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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Section #

Real Secrets o the Male &sychology Most 'omen

Aren(t A$are )* This +s ,o$ Men Thin"-!

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&o$erul /motional Triggers 'hich 'ill Ma"e

Any Man 0all 0or 1ou-"

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The +nvisi!le Trap Most 'omen 0all +nto and )ten

,arm Themselves 'ith* 2no$ This 3eore it(s Too

4ate!

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The Single Most +mportant 2ey toGetting 'hat 1ou 'ant )ut o a Relationship!$

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The 3iggest 0ear Men ,ave They 5on(t

'ant 'omen to 2no$

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,o$ to Ma"e a Man Commit /ven + ,e

+s Reluctant To 5o So at 0irst'

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,o$ to Tal" A!out Ta"ing the Relationship to

the Ne9t 4evel $ithout 0rea"ing ,im )ut ($

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The Real Secrets !ehind 'hat 5rives a Man to &ursue

Certain 2inds o 'omen and Avoid the Rest'!

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'hy Men are )ten :/motionally

7navaila!le; and 'hat to 5o A!out +t''

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/9tremely +mportant


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So ,e 'ants to 3rea"up 'ith 1ou8 ,ere +s ,o$ to

Stop a 3rea"up and Ampliy ,is +nterest in 1ou"(

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Most +mportant Things to 2eep in Mind !!

Final *ords ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++%"

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,ntrod-ction:

+ $ould li"e to start $ith a story=a story you might relate to inseveral $ays.

)nce upon a time there $as a girl $ho $as very attracted to ayoung man. At irst she assumed that he $as %ust another guy# !ut

as time passed and she got to "no$ him more=her attraction tohim gre$.

And $ith time# this attraction gre$ into a strong emotional urge to!e$ith this guy. 3ut this $as the tric"y part> she didn(t "no$$hether the guy elt the same $ay a!out her.

The very act that she $asn(t sure a!out ho$ he elt to$ards hermade her !ecome more and more insecure.

)ccasionally he $ould say things such as# :1ou are so !eautiul# +really li"e you.; 3ut $hat ollo$ed $ere al$ays attempts to getphysical. /very time she sho$ed resistance or tried to stop hisphysical advances# he $ould act slightly rustrated and then ignoreher or several days.

This urther conused her. She thought that may!e !ecoming morephysically intimate $ould ta"e things to the ne9t level and

eventually she let him have his $ay. 5ays turned into $ee"s and$ee"s turned into months# !ut it didn(t seem li"e the relationship$as going any$here.

She "ne$ something $as $rong $ith the picture !ut could not

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igure out $hat it $as. No matter $hat she did=he $asn(t acting asi he $as alling in love. Rather# he acted more li"e a riend.

Ater spending many days o!sessing over him# the girl decided to

pop the !ig ?uestion. )ne day on the phone she as"ed him# :So$hat do you thin" a!out us8;

,e had no idea $hat she $as tal"ing a!out.

She continued# :1ou never tell me ho$ you actually eel to$ardsme. 1ou never tal" a!out our relationship.;

,e $as as cold as ice and did not really have much o an ans$er.

And then she made a !old move. She conessed her true eelingsor him. She told him ho$ much she loved him and $anted tospend her lie $ith him.

,e inally responded# :'ell + am too !usy $ith my career at themoment. + don(t thin" this is the right time.;

This only conused her more. She didn(t understand $hat had %usthappened.

5ay and night# she thought*

5oes it mean he loves me !ut he(s scared o something8

5oes it mean + as"ed him a!out our relationship too early8

5oes it mean he isn(t ready to commit at all8

These ?uestions $ere driving her mad. She had to get this all

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igured out !eore it $as too late. She really had to !e $ith this guyno matter $hat.

She thought she hadn(t tried hard enough# thereore she concluded

that i she sho$ed him ho$ much she truly loved him# he $ouldeventuallycommit to her.

And this is $here the drama started. She started calling him moreoten> she started mentioning ho$ she truly elt a!out him# ho$much she loved him and ho$ she %ust couldn(t live $ithout him.

And this is $hen the unthin"a!le happened.

,e stopped ans$ering her calls. She $ould leave message atermessage on his ans$ering machine# !ut to no avail. +t too" herseveral $ee"s to inally reach him# only to hear that he had !eene9tra !usy the last e$ $ee"s and $asn(t going to have any reetime to see her or the ne9t month or so.

She tried to get more details and !eore she could say anythingelse> he said he had to go# and hung up the phone.

'hether you have !een in this situation or a situation similar to this=$e all "no$ ho$ it ends# right8

Most $omen going through this situation are let in the dar"#thin"ing*

'as it something + said@8

'as it something + did@8

'hat $as it that scared him o8

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And# eventually $hen they can(t ind a logical reason# they end upthin"ing# )h $ell- This is ho$ men truly are. They %ust $ant onething. They only use $omen. All men are %er"s.

0irst o all- 4et me get something straight here=not all men $ant%ust one thing and not all men are %er"s. + that $as the case you$ould never see relationships or marriages ta"ing place in oursociety.

Thin"ing that men %ust $ant one thing is a myth that society hashard$ired into the emale !rain. The !ig pro!lem is that $omenassume that men have the same thin"ing process as they do.

'omen assume that men $ant the same things as they do. Theyhaven(t really spent much time trying to trulyigure men out on adeeper level and actually understandho$ men thin" and $hy theydo $hat they do.

+nsanity is doing the same thing over and over again and e9pectinga dierent outcome. This is e9actly $hat many $omen out there doon a regular !asis.

A common e9ample o this is the emale $ho "eeps on alling orthe same a!usive %er" over and over# only to discover that she has!een cheated ona!used and ta"en advantage o yet again.

3ecause many $omen do not understand men# $hat they assumeshould$or" actually ends up ma"ing things $orse. +t(s no !igsurprise that $omen oten end up conused !ecause they do notunderstand ho$ to handle dierent situations around men.

1ou can never get a man to li"e you !y conessing your love#convincing him to li"e you# or !y chasing him around.

+n other $ords# many things that $omen try to do in order to ma"ea man li"e them actually cause the man to not li"e them at all.

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Rather# it repels them and ma"es them run a$ay.

+ $ill e9plain the process on ho$ this actually ta"es place in latersections o this !oo".

This !oo" is an eort to sho$ you the core dynamics o ho$ things$or" $ith men and ho$ you can use them to your ultimateadvantage. +n addition# the !est part is=you $ill learn $hat $or"sand $hat doesn(t $or" $ith men# $ithout having to go through theold# painul trial and error route.

3y the time you inish $ith this !oo" you $ill have a perectunderstanding o ho$ to get the man o your dreams# design the

perect relationship you have al$ays dreamed o and "eep himattracted to you or as long as you $ant.

0or $omen# inding the right guy is li"e trying to ind a needle in ahaystac". The very process o inding a potential mate can !ee9tremely rustrating and over$helming.

0irst you have to ind a guy $ho seems right# then you have toattract his attention. Then you try to discover more details a!outhim to ma"e sure he isn(t %ust another %er". The hardest part o allis to ma"e sure he remains attracted to you and proceeds to thene9t level.

0or many $omen# thin"ing a!out all o these steps can ma"e theme9tremely an9ious and earul# !ut this only happens $hen theydon(t "no$ $hat to do. ,umans e9perience an9iety and ear $henthey encounter a situation $here they have no clear plan o action.

This !oo" $ill teach you $hat to do=giving you a perectsystematic understanding o $hat to do in various situations $ithmen# $hich $ill only intensiy their attraction or you at each level oyour relationship.

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No$ !eore $e get to the real meaty stu# + $ould li"e to give you asmall $arning=you $ill come across certain concepts in this !oo"that might eel alien to you# that may !e hard or impossi!le to!elieve in some cases. To understand and learn these concepts# you$ill need to suspend your dis!elie momentarily.

+ $ant you to open up and try these concepts out. At the sametime# you may come across concepts that ma"e you thin"# )h- +already "no$ that- 4et(s s"ip to the ne9t part. + you do this# you(ll!e $asting your time. /very section o this !oo" is vitally important#as it orms the oundation or the ne9t.

The other very important thing + $ant you to do is to puteverythingyou learn here into practice. Many people read !oo"sand never put anything into practice. 2no$ing and not doingis$orse than not "no$ing. 5oing is $hat gets you the results> doingis $hat ta"es you arther in lie> doing is $hat $ill get you the mano your dreams. So doingis everything.

The only $ay to !ecome an e9pert at this is to do more and analy6eless=don(t let yoursel !e consumed !y internal conlicts.

Al$ays remem!er that action is everything. Nothing happens untilsomething moves=act on everything you learn in this !oo".

4et(s not $aste any more time and get right to the irst section@

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Section:Real Secrets o the /ale 0s1cholog1

/ost *omen Aren2t A3are O: This ,s 4o3 /enThin5-

+ you are one o those $omen $ho !elieve that iguring out a manis as diicult as clim!ing Mount /verest# then this might !e themost important section or you.

+(m going to start o !y saying=men are very dierent than$omen. 1ou already "no$ that# right8 +t(s not really a !ig secret#!ut the "ey is in learning ho$ men are dierent than $omen.

Most $omen are a$are o the o!vious dierences# !ut !ecause mentend to have their o$n $ay o doing things# $omen are oten letconused and even rustrated !y their actions.

,ave you ever !een in a situation $ith a man $here you tried to

e9plain something to him# and no matter $hat you said or ho$ yousaid it=he never understood you8 Chances are you ended up in a!ig argument that let you !oth rustrated and irritated $ith eachother.

