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Lessons from my 20s
LIFE Part I:
Lessons from my 20s
GOALs PART I, Section 1
THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
VERY FEW PEOPLE ACTUALLY WRITE DOWN THEIR GOALS
THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
FEWER STILL PRINT THEM OUT &
FRAME THEM
THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
In my experience Those who write down & FRAME THEIR GOALS
ARE THE MOST EFFECTIVE HUMAN BEINGS AT CREATING
A BETTER WORLD
THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
WHEN YOU WRITE a goal DOWN your subconcious BRAIN BEGINS TO MORE actively think about bringing into your life THE PEOPLE, RESOURCES & KNOWLEDGE
YOU NEED TO ACHIEVE your GOALS
THE IMPORTANCE OF GOALS
WHEN YOU know what youre up to In the world your mind can naturally Filter opportunities to find those that Match your goals
I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS AT 16
I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS AT AGE 16 in the year 2000 AFTER MY MOM GAVE ME THE BOOK THINK AND GROW RICH
I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS AT 16
THE FIRST EVER GOAL I wrote down at age 16 was BUILD A COMPANY TO $1M IN SALES BY 21
I MISSED MY FIRST BIG GOAL
I MISSED THIS GOAL By 18 days
I TURNED 21 on August 14, 2005 iContact reached $1M in sales on September 1, 2005
I STARTED WRITING DOWN MY GOALS AT 16
I wouldnt have even come close To achieving this goal had I not Written it down
WRITTEN GOALS ARE INDEED POWERFUL FOR FOCUSING THE MIND
REFLECTING ON GOALS
Ive been AMAZED AT WHAT IVE BEEN ABLE TO SEE, and EXPERIENCE and HOW LIFE HAS BEEN ENRICHED SINCE I BEGAN WRITING DOWN GOALS AND THEN PURSUING
THE HECK OUT OF THEM
REFLECTING ON GOALS
HERE ARE JUST A FEW OF THE THINGS in life Ive been able to achieve In my twenties due to writing down my goals
And then pursuing them
Age Goal Achieved 21 GREW icontact to $1M in sales 23 Raised $5M in venture capital Series A round for iContact 25 Raised $40M in venture capital Series B for icontact 26 icontact reached 300 employees and $50M in annual sales
Joined united nations foundation Global entrepreneur council Got to Meetworld leaders like ban ki moon, kofi annan, bill clinton, barack obama
27 Sold icontact for $170M to a public company Started impact investing firm Connect VENTURES Visited kenya, Uganda, rwanda, egypt, ghana, Invested in off-grid electric in tanzania Got into harvard business school
28 Invested in spacex, change.org, lendingclub in Silicon Valley Completed year one of HBS MBA in boston Started Connect in san francisco
29 FINISHED Losing 50 pounds (205 ! 155) Started meditating daily Connect passed 1 million users
Whats happened in my 20s due to writing my down GOALS
Building icontact
Leading an amazing executive team
JOINING THE UN FOUNDATION GLOBAL ENTREPRENEUR COUNCIL
Co-chairing Tech for obama in 2012
ATTENDING HARVARD BUSINESS SCHOOL
ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE
NEARLY ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE THAT YOU SET YOUR MIND TO AND WORK HARD AT
FOR 10 years
An EXAMPLE
AS AN ExAMPLE HERE ARE
MY current GOALS
1 Year goals
GET CONNECT TO 2M MONTHLY ACTIVE USERS
RAISE SERIES A FOR CONNECT
GROW HIVE FROM 80 TO 300 GLOBAL MEMBERS
PUBLISH EVERYTHING IVE LEARNED BY 30
MEDITATE OVER 300 TIMES (6X/WEEK)
VISIT ARGENTINA & ENGLAND
10 Year goals by 2025
100m people use connect to stay connected
built hive into a global community of people working to
create a better world with 10 Profitable locations
traveled to over 50 countries exploring perpsectives on
Human potential and spirituality
Published a book on creating a better Life, Company, & world
Built a relationship with an amazing life partner
Become an extraordinary father
LIFETIME GOALS
Live a joyous, happy, and fully alive life Be an extraordinary partner and father
Create a profitable hive in 1000 cities
BUILD a global community of extraordinary people
working on creating a better world
Never limit your dreams
My friends. Do not limit your dreams.
A quote
Dream no small dreamsfor they have no power to move the hearts of men.
- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, German writer
Write down your goals
Here is a 12 step process YOU Can use FOR WRITING DOWN
YOUR GOALs
Writing down your goals
You can do this 30 minute exercise right Now Or put a time on your calendar to
Come back to it
GOALS EXERCISE
GOAL SETTING PROCESS
OPEN UP GOOGLE DOCS
CREATE HEADINGS For 1 YRs, 10 YRs, AND LIFETIME
THEN WRITE DOWN 5 TO 7 GOALS IN EACH CATEGORY
MAKE EVERYTHING FIT ON ONE PAGE MAKE SURE ALL GOALS ARE MEASURABLE SO YOULL KNOW IF YOU GOT THERE OR NOT
1
2
3
PRINT OUT TWO COPIES
SIGN THEM
FRAME THEM
4
5
6
GOAL SETTING PROCESS
PUT ONE FRAME IN YOUR BEDRO0M
PUT ONE FRAME AT WORK
SHARE YOUR ONE-PAGER WITH A CLOSE FRIEND
7
8
9
GOAL SETTING PROCESS
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11
12
DEC 26-31 CALCULATE RESULTS GREEN = MADE IT YELLOW = 50%+ there RED =
MAKING YOUR GOALS AMBITIOUS ENOUGH
OF YOUR GOALS
IF HIGHER, THEN YOUR GOALS ARE NOT
AMBITIOUS ENOUGh
66% YOU SHOULD BE HITTING AROUND
GOALS Reflection
GOALS REFLECTION
WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU WROTE DOWN YOUR GOALS?
CAN YOU FIND THEM?
GOALS REFLECTION
DO YOU THINK THE GOALS YOU SET ARE USUALLY TOO AMBITIOUS?
OR NOT AMBITIOUS ENOUGH?
GOALS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST AMBITIOUS GOAL YouVE EVER SET?
DID you achieve it? Why or why not?
Lessons from my 20s
PURPOSE PART I, Section 2
A quote
When you grow up you tend to get told the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much. Try to have a nice family, have fun, save a little money
That's a very limited life. Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact
Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you and you can change it, you can influence it. Once you learn that, you'll never be the same again.
- Steve Jobs
How to FIND YOUR PURPOSE
MOST PEOPLE NEVER create THEIR LIFE PURPOSE Instead they get sucked into the
Dreaded vortex of passionless mediocrity (Dont let this happen to you)
AVOIDING THE VORTEX OF MEDIOCRITY
CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE
1. THOSE WHO LIVE WITH PURPOSE
2. THOSE WHO DO NOT
creating YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
THOSE WHO TAKE THE TIME TO CREATE THEIR LIFE PURPOSE OFTEN ARE ABLE To LIVE WITH EXTRAORDINARY ENERGY AND MOTIVATION & OVERCOME CHALLENGES Most could not dream of
A QUOTE
- HOWARD THURMAN!
Dont ask what the world needs.Ask what makes you come alive.Because what the world needs isPeople who have come alive.
LIFE HAS NO MEANING UNLESS YOU CREATE THE MEANING FOR YOURSELF
LIFE HAS NO MEANING UNLESS
CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
SO lets talk about Your LIFE PURPOSE
DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
IF YOU CAN GO THROUGH A PROCESS
TO CREATE YOUR PURPOSE THEN YOU CAN ADD GREAT MEANING AND MOTIVATIOn TO YOUR LIFE
Your purpose is not Something you HAVE Your purpose is
Something you CREATE
Creating YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
Once you have a clear purpose and goals for your life you can direct your life rather than letting outside factors determine your direction
TO0 MANY PEOPLE ARE WAITING to
FIND THEIR PURPOSE WHEN IN FACT purpose is something
you CREATE
DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
Standing strong with a clear purpose
You will be able to much more easily withstand criticism and challenges when you are internally clear on your
Specific purpose on this planet
LIVING A PURPOSe-DRIVEN LIFE
THE COMMON DENOMINATOR AMONG EVERY SINGLE HIGHLY DRIVEN AND SUCCESSFUL PERSON I HAVE EVER MET, REGARDLESS OF FIELD, IS THAT THEY HAVE COMMITED THEIR GOALS TO WRITING AND CREATED FOR THEMSELVES A PURPOSE-DRIVEN LIFE
Your LIFE IS YOUR MESSAGE
YOUR LIFE IS YOUR MESSAGE TO THE WORLD MAKE SURE IT IS
INSPIRING
Living a Purpose-driven life
Living a purpose-driven Life is important to me
Heres what Ive created As My purpose
MY life purpose
Help CREATe An ABUNDANT, SUSTAINABle, and joyOUS WORLD FOR ALL PEOPLE
All people can live peaceful, mindful, and joyous lives
All people can live on a sustainable planet with clean energy
All people have access to the six basic human needs1 2 3
Creating a Purpose-driven life
Everything I do is Driven by this
Sense of purpose
MY LIFE PURPOSE
someday ALL PEOPLE will HAVE ACCESS TO the SIX BASIC HUMAN NEEDS of Food, water, shelter, medicine Education and electricity
MY LIFE PURPOSE
Someday we will LIVE IN A SUSTAINABLE WORLD POWERED BY RENEWABLE ENERGY
MY LIFE PURPOSE
Someday all PEOPLE will be able To LIVE PEACEFUl, MINDFUl AND JOYOUS LIVES
your LIFE PURPOSE
The exercise on the following Slides can help you Create & refine
Your life purpose
your LIFE PURPOSE
You can do this 90 minute Exercise right now or put a time On your calendar to do it
Creating your LIFE PURPOSE
How to FIND YOUR PURPOSE
EXERCISE: CREATE YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
LIFE PURPOSE EXERCISE Instructions:
1. Print out this section so you can write in it with pen 2. Use a timer to give yourself exactly 4 mins per question 3. Write out the answers in the ovals 4. At the end, youll bring it all together in a final one-page
worksheet that you can frame if you choose 5. This exercise should take 90 minutes to complete
What do you really love doing? When am I most in flow/in the zone? What excites me? What makes me come alive and be joyous?
4 min
What does THE WORLD need? What does humanity and the world need to thrive? List as many things as you can think of.
4 min
HOW CAN I CREATE WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS WHILE DOING WHAT I LOVE? What are all the things you could do in life that would serve humanity in a big way
and allow you to do what you love? Brainstorm below.
4 min
WHAT ARE MY PERSONAL FINANCIAL GOALS? What do you want your annual income to be in 10 years? In 20?
What do you want to have saved up in investments and savings by age 65?
