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Relationships 101Relationships 101The Equally Yoked versus Unequally Yoked

Truthequality*Abiding in social moresMoral choiceJoy/enjoyment

Liesinequality*

Violation of social mores

Perverse humorFun/funniness**

“Twisted”“Straight”

*false equality**hysteria

*true equality

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““Equally Yoked”Equally Yoked”

“Equally Yoked” (also, equallyoked) is pronounced.. …“Eek quel ee-yoak‘d” and is when a (heterosexual) couple –

- recognize, related to, identify with, believe in, bonds with, and marries one other purposefully and is of the same (or very nearly the same) ‘Civil Identity.’1

Social Psychology Research: Reference Couple Indices

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“Civil Identity1”- Ethnicity: - Politics: - Religion: - Race: - Color: - Age: - Sex: FemaleFemale- Sexual

(pleasure preference) Orientation:

- Marital status:

“Civil Identity” is actually a unique mosaic of one’s present: Ethnicity, Political Party, Race, Color, Religion, Disability, Sex, Sexual (Pleasure Preference) Orientation, Marital Status, Family Status, …..

- Ethnicity: - Politics: - Religion: - Race: - Color: - Age: - Sex: MaleMale- Sexual

(pleasure preference) Orientation:

- Marital status:

“Civil Identity2”

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Clinical PerspectivesClinical Perspectives• “An equally-yoked relationship is born when

both ‘civil identities’ of the couple are matched, not mismatched.”

• “A couple is considered equally yoked when both individuals have a civil identity that is the same or at least fairly equal.”

• “The equallyoked couple may have very similar or exactly the same civil identities.”

- Marriage and Family Therapy

- Social Psychology Research: Reference Couple Indices

- Sociology 101

Rate* the Importance of:

Physical Attraction?

BeliefsaboutGod?

FuturePlans?Financial

Wealth?

*Rate: the importance of each issue in your Relationship. Rate 0 - 10

Insignificant=0, Low 1-2, Mod 3-6, High 7-10

IntellectQuotient?

Emotional Quotient?

EquallyYoked? Rated #1Rated #1

Preliminary Preliminary results of results of Survey1Survey1

Preliminary Preliminary results of results of Survey2Survey2

Rated the HighestRated the Highest

Survey1 Survey2

BeliefsaboutGod?

On Campus Take Home*

EquallyYoked?

+/- 0.99%

n=35 n=51

+/- 0.99%

*may be hard-copy or on-line survey

Spring Semester 2001

Fall Semester 2002

2001-2002Social Psychology: Surveys

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Personal Rights in a RelationshipPersonal Rights in a Relationship

• Individuals who are considered to be an equallyokedtarian have personal rights - just as anyone else does in society.

EquallyokedEquallyoked

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“…“…to refuse…”to refuse…”THE RIGHT to refuse to be in or interact in an ‘unequally yoked’ situation … concerning an unequally yoked relationship without having to feel guilty or selfish.

EquallyokedEquallyoked

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“…“…feelings…”feelings…”THE RIGHT to express personal feelings about an ‘unequally yoked’ situation …or a relationship including anger, as long as there is no violation of the rights of the violator of the social mores.

EquallyokedEquallyoked

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“…“…personal interest..”personal interest..”THE RIGHT to pursue and achieve an ‘equally yoked’ relationship …as an area of personal interest or life goal.

EquallyokedEquallyoked

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THE RIGHT to have personal needs met within an ‘equally yoked’ relationship …as important as the needs of any one else in society.

“…“…needs…”needs…”

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THE RIGHT to decide to be with which individual who fulfills the true definition of a ‘equally yoked’ relationship …to be with in whatever activities that will fulfill a personal need.

“…“…to decide…”to decide…”

EquallyokedEquallyoked

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“…“…to correct…”to correct…”THE RIGHT to correct a mistake made in choosing a dating or casual relationship, …and if other than ‘equally yoked’ be responsible for the outcome in society.

EquallyokedEquallyoked

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“…“…to seek…”to seek…”THE RIGHT to be an independent individual with a unique ‘civil identity’ …in whatever moral/ethical way possible …to seek an ‘equally yoked’ relationship.

EquallyokedEquallyoked

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“…“…any situation…”any situation…”THE RIGHT to be treated respectfully in any situation while only seeking whether it is other than ‘equally yoked’ or actually while in an ‘equally yoked’ relationship.

EquallyokedEquallyoked

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“…“…be positive…”be positive…”THE RIGHT to be positive, cooperative, and giving – and reciprocate …in pursuing an ‘equally yoked’ relationship and not be taken over advantage of in society.

EquallyokedEquallyoked

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“…“…be safe…”be safe…”THE RIGHT to be safe …in an ‘unequally yoked’ situation or any other situation in society.

EquallyokedEquallyoked

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