/very time you end up in such a situation# do you "no$ that one othe reasons could !e your lac" o understanding o the malepsychology8

1ou may !e as"ing yoursel# :'hy do you $ant me to do all thehard $or"8 'hy should + !other to understand him $hen he(s notma"ing any eort to understand me8;

+ you $ant to see changes in your outside $orld# you irst have to

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to men# they oten la!el men as !eing too insensitive $hen dealing$ith certain situations.

)n the other hand# men !lame $omen or !eing overly sensitiveto$ard the same issues.

/en eno1 inde9endence 3hile 3omen have a need orintimac1 and connection.

This is the main reason $hy it(s a lot harder or a man to commit toa relationship. Most men don(t really thin" a!out settling do$n asmuch as $omen do. Men stay single until they ind an e9tremelygood reason to settle do$n.

Men have a ear that they might get trapped i they commit tooearly# oten resulting in ma"ing no commitment at all. +n latersections o this !oo"# + $ill sho$ you ho$ to ma"e a man commiteven i he is reluctant to do so at irst.

To eel good6 men m-st eel in control.

This is $hy it(s not a good idea to tell the guy $hat to do and $hatnot to do. 0or men# !eing a!le to do things !y themselves means heeels in li"e he is !oth in charge and strong. 1ou $ill never see menreely tal"ing a!out their pro!lems as they generally consider it to!e a sign o $ea"ness.

)n the other hand# $omen aren(t araid to reely discuss theirpro!lems and see" advice rom various sources. +n their $orld#see"ing advice isn(t a sign o $ea"ness at all.

3ut this is $here the !ig conlict arises. 'hen a $oman tries to giveadvice or help to a man# he interprets it as a sign o $ea"ness#thereore he assumes that you are indirectly telling him that may!ehe isn(t good enough or he(s lac"ing something.

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1our intentions are to help him !ecause you consider caring andsharing to !e positive# !ut he assumes that you are trying to tellthem that he can(t do things on his o$n.

And this is a !ig !lo$ to a man(s selBesteem. 'hen this happensthey may either $ithdra$ completely or argue $ith you=somethingcommonly "no$n as the ight or light response.

+n later sections + $ill sho$ you ho$ to ma"e a man ta"e youradvice $ithout him getting deensive.

There are several other dierences !ut i + $as to mention them allthis !oo" $ill never end. + hope you get my point here. +n order toland the man o your dreams and "eep him attracted# you have toirst ma"e a e$ changes in your o$n thin"ing.

Remem!er at the !eginning + mentioned you have to suspenddis!elie momentarily and open your mind to ne$ things8 +t(s timeto do so no$# !ecause some o the concepts + am going to discussne9t might !e a !it hard to digest.

Fact #. /en ;ehave aro-nd 1o- ;ased on the 3a1 1o-;ehave aro-nd them he $as nice early on etc.# !uti a man is doing something you don(t really approve o# then youare allo$ing him to do so. Men only react to the $ay you act around

them.

Men al$ays si6e up a $oman !ased on her !ehaviors and actaccordingly. So i a man "eeps cheating on you yet you still stic"around=$hat signal are you giving out8 1ou are indirectly tellinghim# :)"- So you cheated again. This is unaccepta!le !ut + am notsure i + $ant to leave you.;

,e senses that and "no$s you $on(t leave him# so he "eeps

cheating on you over and over again. 1ou indirectly train him ho$you $ant to !e treated !y displaying certain actions. Al$aysremem!er# a positive !ehavior $hen praised $ill !e repeated# anegative !ehavior $hen ignored $ill !e repeated as $ell.

The main reason $hy some $omen ind themselves stuc" ina!usive relationships is simply !ecause they "eep on ignoring theman(s !ad !ehavior and conse?uently# he "eeps on repeating it. 'e$ill ela!orate urther on this in the coming chapters.

Fact # ". ,n order to see a change in 1o-r circ-mstances61o- 3ill have to change 1o-rsel.

+n order to !est e9plain this point# + $ould li"e to share a story +came across $hile suring the net one day.

There $as a millionaire $ho $as !othered !y severe eye pain. ,econsulted many physicians and $as getting treated. ,e didn(t stop

consulting a multitude o medical e9perts> he consumed heavyloads o drugs and under$ent hundreds o in%ections.

3ut the ache persisted. At last# the millionaire called a mon" $ho$as supposedly an e9pert in treating such patients.

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The mon" understood his pro!lem and said that or the ne9t $hilehe should concentrate only on green colors and ignore all othercolors.

The millionaire gathered a group o painters# purchased !arrels ogreen paint# and instructed that every o!%ect his eye $as li"ely toall on should !e painted green# %ust as the mon" had said.

'hen the mon" came to visit him ater e$ days# the millionaireFsservants ran $ith !uc"ets o green paint and poured them on himas he $as $earing red clothing.

At this the mon" laughed and said# 1our master could havepurchased a pair o green spectacles# $orth %ust a e$ dollars andcould have saved these $alls# trees# pots and all other articles $hich$ould have also saved a large share o his ortune.

So the moral is that you can(t change the $hole $orld=it $ould !eimpossi!le. 1ou have to start !y changing yoursel.

+n order to succeed $ith men you have to irst change your visionand open your mind to understanding men on another level. 1ouhave to give up on your old !elies a!out men and try to understand$hy they do $hat they do. )nce you understand their emotionaldrivers# you $ill have no trou!le attracting the right man.

Fact # !. *hat 1o- 3ant and 3hat a man ma1 3ant 3illal3a1s ;e com9letel1 dierent.

This is one thing you should "eep in mind every single time you arearound a man. The very reason !ehind the death o mostrelationships and constant conlicts comes do$n to this act.

/very individual has a story running in their mind $here they see

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things a certain $ay# $hich may !e completely dierent rom reality.And people have a strange addiction to this story they have runningin their mind.

This is the prime reason $hy $hen anything happens that goesagainst this story you have running in your head# there $ill al$ays!e conlict. +n your mind you might e9pect a man to !e a certain$ay and do certain things !ut in reality he might do the completeopposite o it# $hich may surprise you.

+n most cases it might not even ma"e sense to you# !ut in theman(s $orld# $hat you are doing might not ma"e any sense to himeither.

3ut you should e9pect this. So in order to succeed in the datingarena you have to drop all your assumptions a!out men and seethings the $ay they really are. 1ou should stop trying to color the$orld around you green and rather get a pair o green spectacles.

Thereore# it is important to drop all your assumptions and start too!serve !eore orming any %udgments.

Fact #. ,t2s hard or a man to commit.

This is another act you must understand !ecause commitment is ahuge decision or a man and he al$ays thin"s long and hard !eorehe eventually decides to commit to a certain $oman.

They ear !eing trapped# even i they are $ith the !est loo"ing$oman out there. This ear comes and goes all the time in their

$orld. They al$ays eel that yes# they might !e $ith the !est$oman out there !ut they can still do a !it !etter.

This might sound a !it $eird to $omen# !ut this is a universal acta!out men# and the aster you understand it the !etter it(s going to

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!e or you.

No$# this does not mean he $ill never commit at all. There arecertain things you can do $hich $ill naturally drive him to committo you. 3ut again- 'e $ill go into much detail in some o the latersections.

No$ that you are over your %udgments and assumptions a!out menand are inally open to see reality the $ay it truly e9ists# let mesho$ you ho$ you can use all this to your ultimate advantage.

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Section:"0o3er-l Emotional Triggers *hich

*ill /a5e An1 /an Fall For =o->

+ $ould li"e to share my o$n personal story to e9plain somethinghere. + remem!er a e$ years !ac"# there $as this certain girl +used to li"e. Since she $as really good loo"ing she $as one o thosetooBhardBtoBget types.

And the act that she $asn(t that easy to get or most guys# mademe more interested in her. + $as pretty conident and outgoing sostri"ing up a conversation $ith most $omen $asn(t a !ig deal orme.

3ut or some reason + struggled a !it $ith this one. +t too" meseveral months to approach and start a conversation $ith her. 3ut$ith time# things started to lo$ $ell. 'e $ould spend a lot o timetogether and it seemed as i she $as getting closer and closer tome as time passed !y.

And at the same time my comort levels started to get higher andhigher around her. She $as everything a guy could $ant in a$oman. 3ut or some reason# $ith the passage o time a verystrange thing started to happen.

+ started to reali6e that + $as not interested in her as much as +used to !e. + never elt any e9citement a!out meeting her and + nolonger got those desperate urges to tal" to her $hich + al$ays usedto.

3ut you see# + didn(t $ant to eel this $ay. + thought to mysel# Thisis the perect girl or me. She is the one + al$ays $anted to !e $ith.

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3ut or some reason + didn(t eel that inner desire to !e $ith heranymore.

And + had no idea ho$ it happened.

The more + pulled !ac"# the harder she tried to ma"e me happy.She $ould al$ays go that e9tra mile to do things or me# !ut it onlymade me more disinterested in her.

No$ + $on(t give you all the details o $hat happened and $here it'ent# !ut + $ould li"e to tell you that $e !ro"e it o ater a e$months.

A e$ months later# + came across another girl $ho $asn(t nearly asgood loo"ing as the previous one !ut this girl drove me a!solutelycra6y a!out her. All my riends al$ays used to as" me# :'hat doyou see in her8:

And + al$ays used to respond !y saying# :'ell# she(s dierent.; +couldn(t e9plain ho$# !ut this $as the only thing + could thin" o.

And guess $hat8 She !ro"e it o $ith me ater a e$ months.

+t $asn(t until much later that + reali6ed $hat had !een going onand $hy + elt no attraction to$ards one and intense attractionto$ards the other one. There $as a solid pattern $hich $as inunction here=a concept $hich + inally igured out.

