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What does it mean to be a friend?

FRIENDSHIP is ABOUT…..FRIENDSHIP is ABOUT…..

Dignity

Honesty

KindnessCaring

Listening

AcceptanceToleranc

e

Helping

Loyalty Sharing

Dependability

Fun

Understanding

Trust

FRIENDSHIP is FRIENDSHIP is NOT NOT about …. about ….

Being Bossy

Threats Put Downs

Violence

Rejection

Ignoring

Rumors

Guilt

Respect is:Respect is: 1. believing in and valuing yourself and 1. believing in and valuing yourself and

other people other people 2. appreciating a person for who they are2. appreciating a person for who they are 3. treating others as you would want to be 3. treating others as you would want to be

treatedtreated 4. setting and honoring boundaries 4. setting and honoring boundaries

BoundariesBoundaries

BoundariesBoundaries are the limits that we draw with are the limits that we draw with people. They describe what we are people. They describe what we are comfortable and uncomfortable with as comfortable and uncomfortable with as well as what is acceptable and well as what is acceptable and unacceptable to us. unacceptable to us.

Setting Your BoundariesSetting Your Boundaries

All individuals have a right to decide how All individuals have a right to decide how they expect to be treated by othersthey expect to be treated by others

All individuals have a right to decide who All individuals have a right to decide who can touch them, kiss them or give them a can touch them, kiss them or give them a hughug

Respecting Boundaries

Respect private space around people’s bodies

Respect private space around people’s personal things

Remember people’s right to privacy when they are changing, showering, etc.

Private areas are private

Private thoughts are private

Breaking Boundaries

Grabbing, pulling, or hitting someoneTouching someone when they have asked you not toTouching someone’s private areasAsking someone personal questions when you do not know them wellMaking fun of someoneTaking someone’s personal things without permission

How Do You Feel When Someone How Do You Feel When Someone Respects vs. Breaks Boundaries??Respects vs. Breaks Boundaries??

You feel happy with You feel happy with how you are being how you are being treatedtreated

You are comfortable You are comfortable with the activities you with the activities you are taking part inare taking part in

You feel relaxed You feel relaxed

You are able to make You are able to make your own choicesyour own choices

You are hurt You are hurt emotionally or emotionally or physicallyphysically

You feel scared or You feel scared or nervousnervous

You feel pressured You feel pressured when making choiceswhen making choices

Trusting your IntuitionTrusting your Intuition

Your body will provide signals when others Your body will provide signals when others have crossed your boundaries have crossed your boundaries

Tingling, an unsettled stomach, a general Tingling, an unsettled stomach, a general sense of discomfort, nervousnesssense of discomfort, nervousness

Follow your spidey sensesFollow your spidey senses

Boundary exerciseBoundary exercise

Healthy RelationshipsHealthy Relationships

You know, like, and respect each otherYou know, like, and respect each other

You trust each otherYou trust each other

You’re there for one anotherYou’re there for one another

You feel good whenYou feel good when

you’re togetheryou’re together

You can talkYou can talk

about anythingabout anything

You encourage each You encourage each

otherother

Unhealthy RelationshipsUnhealthy Relationships

Your friend constantly criticizes you Your friend constantly criticizes you and puts you downand puts you down

Your friend is jealous and controllingYour friend is jealous and controlling

You never know where you standYou never know where you stand

You feel pressured to do things you You feel pressured to do things you don’t want to dodon’t want to do

Pressure to take sides Pressure to take sides

Time for a Test: Time for a Test: Healthy or UnhealthyHealthy or Unhealthy

HealthyHealthy

UnhealthyUnhealthy

UnhealthyUnhealthy

UnhealthyUnhealthy

HealthyHealthy

UnhealthyUnhealthy

Accept each other as you Accept each other as you areare

Moody, tiredMoody, tired

Always promise to changeAlways promise to change

Fight often but cannot stand Fight often but cannot stand to be apartto be apart

Each partner can be aloneEach partner can be alone

Clingy, jealous, always want Clingy, jealous, always want to be with the other personto be with the other person

S.H.A.R.E. Qualities of Healthy S.H.A.R.E. Qualities of Healthy RelationshipsRelationships

SafetySafety

HonestyHonesty

AcceptanceAcceptance

RespectRespect

EnjoymentEnjoyment

EmpowermentEmpowerment

Creating Healthy Relationships:Creating Healthy Relationships:A How to GuideA How to Guide

Know yourselfKnow yourself

Love yourself firstLove yourself first

Take time to get to Take time to get to know your friendknow your friend

Express your feelings Express your feelings openly and truthfullyopenly and truthfully

Maintain the freedom Maintain the freedom to be yourselfto be yourself

Be respectfulBe respectful

Be willing to trust and Be willing to trust and be trustworthybe trustworthy

Negotiate with each Negotiate with each other on areas of other on areas of disagreementdisagreement

Bottom LineBottom Line

In a healthy relationship you In a healthy relationship you feel good about yourself.feel good about yourself.

Tips for feeling good about Tips for feeling good about you…you…

Be AWARE of the MediaBe AWARE of the Media

HAVE FUN- HAVE FUN- sports/teams/hobbies/music/read/friendssports/teams/hobbies/music/read/friends

Choose healthy foods to eatChoose healthy foods to eat

Exercise every day Exercise every day

Feel good about how you lookFeel good about how you look

Happy people come in all shapes and sizesHappy people come in all shapes and sizes

RESPECT yourselfRESPECT yourself

Be True to You!!Be True to You!!

Eat wellEat well

ExerciseExercise

Get lots of sleepGet lots of sleep

Surround yourself with people who make Surround yourself with people who make YOU feel good about yourself!YOU feel good about yourself!

Make your own decisions for yourselfMake your own decisions for yourself

Friendship GameFriendship Game

QuestionsQuestions