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RECLAIMING YOUR CALLINGYour story of transformation
with Dan WebsterPassion and energy for leading ministry is easy when your calling is fresh and new. How does a leader stay
energized and engaged when life is difficult, ministry is frustrating, and your sense of calling feels like a distant memory?
Four leadership and life ‘calling’ learnings discovered over 40 years of ministry . . .
“Watch over your heart with all diligence, for your life flows out of your heart.” Proverbs 4:23
“Character without capacity usually means weakness in a leader, but capacity without character means danger.”
Historian David McCullough
Learning #1 - Leadership development is about two LIFE-_____________ works.
Work #2 - The work of the ___________
= My heart - soul - integrity - character - the work God wants to do IN me
Work #1 - The work of the ___________
= discovering the work that has MY name written on it - the work God wants to do THROUGH me
“Leadership is not simply something we do. It comes from somewhere inside us. Leadership is a process, an intimate expression of who we are. It is our being in action.”
Kevin Cashman
“The Hub: A Mosaic Approach to Youth Ministry”
Competence
Character
HOW TROUBLE COMES
CharacterLeads
PersonaFollows
PersonaLeads
CharacterFollows
LEADERSHIP From The Inside OutKevin Cashman
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The Work Beneath the Waterline...engaging the WORK of the Heart and your sense of Calling
Leaders who engage the work of the heart will be nudges toward:
1- ______________________ - it’s about creating _______________“Come unto Me...I am gentle and humble of heart; and you shall find rest for your souls.”
Matthew 11:28-29
“God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”I Peter 5:5
Humility creates space inside us so that we can hear God and ______________.“Great leaders are humble enough to be led by the people they lead.”
Henri Nouwen Humility creates space around us so that others can _____________________.
2- ______________________ - it’s about creating ____________ space“My soul is deeply grieved to the point of death.”
Mark 11:15
“...select out of all the people men who fear God, men of truth, those who hate dishonest gain...”
Exodus 18:21 Honesty creates a safe space where others can be _________________________.
3- ______________________ - it’s about being a ____________“Therefore you are to be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”Matthew 5:48
“A pupil is not above their teacher, but everyone, after they havebeen fully trained, willbe just like their teacher.”Luke 6:40
Pursuing wholeness allows my growth the be a _________________ to stimulate growth and healing in others!
Learning #2 - My development and sense of calling is ________________ and constantly changing in the breeze of my current life circumstances.
Learning #3 - My life and leadership development is __________________ orchestrated by God and somewhat mysterious.
Learning #4 - My development and sense of calling involves six somewhat predictable ________________.
INTEGRITY by Henry Cloud
Successful people:
1- Set of competencies - * their talent is touching the ________
2- Are alliance ________________ * impact of both lives to a multiply
3- Enough ________________ not to blow up their life * they welcome truth and choose integrity
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Learning #2 -
My development and sense of calling is ________________ and constantly changing in the breeze of my current life circumstances.
Sense of CallingSTRONG OR WEAK Family Situation
MARRIED, KIDS???
Experience LevelLITTLE OR GREAT
Driving InterestsINNER VS. OUTER
Sense of TimeSHORT OR LONG
The Ever Changing Realities of Life
Energy LevelHIGH OR LOW
Learning #3 -
My life and leadership development is __________________ orchestrated by God and somewhat mysterious.
“For My thought are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways,’ declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts.”
Isaiah 55:8-9
Life’s variables+
God’s Inexhaustible RESOURCES +
His Unimaginable CREATIVITY =
Innumberable OPTIONS for growing YOU!
So my life becomes something worth paying attention to. It is the SCRIPT for my growth and development.
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Excitement Phase
Fundmentals Phase
Responsibility Phase
Wisdom Phase Bored - Tired - Disillusioned Phase
Intropection Phase
Leadership formation and your sense of calling...the predictable and little discussed pathway to leadership maturity and renewal
Learning #4 - Leadership development involves six somewhat predictable ____________ .
“A leader is a person who must take special responsibility for what’s going on inside him or herself, inside his or her consciousness, lest the act of leadership create more harm than good.
Parker J. Palmer
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Excit
emen
t Pha
se
Fund
men
tals
Phas
e
Resp
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Pha
se
Wis
dom
Pha
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ase
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Jeremiah 1:17-19
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Exci
tem
ent P
hase
Fund
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Pha
se
Resp
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ase
Wis
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Pha
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LESS
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Eccl. 7:2-4
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i’m n
ot g
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to li
ve fo
reve
r
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Applying Reclaiming Your Calling To YOU:
1- What phase do you see yourself in at this time of life?
2- What is the best and worst of the phase?
Best:
Worst:
3. What are you learning about yourself in this phase?
4. What are you learning about God in this phase?
5. Given where I am today, what can I do in the next month to grow concerning . . .
Work #1 - the work of the WORK
Work #2 - the work of the HEART
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What Phase Am I In?
LISTED BELOW ARE A SERIES OF STATEMENTS THAT CHARACTERIZE THE EXPERIENCE OF BEING IN EACH OF THE SIX PHASES OF LEADER DEVELOPMENT. REVIEW THE LIST AND PLACE A CHECK NEXT TO STATEMENTS THAT BEST DESCRIBE YOU.
EXCITEMENT PHASE q I feel alive in joyful anticipation for the future. q I am excited to have an opportunity to work on this team. q I may not have a lot of experience, but I am full of energy to begin new ventures. q I want to make an impact. q I am still clarifying my calling and passion.