And i you can get this one concept properly then + can guaranteethat you have done HDE o the $or" to$ards !eing successul $ithmen.

So $hat e9actly is this concept + am tal"ing a!out8 'ell this iscalled :ATTRACT+)N;.

And it isn(t a choice# $hich means attraction isn(t something men

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decide to eel. +t %ust happens around certain emales. These arethe emales the society terms as naturals. They are the "ind $honever struggle to stri"e up conversations $ith men and al$ays havemen lined up no matter $here they go.

And here is the surprising part. Not all these $omen are stunninglygorgeous. 1up- 4oo"s don(t really play a !ig role here. Attractiongoes $ay !eyond physical loo"s.

1ou can get a man(s attention !y displaying !eauty !ut that doesn(t

necessarily mean you can get him committed to you. This is themain reason $hy even the !est loo"ing o $omen ind it hard toind the right man and "eep him.

So attraction is a much deeper concept. And + am going to sho$you ho$ you can easily trigger it as and $hen you please. )nce aman eels attraction# he $ill !e internally orced to pursue you. +nother $ords# he is almost po$erless.

At the same time i he eels repelled to$ards you# he $on(t $ant to!e $ith you even i you are the prettiest $oman out there. ,e$ould !e po$erless here as $ell. And + $ill sho$ you ho$ to avoid

this.

4o3 Attraction *or5s this %ust isn(t ho$ they $or". +t(s aman(s nature to !e less e9pressive $hen it comes to his emotions.

1et some $omen still don(t accept the act that men are li"e this. +nact# i they end up in a relationship $ith one o these men theyoten ind themselves getting rustrated over his nonBe9pressiveness. 0or some $omen# !eing this $ay is %ust not right.

And they orget that it(s a part o a normal man(s nature.

And again=this is $here that lac" o understanding comes in.

3ut it doesn(t stop here. Some $omen push it urther and try to letthe man "no$ ho$ $rong his $ays are and try to change him#$ithout reali6ing that men don(t react very $ell to orce and hate it$hen they are told to change.

+t(s the same as a man telling a $oman to stop creating all thisemotional drama and see things in a logical $ay.=$hich isn(t really

the !asic nature o most $omen. 'omen are "no$n to !eemotional. +t(s a part o them.

The astest $ay to drive a man a$ay is to tell him that he is doingsomething $rong and to tell him $hat he should !e doing instead.

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So the only $ay around this is to gain a deeper insight into ho$men communicate and really try to understand them.

)nce you truly get ho$ men actually communicate you $ill ind

yoursel having more success. + am going to sho$ you ho$ toactually read !et$een the lines and see $hat he truly means $henhe says something.

Not only $ill + sho$ you ho$ to igure out the real message !ehind

$hat he says( in this chapter !ut you $ill also discover ho$ tocatch a man $hen he is straight out lying to you.

4et me start $ith an e9ample here. ,ave you ever heard a man say#

:+(m %ust not ready or a serious relationship right no$-; 3ut ater ae$ $ee"s or months you discover that he is in a seriousrelationship $ith another $oman8

This really doesn(t ma"e sense to most $omen# !ut $hen he saidhe didn(t $ant a serious relationship# he didn(t mean he didn(t $antone at all. 'hat he actually meant $as that he didn(t $ant it $ith

you !ecause he $asn(t sure a!out you.That(s the true story !ehindhis $ords.

Thereore the irst truth you have to accept is that men don(t al$ayssay $hat they mean.

Thereore i he says# :+ am happy !eing single or no$; =$hat hereally means is=he is yet to come across a $oman $ho heconsiders $orthy enough to !e in a relationship $ith him. 7ntil thenhe is %ust happy $ith "eeping things casual.

Another e9ample o this $ould !e $hen a $oman ta"es $hat a mansays literally. 0or e9ample i he says to you that he li"es it $hen you"iss him and you start "issing him more and more=at home# inpu!lic=do you "no$ $hat happens8

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,e $ill actually get irritated !y it. 'hy8 + he told you he li"edcandy# and !ased on $hat he said you assumed that he $ould reallylove you i you served him candy all the time=candy or !rea"ast#lunch and even dinner=don(t you thin" it $ould !ore him to death#having to eat the same thing over and over again8

1ou really have to read !et$een the lines here. + he says that heli"es something you do# it doesn(t mean that he $ants you to do alot more o it. ,e is %ust letting you "no$ that he li"es it $hen youdo it once in a $hile.

'hen a man says# :+ $ant an independent $oman#; =$hat he trulymeans is he $ants a $oman $ho $on(t give him the eeling o

!eing trapped. ,e $ants a $oman $ho can give him the "ind ospace he needs !ut at the same time !e aectionate to$ards him.,e actually means a $oman $ho has her act together# one $ho is incomplete control o her emotions and a $oman he doesn(t have totrain# someone $ho already understands ho$ to trigger attraction ina man.

The last thing a man $ants is to get stuc" $ith a $oman $hodoesn(t understand anything a!out men. &ut it this $ay=ho$ $ouldyou li"e to !e in an airplane and !e told the pilot is ne$ and this is

his irst light.

'ould you get nervous8 'ould you ear that he might crash8 'ouldyou $ant to get out o the plane8

A man gets similar "inds o eelings around $omen $ho don(t havetheir act together. And that(s $hat he ears the most. ,e doesn(t$ant to !e in an airplane $ith an amateur pilot.

A lot o men can(t really descri!e this "ind o a $oman in perectdetail !ut they al$ays "no$ $hen they are around one. + he(stelling you that he $ants to !e $ith an independent emale# $hathe is really telling you is that he doesn(t eel you it the criteria o$hat he sees as a potential uture mate.

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+ am sure you must have heard o the saying $hich goes somethingli"e* Actions spea" louder than $ords. +n order to igure out a guy(strue intentions all you have to do is ocus on his actions and not his

$ords.

,is actions $ill al$ays demonstrate his true needs and in theprocess you $ill "no$ $hether he really means $hat he is saying ornot. +t(s very simple=all you have to do is hear $hat he is sayingand then ocus on the actions he is ta"ing.

+ $hat he is saying and the action $hich ollo$s are completely5ierent# then he lied. 0or e9ample# i a man says he really cares

a!out you !ut never sho$s up $hen you need him the most=hedoesn(t really care a!out you. ,e said it %ust to ma"e you happy.

+ a man says he $ants to marry you yet ma"es no real attempt tota"e the relationship to the ne9t level and you are the only onedoing all the hard $or" in the relationship# then he isn(t reallyinterested in marrying you. ,e is %ust "eeping you around until heinds a !etter $oman.

At the same time i he tells you that he isn(t ready or commitment!ut is e9tremely possessive a!out you and treats you as i you $erealready married to him# then internally he really $ants to !e $ithyou. ,is true intentions are to commit. ,e might not say it !ut hisactions are doing all the tal"ing.

The pro!lem $ith most $omen is that they al$ays ocus on $hatthe man is saying and not $hat he is doing. And this is the reason$hy they al$ays ind themselves conused $hen the man does thee9act opposite o $hat he said he $ould do.

+n act# you can save yoursel a lot o trou!le !ecause this is theperect $ay to %udge the character o a man and see i he $ill ma"ea good long term mate or not. 5o you "no$ that men $ho aregreat relationship material al$ays ollo$ through $ith $hat they

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+n other $ords# their $ords are al$ays in line $ith their actions.They al$ays do $hat they say they are going to do. Men $ho have

strong personalities never have a conlict !et$een their $ords andactions. So $hat(s inside actually relects outside.

So your %o! should !e to see $hether his actions are matching his$ords# early in the relationship. That $ay you can ilter out the !adones pretty ast $ithout having to go through the emotionaltorture.

Actions al$ays !ring out the man(s real character> every time there

is a conlict !et$een his $ords and his actions=you should al$aysocus on his actions and ignore the $ords.

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Section# !4o3 To 0s1chologicall1 Train =o-r

/an ,nto Doing /ore O The Things That0lease =o-

5o you "no$ that you are responsi!le# to a very large e9tent# orthe $ay your man acts and !ehaves around you8

+ you oten ind yoursel struggling to ma"e your man understandyou and al$ays ind yoursel in the middle o an unnecessary

argument# then you have deinitely allo$ed your man to do more othe things you don(t really $ant him to do.

5o you "no$ that you train your man on ho$ to treat you8 +t(s all!ased on $hat you allo$ or disallo$ him to do. + have alreadymentioned in some o the previous sections that $hen you a$ardgood !ehavior# it $ill !e repeated. At the same time# $hen youignore !ad !ehavior it $ill !e repeated as $ell.

+ you ind yoursel al$ays !eing treated $rong !y your mate thenyou have deinitely ignored the !ad !ehavior# and haveunconsciously trained your man to do more o the things youactually hate.

Most $omen $ho let their man have his $ay s$allo$ theirrustration day in and day out and never e9press it. At the sametime# they let the same $rong "ind o !ehavior occur all the timesimply !ecause they ear !eing a!andoned.

'omen ear that their man might leave them so much that they %ustignore everything they a!solutely hate and never let their man"no$ a!out it. And then they $onder $hy they are so stressed allthe time.

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3ut $hen you lo$er your standards to ma"e your man comorta!lethis is $hat happens. ,e starts thin"ing# $ell# she didn(t really gettoo annoyed. So + guess she doesn(t really mind me smo"ing insidethe house.

See $hat happened8 3y ignoring his !ad !ehavior# you actuallyencourage him to do more o it. 1ou should rather punish him orthis !ad !ehavior.

