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Prepared by Lynn Malley, JD, MA, LLMCreative Conflict Management Resources
www.mediate.com/malley , [email protected]
Air Force Reserve Yellow Ribbon Reintegration Training
February 24-26, 2009
Including Family and Community
in YR Reintegration Efforts
Consider Multiple Backgrounds
Consider Cultural Differences
Use Appropriate Teaching Styles
Build Community Relations
* YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF THIS SESSION
Write them briefly on the 3x5 card on your table At the end of this talk, I’ll ask you to write down
what you learned I will collect the cards
* TURN TO A NEIGHBOR YOU DON’T KNOW WELL
Tell that person at least five roles you play or have playedTell them in which roles you feel more or less competent
Your Background –The Roles You Have Played
* Why do the roles we play matter in the designand planning of Reintegration Events?
MY BACKGROUND –THE ROLES I HAVE
PLAYED Parent
Daughter 26 (jewelry maker)
Son 24 (OIF veteran) Former wife of Army Reservist Teacher (elementary and high
school) Lawyer
Prosecutor Family practice
Mediator, mediation and negotiation trainer
Law Professor (ADR) Community mediation center
manager
OK DMHSA Policy Team Member on Return of Veterans
OK State ESGR Committee Member
OK ISFAC Member Speaker at YR
Reintegration Events
WHY DO OUR BACKGROUNDS (THE ROLES WE HAVE PLAYED) MATTER?
They affect how and what we see/understand
They set our limits and guide our aspirations
They inform our decisions
WHAT DO YOU SEE?
Young woman? Old woman?
WHAT DO YOU SEE?
Service Member:
Your commanding officer or your buddy
Family/Community Member:
One more person in a uniform
WHAT DO YOU WANT THE PEOPLE AT YOUR YELLOW RIBBON REINTEGRATION EVENT TO SEE?
A commanding officer?
One more person in a uniform?
Someone who can assist them?
WHAT CULTURAL DIFFERENCES LEAD TO THIS DIFFERENCE IN PERCEPTION?
Military Viewpoint
Buddies (cohesion)Accountability Targeted Aggression Tactical Awareness Lethally Armed Emotional Control Mission Operational Security
Individual Responsibility
Non-Defensive (combat) Driving Discipline and Ordering
Civilian Viewpoint
Withdrawal from FamilyControlling BehaviorInappropriate AggressionHypervigilanceLocked and Loaded at Home Anger/DetachmentSecretivenessGuiltAggressive DrivingConflict
From http://www.virtualarmory.com/mobiledeploy/PDHRA/battlemind.aspx
WHAT CULTURAL DIFFERENCES LEAD TO THIS DIFFERENCE IN PERCEPTION?
Military Expectations
Do what you are told
Do it on short notice
Do not ask questions
Do not need to know why
Do not give negative feedback
Do not make suggestions
Expect Briefings
Civilian Expectations
Ask why
Expect enough notice to make arrangements
Ask why
Do not go if you do not know why
Tell them what you think
Expect interesting presentations
How Do these Differences Affect How We Plan for Reintegration?
WHAT IS REINTEGRATION ANYWAY?
the return and acceptance of a disabled person as a participating member of the community (from Mosby's Medical Dictionary, 8th edition. © 2009, Elsevier.)
A viable reintegration is achieved when the necessary political, legal, economic and social conditions for a decent life in peace and dignity of ex-combatants are attained. (Definition adapted from Handbook for Repatriation and Reintegration Activities (UNHCR, Geneva, May 2004)
After wars' end, soldiers once again become civilians and return to their families to try to pick up where they left off. It is this process of readjustment that has more often than not been ignored by society. -- Major Robert H. Stretch, Ph.D in Textbook of Military Medicine: Vol. 6 Combat Stress
WHAT IS RE-INTEGRATION ANYWAY?
to integrate again into an entity: restore to unity (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/reintegrate)
For example, After studying abroad After college After being a missionary abroad After teaching and living abroad After a treatment program After being released from prison After being deployed
**What happens when there is no preparation for returning home? Your experiences?
WHAT IS RE-INTEGRATION ANYWAY?
“The Yellow Ribbon Reintegration Program shall consist of informational events and activities for members of the reserve components of the Armed Forces, their families, and community members to facilitate access to services supporting their health and well-being through the four phases of the deployment cycle…”
Service Members
CommunityMembers
Family Members
HOW DOES RE-INTEGRATION HAPPEN?WHO IS INVOLVED? Reintegration happens through the
cooperation and planning of each of these groups
All are necessary
Service Members
CommunityMembers
Family Members
REINTEGRATION: WHY DOES IT REQUIRE SERVICE MEMBER, FAMILY, AND COMMUNITY?