4 min
HOW CAN I GET PAID TO DO WHAT I LOVE? What could you do in life that would serve humanity in a big way, allow you to do what you love, and create economic
value that allows you to reach and surpass your personal financial goals?
4 min
DESCRIBE HOW THE WORLD WILL BE DIFFERENT IN 2050 because of you
Close your eyes for 5 minutes and imagine all the little details of how our world will be different in 2050 because of you.Then write what you see.
4 min
WHAT IS THE CHANGE YOU ARE COMMITED TO? What is so compelling to you that you might be willing to dedicate your life to making it happen?
In other words, what might be your life purpose. Use the space to brainstorm.
4 min
WHAT IS THE CHANGE YOU ARE COMMITED TO? See if you answer the above question as simply as possible so that a 10 year old would understand it.
Try to do it in fewer than 15 words (no pressure, this is just a draft). This could be considered your life purpose.
4 min
POSSIBLE METRICS OF SUCCESS What are some metrics to track whether your life purpose is being realized in the world over the next 35 years? Make these metrics
specific and quantitative so it will be clear when youve achieved the impact you want to make in your life.
Examples: Global infant mortality < 1%; Global energy from renewables >95%; Carbon dioxide under 350
PPM; Homelessness in Oakland, CA down by 80%
4 min
HOW MIGHT YOU MAKE THIS HAPPEN? What can you create/build/do during your life to help make this world that you dream of real? Its okay
if you arent completely sure yet. Brainstorm ideas.
4 min
LIFETIME GOALS
Brainstorm some goals for the rest of your life that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like
health, travel, experiences, adventures, work, finances, relationships, and impact.
4 min
10 YEAR GOALS Brainstorm some goals for the next ten years that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like
health, travel, experiences, adventures, work, finances, relationships, and impact.
4 min
ONE YEAR GOALS Brainstorm some goals for the next year that align with the impact you want to make. Think about areas of life like health,
travel, experiences, adventures, work, finances, relationships, and impact.
4 min
90 DAY Action plan What are the very first action steps you can take over the next 90 days to start realizing your vision? Who should
you reach out to? What should you look into? What habits do want to start and stop?
4 min
YOUR DESIRED WAY OF BEING
Examples: Joyous, mindful, alive, focused, driven, ambitious, kind, compassionate, loving
As you go about your journey in life, how do you want to be inside and come across to others?
What words do you want to define you?
4 min
HOW OTHERS WILL REMEMBER YOU
Examples: I will be known in the world as the sustainable energy person
I will be known in the world as the womens rights advocate
I will be known in the world as the global leaders convener
People will help you reach your goals if they can remember what youre all about. If often hard to discern what the people you meet are up to
and who they need to be connected to. Make it simple for others you meet to remember what youre up to by finishing the below sentence
and making sure those you meet know what youre up to in the world.
I will be known in my community as the
_______________________ ____________________
person.
4 min
NOW BRING IT ALL TOGETHER
On the next page is a blank life plan form.
Give yourself some time to review and reflect on all your answers from the brainstorming
session. Then print out and fill in the life plan form with a pen or pencil. Feel free to adjust
your answers as you go, but dont worry too much about getting it perfect.
Consider this form as just a draft. You can print out another one anytime.
There are no right answers and you can re-do your life plan as often as you want. I find just
having something written down helps people a lot. I actually recommend re-doing this
exercise at the end of each year.
I suggest framing the page after youre done and putting it up in your office or bedroom.
Worksheet!Instruc.ons!
15 min
Life purpose
1 year goals 90 day action plan
Signed on _______________, _______ 20___ X______________________________________
Metrics of success by 2050
My desired way of being
How Ill make It happen
Lifetime goals
I will be known in my community as the ______________________________ ______________________________ person.
10 year goals
Life Plan of ___________________________________
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
As an example Here is my current life plan
In the 1 page format I update it about 1x per year
Life purpose
Example: Life Plan of Ryan Allis
Signed on _______________, _______ 20___ X______________________________________
Metrics of success by 2050:
Desired way of being:
How Ill make It happen:
I will be known in my community as the global leadership person.
Building a movement that creates an abundant, sustainable, and joyous world for all people
1) All people have access to the 6 BHNs 2) 95% energy from renewable sources 3) 0 major conflicts globally as defined by the UCDP
1) Build Connect into a global platform for connecting communities
2) Build Hive into a global community of extraordinary leaders who are creating a better world.
Joyous, happy, fully alive
90 Day Action Plan
10 year goalsLifetime goals
1. 1 million people us Connect each day to stay connected2. Publish a book about making a difference in the world for initial feedback3. Hold 4 Hive Global Leaders Programs in San Francisco 4. Visit South America for the first time5. Build habit of meditating 6x per week6. Deepen relationship with Nadia
1. 10 million people use Connect each day to stay connected2. Grow Hive to 10 profitable global locations3. Train others to hold Hive gatherings4. Build a relationship with an amazing life partner5. Travel widely to explore perspectives on human society, spirituality, and human
potential
6. Publish a book on creating an extraordinary life, world, and company
1. Be an extraordinary partner and father2. Catalyze a movement that creates an abundant, sustainable, and joyous world 3. Create a Hive in 1000 cities around the world4. Create the worlds most impactful network of global leaders5. Explore widely and be a lifelong learner6. Live a joyous, happy, and fully alive life
1 Year Goals
1. Hold September 2014 Hive Global Leaders Program2. Get Connect to 1,000,000 users3. Prepare Connect for Series A4. Meditate daily 5. Travel with Nadia to England 6. Publish Everything I Learned By 30 Presentation
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
Once you have it Share your life plan With five friends & mentors
In the next 14 days AND GET THEIR FEEDBACK AND INPUT THEY MAY BE ABLE TO CONNECT YOU TO PEOPLE WHO CAN HELP
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE
When you meet people you should be able to CLEARLY express
Your life purpose in 15 WORDS or less WITH AUTHENTIC EXCITEMENT IN A WAY THAT moves people WHEN YOU TELL THEM
A quote
Each of us must make the personal choice to be a hero or
not, to be committed to something bigger than ourselves or
not, to go beyond the way we wound up being and have
the purpose of our lives and our careers be about something
that makes a difference or not, in other words, to be a leader
or not.
Werner Erhard
Lessons from my 20s
VISION PART I, Section 3
A POEM on life
Short this life is, just one Ive got, finite in tenure, whether I like it or not. Dead is embracing fear, replacing dreams with I cannot. Alive is taking a new step, having a shot. I will do the impossible, I will change the world, I will give hope to a despairing nation, Ill give bread to a starving girl. Ill break all the records, Ill do whats never been done, Ill give and know love, Ill be a billionaire of fun.
What will you do with today, this hour, this minute? Will you fill with dull and fear or will you live it? I will not tolerate any foe no matter weapon or munition, especially if that foe is within me in the form of fear or lack of ambition. Short this life is, just one Ive got. Finite in tenure whether I like it or not. As sure as the eagle I will fly, cos I choose, I choose to live until I die.
- A.E. BALLAKISTEN
VISION
Great leaders
Have a clear purpose
And a clear vision of
the world they are
Working to create
VISION BOARds
lets start by talking about VISION Boards
VISION BOARds
When GOALs & DREAMS BECOME VISUALIZED THEY BECOME ONE BIG LEAP
CLOSER TO BECOMING REAL
Vision board exercise
VISION BOARDS
VISION BOARDS ARE WHITE POSTER BOARDS COVERED WITH CUT OUT IMAGES
OF WHAT YOU WANT TO SEE IN YOUR FUTURE
AND THE WORLDS FUTURE
MY 2009 VISION BOARD
A Friends 2014 Vision board
VISION BOARD CREATING PROCESS
SEARCH FOR & PRINT OUT AT LEAST 5 IMAGES IN EACH OF THE BELOW CATEGORIES
FAMILY HEALTH EDUCATION TRAVEL Adventure
CAREER FINANCIAL QUOTES VALUES ART
VISION BOARD CREATION PROCESS
ONCE PRINTED & TORN OUT CUT tO SIZE THEN PASTE OR TAPE ONTO YOUR VISION BOARD
THEN SHARE IT WITH A FRIEND AND HANG IT IN YOUR BEDROOM
VISION BOARD REFLECTION
HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN SINCE Youve created a vision board?
DO YOU STILL HAVE IT?
VISION BOARD REFLECTION
WHAT ARE THE INSTANCES IN YOUR LIFE IN WHICH YouVE SEEN INTENTION
TURN INTO REALITY?
BUCKET LISTS
BUCKET LISTs ALLOW YOU TO CAPTURE YOUR DREAMS THEY ARE another way to
CREATE YOUR FUTURE
BUCKET LISTS
YOU CAN CREATE THEM AS A LIST OR EVEN BETTER PUT THEM UP ON YOUR WALL WITH
POST-IT NOTES
BUCKET LISTS
YOU SHOULD UPDATE YOUR BUCKET LIST ONCE PER YEAR NEAR YOUR BIRTHDAY OR THE LAST 5 DAYS OF THE YEAR
BUCKET LISTS
HERES MY LIFETIME BUCKET LIST
MY BUCKET LIST
" HELP create a JOYOUS, SUSTAINABlE, and ABUNDANT WORLD " Take CONNECT PUBLIC ON NASDAQ " BUILD AN INVESTMENT FUND THAT INVESTS in SOLVING MAJOR HUMAN
CHALLENGES
" CREATE A GLOBAL COMMUNITY OF EXTRAORDINARY PEOPLE WORKING TOWARD CREATING A BETTER WORLD
MY BUCKET LIST
"FINISH MY MBA FROM HBS "WRITE A BOOK ON HOW TO LIVE A PASSIONATE, MINDFUl,
HEALTHY LIFE
"SOMEDAY WORK IN PUBLIC SERVICE "SOMEDAY LIVE ON ANOTHER CONTINENT
MY BUCKET LIST
# BUILD A COMPANY TO MORE THAN $1 Billion in SALES
# CREATE OVER 1 million jobs
# Visit 100 countries by age 50
# CLIMB MT. KILIMANJARO AND REACH UHURU PEAK
MY BUCKET LIST
" DRIVE on NEW ZEALANDS HIGHWAY 6 " DRIVE on THE CARRETERA AUSTRAL IN CHILE " HANG GILDE IN RIO DE JANEIRO " Attend The Clinton Global Initiative
MY BUCKET LIST
" TRAVEL TO SPACE on VIRGIN GALACTIC " MEDITATE WITH DEEPAK CHOPRA " BE A GUEST ON THE DAILY SHOW " SEE A CIRQUE DU SOLEIL SHOW
MY BUCKET LIST
" SPEAK IN FRONT OF 100,000 people " GIVE A TED TALK " ATTEND THE WORLD ECONOMIC FORUM " JOIN THE UN FOUNDATION BOARD OF DIRECTORS
MY BUCKET LIST
" BE A HUSBAND WHO EMPOWERS MY WIFE TO ACHIEVE HER WILDEST AND BOLDEST DREAMS
" BE A FATHER WHO INSPIRES HIS CHILDREN " WATCH EVERY DISNEY AND PIXAr MOVIE WITH MY KIDS
RELATIONSHIP BUCKET LISTS
IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP TRY CREATING A BUCKET LIST OF THINGS YOU WANT TO
DO TOGETHER
Nadia and my bucket List
Bucket list exercise
CREATING YOUR BUCKET LIST
NOW, GO AHEAD GRAB SOME POST-iT NOTES OR OPEN A GOOGLE DOC AND START MAKING
YOUR BUCKET LIST
CREATING YOUR BUCKET LIST
WRITE DOWN ALL THE AMAZING EXPERIENCES YOU WANT TO HAVE OVER THE REST OF YOUR LIFE
AND DREAM BIG
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST EXCITING THING YouVE DONE IN THE
LAST YEAR?