Thereore the irst thing you should do is let him "no$ that youaren(t o"ay $ith this and then instead o letting it turn into anargument# %ust pull !ac". Avoid him or a e$ days. Stop ans$eringhis calls right a$ay and act as i you have !een super !usy=havinga great time on your o$n-

This $ill ma"e him thin"# Gee6- +t seems li"e + really made her mad.+ should listen to her more oten. Smo"ing is a !ad ha!it any$ay. +$onder $hat + can do to ma"e it up to her. +(ll surprise her this$ee"end.

So you see8 'hen you point out his !ad !ehavior and punish him#accordingly he $ill do everything in his po$er to ma"e sure such a

thing doesn(t happen again.

And every time he thin"s a!out doing something similar he $ill !ereminded o the time $hen you avoided him or several days=this$ill stop him rom doing it again.

At the same time# you should re$ard good !ehavior !ecause themore you re$ard it=the more it is !ound to !e repeated.

0or e9ample# i your man !rings you special gits and gives yousurprises you truly cherish# you should re$ard him !y saying# :+really admire $hat you do or me. There aren(t many men out there$ho "no$ ho$ to ma"e a $oman eel this special. + am !lessed tohave you in my lie. Than" you.;

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And guess $hat happens ne9t8 This $ill drive him to do more othese things and give you more surprises as time passes !y.

Men love to !e appreciated and respected. These are t$o !asictriggers $hich al$ays $or" $hen used. Thereore# every time youappreciate his good !ehavior# more good things $ill happen in yourrelationship.

At the same time# $hen you punish him or !ad !ehavior you arenot only giving him a signal to stop doing it !ut you are alsoindirectly telling him that you aren(t going to ta"e it at the cost oyour o$n selBrespect.

1ou aren(t $illing to get used or ta"en advantage o %ust !ecauseyou are in a relationship $ith him. 'hen you sho$ no ear and$illingness to $al" a$ay each time one o your principles isviolated# not only $ill he stop doing it# !ut his level o admirationand respect or you $ill dou!le as $ell.

3ecause that(s e9actly $hat all high ?uality $omen do=they neverlet a man have his $ay only or his o$n personal pleasure. They

ma"e it a!solutely clear to him that there is a certain standard o!ehavior they e9pect and they aren(t going to compromise on it.

This is the main reason $hy# i a man threatens to leave you# youshould actually agree $ith him and $al" out.

That(s the last thing a man $ould ever e9pect. ,e(s e9pecting youto !eg# plead or chase him around# !ut $hen you actually agreeand leave him alone# he $ill $ant you more than ever !eore.

This is $hen he starts to thin"# so this is it8 ,o$ could she $al" outon me so easily8 5oes it mean she already $anted to get rid o meand $as $aiting or a chance8 ,o$ come she didn(t argue thistime8 5oes it mean she(s had enough o me8 She didn(t seem too

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agitated a!out it. 5oes it mean she already has someone ne$ inher lie8

These ?uestions $ill s"yroc"et his sense o insecurity and he $ill

desire you more than ever. 5on(t !e surprised i he even chases youhard to get you !ac" in his lie.

Remem!er# your %o! should !e to al$ays punish the man or !ad!ehavior and re$ard him or good !ehavior.

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things=the more it !others you. And you may not "no$ it# !ut it$ill start to sho$ in your conversations and actions around yourman.

This starts to ma"e him notice things a!out you*

B 1ou start to act e9tra $orried and act a !it needy $hen he is

around.

B ,e notices that you t$o aren(t really having un the $ay you usedto and there is this strange# a$"$ard sense o seriousness a!outeverything.

B ,e reali6es that spending time $ith you is more li"e hard $or"> it(snot un anymore.

B ,e notices that you are reacting a lot to very little things and?uestion him a lot on almost everything. ,e can sense that you getirritated more re?uently over very small matters.

And guess $hat happens ne9t8

,e pulls !ac".

,e starts calling you less.

,e stops spending time $ith you.

And you still don(t say anything much to him# rather you gro$ moreinsecure. +n act you even ear that may!e he is cheating on you# orthat he(s already ound someone else=he(s %ust acting very distantall o a sudden.

A e$ $ee"s pass and things don(t get any !etter and this is thepoint $hen your !alloon o all those insecure thoughts and

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eelings !urst=and you lash out.

1ou have had enough and you really $ant him to "no$ ho$rustrated and angry you are. 1ou(ll pro!a!ly*

B Complain a!out his un$illingness to ta"e things to the ne9t level.

B Tell him everything he does that !ugs you.

B And the $orst o all=you may !ring up past issues or

arguments.

And guess $hat8

No$ he is e9tremely scared. +n his $orld he only sees all this asunnecessary drama. +n his $orld you are no$ a $oman $ho is ullo issues and someone $ho is carrying heavy emotional !aggage.

This is the point $here he $ill $ant to leave you> everything yousay no$ $ill actually $or" against you. The irst thing you must

"eep in mind is to ma"e sure this doesn(t happen.

The very irst thing you must understand is that your relationship$on(t get to the ne9t level automatically !ecause such a thingdoesn(t happen !y itsel. 1ou $ill have to ta"e the initiative $henyour man isn(t doing so.

3ut in order to do this you have to have perect timing. Things inmotion tend to remain in motion# thereore you have to catch your

partner in a positive state o mind $hen you actually decide to havethis tal".

'hen he is in a positive state o mind@,e is more li"ely to seethese things in a positive $ay and more li"ely to ta"e it to the ne9t

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level. At the same time i you try to have this tal" $hen he is in the$rong state o mind# he is more li"ely to rea" out simply !ecausehe is already in a negative state o mind.

And you have to !e very direct and honest a!out it.

1up- 1ou have to !e direct. +t can sound a !it scary !ut trust me onthis one=this is one ris" you $ill !e glad you actually too".

3ecause really thin" a!out it# i your relationship isn(t going to goAny$here# $hat(s the purpose o !eing in it8 + you already "no$that the man you are $ith $ill never ta"e it to the ne9t level and

%ust "eep it as a casual thing=$hy $ould you $ant it anymore8

1ou $ould !e doing yoursel a !ig avor !y !eing direct> things $ill!ecome crystal clear ater$ards and you $ill "no$ $hat youactually have to do# instead o shooting in the dar".

Alright# no$ let me share some eective $ays you can use to ma"ehim open up more to$ards you@

. Let him 5no3 ho3 good 1o- eel ;eing aro-nd him.

The irst step should !e to sho$ appreciation to$ards him orsomething you really li"e. + !eing around him ma"es you eel good#you should let him "no$.

'hat you are doing here is setting positive rame$or" $hich $illma"e him li"ely to give positive responses in return.

". Let him 5no3 ho3 lie gets ;etter 3hen there is

commitment.

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This can !e done !y giving him real lie e9amples o couples $hoare leading an e9tremely happy lie ater marriage.

1ou can do this !y telling him ho$ someone you "no$ recently got

Married and ho$ they descri!e it as one o the !est eelings in the$orld.

)r you can ta"e your mate to parties $here you "no$ there $ill !esome happily married couples and sho$ him these real liee9amples o ho$ lie actually gets !etter once you have that specialsomeone.

!. 0oint o-t e8am9les o ho3 some 9eo9le lead lonel1 lives

3hen the1 don2t o9en -9 emotionall1.

3ut you have to ma"e sure you do this is a very nonBnegative $ay.+n other $ords# it shouldn(t seem li"e you are pointing outsomething $rong in him or trying to critici6e him.

A good $ay to do this is to tell your partner a story o a man $honever opened himsel up emotionally and ended up prettydepressed and al$ays $ished he could have had it the other $ayaround.

0or e9ample# $hen tal"ing to him# drop in the ollo$ing line*

,oney- The other day + $as $atching this sho$ on T# $hicheatured a lot o single people rom all over. There $as this HQ yearold man $ho spo"e a!out his lie e9periences.

They as"ed him# i he could turn !ac" time# $hat $as the one thinghe $ould li"e to change8 And he right a$ay said# :+ there $as onething + could change it $ould !e that + $ould have married. + $ouldlove to go !ac" in time and marry that $onderul lady + spent ?uitea e$ years o my lie $ith# !ut + never thought a!out ta"ing thingsto the ne9t level. That(s one thing + regret to this very day.;

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)nce you can get him thin"ing a!out all this a lot o ne$ thoughts$ill gro$ in his mind. No$ he $ill actually start thin"ing a!outcommitments# relationships etc.

. Then 9o9 the -estion.

)nce you see that he is really thin"ing deeply a!out all this stuand is in the right rame o mind say the ollo$ing# :1ou "no$ +have !een $ondering $hat things $ould !e li"e# i $e $ere anactual couple.;

Then study his response. + there is a sense o nervousness in hisResponse# then the time isn(t right to ta"e this conversation urther.3ut i he responds positively and ans$ers in a positive manner thenyou should ta"e this urther and tal" more on the su!%ect.

The reason $hy + said you should stop i he sho$s signs ouneasiness is simply !ecause you may have caught him in the$rong state o mind# or may!e he isn(t ready or this discussion yet.

1ou should give things a !it o time and then try this $hole processagain.

+n case you still $itness him getting uneasy and not having a clearAns$er# then it is very li"ely that he might not commit to you at all.+ "no$ it sounds sad# !ut + have already mentioned that you $ould!e doing yoursel a !ig avor !y "no$ing early on# $here things areheaded.

+ it(s not going to materiali6e into anything deeper then it(s morethan o!vious that it $ill actually end at some point> you can either

end it ater you have endured enough pain and torture or you canend it at the right time $ithout e9periencing all the unnecessaryemotional torture. The choice is al$ays yours.

