
e. We need to protect you from Jinn
3 REASONS WHY JINN ENTER THE BODY (JINN SERIES)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3lipAabeZGo
How Shaytaan Stops you from Quran | illustrated | Nouman
Ali Khan | Subtitled
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o_GFe5l8zbA
When Shaytaan Enters heart | Full Animated Lecture -
Nouman Ali Khan
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tMtbz9PDzI
The Shaytaan Pulls You Slowly! - Nouman Ali Khan -
illustrated – Subtitled
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSVJ3DdMtgI
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How Satan traps You | Nouman Ali Khan | illustrated Video
| Subtitled
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MF5K_x6Oi9k
f. We need to give you enough information so you can avoid making
bad decisions:
Muslim who turned to be atheist and back to Islam.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FD8AWqMUv18
What Are Your Priorities In Life? - Bilal Assad
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aeDVAkpMSc
Lessons learnt from people of A'raf - Sheikh Abu Bakr Zoud
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DJQr9Es8A4k
g. We need you to stop sinning openly and persistently
Watch this Cycle of Sin | illustrated | Nouman Ali Khan |
Subtitled https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LjJmPFS1rqU
See “Persistence in Sins” Document
h. We need you to start depositing in your Akhirah account
HOW TO STOP WASTING TIME [YOUTH] - Nouman Ali Khan
Animated
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IutyHpDxFIk
Invest In Your Akhirah | Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=95oAOCNPKzY
Time is Slipping Away ᴴᴰ - A Wake Up Call
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0Tca3O3TTM
Wasting Time Is Worse Then Death
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WNk97Q3v5W0
Live This Life For The Akhira ᴴᴰ
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ag22dBYlgU
Planning For Your Akhirah - Nouman Ali Khan - Yaseen
Media https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MkI0spDg9EI
i. We need you to be obedient to your parents. Why?
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https://storiesformuslimkids.wordpress.com/portfolio/disobedient-
children/
j. We need you to start wearing Hijab properly and every single time
when you are outdoors or in front of non-Mahram men
See “Not wearing Hijab – Major or Minor Sin?” document
k. We need you to prepare for death
“You will die the way you lived”. Some people will die in a
club or a cinema. Some people will die while not wearing
hijab. Some people will die gambling or drinking alcohol.
No one knows exactly when he will die, or in what land he
will die. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the
meaning): “Verily, Allah! With Him (Alone) is the knowledge
of the Hour, He sends down the rain, and knows that which
is in the wombs. No person knows what he will earn
tomorrow, and no person knows in what land he will die.
Verily, Allah is All-Knower, All-Aware (of things)” [Luqmaan
31:34].1
There are no specific signs by which a person may know that
his death and the end of his life are approaching. This is by
the mercy of Allah towards His slaves, for if a person knew
when he was going to die, and he knew that repentance
expiates the sins that come before it, perhaps he might
indulge in sins and commit evil deeds, and promise himself
that one hour before his death he will repent and give up his
sin. But such a person does not deserve to be a slave of
Allah; rather he is a slave to his whims and desires.
This is in contrast to reality, for no person knows when he
will die, so the wise person strives to make up what he has
missed out on and hastens to do so by repenting and doing
righteous deeds, for he does not know when his life will end,
and he remains in this state until Allah takes his soul. Such a
person deserves to be a righteous slave who loves to obey
Allah and hates to disobey Him.
But there are some signs which may indicate that the end of
a person’s life is approaching, such as if he suffers a severe
sickness from which people hardly ever recover. The same
applies if he reaches extreme old age, or is in a serious
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accident, and other matters that may happen by the divine
decree. 2
Every Soul Shall Taste Death : Death in Islam ᴴᴰ ┇ The Daily
Reminder ┇
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=koEeFIs3bxM
What If You Died Doing Haram? - Islamic Reminder
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1sUkuFIziI
"I Am Seeing The Angel of Death Now" - [True Story]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yuqnaFmnLKI
Appearance Of Angel Of Death ᴴᴰ | *Beautiful Or Scary*
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=69tzIFIZBT8
What Happens Few Seconds Before You Die?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWfNYztUM1U
A Visit From Angel of Death - Powerful Reminder - Sheikh
Omar El Banna
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KYfeVp8qRTs
l. We need you to die in the most pleasant of ways
Dead body refuses to go inside the grave
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBj41vAXR3Y
Signs That You Dont Really Love Allah
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bY5zULnONG8
Message From A Dying Person
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nrx0mn7Ar6c
DEATH - True Stories of Death
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtOGzp65baY
They Died Without Salah - True Story – MercifulServant
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wNWMVlEkHhg
At the time of Death ~ True Story ~ ITUP Network
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k1GD8jVzcbs
True Stories of Death | Sheikh Feiz
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EhWq0C1TdDg
Uttering Kalimah At The Time Of Death - by Sheikh Ahmed
Ali https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQKoZx8CSaE
Read this https://islamqa.info/en/10903
“O you who believe, fear Allah as He should be feared, and
die not except as Muslims.” (3:102)
http://darunnasiha.blogspot.com.au/2015/03/you-will-die-
way-you-lived.html
http://rasoulallah.net/en/articles/article/16446
“You will die the way you lived.” (Quote by many scholars)
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The agonies of death are the last hardship that a person
encounters before meeting Allah, and they are the last thing
by means of which Allah expiates the sins of His slave. We
ask Allah to make these agonies easy for us and help us to
bear them.