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST EXCITING THING YouVE DONE IN THE
LAST 10 YEARs?
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST MEANINGFUL THING YouVE DONE IN THE
LAST YEAR?
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT IS THE MOST MEANINGFUL THING YouVE DONE IN THE
LAST 10 YEARs?
BUCKET LISTS REFLECTION
WHAT ONE THING, iF YOU DID IT in your life WOULD BE EXTREMELY MEANINGFUL
TO YOU?
Lessons from my 20s
NETWORKS PART I, Section 4
PEOPLE
WHO YOU SURROUND
YOURSELF WITH
IS WHO YOU BECOME
PEOPLE
SURROUND YOURSELF ONLY WITH SMART, COMPETENT
& POSITIVE PEOPLE (Life is too short not to)
SELECTING YOUR FRIENDS CONCIOUSLY
YOUR FRIENDS DETERMINE WHO YOU BECOME
SELECTING YOUR FRIENDS CONCIOUSLY
YOU SHOULD ONLY SPEND TIME WITH
FRIENDS WHO INSPIRE YOU
SELECTING YOUR FRIENDS CONCIOUSLY
IF YOUR FRIENDS Dont INSPIRE YOU THEN
FIND FRIENDS WHO DO!
BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
DONT LET CHANCE DETERMINE WHOS IN YOUR LIFE
What carnegie knew
ANDREW CARNEGIEs EPITAPH SAYS
Here lies one who knew how to get around him men who
WERE CLEVERER THAN HIMSELF
BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
IT MIGHT TAKE 5 years to completely change up
THE PEOPLE SURROUNDING YOU BUT IT IS ABSOLUTELY
WORTH IT
What I LOOK FOR IN MY FRIENDS
Joy Compassion Intelligence
Passion Purpose
Intentionally SEEK OUT AMAZING FRIENDS
Random Friends Chosen Friends
vs.
A high impact lifeAn ordinary life
BE INTENTIONAL ABOUT THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
IF YOU DonT LIVE IN An INTELLECTUAL CENTER
CONSIDER A MOVE
TO AVOID MEDIOCRITY
TO AVOID BEING MEDIOCRE YOU MUST SEEK OUT PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT MEDIOCRE
AND HANG OUT WITH THEM
Your EDUCATIONAL NETWORK
YOUR UNDERGRAD & GRADUATE SCHOOLS ARE CRITICALLY IMPORTANT NETWORKS SO PREPARE WELL AND GO TO THE
ABSOLUTE BEST SCHOOLS YOU CAN GET INTO WHILE AVOIDING GETTING INTO MOUNTAINS OF DEBT
Your EDUCATIONAL NETWORK
Harvard Stanford MIT PRINCETON
THESE schools have some Of the best networks So if you can, attend for undergrad, Grad school, or take an exec program at
Penn Columbia Yale BROWN
OXFORD CAMBRIDGE LSE uchicago
Your EDUCATIONAL NETWORK
KNOWLEDGE IS CRITICAL SO IF YOU CANNOT GET INTO OR AFFORD THE BEST SCHOOLS THEN STILL TAKE THE BEST COURSES FREE
On edx or COURSERA
Your WORK NETWORK
YOUR COMPANY IS YOUR MOST IMPORTANT NETWORK SO CHOOSE YOUR COMPANY VERY CAREFULLY
OR BUILD YOUR OWN
Your WORK NETWORK
WHY DO PEOPLE SPEND 832 WEEKS IN SCHOOL THEN SPEND
WHAT CHANGE WILL YOU WORK TOWARD?
IF YOU DONT LIKE YOUR JOB FIND AN ORGANIZATION WHose MISSION
YOUrE PASSIONATE ABOUT AND DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET IN THERE
YOUR WORK NETWORK
ONLY GO TO WORK FOR A COMPANY IF YOU DEEPLY BELIEVE IN THE CHANGE THEY ARE TRYING TO
MAKE IN THE WORLD
YOUR WORK NETWORK
Dont TAKE A JOB UNLESS YOUll BE WORKING FOR SOMEONE
YOU WILL LEARN LOTS FROM OF HIGH INTEGRITY WHO!
THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
HERE ARE SOME NETWORKS
PASSIONATE YOUNG PEOPLE
SHOULD GET INVOLVED WITH
THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
ASPEN INSTITUTE FELLOWS
EMPACT 100
ENTREPRENEURS ORGANIZATION
THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
FORTUNE BRAINSTORM
HIVE
KAIROS
THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
NEXUS YOUTH SUMMIT
RENAISSANCE WEEKEND
SANDBOX
SINGULARITY UNIVERSITY
THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
SKOLL WORLD FORUM
SOCIAL CAPITAL MARKETS
SOCIAL VENTURE NETWORK
THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
STARTINGBLOC
SUMMIT SERIES
TECH STARS
THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
TED
UNREASONABLE INSTITUTE
WEF YounG GLOBAL LEADERS
THE KEY NETWORKS TO LOOK INTO
WHITE HOUSE FELLOWS
Y COMBINATOR
YOUNG ENTREPRENEUR COUNCIL
YOUNG PRESIDENTs ORGANIZATION
Your weekly roundtable
TO BUILD A STRONG SUPPORT NETWORK CREATE A WEEKLY DINNER ROUNDTABLE OF YOUR
CLOSEST 8 FRIENDS Try EVERY WEDNESDAY AT 8pm
Programs I highly recommend for building relationships Summit holds an annual large event for top entrepreneurs, social entrepreneurs, and artists. Holds frequent gatherings at Powder Mountain in Eden, Utah.
StartingBloc holds five-day Institutes in New York, Los Angeles, D.C., Boston, and Boulder for individuals who want to make a difference in the world
I highly recommend both the Summer Graduate Studies Program (GSP) or the week-long Executive Program (EP). Focuses on using science and technology to solve major human challenges.
The Hive Global Leaders Program is a weekend program in San Francisco that brings together a community of extraordinary leaders and entrepreneurs focused on creating a better world.
Nexus holds an annual Global Youth Summit in New York City that brings together some of the top entrepreneurs, social entrepreneurs, and philanthropists
Social Innovation Summit is a two-day conference held annually in New York and California that brings together the leading minds of the social, government, and business sectors
SOCAP (short for Social Capital Markets) is one of the best conferences for bringing together peoplePassionate about creating positive change in the world
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
You can do the following
20 minute Exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar
To return to it
INNER CIRCLE EXERCISE
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
ON A SHEET OF PAPER LIST
YOUR TOP 20 FRIENDS
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
NEXT, circle the names of THE 10
people WHO inspire you MOST
BASED ON WHAT THEY ARE DOING
WITH THEIR LIVES
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
Now, create a new list of 10 people
You arent very close with
who inspire you
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
Finally, combine the lists of 10 to create your
NEW INNER CIRCLE
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
SPEND YOUR TIME
WITH inspiring PEOPLE WHO ARE
UP TO SOMETHING BIG IN THE WORLD that will help others
EXERCISE: CREATING YOUR INNER CIRCLE
IF YOU dont know enough inspiring people
Who are up to something big in the world
Join the networks Listed in the networks section Of this presentation
Lessons from my 20s
MENTORS PART I, Section 5
TWO OPTIONS: Choose Carefully
Random Friends
No Mentors Jedi Mentors
Chosen Friends
vs.
You You
A high impact lifeAn ordinary life
FINDING AMAZING Mentors
VERY VERY FEW PEOPLE ACTUALLY HAVE MENTORS
AND YET MENTORSHIP IS CRUCIAL TO LIVING THE
LIFE YOU WANT
FINDING AMAZING Mentors
WHO MENTORS YOU DETERMINES WHO
YOU BECOME
FINDING Mentors
FINDING Mentors
WHO MENTORS YOU DETERMINES WHICH NETWORKS YOU ACCESS
FINDING Mentors
WHO MENTORS YOU DETERMINES WHERE IN LIFE
YOU WILL GO
FINDING Mentors
WHY DO PEOPLE SPEND 832 WEEKS IN SCHOOL
And 0 WEEKS SEEKING AMAZING mentors?
FINDING Mentors
No really, WHY DO PEOPLE SPEND 16 years IN SCHOOL
And No time looking For mentors?
FINDING Mentors
SO, HOW DO YOU FIND MENTORS? AMAZING HIGH-INTEGRITY
FINDING MENTORS WITHIN NETWORKS
ONE OF THE BEST WAYs
IS BY JOINING THE ORGANIZATIONS LISTED IN THE NETWORKS SECTION OF THIS PRESENTATION
TO MEET AMAZING MENTORS
KEEP EMAILS to potential mentors SHORT
The higher the chance Of a reply
the shorter your emails to very busy people are
TRY EMAILS WITH JUST 1-2 sentences and youll be amazed at the reply rates
EXAMPLE EMAIL TO A potential MENTOR
WHAT MOST PEOPLE SEND: WHAT YOU SHOULD ACTUALLY SEND:
Sally--Im also really passionate about [ex: solar panel efficiency]. What do you [insert short relevant question]? Best, Your Name
What a busy professional thinks who gets this:
Dont have enough time to reply to this. Maybe Ill get back to this later.
What a busy professional thinks who gets this:
Im glad they respect my time. Will only take 30 seconds to reply so might as well do it now.