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/ven the prettiest o $omen oten !ring up their insecurities andnegative thoughts in conversation $ith men. This only creates anegative aura $here there is no $ay a man $ill eel good.

? , 1o- scre3 -96 learn to la-gh a;o-t it.

Most $omen $ant everything to !e perect rom the $ord Igo(. Thevery thought o doing something $rong scares them to death.

3ut $hen you learn to accept that act that things are never perectand scre$Bups do happen# something interesting ta"es place. 1oustop $orrying a!out getting it all right and start en%oying theprocess.

0or e9ample* + you end up spilling your drin" in ront o a guy#instead o getting all selBconscious and rushing to the $ashroom#pause or a e$ seconds and $ith a smile on your ace say# :There

+ go again@;

And then e9cuse yoursel to the $ashroom.

A guy eels $hat you eel and $hen you don(t get too tense a!outsuch a thing and actually laugh a!out it# he $ill laugh right along$ith you and eel very comorta!le in your company.

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So the "ey to success here is to "eep the option in ront o him andlet him ma"e up his o$n mind.

0or e9ample# i you $ant him to come to a certain party or anevent# it(s al$ays recommended to mention it casually and i hereuses# don(t get agitated. Rather say something li"e# :+t $ouldhave !een un# !ut i you have other plans# it(s o".;

Change the su!%ect right a$ay and don(t !ring the topic up again.3y doing this you are letting him "no$ indirectly that he is still incontrol $hich $ill ma"e him eel good in your company.

? Be com9letel1 honest a;o-t the 3a1 1o- thin5.

+n other $ords# don(t alter your ideas %ust to ma"e the mancomorta!le. Men al$ays get a positive vi!e around $omen $ho arevery straight or$ard and honest a!out $hat they are loo"ing or.

+ he as"s you a e$ personal ?uestions it(s completely o" to say#:+(m sorry !ut + don(t "no$ you $ell enough to share such things

$ith you.;

No$ you may thin" it might sound rude !ut this $ill ma"e the manrespect you even more.

And at the same time# !y saying you don(t "no$ him $ell enough#you have created this strange need in his mind $here he $ill ma"eevery possi!le eort to "no$ you more. ,e $ill see" youracceptance and approval.

? Tell him stories a;o-t 1o-rsel 3hich demonstrate that1o- are a high -alit1 3oman.

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0or e9ample# $hen in conversation $ith a guy drop in the ollo$ing

line*

:1ou "no$ + really treat pro!lems as challenges. +n act- + lovesolving them@+ am addicted to the concept o selBimprovement.;

And this $ill instantly ma"e him thin"# ')'- This one seemsdierent than other $omen + "no$. + haven(t really come across a$oman !eore $ho tal"s li"e this. This one is un. + should "no$more a!out her.

Men really en%oy !eing around $omen $ho have a purpose in lie

and $ant to !etter themselves.

? Don2t as5 him an1 9ersonal -estions.

The moment you as" a man $hether he has a girlriend=he "no$sthat you(re interested in him and he might ta"e that as needy!ehavior. +t(s a sign o a lo$ ?uality $oman.

1ou should not tal" a!out that su!%ect at all and act as i you can(t!e really !othered i he is single or not. Never try to get all theinormation in %ust one conversation. Smart $omen "no$ that thereis al$ays another day.

No$ let me give you a list o things you should never do# unless you$ant to ma"e the man avoid you@

? Sto9 as5ing him ho3 he eels a;o-t 1o-.

Some $omen %ust love the idea o "no$ing ho$ a man truly eelsa!out them !ut the moment you pop this ?uestion# the $all odeense in the man(s head goes up.

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,e starts thin"ing# $hy is she as"ing me this8 +s she e9pecting acommitment8

And !am- ,is sense o independence is at sta"e here and he $ill tryto avoid you rom this point on. 7nless a man tells you $hat heeels a!out you $ithout !eing as"ed# there is a!solutely no point inraising this ?uestion.

? Never disc-ss 1o-r iss-es or 9ro;lems and e89ect him to

Listen.

This is another thing $hich $ill push him a$ay and ma"e him avoid

you. Tal"ing a!out your pro!lems and issues only means spreadingnegativity and the more negative he eels around you# the more he$ill avoid you.

? Never tell him a;o-t 1o-r ;ad relationshi9s in the 9ast-nless 1o- are at a 9oint 3here it2s im9ortant to ;etrans9arent.

+t(s !etter to let the relationship get to a point $here you have to

!e completely honest# other$ise telling him negative things a!outyour past relationships too early $ill only ma"e him avoid you.

These are %ust a e$ o the things you should not do around a manand + hope that no$ you have a good understanding o $hy menpursue certain "inds o $omen and avoid the rest.

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+t(s e9tremely important that you do not push him into anything>most $omen eel that the reason the man is acting $ithdra$n is!ecause he is done $ith the relationship and is trying to re%ect her.

And in most cases $omen tend to attac" the man $ith arguments#anger and !lame.

,e can(t really igure out $hat e9actly he did to ma"e you eel this$ay and in the process $ithdra$s even more !ecause he can(treally thin" o any other $ay out o it.

Men never share their eelings !ecause they aren(t too open a!outit. 3ut you might !e $ondering ho$ to deal $ith a man $ho actsthis $ay.

+ a man does this almost daily then let me assure you that there isnot much you can do to change him. The !est thing you canactually do is to give him as much space as he needs. The morespace you give him the more room he $ill have to untangle hismind and resolve his o$n inner eelings.

The ne9t step should !e to determine $hat(s causing him to act this'ay. ,ere are a couple o ?uestions $hich $ill help*

J . ,s he stressed over 3or5 or an1 other se9arate iss-e

+ the reason !ehind his irritation is $or" then it has nothing to do$ith you at all. ,e is %ust having a hard time at his %o! and it(s notyour ault. Some $omen don(t catch this early and oten $orsen hispain !y trying to tal" things over.

3ut the more they try to tal" to him the more irritated he $ill get.Thereore it(s important to let him do $hatever helps him rela9. +nsuch cases# men reduce their stress !y $atching sports or doingother activities $hich "eep them occupied.

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J ". Does he oten angril1 tell 1o- that 1o- over?react tosmall iss-es

+ your ans$er is yes# then you are causing him some stress !yeither acting too clingy or needy. 1ou immediately need to ta"e astep !ac" and give him some space. + you don(t he $ill !e orced topull !ac" urther and urther to the point $here he $ill $ant toavoid you completely.

'omen $ho don(t give the man the space he needs oten irritatehim to a level $here the relationship can never go !ac" to $hat itused to !e. At this point you might still say# :'hy do + al$ays needto do everything8 'hy can(t he understand ho$ + eel8;

As $e have already mentioned in previous sections and + am sureyou already get this !y no$=this is %ust the $ay men are. Judgingand critici6ing them on this $ill only ma"e matters $orse or you.The only $ay to deal $ith this is to understand the $ay men reallyare and %ust do the right thing.

*h1 some 3omen str-ggle to give a man his s9ace.

'omen $ho are stuc" in the past oten ind it diicult to give theman some important space he needs. So $hat e9actly do + mean$hen + say !eing stuc" in the past8

'omen $ho have had a history o relationship ailures in the pastoten struggle to give the ne$ man his space !ecause they ear thathistory might repeat itsel and they might go through the samepainul e9periences they have !een through !eore.

0or e9ample# i a $oman $as dumped !y her e9 and the irst thingher e9 did !eore dumping her $as $ithdra$# her mind $ill !e onhigh alert every time a man $ithdra$s. 3ecause it triggers the samenegative eelings# she $ill !e reminded o all the painul e9periencesshe $ent through in the past.

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This is $hen a $oman $ill e9pect the $orst to happen yet againand $ill do almost anything to stop it. And this is $hy she pushesharder to tal" things out $ith her partner=only ma"ing things

$orse.

Really hear me out there- There is %ust no other $ay to do this. Atthe same time you have to understand that it(s not really ho$ youthin" it is. Stop assuming that i he momentarily $ithdra$s he isgoing to dump you.

+t(s surprising to "no$ ho$ many $omen e9pected the $orst tohappen only to reali6e later that $hat actually happened $asn(t

even close to $hat they e9pected. Stop !eing stuc" in your past andlearn to e9pect positive things in lie.

+ a man is acting distant then he is indirectly communicating thathe needs some distance or the time !eing and that(s e9actly $hatyou should provide him $ith.

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Section# $E8tremel1 ,m9ortant J-alities /en

Des9eratel1 See5 ,n A *oman

5on(t you %ust hate it $hen it seems as i everything is goingperectly and all o a sudden he drops the !om! and lets you "no$that he%ust isn(t ready or anything serious8 3ut $ait-

'e have already discussed this and you very $ell "no$ that it(s an

e9cuse men use !ecause they do not eel the $oman is relationshipmaterial. 'hat i you could do something $hich $ould ma"e youcome across as the right $oman rom the very !eginning8

+n this section + $ill sho$ you ho$ to easily ma"e him see you as:relationship material; i you are in the initial phase o therelationship.

+ am going to sho$ you ho$ not to !e the "ind o a $oman $ho

men %ust $ant to date and have a casual thing $ith# !ut to rather!ecome that high ?uality emale he $ould $ant to spend the rest ohis lie $ith.

5o you "no$ that not all men date $ith the intention o getting intoa long term relationship8 +n act# a lot o men date %ust or thesheer pleasure o dating and meeting ne$ $omen. They en%oy!eing around $omen and they are never $orried a!out $here it(sactually going to go.

