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Personal MasteryJide Williams
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Understanding Yourself“Self-Knowledge is best learned not by contemplation but by action. Strive to do your duty, and you will soon discover of what stuff you are made off” – Jonathan Goethe
Talent
Need
Conscience
PassionVOICE
Unique personal significance
Self Assessment SOWT Analysis
What are your Opportunities? They come because of your strength.
What are your Threats? Might be imminent because of your weakness.
Every SWOT analysis should be followed by a scup (Strengthening, Correcting, Utilizing, and Preventing) process.
SCUP provides the strategic action steps for sustainability
It is true that strength should be worked on and improved. But it is more critical to consider weaknesses too, by correcting them.
SCUPING Strategy
STRENGTHS WEAKNESSES OPPORTUNITIES THREATS
Speaking Disorganized Facilitation Bankruptcy
Writing Inconsistent Publishing Distrust
Motivated Reactionary Spiritual Projects Poor relationships
SWOT- Sample
STRENGTHS STRENGTHENING Speaking Improve presentation skills and dictation and
attend trainings Practice daily
Writing Read widely Attend training
Motivated Identify mentors Daily encourage self
WEAKNESSES CORRECTING Disorganized Identify problem areas
Develop life plan Time management courses
Inconsistent Identify principles and reasons to act Exposure to consequences (learning the hard
way) Reactionary Avoid issues that create reaction, get trained OPPORTUNITIES UTILIZING Facilitation Start facilitating Publishing Write for business magazines
Editing opportunities Spiritual Projects Active participation in spiritual activities THREATS PREVENTING Bankruptcy Plan and be focused Distrust Speak less, listen more Poor Relationships Place more value on people
Communicate real intentions positively.
SCUP - Sample
Visioning
• What do you understand by a vision ?• Why is it important to have a vision?
The future that you cannot picture, you cannot feature in it.
Vision is seeing with the mind’s eye. It the picture of a credible, beautiful, realistic future, in people, tasks, in projects etc.
Visioning
All things are created twice.
“Imagination is more important than knowledge.” – Albert Einstein. Vision will always engender purpose.
What would you be remembered for when you leave the choir?
Vision enables us to transcend our autobiography, our past to rise above our memory.
What do you see about yourself?
What matters most is how you see yourself and others
Emotional MasteryWhat is emotions and its purpose?Emotional HijackHow to manage toxic emotions
AngerYou always have the Choice to act wisely or react unintelligently
Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back. Prov. 29:11 NLT
A hot-tempered man starts fights and gets into all kinds of trouble. Prov. 14:17
Definitions of AngerAnger is strong emotion of irritation or agitation that occurs when a need or expectation is not met.
Anger is the most seductive of the negative emotions, and it is the feeling people are worst at controlling. It is the most intransigent.
Anger Cycle
Degrees of AngerIndignation: is simmering anger provoked by something appearing unjust or unworthy and often perceived as justified.
Wrath: burning anger accompanied by a desire to avenge. Wrath often moves from the emotion of anger to the outward expression of anger
Degrees of AngerFury: fiery anger so fierce that it destroys common sense. It has the capacity to harm and destroy.
Rage: Blazing anger resulting in loss of self-control, often to the extreme of violence and temporary insanity.
Misuse of AngerPeriodically, everyone feels the heat of anger, but how you handle it determines whether you are misusing it. The small flame that lights a cosy camp fire if left unchecked can become a conflagration.
Misuse of AngerProlonged Anger-the “Simmering Stew” :
This kind of anger is held in for a long time. Resulting from an unforgiven heart from some past offense
“See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up and causes you trouble, or many of you will become defiled”. Heb. 12:15 ISV
Misuse of AngerPressed Down Anger-the “The Pressure Cooker” : This denied or hidden anger. Resulting from a fear of facing negative emotions.
It creates a deceitful heart, and lead to untruthfulness with others.
“For the person who wants to love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit”. 1Pet 3:10 ISV
Misuse of AngerProvoked Anger -“The Short Fuse” :
This Anger is quick and impatientInstantly irritated or incensed. Manifest in criticism and sarcasm under the guise of teasing.
“Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools”. Ecc. 7:9 NIV
Misuse of AngerProfuse Anger -The “Volatile Volcano” :
This Anger is powerful, destructive and hard to control
Manifest in violence and abuse towards others.
Manifest in criticism and sarcasm under the guise of teasing.
Characteristics of AngerAnger Cues: The Human Body has a physical reaction when it experiences anger. The Anger cues can alert you when you are beginning to feel anger
Characteristics of AngerAnger Cues: Examples
Do you have tense muscles?Do you have increased perspirationsDo you use loud, rapid or high pitch speechDo you practically shut down – Silence?
Characteristics of AngerAnger Cues: Examples
Do you clench your teeth?Do you use inappropriate language, harsh words?
Do you twitch or exhibit anxious behaviors (tapping pencil, shaking foot)?
Does your mouth get dry?Do you pace back and forth?