Al-Bukhaari (4449) narrated from ‘Aa’ishah that during the
sickness of which he died, the Messenger of Allah (blessings
and peace of Allah be upon him) began to put his hand in
water and wipe his face with it, saying: “Laa ilaaha ill-Allah
(there is no god but Allah), verily death has agonies.” Then
he held up his hand and started saying: “With the higher
companions…” until he passed away and his hand fell.
At-Tirmidhi (978) narrated from ‘Aa’ishah that she said: I
saw the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be
upon him) as he was dying. There was a vessel of water next
to him, and he would put his hand in the vessel then wipe
his face with the water, then he said: “O Allah, help me to
bear the agonies of death.”
Classed as hasan by al-Haafiz in al-Fath (11/362); classed as
da‘eef by al-Albaani in Da‘eef at-Tirmidhi
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was
asked:
Do the agonies of death reduced the burden of sin? Does
sickness that precedes death do likewise? He
replied: Everything that befalls a person of sickness,
hardship, worry, or distress, even a thorn that pricks him, is
expiation for his sins. Then if he is patient and seeks reward,
in addition to expiation of sin he will have the reward for
that patience with which he faced the calamity that befell
him. There is no differentiation in that regard between what
happens at the time of death and what happens before that.
End quote from Fataawa Noor ‘ala ad-Darb (24/2)
Alongside the hardship and agonies of death, what the
believer receives of glad tidings and being made steadfast at
the time of his death are among the things that will make
what he is faced with easier to bear and will make him long
for what comes after it of meeting Allah.
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
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The dying person can only be one of two things: either it is a
relief for him or others are relieved of him. In either case
things may be very hard for him at the time of death or they
may be alleviated for him. In the former case, he is the one
who is faced with the agonies of death, and that has nothing
to do with whether he was pious or an evildoer; rather if he
was one of the pious it will increase him in reward,
otherwise it will expiate for him accordingly, then he will be
relieved of the annoyances of this world, of which this is the
last. ‘Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez said: I would not like the
agonies of death to be reduced for me, for that is the last
thing by means of which sin may be expiated for the
believer. Yet at the same time, what the believer receives of
glad tidings and the angels being happy to meet him, and
their accompanying him, and his joy at meeting his Lord,
make it easier for him to bear whatever he may face of the
pain of death, until it becomes as if he does not feel
anything of that. End quote from Fath al-Baari (11/365)3
2) To Teen: Let’s have a look at your Salaah Chart. Why is it important to pray five times daily?
https://storiesformuslimkids.wordpress.com/portfolio/prayers-are-important/
3) To Teen: Let’s have a look at your Quran Chart. Why is it important to read Quran daily and
listen to a bit of Tafseer lecture or read a bit of Tafseer daily? Why is it important to listen to
recitation of the Quran regularly on top of reading it by ourselves daily?
Read little bit of Quran everyday ~ Nouman Ali Khan
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1kr7IgrFuqA
What do I achieve by Reading the Quran? - Mufti Menk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SPzBQEmxFaI
Mufti Menk - Why Don't You Listen to the Quran
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBzdJA9_2q4
The Quran: Advice, Cure, Guidance, & Mercy - Mufti Menk - Quran Weekly
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jhaCrPM8Oeg
Read Quran everyday by Mufti menk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKM-
baDOkPg
What do I Achieve by Reading the Quran? ~ Mufti Ismail Menk | Jumu'ah Lecture
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tQZ2s0rNCQU
Too lazy to understand the Quran? Watch This! - Nouman Ali Khan & Mufti Menk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=trrtk3fLxhM
Reward of reciting the Quran ● Amazing ● Mufti Menk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=etleK-2G9-g
http://www.gsalam.net/8-reasons-you-should-read-the-quran-everyday-even-if-you-
dont-understand-it/
http://www.themodernreligion.com/basic/quran/quran-benefits.html
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4) To Teen: Let’s have a look at your Dhikr Chart. Why is it important to remember Allah and do
Dhikr daily? https://storiesformuslimkids.wordpress.com/portfolio/why-should-we-remember-
allah/
5) To Teen: Let’s have a look at your actions. Why is it important to do righteous actions and avoid
sinful actions?
6) Additional reminders: “I’m not perfect. So I might as well give up” How to be a good muslim! -
Yasmin mogahed https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Zg6Q-Bp-Uw and * below
7) Du’aa for righteous children and spouse (for parents and for the teen. For her future children
and spouse, in shaa Allah) See Quran (25:74)
* Allah forgives all sins, right? So,
I’m sure He’ll forgive me for not wearing the Hijab. A typical question:
Q: Didn’t Allah say in the Quran that He will forgive all sins? So, it isn’t a big deal right if I
wear the Hijab or not? I think it doesn’t matter if I wear the Hijab or not. I know it’s a sin not
to wear it. But since Allah says that He will forgive all sins, I’m sure He will forgive my sin
for not wearing the hijab, right?
A: No, you are mistaken, sister.
Allah says in the Quran:
“Say: O ‘Ibaadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by
committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allaah, verily, Allaah
forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Zumar 39:53].
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No sin is excluded from this general meaning, but this
applies only to those who repent.
End quote from al-Jawaab al-Kaafi, 1/116
That means, you have to sincerely ask Allah for forgiveness for doing that sin before
you die.
(Question and Answer are edited and extracted from https://islamqa.info/en/175522 . For a
detailed answer, do refer to it.)