A man doesn(t sit and thin" deeply !eore he steps into the dating$orld. ,is goal isn(t to get into a relationship as ast as possi!le. )nthe other hand# $omen are dierent. And since you are a $oman=+am sure you already "no$ that $omen don(t date %ust or thepleasure o dating.

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Most o them actually date $ith a goal in mind=to ind a potentialmate to spend the rest o their lie $ith.

Thereore $omen are loo"ing to settle do$n $hile men are %ustloo"ing around $ithout a purpose in mind. And since they havedierent goals in mind they oten ind it hard to understand eachother.

This is the main reason $hy so many single $omen struggle to indthe right man and even $hen they do ind one# they are conused!y the act that he isn(t loo"ing or anything serious.

And men ind themselves struggling to understand $hy $omen$ant to get into relationships so ast. There is massivemisunderstanding on !oth ronts.

A $oman $ants commitment as ast as possi!le@3ut a man $antsto stay ree and independent or as long as possi!le. So it(s nosurprise $hy so many men and $omen ail to understand eachother(s needs.

+n order or a $oman to present her !est sel# the one that $illattract an availa!le man and a potential mate# it(s important to"no$ the ?ualities men crave.

J-alit1 #. /en 3ant to ;e 3ith a 3oman 3ho has herselin 9ro9er ;alance 7 order.

'e have discussed !eore that men ear !eing stuc" $ith the $rong

"ind o a $oman and + have given you some deinitions o $hatmen consider to !e the $rong "ind in previous sections.

'hat they actually $ant is a $oman $ho has her lie and hersel inproper order. +n order to urther e9plain this let me tell you ho$

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men actually vie$ $omen and their emotions. 5o you "no$ thatmen really don(t understand $hat type o emotional processes$omen go through8

They don(t understand ho$ these processes ta"e place and $hythey ta"e place. +n their $orld# $hen $omen display all theseemotions it conuses them and actually conuses them to the point$here they la!el such $omen as Iemotional $rec"s(.

'ell + am sure you have heard this !eore and it(s completely$rong# !ut this is ho$ some men actually thin". And in the $oman(s$orld $hen a man acts li"e this and puts such la!els on $omenthey can(t help !ut la!el them !ac" !y calling them insensitive

%er"s.

At the end o the day !oth se9es have the $rong idea a!out theother.

So $hat e9actly is the deinition o a $oman $ho has hersel inproper !alance8 'ell that(s a $oman $ho is emotionally secure andisn(t see"ing anything rom the man. 1up- Nothing at all. 3ut at thesame time she isn(t araid to sho$ interest and still e9pect nothing.

Conused8 'ell don(t !e.

All this means is that you may sho$ interest in the man !ut it doesnot mean you are going to chase him to see" his attention orinterest. 1ou $ill stand irm and let him come to you.

These are the "ind o $omen $ho can trigger massive amounts o

attraction rom any man $ithin minutes !ased on ho$ they actuallymanage themselves around him. These are the "ind o $omen $hocan actually t$ist a guy(s mind and tease him to the e9tent $herehe can(t help !ut all or them.

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4et me give you an e9ample here=ne9t time you are inconversation $ith a guy=drop in the ollo$ing line and ma"e sureyou say it in a teasing $ay# :1ou seem li"e a pretty nice guy@!ut orsome reason + don(t thin" $e $ould get along too $ell.;

And $hat happens8

,e instantly thin"s# this girl isn(t an easy one to handle. 'hat doesshe mean + $on(t get along $ith her8 So she thin"s + am not goodenough8 + must do something to prove mysel to her.

And that(s $hen he starts actively pursuing you. 3ut you shouldn(tact completely interested in him yet=it(s important to play a !it ohardBtoBget or the irst e$ $ee"s# !eore you settle do$n a !it$ith him.

5on(t let him igure you out too easily=!e a pu66le and let him dothe hard $or" o solving it# $hich also means that*

Sometimes you sho$ loads o attention. )ther times you act as iyou don(t even "no$ him.

Sometimes you are straightor$ard. )ther times you are highlyconusing.

Sometimes you are easy. )ther times you are %ust too hard tohandle.

Sometimes you care a lot. )ther times you act indierent.

Sometimes you ans$er his phone calls right a$ay. )ther times youdon(t ans$er it or days.

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So you see8 Never give him enough eed!ac" to igure you out. Aslong as he can(t igure you out# you $ill remain on top o his prioritylist.

And no$ let me share the most important part=this one secretalone can ampliy his attraction or you D times more and he $ill!e t$ice as li"ely to $ant a long term relationship $ith you.

The secret is to ma"e him $ait or se9. 5o not and + repeat do notlet him come close to you or the irst e$ months. Men tend tohave this notion a!out ?uality $omen. They !elieve that all high?uality $omen never give easy se9 and al$ays ma"e the man $ait!eore they inally get physical.

This is an a!solute must# $ithout ?uestion# i you $ant a man tostay devoted to you or the long term.

Another very interesting thing happens $hen you ma"e him $ait orse9. +nstead o !eing overly ocused on the physical aspect# andmost men are i they get easy se9# he $ill !e orced to evaluateyour other ?ualities and that(s the !asis on $hich every man decidesto orm a long term relationship.

'e have already determined that men can have se9 $ithout anyemotional attachments=letting him sleep $ith you early on in arelationship can !e the perect recipe or disaster and he might seeyou as nothing else !ut %ust another girl he li"es having se9 $ith.

4et(s also point out a vital thing here=you might do everythingperectly to !egin $ith# and ater %ust a e$ days you might startgetting all the right signs. +t might eel as i he is already into you

and is ready or a committed relationship. 3ut this is $here a lot o$omen end up shooting themselves in the oot.

They let him get physical at this point# and guess $hat happensne9t8 ,is level o attraction or you $hich $as D out o D has no$

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allen to D.

. This is $here it $ill all all do$n or you.

+ $ould say it(s important not to get physical $ith the man or theirst e$ months. + didn(t say days or $ee"s. + said months. Ma"esure you strictly ollo$ this rule.

Men see $omen $ho are easy to get into !ed as $ea" and too easyto catch. They $ill al$ays see such a $oman as less desira!le or arelationship. Thereore the longer a man has to $ait to get physical$ith you# the more li"ely he is to $ant a long term relationship $ithyou.

No$ let(s get to the other important ?uality men desperately see" ina $oman@

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'hen + $as single + could do everything + elt li"e@!ut no$# itseems li"e + can(t even $atch oot!all reely. This is such a !ig!urden.

0or the irst e$ days or $ee"s he might even listen to you andcomply $ith your re?uests# !ut as time passes he $ill miss more othe things he used to do !eore the relationship and $ill eventually$ithdra$.

So in order to ma"e sure a guy remains committed to you*

The relationship should not ma"e him eel as i something he li"es is!eing ta"en a$ay. Rather it should give him the eeling thatsomething more un is actually !eing added to his lie.

The irst step should !e not to stop him rom doing the things heen%oys the most. + he li"es to spend time $ith some o his riendson the $ee"end then it(s important you let him do it.

1ou should al$ays as" yoursel $hether you are adding to hisreedom or ta"ing something a$ay rom him $hich he cherishes the

most.

+ you discover that all you are doing is actually ta"ing a$ay all theun rom his lie then sooner or later he $ill !e compelled to endthings $ith you. Al$ays remem!er that $hen he has to ma"e achoice !et$een the relationship and his reedom=he $ill choosereedom P times out o D. So + hope you get my point here.

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Section# (*h1 /en Don2t Call Ater The First

Fe3 Dates 7 4o3 To /a5e S-re 4e Calls =o-Bac5

)ne o the most common ?uestions re?uently as"ed !y $omen is#:'hy the hell didn(t he call me $hen he said he $ould8;

This is a very common e9perience almost every $oman out therehas gone through at some point.

+t al$ays starts $ith a great conversation@

Things ta"e o $ell# !oth the $oman and the man are having agreat time in each other(s company. They e9change num!ers $ith apromise to go out again sometime. 3ut days pass !y# and nothing.,e doesn(t call.

3eore you $orry too much a!out ho$ to ma"e sure a man calls

you every single time# the irst thing you need to igure out is* 'hymen don(t call in the irst place.

4et(s consider some scenarios here@

Reason #. Some men -st do it or an ego ;oost.

+ have already mentioned the concept o casual players and pic" upartists in this !oo". There are men out there $ho $ill spend time$ith a $oman and get her num!er %ust or an ego !oost.

They tend to have a collection o num!ers in their phone contact listand the !igger the list=the more proud they eel $hen sho$ing ito to their riends.

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+ he seemed li"e a guy $ho "ne$ $hat he $as doing and $aspressing all the right !uttons and really s$ept you o your eet onthe very irst occasion# then it(s very possi!le that you $ere dealing

$ith a proessional player.

There men are e9tremely social and tend to go out O to H times a$ee". Sometimes they %ust interact $ith random $omen to !rushup their pic" up s"ills and ending up $ith a $oman(s num!er is their$ay o "no$ing $hether they succeeded or not.

Reason #". 4e 3as -st loo5ing or something cas-al and1o- sho3ed no interest.

Men are very ?uic" to pic" out $hich $oman $ill let them getphysical and $hich one $on(t. As he spent some time $ith you hemust have scanned you in his head and come to the conclusion thatyou may not let him get physical.

Reason #!. 4e didn2t reall1 see 1o- as someone he 3o-ld;e interested in.

And this is something a lot o $omen out there tend to ear. Thelast thing they $ant rom a man is re%ection in this ashion. 3ut thismight have happened !ecause you sho$ed a !it too much interestin him early on and didn(t really play hard to get.