RESEARCH AMAZING PEOPLE
ANOTHER WAY IS TO USE THE INTERNET TO FIND PEOPLE WHO ARE BRILLIANT & CARING ARE 10-20 YRS AHEAD OF YOU SHARE SIMILAR PASSION
RESEARCH AMAZING PEOPLE
FIND 20 POTENTIAL MENTORS WHO ARE YOU
IN 15 YEARS
CONVINCING SOMEONE TO MENTOR YOU
AND CONVINCE 2 of THEM THAT youRE WORTH
INVESTING TIME INTO
CONVINCING SOMEONE TO MENTOR YOU
IDEALLY GET INTRODUCED TO THEM BY ONE OF THEIR
TRUSTED CONNECTIONS
GET IN TOUCH VIA TWITTER EMAIL, LINKEDIn, or fedex OR BY SHOWING UP AT THEIR OFFICE IF NEEDED AND ASKING TO SPEAK WITH THEM
GETTING IN TOUCH WITH MENTORS
GETTING IN TOUCH WITH MENTORS
SEND THEM A BULKY FEDEX PACKAGE
IF YOU MUST
GETTING IN TOUCH WITH MENTORS
IMPORTANT PEOPLE LIKE OPENING
FEDEX PACKAGES
MESsAGES BUSY PEOPLE RECEIVE MONTHLY
EMAILS: 5,000 TEXTS: 1,000 LETTERS: 500 Linkedin: 50 Twitter: 30 FEDEX: 10
USE TWITTER TO GET IN TOUCH WITH WELL KNOWN PEOPLE
IMPORTANT PEOPLE ALSO LIKE
@Messages on Twitter
BE KINDLY PERSISTENT
MOST PEOPLE GIVE UP AFTER SENDING 1 EMAIL
DonT GIVE UP This is your life were talking about here
BE KINDLY PERSISTENT
PURSUE THEM REPEATEDLY IN A KIND WAY
They will almost always respect your persistence
EXPLAIN YOUR PASSION FOR THE SAME THING Explain the why behind what you do Explain how you MAY BE ABLE TO HELP THEM Be 100% authentic
BE KINDLY PERSISTENT
STAY AT IT FOR 6 Months IF THATs
WHAT IT TAKES
BE KINDLY PERSISTENT
THESE ARE PEOPLE WHO CAN CHANGE CHANGE YOUR WHOLE LIFE
DO WHAT IT TAKES
START SLOW if needed with potential mentors
Most people will eventually Agree to a coffee or lunch But if not, ask to start with 1-2 quick Questions via email
Then stay in touch every 8 weeks with quick emails
AT YOUR FIRST MEETING WITH A MENTOR
BE AUTHENTIC BE SUPER INFORMED about them BUILD TRUST
BUILDING THE RELATIONSHIP WITH A MENTOR
GO TO THE SAME EVENTS DEVELOP THE RELATIONSHIP
SEND VERY BRIEF QUESTIONS ON EMAIL EVERY COUPLE MONTHS
BUILDING THE RELATIONSHIP WITH A MENTOR
GO TO THE SAME EVENTS DEVELOP THE RELATIONSHIP
SEND VERY BRIEF QUESTIONS ON EMAIL EVERY COUPLE MONTHS
Three keys to achieving your dreams
1. SURROUNd YOURSELF WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE 2. INVEST IN YOUR formal and informal
EDUCATION
3. WORK FOR A COMPANY whose mission you are deeply passionate about
Three keys to achieving your dreams
DO THESE THINGS AND Youll BE ON TRACK TO ACHIEVE YOUR MOST
AMBITIOUS GOALS
Learning to be a jedi
JOIN NETWORKS of other inspiring people LIVE A PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE SURROUND YOURSELF WITH AMAZINGLY SMART & CARING PEOPLE And YOU WILL BE ON THE PATH TO BECOMING A JEDI
BE A PADAWAN like in star wars
Padawan (n.) An individual on a CONSCIOUS journey to become a jedi
PADAWAN IS SANSKRIT FOR learner
What IS A JEDI?
Jedi (n.) A highly competent, super-connected, and deeply
compassionate SOUL & SYSTEMS THINKER, working at the highest
levels of societal structuring, whose passion has been fully
unleashed toward achieving an identified deeply meaningful
mission that awakens them with extraordinary focus and
immense energy daily.
The jedi checklist
# Highly competent # Super-connected # Deeply compassionate # SYSTEMS THINKER # Working to IMPROVE THE WORLD # Identified meaningful mission # Passion unleashed on achieving mission # Extraordinary focus # Immense vibrant energy
FINDING A JEDI MENTOR
NOW YOU KNOW THE TRUE MEANING OF FINDING YOURSELF a JEDI MASTER MENTOR
FINDING A JEDI MENTOR
WhoS YOUR JEDI MENTOR YOUNG PADAWAN?
Dont let this be the CASE 6 months from now
Wait, YOU DonT hAVE ONE?
STAND ON THE SHOULDERS OF GIANTS
ONE CAN SEE MUCH FURTHER BY STANDING ON THE SHOULDERS OF GIANTS
SO FIND MENTORS WHO Are GIANTS iN THEIR FIELD And stand on their shoulders
Lessons from my 20s
HAPPINESS PART I, Section 6
THE GREAT ENGIMA OF LIFE
TO KNOW HAPPINESS ONE MUST KNOW
SUFFERING
THE IMPORTANCE OF CRUCIBLE MOMENNTS
IN ORDER TO TRULY FEEL THE HEIGHTS OF ONE MUST HAVE FELT the DEPTHS OF
SUFFERING
HAPPINESS
CHOOSING TO BE HAPPY
A PERSON CAN MAKE HIMSELF HAPPY OR MISERABLE regardless of what IS HAPPENING OUTSIDE just by changing
THE CONTENTS OF CONCIOUSNESS
- MIHALI Csikszentmihali!
OVERCOMING OBSTACLES
- MIHALI Csikszentmihali!
THE ABILITY TO PERSERVERE DESPITE OBSTACLES & SETBACKS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT TRAIT
FOR SUCCEEDING IN LIFE.
FORGING YOUR CHARACTER
THE MORE DIFFICULTIES & CRUCIBLE MOMENTS YOU HAVE FACED
THE STRONGER YOUR RESOLVE WILL BE
FORGING YOUR CHARACTER THE HOTTER THE TEMPERATURE THE IRON IS FORGED IN
THE STRONGer THE STEEL
The element of struggle in life
SO DONT BE AFRAID
OF STRUGGLE
Dont be afraid of struggle
OFTEN THE GREATEST INDIVIDUALS ARE THOSE WHO HAVE
BEEN THROUGH THE MOST
My struggles
MY MOMs death FROM BRAIN CANCER in 2012 CHRONIC NECK PAIN FROM A 2001 CAR CRASH HELpING MY DAD THROUGH PROSTATE CANCER Dealing with a 65 person layoff following the sale of icontact
We all go through really hard times.
It is our response to the crucible moments that can make us great.
FORGING YOUR CHARACTER
HAPPINESS in many
Cases is A CHOICE
FORGING YOUR CHARACTER
LEARN TO CONTROL WHAT is IN YOUR THOUGHTS &
CONSCIOUSNESS
HAPPINESS
TRUE HAPPINESS OCCURS WHEN YOUR INHIBITIONS OF REVEALING YOUR TRUE SELF ARE EXTINCT!
HAPPINESS
TRUE HAPPINESS OCCURS WHEN YOU CAN FULLY EXPRESS YOURSELF & BRING YOUR FULL PASSION INTO YOUR DAILY WORK
HAPPINESS
TRUE HAPPINESS OCCURS WHEN YOur Daily work IS ACTUALLY THE the greatest CONTRIBUTION you can make TO HUMANITY WITH THE GIFTS YOU HAVE
HAPPINESS
TRUE HAPPINESS OCCURS WHEN
YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN THE LIVES OF OTHERS
HAPPINESS
TRUE HAPPINESS OCCURS WHEN
YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN THE LIVES OF OTHERS
HAPPINESS
HAPPINESS Comes from being
Completely present And in flow in a moment
HAPPINESS
THERE IS NEVER ANYTHING ELSE OTHER THAN THIS
moment
THE PAST & THE FUTURE
Past PRESENT FUTURE
Most people spend their mental energy thinking about either the past
Or thinking about the future
FOCUS ON THE PRESENT
Past PRESENT FUTURE
Happiness comes when you focus on enjoying the present moment
and dont worry about what happened in the past and whatever
may come in the future.
Your mindset affects your happiness
your mindset is your how you interpret What happens in your life
Your mindset affects your happiness
You can decide whether you want to Live in an ordinary world Full of stress & Suffering Or an extraordinary world Full of wonder and possibility
THE ORDINARY DEFAULT WORLD
The Ordinary
World
anxiety
fear
scarcity
danger
anger
mistrust
reason
disappointment
resignation
manipulation
victimization
desperation
frustration
upset
defensive
limitation
cynicism
greed
insecure
inaction
THE EXTRAORDINARY WORLD is created by a mindset shift
happiness
fun
caring
inventive
adventurous
acceptance
laughter
self-expressed
generous
possibility
unreasonable
compassionate
empathy
authenticity
openness
unstoppable
creativity
fearless
kindness
caring
The Extraordinary
World
LIVING WITH JOY
LIVING WITH JOYFULLNESS and ease is a choice That you can make
Programs I highly recommend for personal growth
Includes the Landmark Forum, Advanced Course, and Self-Expression and Leadership ProgramAvailable now in 24 countries.
Includes the Happiness Program and the Art of Silence Program. Now operating in 152 countries.
I highly recommend taking Inner Engineering program, available in both India and the USA. Also available online at www.innerengineering.com though in-person is best.
A three-day summer camp 2 hours north of San Francisco in which you lock your phones/laptops away and play joyfully like youre a child again.
The Hive Global Leaders Program brings together a community of extraordinary leaders and entrepreneurs focused on creating a better world. Help every few months in SF. I am the Chairman of Hive.
Burning Man is an annual event in the Nevada desert the week before Labor Day in late-August. Ive now been twice and I highly recommend everyone go.
Meditation exercise
You can do the following
10 minute Mindset exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar To return to it
EXERCISE On mindset
Exercise: Mindset shift
On a sheet of paper Write down for 5 minutes how your life would be Different if you never worried And were never anxious
Exercise: Mindset shift
On a sheet of paper Write down for 5 minutes All the things that are holding you Back that you can just give up And choose to put in the past
Lessons from my 20s
health PART I, Section 7
HEALTH
At age 25 I WAS A STRESSED OUT 208 pound East coast CEO
HEALTH
My mind often raced I even had two anxiety Attacks from the stress
HEALTH
Now At age 30 I AM A much calmer 158 pound west coast CEO
HEALTH LEARNINGS
Between age 24 and 30 I Heres EXACTLY WHAT I DID
- Lost 50 pounds - Fixed BAD neck pain - Went from Anxious to calm
THE TWO THINGS I DID
1. Changed what I ate 2. STARTED doing a 30 minute per
morning yoga and Breathing home practice
WHAT YOU EAT IS WHO YOU BECOME
THE FOOD WE EAT LITERALLY BECOMES US As nutrients are absorbed and used
CHANGING MY DIET MADE A HUGE IMPACT
What Id OFTEN Eat in 2008 What I OFTEN Eat Today
Bread Hot pockets Subs Pasta Pretzels Fries Mayonnaise Beer/Wine/Soda Coffee
(I was eating way too many carbs) (I cut out 80% of the carbs)
Chicken / Steak / Fish Quinoa / Lentils / Beans / Tofu / Tempeh Eggs Almonds Kale / Brussels Sprouts / Broccoli / Avocado Sweet potatoes / carrots / CHIA Seeds BANANas / Berries Protein shakes Water / Tea / Almond milk
Cut most of this stuff out!