Symptoms of Unresolved Anger
Anger as an emotion is not a problem in itself. Anger becomes a problem when left unresolved.It has a repercussion on your body – healthIt damages relationshipsIt affects your spirituality
Symptoms of Unresolved Anger
Examples of physical symptoms of anger.High Blood PressureHeart Disease, as a resultStomach DisordersIntestinal disorders as a resultHeadachesBlurred VisionInsomniaCompulsive eating
Symptoms of Unresolved Anger
Examples of Emotional symptoms of anger.AnxietyFearBitternessInsecurityCompulsionsHatredDepression Phobias
Symptoms of Unresolved Anger
Examples of Spiritual symptoms of anger.Loss of Perspective: Emotions distorting your thoughts
Loss of Vision: Losing a sense of purpose for life
Loss of Sensitivity: You can no longer connect with your creator
Loss of Energy: Lacking Strength for service to God and Humanity
Symptoms of Unresolved Anger
Examples of Spiritual symptoms of anger.Loss of Freedom: Becoming a slave of your circumstance
Loss of Faith: Failing to trust that God is working in your life
Loss of Identity: Becoming like the person toward whom you are bitter
Loss of Energy: Lacking Strength for service to God and Humanity
Causes of AngerThere are basically four sources of anger:
Hurt: Your heart is woundedInjustice: Your Rights are violatedFear: Your Sustainability/Future is threatened
Frustration: Your performance is not accepted
How to Overcome AngerFirst be come self-aware:
Analyze your angerWhat is the source of your angerWho are you angry with
How to Overcome AngerAppraise your Thinking:
Learn to challenge your thinking – give benefit of the doubt
Mitigating information should be introduced early in the anger cycle
How to Overcome AngerAbandon your demands:
Do not depend on man to meet your inner needs of love, significance and security
Address your Anger: Determine if it is really justified:Would it serve a good purpose if you mention it?Is it really fare to be angry on the issue?
Cooling down: cooling off physiologically by waiting out the adrenal surge caused by anger thus de-escalating it. While cooling of you put brakes on the thoughts that escalate anger, by seeking out distractions
Avoid catharsis – giving vent to rage
Note: Lashing out at people may sometimes provoke positive actions, when it restores a sense of control or rights an injustice for instance, but the decision to discipline someone shouldn’t be taken during the moment of anger-CMAD
Physical MasteryNutritionExerciseWaterSunshineTemperanceAirRestTrust in God
Relationship Mastery
Influencing People
InfluencePerformance Management needs a high level of influencing skills to achieve result
Motivation is a driver of influenceAuthoritarian style of leadership will not helpYou will need another kind of skill-set to influence someone towards a set of self-defined objectives
InfluenceWhat we have to recognize is that in other to influence others, we need to:
Understand what motivates or drive them
There are different influencing strategies. You need to understand the impact of those strategies on ourselves and others
Basic Influencing Style Before using any of the influencing styles, we first need to be
1. Clear on the outcomes you want to see2. Analyse the situation you are facing3. Seek to get the perspective of others.
Apparent
Basic Influencing StylesLogic and Data AnalysisAggressiveUse of StatusFriendship & EmpathySupportive ApproachListening/ questioning to obtain opinions/ views
Being open and revealing oneself
InfluenceIn any influencing situation, it is the person who possesses the greatest flexibility in the range of styles that will succeed in influencing the other person.
Mastering Poor Performers
Overview of Poor PerformanceUnderperformance, or poor performance, is when an employee isn't doing their job properly, or is behaving in an unacceptable way at work. It includes:
Problem
Person
ExcuseGiver
SlowLearne
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FaultFinder
Inept
Giving Negative Feedback SuccessfullySince feedback recognizes success, or incompetence about someone's professionalism, its important it is accurate
Feedback can of course be based on clear performance standards or opinions. With the latter, it must be based on facts, if not, conflict or dispute may arise
Giving Negative Feedback SuccessfullyStart with a positive commentBe specific and focus only on the individual’s behaviour
Describe the eventUse I statement
Giving Negative Feedback SuccessfullyAsk whether the other person can see your point of view
Don’t Overload – Research shows that people can only handle three pieces of negative feedback in one session
End with a Positive Comment
Receiving FeedbackAvoid Selective hearing how;Listen First postpone any initial reactionBe clear about what’s been saidProbe until there is something you can act onCheck with others to verify the validity of the comments
10 Golden Rules of FeedbackOffer feedback on what you saw not what you think
Offer description of what you saw and how you felt
Focus on behaviour which can be changedSelect behaviours or issues that are critical – limit your self to those
10 Golden Rules of FeedbackAsk questions of the other person, rather than make statements
Establish the ground rules in advance – tell people what yardstick they are being measured with
Comment on the positives and the issues. Be sincereRelate feedback to specific behaviourObserve Personal Limit – don’t overloadBefore offering feedback, consider its value for the receiver.
Finally, remember to keep any negative feedback you give private and confidential – preserve people’s integrity and self-respect
Face-Face Communication
Activity
Attention span is reducing drastically
Facts about communication80% of waking hours are spent in communicating. 45% are spent on listening
After 10 minutes of presentation, we only hear, understand evaluate and retain approximately 50% of what was said. After 48 hours this can fall to as low as 25%
Information InterpretationSelective Hearing – based on past experience
Response to what is heard depends upon interpretation of what is heard
Incorrect interpretation as a result of incorrect hearing, leads to incorrect conclusion and conflict
WATCH OUT – Factors that Limit our capacity to ListenInformation OverloadComplex informationLack of interestDisagreement with information receivedYou don’t like the information giverSelective hearing
How to ListenAvoid selective listening. Question your assumptions
Don’t subject information received to your values or prejudices
Give your undivided attentionShow that you are listeningProvide Feedback – “what I am hearing is”Defer judgmentRespond appropriately
Until People feel heard, they will fight to be heard. But once they are heard, there is little left to fight for, and then we can move on, not as “us vs. them” but simply as “us”HBR ‘How to really Listen’ – Peter Bregman
Understanding the Impact of Non- Verbal Comm.Action speaks Louder than wordsIt carries the real MessageIt should enhance your message not detract from it
Understanding the Impact of Non- Verbal Comm.Vocal cues to be aware of:Volume: attention, authority versus confidence and calm
Pace: Nervousness versus importanceTone: Interest, enthusiasmMumbling: Not being able to assert
Understanding the Impact of Non- Verbal Comm.Impact on Body LanguageNervousnessHostility or defensivenessSighing before conversation