4et me give you a small hint here=men al$ays call $omen $hothey consider to !e a challenge> i you $ere too easy and sho$ed a!it o nervousness or discomort in his company# he sensed thatsomething $as a !it o and didn(t really eel that inner attraction

or you.

Reason #. 4e lost 1o-r n-m;er.

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This is one reason most $omen don(t even thin" a!out !ut isactually one o the most common reasons $hy men don(t call.

No$ !ecause you understand some o the main reasons $hy men

don(t call !ac"=let me sho$ you ho$ to seal the deal in a ashion$hich $ill ma"e them call you !ac" almost every single time.

5o you "no$ that in order to ma"e a man call you !ac" you have tocreate reasons or him to call you !ac"8 'hat most $omen actuallydo is create reasons or the man not to call !ac".

4et me give you an e9ample here* A man approaches a $oman at apar" and they start the conversation on a very positive note.

At irst the $oman doesn(t open up too much and lets the man domost o the tal"ing. This is $here the man is ma"ing all possi!leeorts to please her. Slo$ly as conversation progresses# the $omanreali6es that this man is pretty smart and seems li"e a greatperson.

She starts to open up a !it and tells him a !it a!out her o$n lie. Anhour passes !y and it seems li"e !oth o them are connecting really$ell $ith each other. And then the man as"s or her num!er andshe readily gives it to him.

3ut it doesn(t stop here. Since she "no$s that this guy is dierentshe $ants to ma"e sure she doesn(t scre$ it up# so she acts overlyinterested and starts ma"ing plans in advance a!out $hat they $illdo $hen they meet again.

This is $hen the man thin"s# $ait a minute. 'hy is she sho$ing somuch interest in me so ast8 'e have %ust spo"en or an hour andshe is already into me8 'hat(s going on here8

And !eore you "no$ it his interest drops. ,e does ta"e hernum!er !ecause he is no$ o!ligated to do so# !ut never calls her.

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The $oman spends days an9iously $aiting or his call !ut he neverdoes. Then she struggles to igure out $hat she did $rong.

The moment she acted overly interested the man sensed that

may!e this $oman $as needy or desperate. And those are t$othings $hich are direct attraction "illers. And as you already "no$$hen there is no attraction a man $ill never ma"e an attempt to"no$ you more. And that(s e9actly $hat happened in this case.

)"# so no$ let(s discuss ho$ to create reasons or him to call you

!ac"*

1ou have to appeal to his senses in a $ay that $ill drive him to$ant to "no$ more a!out you and the !est $ay to do this is to saysomething and then leave him $anting more.

1ou have to start !y ma"ing him $or" a !it hard to get yournum!er.

+n other $ords# do not %ust give it to him=let him earn it. 'eal$ays value the things $e have to $or" or. And i he has to $or"

to get your num!er he $ill deinitely call you !ecause he $or"edhard or it.

The moment he as"s or your num!er say the ollo$ing*

1ou 'hat(s the guarantee that you $on(t call me DD times aday8

,im + promise + $on(t.

1ou )h so you don(t $ant to call me8 'hy do you need mynum!er then8

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,im + do-

1ou 4oo" you seem conused- + am very pic"y a!out sharing mynum!er. 1ou can(t seem to ma"e your mind up $ith $hat you $ant

to do. KSay this $ith a smir" on your ace.L

At this he $ill either laugh or hesitate. Then $rite your num!erdo$n on a piece o paper# hold it in ront o him !ut don(t give it tohim yet.

No$ start to act a !it conused and then start to hand it to him.'hen he tries to gra! it pull it !ac" and say# :,mm- 1ou have to tryharder than that. +(m not that easy you "no$.; And then hand it to

him.

This $ill literally trigger massive amounts o attraction right a$ayand !y teasing him in this ashion you have challenged somethinginside him $hich $ill drive him to call you over and over again.

So you see ho$ easy this actually is8 'hen you understand ho$ topress all the right !uttons and create attraction men $on(t !e a!leto help !ut all or you. No$ since you "no$ ho$ to ma"e him call#let me share a rule you should strictly ollo$ $hen he calls.

*hat to do 3hen he calls 1o-...

)ne rule + suggest that you must ollo$ is that you ma"e sure youare the one $ho is in charge !y not staying on the phone too long.The !ig pro!lem is that $omen love to tal" and once they getgoing they ind it hard to stop. 'hen you tal" to him or hours andtell him every little thing $hich happened throughout the day youare !eing a !it too easy. At this point there is a very good chancethat he might gro$ tired or !ored o you pretty easily.

3eing the irst one to get o the phone actually ma"es him $ant total" even more simply !ecause he $onders $hat you are really up

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to that is "eeping you so !usy. ,e $ill start $ondering $hy youhave to go so soon. +s something else "eeping you occupied8 'hatcould it !e8 +s it another man8

,e $ill $onder a lot a!out you and this $ill create a lot o mystery$hich $ill raise his interest level in you.

The "ey is to seem as i you have a million other important things todo in your lie and you are not easily availa!le. This $ay he $illvalue you more and $ill !e let $anting more# ensuring he calls youover and over again.

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Section# 'A /an ,sn2t The Ans3er To All =o-r0ro;lems And *on2t /a5e =o- 4a991

5o you "no$ that the !iggest mista"e any $oman can ma"e $henthings aren(t $or"ing out in the relationship is to try to get into thedriver(s seat and i9 the man8 Trying to i9 your man can !e aspainul as trying to run a marathon $ith DD pounds o e9tra $eighton your shoulders.

1ou $on(t %ust !e carrying your o$n $eight !ut your partner(s$eight too. And guess $hat8 1ou $on(t succeed. 1ou simply can(tma"e your partner do something !y trying to i9 him.

'hen you ma"e an attempt to ma"e him do certain things he $illdo more o the things $hich annoy you# %ust to sho$ you that youdon(t control him. And you $ill get nothing !ut e9tra emotional!aggage# pain and more rustration as days pass !y.

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3ut to ans$er all these ?uestions in a simple sentence + can onlysay* +t(s time to move on.

1up- No amount o persuasion or eort $ill change the $ay your

man acts. +t(s a ha!it he has and no one can change him unless hedecides to change himsel.

No$ you might say# :'ell +(ve tried moving on !ut it(s too painul. +tried to !rea" up $ith him !eore !ut + ended up getting !ac" $ithhim.;

So are you telling me that you made eorts to get out o amisera!le lie and into a more peaceul one# and then decided to

choose the misera!le lie again8 + this is you then there are somevery vital things you need to ta"e care o as ast as possi!le.

+ you "eep on coming !ac" to the same a!usive %er" $ho cheats onyou and treats you li"e crap# there is a !igger issue you have thatneeds to !e ta"en care o. And it(s got nothing to do $ith your man.+t(s actually got everything to do $ith you.

The only reason $hy $omen stay in a relationship $hich they "no$is never going to go any$here is the ear o !eing let alone. Theyear !eing let alone so much that they settle or $hatever theyhave.

+t(s the same old Isomething is !etter than nothing( theory. 3ut letme assure you that staying $ith a man $ho isn(t going to changehis $ays is the astest $ay to push yoursel into depression.

+t(s li"e an emotionally $ea" person trying to lose $eight. They do alot o e9ercise and diet li"e cra6y or the irst e$ days then theyloo" at themselves in the mirror and see no visi!le results.Conse?uently they eel more emotionally insecure and end up in thesame old pattern o overeating.

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And ater a e$ months# they decide this time they $ill change@

They again e9ercise li"e cra6y or a e$ days# see themselves in theMirror# and %ust as !eore see no change. They eel depressed and

go !ac" to the same old routine# yet again.

+t(s li"e !eing stuc" in a certain pattern and struggling to ind $aysto get out o it. + you ind yoursel going !ac" to the same olda!usive man even $hen you made up your mind to move on severaltimes then you are stuc" in this pattern.

+ you ind yoursel giving the things you don(t $ant to give# doingthe things you don(t $ant to do and agreeing $ith things that you

actually disagree $ith# then you have ta"en a su!missive role in therelationship and you depend a lot on your partner to ulill youremotional needs.

,ere is the truth* A man cannot ma"e you happy.

And i possi!le put this sentence in a place $here you can see itand !e reminded o this act as re?uently as possi!le. Most $omenthin" that $hen they ind the right one=they $ill eel ulilled and!e happy.

And they do at the !eginning o the relationship# !ut as timepasses !y and the man stops doing all the special things he used todo at the !eginning o the relationship# things start to change andthe $oman starts to eel a !it less ulilled.

A relationship or a man can never provide you $ith long termulillment or happiness. 1ou are the only person $ho can ma"eyoursel happy. Men aren(t perect and they are !ound to disappointyou once in a $hile.

The "ey is to stop e9pecting them to do everything you actuallye9pected them to do. Stop trying to ma"e things perect $hen they

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Section# ")The /ost Dangero-s /ista5es =o-Never *ant To /a5e Aro-nd /en

/ista5e#. -dging and criticiGing men instead o-nderstanding them.

This is one o the !iggest hurdles $hich $ill al$ays come in the $ayo you and inding the man o your dreams. )ur !elies drive our lie

=i your !elie is that all men are %er"s and that(s %ust the $ay it isthen you are loo"ing at it rom the $rong perspective.

Critici6ing and pointing out their la$s $on(t help you at all. +t(s notgoing to change the $ay men have !een !iologically designed. + geta lot o emails rom angry $omen# complaining a!out this act allthe time.

And + al$ays get !ac" to them !y saying that there is %ust no other

$ay to do this. Men are designed to !e a certain $ay !y !irth# andtheir !asic 5NA isn(t going to change only !ecause you $ant it to.