DIET MAKES THE DIFFERENCE
A COMBINATION OF HIGH CALORIE & HIGH-SALT DIET WITH LITTLE PHYSICAL ACTIVITY AND INCREASED OBESITY GREATLY DECREASEs THE ABILITY OF THE BODY TO CURE ITSELF FROM CANCEROUS CELLS
REDUCING YOUR RISK OF CANCER
78% of CANCER IS CAUSED BY TOBACCO, DIET, SUNLight, and alcohol
30%
35%
10%
10%
7%
4% 3%
Tobacco Diet
Sunlight Other
Viruses Occupational
Alcohol
Dont smoke
TOBACCO CAUSES 30% of CANCER CASES AND CONTAIN 4000
HARMFUL CHEMICALs AND TOXIC CARCINOGENS
MENTAL HEALTH
IN A FAST-mOVING ORGANIZATION MENTAL HEALTH IS JUST AS
IMPORTANT AS PHYSICAL HEALTH
MENTAL HEALTH
Be sure youre taking time To eat well, sleep well
And get into nature Away from your laptop and phone
MENTAL HEALTH
At least every 3 months Do a complete digital detox
With no phones/laptops For at least 72 hours
Lessons from my 20s
MEDITATION PART I, Section 8
MEDITATION
I USED TO THINK MEDITATION WAS Complete bs
MEDITATION
I had no idea how to
Do it right
MEDITATION
I thought meditation
Meant just sitting there
MEDITATION
WHEN I LEARNED HOW TO BREATHe PROPERLY DURING MEDITATION
EVERYTHING CHANGED
MEDITATION
MY MIND BECAME CLEAR AND I WAS WAY MORE CALM
& EFFECTIVE AT WORK
MEDITATION
I took two 4 day programs on meditation Both Id highly HIGHLY recommend
1. Art of living happiness program 2. ISHA Foundation inner engineering course
MEDITATION
I took the 4 day
ISHA FOUNDATION INNER ENGINEERING COURSE
In coimbatore, INDIA IN January 2014
MEDITATION
I also took the 4 day
Art of living happiness program
In palo alto in March 2014
YOGA
THE BASIC YOGA TECHNIQUE SUN SALUTATION greatly reduced my neck pain
See http://bit.ly/sunsalutations
MEDITATION
I now do three sun salutations
Every morning and my neck pain is
85% better
MY CURRENT Morning 30 minute routine
3 sun salutations 5 mins
Alternate nostril breathing 2 mins
Sudarshan kriya Breathing 15 mins
KEEPING EYES CLOSED 5 mins
You can learn these routines through the Art of Living Happiness Program which is $395 and
available in many countries and cities
MEDITATION
When I meditate with my eyes cLOSED
I am able to see a deeply calming
Purple light (Strange I know, but true)
MEDITATION
There are many good techniques
And I am only at the beginning
of the learning process
SILENT RETREATS
In June 2014 I did a 3 day
art of living silence course
I found that spending 3 days in silence
Was extremely beneficial to calming the mind
And made me way more productive at work
SILENT RETREATS
After the 3 days in silence
I found myself becoming naturally
More collaborative at work
SILENT RETREATS
Here are some of the most magnificent
Silent & ZEN retreats you can visit
Art of Silence - http://www.artofliving.org/art-silence-program
Vipassana - http://www.dhamma.org/
Green Gulch http://www.sfzc.org/ggf/
Esalen - http://www.esalen.org/
Vendata Society - http://sfvedanta.org/retreat/
MEDITATION
THEse four BREATHING TECHNIQUEs have been very helpful to me Heres where you can learn a bit more
Bhastrika - http://bit.ly/bhastrikademo
Three stage pranayama - http://bit.ly/3stagebreathing
Alternate nostril breathing - http://bit.ly/alternatenostrils
Rapid nostril breathing - http://bit.ly/rapidnostril
MEDITATION Programs I RECOMMEND
Includes the Happiness
Program and the Art of Silence
Program. Now operating in 152
countries.
Take the Inner Engineering
program, available in both India
and the USA. Also online at
www.innerengineering.com though
in-person is best.
Meditation exercise
You can do the following 10 minute
Meditation exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar To return to it
Meditation exercise
EXERCISE: alternate nostril breathing
First watch the video on
Alternate nostril breathing
Now, sit on the ground cross legged Follow the video instructions for 5 minutes
Afterward, make note of how your brain feels
(bit.Ly/alternatenostrils)
Exercise: Sun salutation
Get on the floor and actually try to do 2 sun salutations
Video at http://bit.ly/sunsalutationvideo
Lessons from my 20s
HABITS PART I, Section 9
A quote on habits
Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.
Mahatma Gandhi
A QUOTE ON HABITS
ARISTOTLE
We are what we
repeatedly do.
Excellence, then, is not
an act, but a habit.
A QUOTE ON HABITS
Stephen Covey
Our character is basically a
composite of our habits. Because
they are consistent, often
unconscious patterns, they
constantly, daily, express our
character.
HABITS
WHAT YOU DO REPEATEDLY
CREATES YOUR LIFE
And your results
HABITS
THERE IS GREAT POWER in
HACKING YOUR
HABITS
HABITS
IF Youre not getting the
RESULTS YOU WANT IN LIFE
ADJUST YOUR HABITS
HABITS in my life I am cultivating
BE POSITIVE Always DO WHAT I SAY Ill DO UNDERCOMMIT / OVERDELIVER BE TRANSPARENT GET TRACK OF TASKS REVIEW GOALS ANNUALLY PLAN FOR THE FUTURE SEEK OUT AMAZING PEOPLE IDENTIFY MENTORS Give hugs not handshakes SHARE WHAT I LEARN WITH OTHERS
STAY IN TOUCH WITH my NETWORK CONTINUALLY LEARN READ WATCH EDUCATIONAL VIDEOS EXERCISE EAT HEALTHY FOODS SPEND TIME IN NATURE DAILY MEDITATION COMMUNICATE OFTEN Watch
HABITS
WHAT ARE some NEW HABITS IN
YOUR LIFE THAT YOU
WANT TO ADD?
habits exercise
You can do the following 10 minute
habits exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar To return to it
HABITS Exercise
EXERCISE: HABITS
FIRst, Get a sheet of paper and
And write down all your HABITS
you want to stART
EXERCISE: HABITS
Now write down all
All the habits
you want to stOP
EXERCISE: HABITS
Now write down all
All the habits
you want to CONTINUE
EXERCISE: HABITS
Next, write down bullets of how
Youd be Be better off if you
IMPLEMENTED YOUR new habit system
EXERCISE: HABITS
NOW make a weekly plan to
ACTUALLY Implement the HABITS IN YOUR LIFE THAT
CREATE THE RESULTS YOU WANT
EXERCISE: HABITS
FINALLY, open up your calendar
And put your new habits
ACTUALLY ON YOUR CALENDAR on REPEAT
Lessons from my 20s
COMMUNICATION PART I, Section 10
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
WHEN YOU TALK TO PEOPLE
LOOK THEM IN THE EYE
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
WHEN YOU GREET PEOPLE BOUND UP TO THEM WITH ENERGY & EXCITEMENT
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
WHEN YOU TALK TO PEOPLE
SMILE
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
WHEN YOU TALK TO PEOPLE
BE JOYOUS NOT STRESSED
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
ALWAYS LET YOUR
PASSION SHINE THROUGH
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
RESTATE THE OTHER PERSONS Point BEFORE YOU ADD
YOUR OWN
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
USE THIS FORMULA
RESTATE THEIR POINT and ONLY THEN ADD YOUR OWN POINT
WHEN TALKING WITH PEOPLE..
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
NEVER NEVER NEVER START A SENTENCE WITH BUT
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
INSTEAD OF THE WORD BUT USE THE WORD AND
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
AVOID SAYING THE WORDS UM and UH
(Instead just pause)
HUMAN COMMUNICATION
AVOID THE INFORMAL uSAGE OF THE WORD LIKE
(Ex: She was like oh my gosh I cant believe she did that or I walked like 30 miles
DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS
ANYTIME YOU HAVE SOMETHING DIFFICULT TO COMMUNICATE DO IT IN PERSON
(Or at worst, on Google Hangout or Skype)
KEEP EMAILS SHORT
AVOID SENDING
EMAILS WITH MORE THAN
5 sentences
KEEP EMAILS SHORT
AVOID SENDING
EMAILS WITH
EMOTIONAL CONTENT
GIVING PRESENTATIONS
FOR PRESENTATIONS you will give to others NEVER HAVE MORE than
15 WORDS ON A SLIDE
GIVING PRESENTATIONS
IDEALLY USE 1 powerful PICTURE AND NO MORE THAN
10 WORDS
GIVING PRESENTATIONS
OR SOMETIMES NO WORDS
AT ALL
Lessons from my 20s
MONEY PART I, Section 11
The middle class versus the rich
Individuals in the middle class accumulate more debt as they
become more successful. A pay raise qualifies them to borrow
more money from the bank so they can buy personal items like
bigger cars, vacation homes, boats, and motor homes. Their
wage income comes in and is spent on current expenses and
only then on paying off their personal debt. So as their income
increases, so does their personal debt. This is what we call the
rat race.- Robert kiyosaki
The rich have their money work for them
The rich have their assets work for them. They have gained control over their expenses (by saving and investing money each month) and focus on acquiring or building assets. Their businesses pay more of their expenses, and they have few, if any, personal liabilities.
- Robert Kiyosaki
WHICH FINANCIAL PATH WILL YOU TAKE?
THERE ARE TWO SEGMENTS OF PEOPLE IN THE WORLD
WHICH SEGMENT DO YOU WANT TO BE IN?
PEOPLE WHO PAY INTEREST ON LOANS AND WORK FOR COMPANIES
PEOPLE WHO RECEIVE INTEREST ON LOANS and own PARTS Of companies
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2
THE TOPIC OF MONEY
MONEY IS A REALLY IMPORTANT TOPIC
TO UNDERSTAND
THE TOPIC OF MONEY
MONEY IS SIMPLY A STORE OF VALUE WHICH ENABLES TWO PARTIES TO EXCHANGE EVEN IF they cannot barter
YOUR NET WORTH
INCLUDING ALL YOUR SAVINGS, INVESTMENTs
AND DEBT WHAT IS YOUR
NET WORTH RIGHT NOW?