FUNDAMENTALS PHASE q I am very aware that I do not know everything and that I need to grow. q I am busy learning the basic principles that make me successful in my job. q I am beginning to recognize that I do some things better than others. q I am energized by skill development training and becoming better at my job. q I love ministry-building ideas and issues.
RESPONSIBILITY PHASE q I am comfortable and competent doing my job. q I am making a noticeable contribution. q I am well into the routines and rhythms of my role. q I am experienced at what I do. q I am starting to invest in others to help them grow.
BORED-TIRED-DISILLUSIONED PHASE q My energy for people and life has faded. q My life is characterized by have-to’s not want-to’s. q I lack passion for what I do. q Things have happened to me that are confusing and hurtful. q I never imagined serving God would get me to a place like this.
INTROSPECTION PHASE q I am more interested in figuring out my life than I am in making a difference. q I am pursuing the healing of past wounds. q I am thinking more seriously about life and what it is really about. q I am processing how my family of origin influenced who I am. q I am letting go of childish and naïve assumptions about how life should be.
RENEWAL PHASE q I have come through a tunnel and can see light on the other side. q I have a deeper sense of who I am and what I do best. q I am reaching a place of deep gratitude and acceptance for my life and gifts. q I see how all my life experiences make me who I am and have prepared me for my best future contribution. q sense God’s presence with me again.
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Suggestions For Living The Six PhasesSuggestions For Living The Six PhasesSuggestions For Living The Six PhasesSuggestions For Living The Six PhasesPHASE What To Remember Books To Read Scripture
PURPOSE: ENERGY TO LAUNCH
LESSON: CAPITALIZE ON THE ENERGY• Clarify and celebrate your calling• Don’t apologize for your joy and energy...share it!
The Life You’ve Always Wanted - John OrtbergNext Generation Leader - Andy Stanley
Jeremiah 1:4-10, 17-19
Colossians 1:28-29
Acts 2
PURPOSE: PREPARATION FOR IMPACT
LESSON: PASS THE SMALL TESTS• Stay teachable • Pursue a mentor who is doing what you do better than you• Become part of a network of fellow workers• Clarify strategy, structure & philosophy of ministry
Finding Your Way - Dan Webster/Randy Gravitt
Courageous Leadership - Bill Hybels
2 Chronicles 26:5, 27:6
1 Timothy 4:12-16
2 Timothy 2:15
PURPOSE: CONTRIBUTION
LESSON: KEEP PASSION HOT• Clarify your ‘A’ vs. ‘B’ priorities• Mentor others, give your leadership away• Connect with people who fire up your passion• Work the Triangle Offense• Address the economics issue
A Work of Heart - Reggie McNeal
LEADERSHIP From the Inside Out - Kevin Cashman
No Perfect People Allowed - John Burke
“...love means hard work.” I Thess. 1:3 (J. B. Phillips)
Mark 4:1-20
2 Timothy 4:1-5
PURPOSE: TO GET OUR ATTENTION
LESSON: ADMIT OUR REALITY• Be painfully honesty• Embrace surrender• There are good reasons you are BTD, discover the sacred questions behind them
In The Name of Jesus - Henri NouwenEmotionally Healthy Spirituality - Peter ScazzeroSifted - Rick LawrenceNecessary Endings - Henry Cloud
Jeremiah 20Judges 8:4Psalm 26Psalm 94:17-23Psalm 77(Do a LifePlan with Dan)
PURPOSE: HEAL, SOFTEN, TRANSFORM
LESSON: DO YOUR WORK• Heal your wounds• Answer your questions• Don’t shortcut the needed work• De-illusionize your life• Look for the ‘graces’ of your valley• Seek the counsel of others
The REAL DEAL - Dan WebsterWhen The Heart Waits - Sue Monk KiddThe Life God Blesses - Gordon MacDonaldBuilding Below the Waterline- Gordon MacDonaldFalling Upward - Richard Rohr
Genesis 41:52
Psalm 31, 40, 84
PURPOSE: REFOCUS FOR THE FUTURE
LESSON: MANAGE THE TENSIONS• Self-care ≠ self-centeredness• If you’ve been out of the game, get back in• Celebrate the tadpoles• Live with the tensions
Fresh Wind, Fresh Fire - Jim CymbalaA Resilient Life - Gordon MacDonaldThe Monkey & the Fish - Dave Gibbons
Isaiah 40:31, 43:18-19
Psalm 30
Psalm 37
Fund
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Dan Webster550 Old Orchard Road
Holland, MI 49423616-335-8500
www.kidunique.comwww.findingyourway.us
Additional thoughts -
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RECLAIMING YOUR CALLING - Your story of transformation - THE HUBF E E D B A C K F O R M
Vocation: __________________________________________________
Position: __________________________________________________
Church/Company/School: ___________________________________
1. Best thing about today’s half track was...
2. I wish Tony had said more about...
3. What next action step will you take having attended this breakout?
If you would like further information please indicate which topics interest you and provide your name, e-mail address (write clearly) and phone number.
! I’d like to be on Dan’s leadership training email list.
! Information on how we might have Dan come train our staff, faculty or leadership team.
! Information on the upcoming online FINDING YOUR WAY process for students.
! Information on LifePlanning, life-coaching and consulting.
! Other _____________________________________________________________
Name: ______________________________________________________________
Email address: ________________________________________________________
Phone: ______________________________________________________________
Simply Youth Ministry Conference - March 2014