They aren(t going to !ecome mindBreaders overnight and !e a!le to%ust "no$ $hat you truly eel a!out them. +t doesn(t $or" that $ay.

The pro!lem $ith most $omen is that they e9pect everything to !eeasy !ut $hen they actually get into a relationship they reali6e it(sno$here close to $hat they imagined it to !e. They reali6e it(s much

more $or" than they ever e9pected.

No$ let me give you some acts here* Relationships aren(t easy. Andthey are deinitely not easy $hen you go a!out inding Mr. Right$ithout $or"ing on understanding male psychology irst. 1ou $ill

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al$ays ind yoursel stumped and surprised at some o the thingsyou actually discover.

+magine $riting an e9am you $eren(t prepared or at all and had no

idea ho$ to ans$er the ?uestions. Some $omen go a!out dating inthe same $ay. They never prepare themselves properly and that(s$hy they oten ail.

Thereore it(s e9tremely important to prepare yoursel !eorehand.'hen you "no$ ho$ men $or" it gives you a !etter understandingo $hat you should !e doing. 1ou $ill "no$ ho$ to ilter the !adone(s rom the good ones. 1ou $ill "no$ ho$ to act in dierentsituations around men. And the process !ecomes a $hole loteasier.

This is the reason $hy it(s really important or you to actually $or"on understanding men instead o %udging or critici6ing them.

/ista5e #". Telling him ho3 m-ch 1o- li5e him too earl1.

5o you "no$ that %ust li"e $omen# single and successul menareapproached a lot !y $oman8

This is the reason $hy some men %ust get too pic"y a!out $homthey date and $ho they $ill avoid. Men can smell a needy $omanrom miles a$ay. They "no$ $hether you are a strong high ?uality$oman $ho has her lie in !alance or i you are a $ea"# needy$oman $ho $ill only do more harm than good in his lie.

Telling him that you li"e him or have eelings or him too early canlead to a!solute disaster. Men $ant to !e $ith a $oman $ho seemsli"e a challenge and isn(t too easy to get.

The moment you say you li"e him you have surrendered your po$erand he is in a position o control no$.

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At this you might as"# :So ho$ do + even let him "no$ that + aminterested8 'hat i he never ma"es the irst move and $e neverend up dating8;

0irst# most $omen compliment the man in the $rong $ay. 4et mesho$ you ho$ to let him "no$ that you may !e interested !ut at

the same time=not sound needy in any $ay.

'hen tal"ing to him drop in the ollo$ing line*

1ou sound li"e a nice guy@+ li"e you@3ut + don(t thin" you(d !e

a!le to handle me.;

And as usual# say it in a teasing sort o a $ay so that it doesn(tcome across as !eing rude. 1ou told him that you li"e him !ut atthe same time you sho$ed a !it o a dou!t.

And this is $hen he starts thin"ing# )" so she li"es me. 3ut $ait-'hy did she say + can(t handle her8 +s she saying + am not goodenough8 + must do something $hich $ill change her mind.

And this is $here he $ill start to push a !it harder to impress you.This is ho$ the $hole process should actually unold.

/ista5e #!. Tr1ing e8tra hard to ma5e him li5e 1o- 3henhe sho3ed no real interest.

This normally happens $hen a $oman comes across a high ?uality

male $ho seems li"e perect relationship material. 'ithin a e$minutes o conversation she is already thin"ing a!out $ays toimpress him and this is $hen the disaster stri"es.

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1ou should never !e the irst one to ma"e an attempt to impressthe man. 'hen you do# he loses all interest in you instantly. 3ut itdoesn(t stop here or most $omen.

'hen they see a man losing interest they get more insecure andstart trying harder and do things they $ouldn(t normally do in orderto impress him.

Common e9amples o this are*

BGetting too physically close to him in pu!lic.

BSaying things a!out yoursel $hich aren(t true %ust to impress

him.

BTelling him you $ould li"e to go out sometime and almost

orcing him to ta"e you out.

'hen a man hasn(t sho$n any interest in you your irst %o! should!e to pull !ac". Trying harder only ma"es the situation $orse as $e

have already discussed in this !oo". Attraction does not happen ora man only !ecause you $ant it to happen. Al$ays ocus on your!ehavior and never try hard.

/ista5e #. Dating the 5ind 1o- 9romised 1o-rsel 1o-3o-ld never date.

,ave you ever !een in a situation $here you sa$ yoursel slipping!ac" into your old ha!its# letting yoursel date men you promised

you $ould never date again# letting players ta"e advantage o youeven $hen you "no$ $hat they(re doing8

This normally happens $hen the attraction is %ust too strong tohandle. And as $e have already discussed# attraction ma"es you

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!lind to the truth. The rush o eelings can really drive you cra6yand ma"e you do everything you promised you $ould never do.

3ut do you "no$ that i you let yoursel slip once you are very li"ely

to slip again several times in a ro$8

'hy is this8

'ell# simply !ecause every time you let yoursel slip# you areprogramming your mind and i you do it once# you are very li"ely todo it t$ice. This turns into a third time and !eore you "no$ it# youare !ac" in the same old ha!it again.

The only $ay to get out o this is to stic" to your standards andnever allo$ yoursel to compromise on them. + you "no$ that theguy is a player do everything in your po$er to avoid him.

4etting yoursel get carried a$ay $ill only mean much more pain todeal $ith in the uture.

/ista5e #%. Falling into a relationshi9 too earl1 ;eca-se it

all eels so good.

Some $omen see getting into a relationship as some sort o a race.They !elieve that the aster they can ind the right guy the !ettertheir lie is going to !e.

3ut do you "no$ that the aster you all into a relationship theaster you $ill all out o it. 'e all "no$ ho$ it happens don(t $e8

A man approaches a $oman. They tal" or a $hile# e9changenum!ers and go out on regular dates. A e$ days pass !y and the$oman starts getting all those lovely# $arm and u66y eelings insideher.

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And !eore you "no$ it she shouts# :+(m in love=+ ound him.;

She is so e9cited that she decides to move in $ith this guy. Theystay together or a e$ days and everything seems o". A e$ $ee"s

pass and no$ something doesn(t seem right.

No$ the $oman starts thin"ing# he seems more dierent no$. ,eisn(t the same guy he pretended to !e at irst. And !eore you "no$it you discover that he is still out meeting ne$ $omen# and mostli"ely cheating on you.

No$ all the attraction $ears o and you thin" to yoursel# ho$could + have allen or this %er"8 'hat the hec" $as + thin"ing8

/nd o story.

'ell this is e9actly $hat happens $hen you get into a relationship!ased on attraction alone. The relationship $ill end the momentattraction ends and that(s $hat happens a lot $ith relationships thathappen ater only a e$ dated.

So the "ey is to give it some time !eore you actually decide tocommit. Get to "no$ the man !eyond your attraction. That(s $henyou $ill !e in a !etter position to see i he(s the right guy or you ornot.

/ista5e #&. Calling him a lot 3hen he doesn2t call 1o- at all

'hen he isn(t calling you then it(s very o!vious that you have donesomething $rong and you didn(t trigger much attraction $hen you

$ere around him.

+t can eel very rustrating e9pecting him to call $hen he neverdoes.

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3ut there is even a !igger mista"e some $omen ma"e here. Theyactually end up calling the man. And this is $hen you conirm his!elie that you are needy.

And as $e have already discussed# $hen he "no$s you are needyhe $ill al$ays run a$ay. Thereore# i he doesn(t call you irst youshould not call him at all.

3ut $ait@There is still a tric" you can use to actually ma"e him callyou !ac". This might !e a !it snea"y !ut it $or"s real $ell.

So this is $hat you should do. Send the ollo$ing SMS to him*

1eh- +t $as so much un...So are $e going again tonight8

Ater reading this# the guy $ill pro!a!ly send you a te9t !ac" as"ing$hat you are tal"ing a!out.

This is $here you should te9t him !ac" saying*

)h- Sorry...That $as meant or someone else# !ut your name isright !elo$ that personFs name in my phone contact list. + sent it toyou !y mista"e.

This is $here the guy $ill get more curious and $ill thin"# oh- Soshe is already dating someone else8 And they are going out againtonight8 + $onder $ho he is.

This $ill trigger some %ealousy $hich $ill get him interested in you

instantly.

/ista5e #$. Sho3ing ealo-s1 3hen he mentions other3omen

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Most $omen don(t really reali6e it !ut this is oten a very commontest men use to igure out $hether they are dealing $ith aemotionally strong $oman or %ust another every day average$oman.

+ you act overly !othered or %ealous $hen he mentions orcompliments other $omen in ront o you then you have mostdeinitely ailed the test. 3y getting %ealous you are indirectly tellinghim that you don(t !elieve you are good enough and ear that youmight lose him to some other $oman.

'hat you should do is act as i you aren(t !othered at all andactually engage in the conversation. 'hen you aren(t really!othered !y this you are sending out a very strong signal.

,e $ill thin" that you aren(t %ust li"e any other $oman and that youhave your emotions in total control=a very attractive ?uality in theeyes o most men.

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Section# "So 4e *ants To Brea5-9 *ith =o-

4ere ,s 4o3 to Sto9 A Brea5-9 7 Am9li1 4is,nterest ,n =o-

Nothing can eel more painul than coming to reali6e that your manhas lost interest in you and $ants to !rea" up. Most $omen ta"ethe $rong approach and instantly start doing everything to i9 therelationship# including*

B As"ing him not to leave.

B Acting super nice and telling your man ho$ much you really love

him.

B Trying to convince him that things $ill change.

B Constantly apologi6ing or everything even $hen it may not have

!een your ault.

B And the $orst o them all=!egging him to stay.

+ can personally assure you that none o

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