AVERAGE & MEDIAN NET WORTH IN THE USA
THE AVERAGE NET WORTH of AN AMERICAN IS
$301,140 Source: Credit Suiss Global Wealth Report, 2013
AVERAGE & MEDIAN NET WORTH IN USA
BUT THE MEDIAn Net worth of AN AMERICAN IS
$44,911 Source: Credit Suiss Global Wealth Report, 2013
ARE YOU AHEAD OR BEHIND? Lets say your goal IS TO have a net worth of $1M by Age 60 IF YOU start at age 20 and progress linearly youd need to be at $250k by 30
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3 Key Lessons about Money
HERE ARE THREE KEY LESSONS
ABOUT MONEY
3 Lessons about Money
SPEND LESS MONEY THAN YOU EARN
EVERY MONTH
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2 NEVER GO INTO DEBT FOR SOMETHING THAT YOU DO NOT NEED
3 Lessons about Money
3 SAVE EARLY IN LIFE AS the law of compound INTEREST HELPS A LOT
OVER TIME
EASY IN THEORY
THESE 3 LESSONS may sound extremely basic
YET still so many people
Go into debt for things they dont need
and frequently spend
more than they earn
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
HERE ARE SIX STEPS TO BUILDING
WEALTH
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
These 6 steps are easy to Understand but Most people
Dont do them
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
Calculate how much you Earn after taxes each month
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THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
2 ENSURE YOUR ARE SPENDING LESS Than you earn after taxes Each month Monthly income after tax
$4000 $3000
Monthly spending
!
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
3 PAY OFF all Your DEBT Starting with the highest Interest rates first
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
4 Start Saving $1,000 each month
(This step, in practice, is often the hardest, yet the most important)
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
5 After building up 3 months Of salary in your savings Account, start investing
Start investing $1000 per month as early as you can in
life
Do this consistently for 30 years and youll have
$1 million
THE 6 STEPS TO BUILDING WEALTH
6 THEN USE THE CASH FLOW FROM YOUR INVESTMENTS TO MAKE MORE INVESTMENTS
The six steps to building wealth
1. Calculate your after tax income 2. Be sure youre SPENDING LESS THAN YOU MAKE 3. PAY OFF your DEBT 4. BUILD UP 3 months of SAVINGS 5. Start investing 6. THEN Re-INVEST THE RETURNS
Becoming FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT
THERE ARE TWO MAIN WAYS TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE
1) Build a business 2) Or Save & Invest wisely for 30 years
Becoming FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT
If entrepreneurship isnt for you Heres how to become a millionaire Automatically
1. Save $1000 per month 2. Invest it at a 7% after inflation
return 3. Dont take any out for 30 years
WHAT YouLL HAVE IF YOU SAVE & INVEST
Monthly SAVINGS
20 Yrs 25 Yrs 30 Yrs 35 Yrs 40 Yrs 45 Yrs 50 Yrs
$1,000 $0.52M $0.81M $1.22M $1.81M $2.64M $3.82M $5.50M
$2,000 $1.05M $1.63M $2.45M $3.63M $5.29M $7.65M $10.99M
$3,000 $1.57M $2.44M $3.68M $5.44M $7.94M $11.47M $16.49M
$4,000 $2.09M $3.26M $4.91M $7.25M $10.58M $15.29M $21.97M
ASSUMES 7% AFTER INFLATION ANNUAL RETURN FROM INVESTING | ADD ADDITIONAL TIME TO PAY OFF ANY CURRENT DEBT
My journey to financial independence
I was born in 1984. I grew up in a middle class
American family. My dad was an epsicopalian
minister from pennsylvania. My mom was a
part-time social worker from England. Our
family earned about $40,000 per year.
I was very fortunate to
Have two parents who
Supported Me and encouraged
me to Follow my dreams
My journey to financial independence
I started my first business at 11
Helping senior citizens in florida
use the internet for $5/hour
My journey to financial independence
I started getting into
Web development
In 1996 when I was 12
My journey to financial independence
At16 (back In 2000) I was a NORMAL TEENAGER GROWING UP IN
bradenton florida earning AROUND
$3000/yr AS A PART TIME WEB developer
My journey to financial independence
Then I read two books that changed my life and opened My eyes to a whole new world
2. Think And Grow Rich 1. Rich Dad Poor Dad
My journey to financial independence
After reading these two books at 16
I set an ambitious goal to build a
Company to $1 Million in sales by
Age 21
My journey to financial independence
From age 16 to 21
I worked extremely hard
To make this goal real
My journey to financial independence
At 18 While in college at unc I
started Icontact and by 2005
We reached $1 Million in sales
When I was 21
My journey to financial independence
We then raised venture capital
And hired a strong
Executive team and grew to
$50M in annual sales
My journey to financial independence
in 2012 we sold icontact for $170 million to a software company called vocus. I was 27. I decided to go back to school at harvard business school for an mba while working on a new start-up called
connect
My journey to financial independence
Anything is possible
I found that anything was possible if I: set my mind to it worked really hard to make it happen surrounded myself with positive people
who helped me Grow & Learn
Cared about customers & Employees
Creating your financial plan
So that was my story
over the last 18 years
Now lets talk about
You
Creating your financial plan
18 years from now, your financial Situation will be a function of the plan
you put in place And the actions you take
today
Creating your financial plan
Heres how to create a basic
Financial plan
Financial plan exercise
You can do the following 30 minute
Financial plan exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar To return to it
FINANCIAL PLAN EXERCISE
EXERCISE: Creating a basic financial plan
1. Calculate your current monthly income after taxes 2. Calculate your current total monthly expenses 3. Add up your savings, investments, and other assets 4. Calculate the total amount of debt you have 5. Set a goal for your monthly income and expenses 2 years
from now
6. Use these figures to fill out the sheet on the next page
This exercise should take about 30 minutes. You can do it now or come back to it.
Exercise: Creating A BASIC Financial Plan
Assets Debts
Income Expenses
Financial Plan of __________
Signed X__________________________ this ____ day of _____ 20_____
Net Worth
Cashflow
Income Expenses Cashflow
Present Monthly
24 Months From Now Monthly Goal
Creating your financial plan
FiLLING out your one-page
Financial plan Will be helpful
As we move into the next section
On investing
Lessons from my 20s
INVESTING PART I, Section 12
LEARNING HOW TO INVEST
saving MONEY is the first step
Learning how to invest IT is the second
Stocks and bonds
THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF INVEStMENTS
STOCKs & BONds
BONDS
BONDS are loans to other organizations IN WHICH YOU EARN A FIXED INTEREST RATE RETURN
BONDS
BONDS usally pay annual interest Between 0.25% and 15%
BONDS
THE RISKIER THE BOND THE HIGHER THE INTEREST RATE PAID
STOCKS
STOCK is Partial OWNERSHIP of a company Which entitles the owner To part of the profits of a company
STOCKS
WITH STOCKS YOU MAKE
MONEY WHEN THE VALUE
OF THE COMPANY GOES UP
STOCKS
THE VALUE OF A COMPANY
GOES UP WHEN THE
Companys profits go up
(or are expected to go up)
STOCKS
THE VALUE OF A COMPANY
GOES down WHEN THE
Companys profits go Down
(or are expected to go down)
DIFFERENT TYPES OF STOCKS AND BONDS
Mutual Funds Index Funds/ETFS Small Cap Stocks MID CAP STOCKS LARGE CAP STOCKS VALUE STOCKS GROWTH STOCKS Emerging Market Stocks options VENTURE capital FUNDS PRIVATE COMPANIES
STOCKS
Savings Accounts Treasury Bonds Municipal Bonds Corporate Bonds P2p LENDING
BONDS
HOW TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE in 30 years
HERE IS A SIMPLIFIED EXAMPLE OF HOW YOU CAN HAVE
$1M in 30 years
HOW TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE in 30 years
To have $1m in 30 years SAVE $1k every month
AND INVEST IT Assumes a 7% per year after inflation annual return
HOW TO BECOME A MILLIONAIRE in 20 years
To have $1m in 20 years SAVE $2k every month
AND INVEST IT Assumes a 7% per year after inflation annual return
AVERAGE INVESTMENT RETURNS
HERE IS A TABLE OF AVERAGE YEARLY RETURNS BY
TYPE OF INVESTMENT
AVERAGE INVESTMENT RETURNS
Investment Type Approx. Avg. Annual Return After Inflation (2.8%)
Savings Accounts 0.10% -2.70% Certificates of Deposit 1.10% -1.70%
Treasury Bonds 2.50% -0.30% Municipal Bonds 4.50% 1.70% Corporate Bonds 6% 3.20%
LendingClub A-d Notes 8.30% 5.50%
Rental Real Estate 8.60% 5.80% Dow Jones Index Fund 11.10% 8.30%
S&P 500 Index Fund 11.30% 8.50%
LendingClub E-F Notes 11.70% 8.90%
S&P 500 and DJIA is the CAGR for the last 80 years from 1933 until 2013
AVERAGE INVESTMENT RETURNS
PAST RETURNS Arent ensured in the future
But they are STILL HELPFUL to see
LENDINGCLUB
ONE INTERESTING INVESTMENT OPTION IS
LENDINGCLUB
LENDINGCLUB
Since 2007 LENDINGCLUB notes HAVE HAD an annual average return of
5.5% AFTER INFLATION AND DEFAULTS
LENDINGCLUB
And Since 2007 LENDINGCLUB E and F notes HAVE HAD an annual average return of
8.9% AFTER INFLATION AND DEFAULTS Past performance is definitely no guarantee of future performance, yet 8.9% after weathering a big recession in 2008-2009 is pretty good.