WHO MAKES UP EACH OF THESE GROUPS?
Service Members Family Members
Spouse / Significant Other
Children / Stepchildren Caretakers of kids Parents / In-laws
Military Community Members Military Onesource VA Veterans’ Organizations other
Civilian Community Members Educators
Higher Ed K-12
Employers Current Potential
Service Providers Counselors Law Enforcement
Drug Court Medical Providers other
HOW DOES REINTEGRATION HAPPEN? OR, HOW ARE SERVICE MEMBERS MADE WHOLE
WHEN THEY RETURN FROM DEPLOYMENT?
o Meetings for service members, families, and community members are planned according to the schedule in the YR Legislation.
o People from each group are invitedo Service members need to know why they are being
asked to participateo Commanders need to be able to educate and encourage
their peopleo Family members need to know why they are being
asked to participate and what they can expect to get out of ito Information about child care is critical
o Community members need to know why they are being asked to participate and what they can expect to get out of ito They need lots of noticeo They need to know what their role is
HOW DOES REINTEGRATION HAPPEN? (CONT.)
o Community members can provide important support in other wayso Educators can …
o provide information about how people learn besto Design pre and post event surveys that are valido Help design programs for the children to help them
cope with deployment/reintegration issueso Educational Institutions can…
o Provide information on their classeso Show how they treat service members
o Employers can …o Come to job fairso Provide resume writing classes
o Helping professionals cano Explain their services are for service memberso Run community dialogue groups
BEFORE AN ACTIVITY…
Give multiple notices/invitations in multiple ways Email an invite Mail a brochure Tell the commanders in person
Get the notices out early Answer any “Whys” you anticipate Be sure any presentations are interesting and
appropriate for the group Have a professional prepare a needs assessment
Service Members
CommunityMembers
Family Members
DURING AN ACTIVITY…
Make everyone feel welcome Use name tags that give important information
First and last name Role at the event Role in the deployment
Be sure any presentations are interesting and interactive
Ask for feedback
Service Members
CommunityMembers
Family Members
WHY USE NAME TAGS?
Remember the general… or airman…
WHY MAKE PRESENTATIONS INTERACTIVE?
HOW TO MAKE PRESENTATIONS INTERACTIVE?
Talk to people by name Ask participants to share a thought with a
neighbor Ask participants to write something down
to hand in or just to remember Remember that attention drifts after 18
minutes…
MORE WAYS TO ENGAGETHE COMMUNITY…
Engage professionals to run community discussions Deliberative Dialogue (http://www.nifi.org)
Everyday Democracy (http://www.everyday-democracy.org)
Support or start a Student Veterans’ Group Educate community professionals about military culture
Therapists and Doctors Police and Parole Officers Mediators and Educators Lawyers and Judges
Service Members
CommunityMembers
Family Members
CULTURAL DIFFERENCES: MILITARY AND CIVILIAN
Why does this matter? Yellow Ribbon is about a three part reintegration
Service members Family members Communities
Military and civilian cultures are different Battlemind slides have an excellent example of
this Talk to your neighbor about how the cultures differ and how that might impact your YR
event planning
REACHING OUT TO CIVILIANS – WHO? Families
Spouse Significant Other Children/
stepchildren Parents Caretaker for
children
Community members Employers Educators
K-12 Higher Ed
Mental Health professionals
State Agencies Law Enforcement Military benefit
providers
REACHING OUT TO CIVILIANS – HOW?
Include family and community members on your team
Speak Civilian Don’t order them Don’t use ‘militaryese’ Give lead time Give details Tell why Build personal relationships
USE APPROPRIATE TEACHING METHODS
Once You’ve Got Them, Don’t Bore Them – They May Not Come Back
Involve them in the presentations Have them talk with their neighbor about the topic Have them jot down questions at the beginning or
the end Give them the opportunity to meet in different
types of groups Have civilian and military presenters Brief the presenters on having interactive presentations Use name tags that give appropriate info
COMMUNITY RELATIONSHIP-BUILDING: NOT JUST ABOUT HAVING THE VA OR ESGR SPEAK If your families do not live near a base, they may
not have others who understand military culture to support them or their children or parents
Involve the community, don’t brief them Promote and get involved in community dialogues Consider community or school Art Shows Engage with state agencies and professionals
10 states have mental health teams for vets 35 states have free mediation services for vets Therapists/lawyers/mediators/doctors organizations are
organizing to provide free services Many churches provide services for veterans
Universities are developing veterans organizations
FEEDBACK PLEASE…
Did you learn anything? Did you learn what you expected to? Write what you learned or other comments
on your 3 x 5 cards and pass them to the end of your row
I am happy to give you feedback or other assistance
[email protected] www.mediate.com/malley