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TALK ON PARENTING STYLES OF PRESCHOOLERS

Kindergarten Level DayLa Salle Academy

July 18, 2008

Prepared by:Marionito L. Hinacay

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Talk Structure:

1. Introduction

2. Core Concepts

3. Practical Tips on Parenting

4. Poem: Children Learn What They Live

CORE CONCEPTS

1.Child development especially among preschoolers is a solid foundation for community development.

2.There are preschool problems and it is an inalienable responsibility of parents to educate their children.

3.Preschoolers are their age are questioning, imitative, and creative. Parents normally perceived their behavior as “troublesome.”

4. Preschoolers are unique individuals. We need to appreciate their individual differences.

5. There are different styles of parenting or disciplining our preschoolers. There is an approach that is successful in one situation but may not work in another.

THREE TYPES OF PARENTING STYLES

Style Parent’s Attitude Effect on Children

Authoritarian Expect children to follow their rules without deviation.

-Angry rebels-No independent judgments-Overly dependent

Permissive Enforce discipline irregularly.

Children may not learn how to keep themselves safe, secure and healthy.

Authoritative Provides children with some freedom but also enforces appropriate limitations and boundaries necessary for safety.

•Encourage to develop their own judgment.•Develop their own interest.

6.Parents should set a good example to their children.

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7. Create an atmosphere or generation of presence and love in the family.

8. Parents should be active listeners to their preschoolers. Empathy should be at the heart of parenting and care giving.

9. Parents should watch their language. Use your words carefully to teach children. Focus what to do (positive) rather than what not to do (negative).

Instead of:Instead of: Try saying: Try saying:

Do not run.Do not run.Do not touch anything.Do not touch anything.Do not climb on the Do not climb on the sofa.sofa.Do not scream and Do not scream and shout. shout.

Slow down and walk.Slow down and walk.Come hold my hand.Come hold my hand.Keep your feet on the Keep your feet on the floor.floor.Use your quite voice Use your quite voice inside. inside.

10.Redirecting or teaching the child a different way to do the same thing can be effective.

11.Sibling rivalry must be avoided. Each much be guided in searching for their own self-identities.

12.Letting your preschooler help with household chores can make you both proud of his achievements.

13.Spare a quality family time. Whether you are sharing a meal, playing a game, the physical and emotional closeness helps your preschooler feel safer.

13.Parents should find their way to craft or prepare short stories, humors or healthy jokes, morals before bedtime.

14.Lastly, do not forget to pray for your children. Do not curse them. They are God’s gift to you. In the words of Saint Thomas Aquinas, “Children are persons in the making. They are persons of intrinsic worth.”

IMPORTANT PRACTICAL TIPS1. Make sure your children know they are loved.2. Show love with hugs, smiles, kisses, talking and looking directly

into your child’s eyes.3. Say your child’s name in a cheerful, caring voice.4. Really listen when your child talks to you.5. Encourage and support your child by showing appreciation for

his accomplishments.6. Say “yes” and “I love you” more often than you say “no” or

“don’t”.7. Demonstrate in ways she can understand that she is unique and

special to you.8. Understand that discipline should teach, not punish; it is setting

limits with both firmness and kindness.9. Show respect for your child so that he will learn respect for

others.10. Prepare your child for new situations, so that he will know what

you expect and feel confident and secure.

CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE By Dorothy Law Nolte

If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.

If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.

If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.

If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.

If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.

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