MARKET INDEX FUNDS
The DJIA and S&P 500 Index funds HAVE HAD an annual average return After inflation of
8.4% Since 1933 Look up these symbols:Dow Jones Index Fund DIAS&P 500 Index Fund - SPY
INVESTING IN STOCKS
As a rule of thumb
Companies are usually worth
BETWEEN 5x and 20x their
ANNUAL NET PROFITS
INVESTING IN STOCKS
Net profits is another word for
Earnings
INVESTING IN STOCKS
The multiple of EARNINGS
A company is worth Is called a
PE Ratio
INVESTING IN STOCKS
P/E RATIO is: PRICE
EARNINGS
INVESTING IN STOCKS
Heres the July 2014 p/e Ratio of A few well known companies
COMPANY PRICE TO EARNINGS RATIO
IBM 12.30 WELLS FARGO 12.74
APPLE 15.77 MICROSOFT 16.91
BANK OF AMERICA 25.25 GOOGLE 29.86
FACEBOOK 97.52
INVESTING IN STOCKS
THE BEST MEASURE OF WHETHER A STOCK MARKET IS OVERVALUED Is the SHILLER PE RATIO
See multpl.com/shiller-pe/
INVESTING IN STOCKS
THE AVERAGE ALL TIME SHILLER p/E RATIO IS
16.55
INVESTING IN STOCKS
This means that on average since 1890
The average company has been valued at
16.55 times its an annual net profits
INVESTING IN STOCKS
AS OF august 2014 the US STOCK market is getting overvalued THE CURRENT SHILLER PE RATIO IS
25.54
THE STOCK MARKET IS GETTING OVERVALUED AGAIN
Time to Sell
Time to Buy
Time to Get Ready for an Historic Crash
Shiller PE Ratio for the S&P 500 1871-2014, as of August 9, 2014
INVESTING IN STOCKS
WHEN PE RATIOs ARE
over 25 WATCH OUT for a crash
INVESTING IN STOCKS
WHEN PE RATIOs ARE
Under 15 Its time to LOOK AT INVESTING!
ANGEL INVESTING
ANGEL INVESTING IS PURCHASING OWNERSHIP In EARLY STAGE
PRIVATE COMPANIES
ANGEL INVESTING
CHECK Out ANGELLIST & FUNDABLE TO SEE EARLY STAGE COMPANIES
YOU CAN INVEST IN
ANGEL INVESTING
ANGEL investing Is highly risky But if you invest in the right firms
Highly lucrative
MY portfolio
Since 2009 I have invested In THESE PRIVATE COMPANIES
MY portfolio
I focus on investing in companies Which are solving Major human challenges That when solved will Make the world a better place
What going public means
Going public means selling part of a
company to investors via a public market
like the New York Stock exchange or the
nasdaq
What going public means
Companies go public in order to 1. Raise capital for growth 2. Create a market for their shares 3. Enable employees to gain liquidity for their
options
How to properly value a company
THE BEST WAY TO DETERMINE THE TRUE VALUE OF A PUBLIC COMPANY IS TO CREATE A DISCOUNTED CASH FLOW (DCF) FORECAST
How Buffet invests
BUFFETs investing method INVOLVES UNDERSTANDING A FIRM WELL CALCULATING WHAT HE BELIEVEs THE fiRM IS ACTUALLY WORTH using dcf THEN PURCHASING SHARES WHEN Enough of a margin of safety exists
How Buffet works
WARREN BUFFET IN ESSENCE CREATES DCF MODELS ON EACH COMPANY HE INVESTS IN AND ENSURES THERES A BIG MARGIN OF SAFETy BETWEEN WHAT HE THINKS THE FIRM IS WORTH AND WHAT THE MARKET THINKS THE FIRM IS WORTH
BECOMING A VALUe-ORIENTED INVESTOR
1. Avoid stocks with pe ratios over 25, unless they have extremely high REVENUE growth (over 50% year)
2. Learn how to create a dcf valuation 3. Have the discipline to create a DCF valuation for every public
company investment you make
4. invest only when you have a 30% margin of safety between what your DCF model says the company is worth and what the market sayS
Lessons from my 20s
LOVE PART I, Section 13
WHAT LOVE MEANS TO ME
Laughter Optimism Vibrant Energy
&
SIX STEPS TO BUILDING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
TELL THE TRUTH BUILD TRUST BE VULNERABLE GIVE TIME FOLLOW THROUGH
& SHOW CARE WITH YOUR ACTIONS
SIX STEPS TO BUILDING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
A GREAT WOMAN CAN MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE TO A GREAT MAN
SIX STEPS TO BUILDING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
A GREAT MAN CAN MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE TO A GREAT WOMAN
SIX STEPS TO BUILDING A GREAT RELATIONSHIP
A GREAT pARTNER CAN MAKE A HUGE DIFFERENCE FOR ANYONE
The partner you choose makes a huge impact on your life
THE PARTNER YOU CHOOSE TO BUILD A LIFE WITH MAKES A HUGE IMPACT ON YOUR ABILITY TO REACH YOUR POTENTIAL LIVE WITH JOY AND POSiTIVITY
AND TRULY CHANGE THE WORLD
LOVING YOURSELF FIRST
BEFORE you CAN FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO FALL IN LOVE WITH You
YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
BE AMAZING BEFORE YOU LOOK
BECAUSE TO FIND AN AMAZING PARTNER YOU YOURSELF MUST FIRST BE
AMAZING
FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS FIRST
TO FIND A PARTNER WHO IS FOLLOWING THEIR DREAMS You must first be following
YOUR DREAMs
LIVE WITH PASSION FIRST
TO FIND A PARTNER WHO IS LIVING PASSIONATEly You Yourself must first be
LIVING PASSIONATELY
TO FIND A JEDI YOU MUST BECOME A JEDI
TO FIND A PARTNER WHO IS ON THE PATH TO BEING A JEDI You Yourself must first be
ON THE PATH
Yep, MARRY A JEDI
WHEN TWO JEDIS marry ALL KINDS OF CRAZY GOOD SHIT HAPPENS in the universe
HOW TO WIN A HEART
Heres what Ive LEARNED SO FAR ABOUt WINNING THE HEART
HOW TO WIN A HEART
Dont lead
Your partner on (Be open and transparent about your intentions with the relationship)
HOW TO WIN A HEART
FOLLOW THE GOLDEN RULE
IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS
HOW TO WIN A HEART
BE PLAYFUL And let the little kid Inside out!
HOW TO WIN A HEART
PUSH YOUR PARTNER TO GET BETTER AND BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF THEMSELVES
HOW TO WIN Ryans HEART
GIVE LOTS OF NECK MASSAGES
HOW TO WIN A HEART
NEVER EVER TAKE THEM FOR GRANTED
HOW TO WIN A HEART
NEVER STOP BUYING THEM FLOWERS
HOW TO WIN A HEART
A LONG PARTNERSHIP REQUIRES MUTUAL RESPECT AND SHARED GOALS
Lessons from my 20s
VALUES PART I, Section 14
GLOBAL VALUES SYSTEMS
Origin Concept Name Description
Judaism Tikkun Olam The concept of repairing the world
Sanskrit Ahimsa A philosophy of do no harm
Confucian Li A set of norms that teaches brotherliness and community
Islamic Ummah A perspective on a supranational community
Christian Golden Rule A practice of treating others as you want to be treated
South Africa Ubuntu A spirit of cooperation between people of all colors and creeds
ACROSS MANY religion or spiritual traditions a key guideline is to be able to care for others
Lets look at a few global values systems
My CORE VALUE
HERE IS MY CORE VALUE DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOUD HAVE DONE UNTO YOURSELF
EXPAND YOUR EMPATHY CIRCLE AND CARE FOR ALL PEOPLE
You&You&
Family&
Community&
Na1on&
Religion&
Gender&
Species&
What is it to be human?
To be human is to have the ability to transcend our egocentric preconditioning and care so DEEPLY FOR OUR CHILDREn, PARTNERS, FRIENDS or even strangers that we WOULD PUT THEIR INTEREST ABOVE OUR OWN NO MATTER WHAT IT MIGHT COST US PERSONALLY
- RAY KURZWEIL!
My VALUES
HERE ARE THE 50 VALUES I HOLD DEARLY AND DO MY BEST TO
ALWAYS LIVE BY
ACCEPTANCE
I shall recognize the Uniqueness and humanity OF THOSE WHO DIFFER FROM MYSELF
ACTION
THOUGH DELIBERATE & CAREFUL I SHALL HAVE A BIAS TOWARD ACTION
ADAPTATION
I shall MAINTAIN in A STATE ABLE TO FLOW, LEARN & MODIFY MYSELF TO FIT NEW
SURROUNDINGS OR OCCURENCES
ANALYSIS
I shall analyze what I do and DO NOT DO AND ATTEMPT TO DERIVE INHERENT LAWS, AXIOMS, TENANTS AND GUIDEPOSTS BASED ON THE EFFECTS
OF MY ACTIONS & INACTIONS
BEST EFFORT
I shall PUT FORTH MY FULL AND BEST EFFORT WITHIN THE BOUNDARIES OF PROPER PHYSICAL
& MENTAL HEALTH
CHALLENGE
I shall often challenge MYSELF & STEP OUTSIDE MY COMFORT ZONE SO AS TO REACH
WORTHY GOALS
COLLABORATION
I shall WORK COLLABORATIVELY WITH OTHERS WHO ARE BETTER THAN I AM AT WHAT THEY DO
COMMITMENT
I shall UPHOLD MY COMMITMENTS AND UNDER-PROMISe AND OVER-DELIVER
COMMUNICATION
I shall MAKE IT A PRIORITY TO LEARN TO COMMUNICATE EXTREMELY WELL WITH OTHERS
CONFIDENCE
I shall ALWAYS BE CONFIDENT & OPTIMISTIC AND
SET MY GOALS HIGH
CONTENTMENT
I shall BE ONLY WHERE I AM AND SAVOR EVERYTHING ABOUT THAT MOMENT
DETAIl
I shall NOT DALLY NEEDLESSLY IN DETAIl BUT EXAMINE TO THE FULL EXTENT NEEDED
ENVIRONMENTAL CONCIOUSNESS
THOUGH I SHALL PROMOTE THE MASTERY OF NATURE FOR THE BETTERMENT OF LIVING CONDITIONS OF HUMANS I SHALL NEVER FORGET THAT THE EARTH SHOULD
BE TREATED AS PRECIOUS AND THAT SUSTAINABILITY MUST BE REQUIRED IF WE ARE TO SURVIVE AS A SPECIES
FOCUS
I shall RECOGNIZE THAT WHILE I CAN DO ANYTHING I CANT DO
EVERYTHING
FORGIVENESS
I shall FORGIVE THOSe WHO HAVE MENDED WAYS INCLUDING MYSELF
GENEROSITY
I shall GIVE TO OTHERS HOWEVER I AM BEST AND MOST ABLE
HEALTH
I shall maintain my health and EAT sleep & Exercise IN SUCH A MANNER AS TO MAINTAIN A HIGH LEVEL OF ENERGY I SHALL ELIMINATE NEAGATIVE ENERGY AS MY BODY IS A TEMPLE THAT HOUSES MY
SPIRIT
HONESTY
I shall BE HONEST AND FORTHRIGHT IN ALL REPRESENTATIONS of
And Deliberations with MYSELF
HUMILITY
I shall NOT BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP AND NOT ASSUME MYSELF
ABOVE ANOTHER
INDUSTRY
I shall LOSE NO TIME AND ALWAYS BE EMPLOYED IN SOMETHING USEFUl REFLECTION AND RELAXATION SHALL BE INCLUDED IN THE DEFINITION OF
USEFUL
INTEGRITY
I SHALL ACT WITH INTEGRITY AND IN ALIGNMENT WITH WHAT I SAY I WILL DO
JUSTICE
I shall WRONG
NO oNE
KINDNESS
I SHALL LIVE A LIFE OF KINDNESS & COMPASSION. THERES NO REASON NOT TO.
LEARNING
I shall be continously LEARNinG AND I SHALL
CONTINOUSLY READ
LISTENING
I SHALL STRIVE TO LISTEN & UNDERSTAND
BEFORE I SPEAK
MENTORSHIP
I shall GIVE THE KNOWLEDGE I HAVE AND WILL GAIN TO OTHERS
MISTAKES
I shall STRIVE TO LEARN FROM THE MISTAKES I MAKE AND TO NOT MAKE TWICE
NATURE
I shall CONSERVE AND PROTECT NATURE AND ENSURE IT REMAINS FOR MY GRANDCHILDREN
OPTIMISM
I shall ALWAYS SEE THE GLASS AS
HALF FULL
ORGANIZATION
I shall KEEP MY LIFE & BELONGINGS IN ORDEr WHILE KEEPING SPACE FOR EXHUBERENCE & CREATIVITY
PASSION
I shall ALWAYS STRIVE FOR THAT WHICH I BELIEVE
PERSERVERANCE
I shall NOT GIVE UP NOR GIVE IN TOO SOON AS LONG AS I FEEL A GOAL IS WORTHY OF THE EFFORT
PLANNING
I shall PLAN FOR MY LIFE AND UPComing EVENTS
POSITIVITY
I shall be positive DURING ALL TIMES AND BELIEVE IN THE POWER oF A POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE
PREPARATION
I shall ATTEMPT TO ENTER EACH SITUATION WITH AN INTELLECTUAL FRAMEWORK PRIMED & READY
PRESENCE
I shall FOCUS MY COMPLETE ATTENTION ON THE SINGLE INDIVIDUAL I AM SPEAKING WITH
PUNCTUALITY
I shall be on
TIME
REFLECTION
I shall TAKE MOMENTS TO REVIEW WHAT HAS BEEN DONE AND EXAMINE SOCIETY AND MY
BEING, GOALS, and HABITS
RESPECT
I shall RESPECT
ALL OTHERS
SACRIFICE
I shall SAVE & INVEST FOR TODAY SO AS TO GAIN FOR
TOMORROW
SINCERITY
I SHALL BE SINCERE AND ONLY TALK ABOUT PEOPLE IN AN EMPOWERING WAY
SPIRITUALITY
I shall REALIZE I AM A VERY SMALL PART OF THE UNIVERSE AND HAVE GREAT GRATITUDE FOR LIFE
SOLITITUDE
I SHALL HAVE A PERIOD OF PEACE AND SOLITUDE AT THE BEGINNING OF EACH DAY IN WHICH I SHALL GIVE THANKS AND ENVISION THE DAY AHEAD
SPONTANEITY
I SHALL PERFORM WEEKLY EITHER An ACT OF KINDNESS OR AN ACTIVITY WHICH I HAVE
NEVER DONE BEFORE
SUPERFICIALITY
I SHALL NOT FOCUS ON THE OUTER
BUT ON THE INNER
TEACHING
I shall TRANSFER BOTH KNOWLEDGE & ENERGY
IN TEACHING
TRANQULITY
I shall NOT BE DISTURBED BY TRIFLES OR BY THAT WHICH IS NOT TRULY IMPORTANT
TRANSPARENCY
I shall LIVE A PUBLIC LIFE AND SHARE THE CONTENTS OF MY Dreams & PLANS
TRAVEL
I shall MAKE A PRIORITY TO SEE AND EXPLORE
THE WORLD
WORK ETHIC
I shall WORK BOTH HARD AND INTELLIGENTLY AND NOT LEAVE FOR TOMORROW WHAT CAN BE DONE
TODAY
BEN FRANKLINs 13 Values
1. Temperance: Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation. 2. Order: Let all your things have their places; let each part of
your business have its time.
3. Resolution: Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
4. Frugality: Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.
BEN FRANKLINs 13 Values
6. Moderation: Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
7. Industry: Lose no time; be always employed in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
8. Cleanliness: Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, clothes, or habitation.
9. Tranquility: Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
BEN FRANKLINs 13 Values
9. Silence: Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.
10. Sincerity: Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
11. Justice: Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
12. Chastity: Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another's peace or reputation.
13. Humility: Imitate Jesus and Socrates.
IN SUMMARY ON VALUES
YOUR LIFE WILL BE ENRICHED AND YOU WILL SLEEP SOUNDLY AT NIGHT KNOWING YOU ARE LIVING WITH A CONsCIOUS SET OF VALUES
Financial plan exercise
You can do the following 10 minute
Values exercise now
Or put a time on your calendar To return to it
Values EXERCISE
Exercise: VALUES
Write down the 10 most important
Values to you?
CONNECT COMPANY VALUES CIRCA 2012
Lessons from my 20s
LIFE LESSoNS PART I, Section 14
LIFE Lessons from 2005
Ive been KEEPING TRACK OF THE major LESSONS Ive learned
Each YEAR Since 2005
LIFE Lessons from 2005
LISTEN TO THAT LITTLE VOICE in the back of your HEAD
Its usually alerting You to something Important
LIFE Lessons from 2005
YOU CAN ACHIEVE ANYTHING
YOU SET YOUR MIND TO
LIFE Lessons from 2005
Dont let Non-communication Lead to the
Degeneration of a Relationship
LIFE Lessons from 2005
Dont AVOID DOING THINGS JUST BECAUSE
THEY MAY CAUSE CONFLICT!
LIFE Lessons from 2005
AT THE END OF THE DAY Impact & INTEGRITY is
What matters!
LIFE Lessons from 2005
NEVER Say BUT INSTEAD SAY
YES, AND.
LIFE Lessons from 2005
THERE ARE TWO WAYS TO DETERMINE THE RULES OF LIFE TALKING TO SMART PEOPLE
and TRIAL AND ERROR EITHER WAY START LEARNING EARLY
LIFE Lessons from 2006
IF SOMEBODY SUES YOU GO TALK TO THEM IN PERSON IMMEDIATELY
LIFE Lessons from 2006
NETWORKING IsnT ABOUT BUSINESS CARDS ITs about building
Meaningful relationships
LIFE Lessons from 2006
2.4 Billion PEOPLE LIVE ON LESS THAN TWO DOLLARS PER DAY
Source: World Bank
LIFE Lessons from 2006
Source: World Bank
EVERY Day 18,000 CHILDREN UNDER 5 DIE MOST FROM PREVENTABLE
DISEASE AND LOW NUTRITION. THIS DOESNt HAVE TO HAPPEN.
LIFE Lessons from 2006
Source: World Bank
80% OF HUMAN BEINGS LIVE oN LESS THAN $10 PER DAY
So IF YOURE LIVING ON MORE THAN $10 PER DAY
Count your blessings
LIFE Lessons from 2007
LIFE IS PRECIOUS AND CAN END ANYTIME
SO EXPRESS GRATITUDE DAILY
AND TELL THOSE YOU LOVE THAT YOU LOVE THEM
LIFE Lessons from 2007
THE WORLD HAS MORE OPPORTUNITIES THAN YOU MIGHT THINK
so DEFINE YOUR PURPOSE
THEN SEEK THEM OUT
LIFE Lessons from 2007
PoSITIVE DEVELOPMENTS OCCUR WHEN YOU ASSOCIATE WITH
EXTRAORDINARY PEOPLE
LIFE Lessons from 2007
GRATITUDE
IS AN EXTREMELY POWERFUL
CHARACTER ATTRIBUTE
LIFE Lessons from 2007
HUMANS HAVE A DEEP DESIRE In THEIR LIVES FOR
LOVE AND AFFECTIOn
LIFE Lessons from 2007
IF THERES ONE THING YOU OVERDo IN LIFE MAKE IT
COMMUNICATIon
LIFE Lessons from 2007
LET YOUR INNER CHILD COME OUT DAILY AND SILLY DANCE
LIFE Lessons from 2007
AVOID GETTING MARRIED UNTIL YOURE ABLE TO
FULLY FINANCIALLY SUPPORT YOURSELF
LIFE Lessons from 2007
AVOID HAVING CHILDREN UNTIL YOU CAN SAFELY FINANCIALLY AFFORD CHILDREN
LIFE Lessons from 2007
GOOD HEALTH IS EVERYTHING
LIFE Lessons from 2008
Dont ever LET YOUR MIND
LIMIT YOURSELF
LIFE Lessons from 2008
One way to avoid CRITICISM IS TO DO NOTHING & STAND FOR NOTHING
THE WORLD WILL THEN LEAVE YOU ALONE
LIFE Lessons from 2008
IF YOUre up to something that matters in the world CRITICISM is inevitable
It comes with the territory
LIFE Lessons from 2008
ARROGANCE IS NOT OVER-CONFIDENCE It is being
DISMISSIVE OF OTHERS
LIFE Lessons from 2008
IT TAKES ten years TO BECOME GREAT AT SOMETHING
CHOOSE CAREFULLY
Thus You can only BECOME GREAT
AT 6 or 7 things
LIFE Lessons from 2009
DO SOMETHING WONDERFUL EACH DAY WITH INFECTIOUS ENTHUSIASM
LIFE Lessons from 2009
JUST SAY OK GOOD
TO LIFE
LIFE Lessons from 2009
CANCER IS HORRIBLE
LIFE Lessons from 2009
WE ALL HAVE CHALLENGES Its how you INTERPRET
& RESPOND TO THEM THAT COUNTS
LIFE Lessons from 2009
PEOPLE GENERALLY ACT CONSISTENTLY WITH WHAT IS EXPECTED
OF THEM
LIFE Lessons from 2009
MANY PEOPLE IN THE UNITED STATES ARE NOT AUTHENTICALLY HAPPY
LIFE Lessons from 2009
THERE IS BEAUTY IN UNDERSTANDING NUANCE
LIFE Lessons from 2009
ASK FOR ADVICE MORE OFTEN
LIFE Lessons from 2009
TO achieve big goals You need TO
FOCUS
LIFE Lessons from 2009
THERE IS GREAT POWER IN A
HANDWRITTEN NOTE
LIFE Lessons from 2009
FIND A WAY TO MAKE ALL NEGOTIATIONS BENEFIT BOTH SIDES
LIFE Lessons from 2010
THE BEST MEDICINE FOR STRESS IS BREATHING!
LIFE Lessons from 2010
THE 2nd BEST MEDICINE FOR STRESS IS LAUGHTER!
LIFE Lessons from 2010
TRAVEL THE WORLD FO