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Interpersonal Relationships
Countdown to End of Class
Extra Credit 1 Due Tomorrow
“Office Hours” on Wednesday
Thursday is Exam 3
Extra Credit 2 due on Thursday
Extra Credit 2
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Due by midnight, Th., August 6th.
Learning Objectives: Interpersonal Relationships
Become aware of some determinants of initial attraction
Understand models used to study intimate relationships Examine common relationship issues
Determinants of Attraction
The Initial Attraction Proximity: Being There
Beauty: Getting Drawn In
First Encounters: Getting Acquainted
Westgate West: Housing at MIT
Proximity: Liking the One’s We’re Near
To meet people is not necessarily to love them, but to love them we must first meet them!
Westgate West: Housing at MIT
Close friends: Next door neighbors: 41% Two doors down: 22% Opposite ends of hallway: 10%
Most popular overall: Lived near stairway
Proximity: Liking the One’s We’re Near
Proximity: Why?
Availability
Mere exposure More often people are exposed to an object, the
more positively they evaluate that object
Mere Exposure with People (Moreland & Beach, 1992)
“Four women and a classroom” study
1 woman had photo taken
3 women attended class 1 woman 5 different times 1 woman 10 different times 1 woman 15 different times
Students rate women on traits at end of semester
Determinants of Attraction
The Initial Attraction Proximity: Being There
Beauty: Getting Drawn In
First Encounters: Getting Acquainted
Freshmen randomly paired for a dance
Measured measured students’ intelligence, social skills, personality rated students’ attractiveness
DV: attraction to date at end of dance
What predicted attraction to date at end of dance? Physical attractiveness For both men and women!
Physical Attractiveness: Getting Drawn In
(Waltser-Hatfield & colleagues)
Physical Attractiveness: Halo Effect
(Dion et al.)
IV: ½ male, ½ female photos
IV: Attractiveness level Attractive, average,
unattractive
DV: Ps rated photos on Personality traits Happiness in various life
domains Occupational success
Attractive targets were expected to: Attain more prestigious
jobs Be better spouses Have happier marriages Find better spouses Have better social lives Be happier in general Have more desirable
personalities
Physical Attractiveness and Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
Men shown photo ½ attractive woman ½ unattractive woman
Phone conversation with woman they believed
to be in photo
DV: behavior of man and woman
What is attractive?
Who is Most Attractive?
Who is Most Attractive?
Who is Most Attractive?
Who is Most Attractive?
Attractive Faces: Only Average
Mathematically Averaged Female Faces
Mathematically Averaged Male Faces
4 Face Composite
8 Face Composite
4 Face Composite
8 Face Composite
16 Face Composite
32 Face Composite
16 Face Composite
32 Face Composite
(Langlois & Roggman, 1990)
Universality in Who is Most Attractive?
Cross-cultural agreement in attractiveness rankings
Even babies can discern more vs. less attractive faces
Why?: Attractive = Average:
Unusual may = sick
Symmetry = attractive
Easy to process = attractive
Who Has the Better Shape?
Attractive Shape: Hip to Waist Ratio Hip-to-Waist Ratio
Ideal for attractiveness = .7
Evidence
Miss America hip to waist ratio stayed consistent over time
Preferred ratio across culture
What traits do you find
attractive?
Gender Differences in What is Attractive
Men
Physical Attractiveness
Youth
Women
Good financial prospects
Signs that can provide economic resources Age Height
Gender Differences in What is Attractive
Surveyed 10,000 people
37 different countries
Asked about mate preferences
Gender Differences in What is Attractive
Men > Women
92% of countries preferred good looks
100% of countries
preferred younger Peak reproductive age Size of age difference grew
and men got older
Women > Men
97% of countries preferred good financial prospects
100% of countries preferred older
Buss, 1989
Why?: Evolutionary Perspective
Sexual Selection
Gender differences when males and female face different adaptive pressures
Women must invest more in each offspring
Men must attract mates/spread seed
Additional Evidence
What is attractive does seem to correspond with reproductive capacity
Some gender differences affected by menstrual cycle When highest chance of
pregnancy women prefer more masculine faces
Why?: Social Role Theory
Division of labor
Role of man is to bring home $
Role is to create a pleasant home & care for children
Additional Evidence
Men also prefer good cooks
Gender difference related to how egalitarian the country is
Gender differences decreasing over time
Determinants of Attraction
The Initial Attraction Proximity: Being There
Beauty: Getting Drawn In
First Encounters: Getting Acquainted
First Encounters: Getting Acquainted
Similarity
Reciprocity
External barriers
Birds of a feather flock together
Opposites Attract
Similarity: Liking People Who Are Like Us
IV Pairs selected based
on attitudes ½ similar attitudes ½ dissimilar attitudes
Pairs went on a date
DV: Attraction
Birds of a feather flock together
Similarity: Liking People Who Are Like Us
Majority of U.S. married couples similar in race, religion, age, SES, education, IQ, height, eye color, and physical attractiveness
Dating couples who were similar on multiple dimensions more often together 1 year later
Married couples with more similar personalities reported more closeness, shared enjoyment of daily activities, marital satisfaction, less conflict
First Encounters: Getting Acquainted
Similarity
Reciprocity
External barriers
Reciprocity: Liking Others Who Like Us “Do I like you?” (Curtis & Miller)
pairs of unacquainted students 10-minute get to you know conversation
Manipulate Ps A’s beliefs about Ps B’s belief Person B likes you Person B dislikes you
10 -minute discussion
Measured A’s and B’s liking for one another
Playing Hard to Get
Reciprocity: Liking Others Who Like Us
Male read info about women’s dating preferences 1 woman gave all the prospective dating partners she
evaluated low ratings (hard to get) 1 woman gave all the men high ratings (very easy for
everyone to get) 1 woman had rated only the subject high (selectively hard -
appeared easy for the subject to date but hard for others to date)
DV: Which woman selected & perceived as friendly
Results: Men pick the selectively hard woman
First Encounters: Getting Acquainted
Similarity
Reciprocity
External barriers
External Barriers: “the girls get prettier at closing time”
Closing Time Study 1: Bar patrons rated attractiveness of same & opposite sex
Ratings taken at different time periods
People of opposite sex were seen as more
attractive as the night wore on
External Barriers: “the girls get prettier at closing time”
Closing Time
Study 2: Bar patrons rate attractiveness of same & opposite sex
Bar patrons’ level of commitment to a relationship
People of opposite sex were seen as more attractive as
the night wore on BUT ONLY for those on the lookout for a date
External Barriers: Secret Relationships
Wegner and colleagues (1994) 2 “couples” played a card game
1 couple instructed to play “footsie” under the table ½ footsie in secret ½ in the open
Stop game; rate how attracted they were to own partner
& the person in game of opposite sex (in private)
“Love ceases to be a pleasure when it ceases to be a secret.” Aphra Behn
Female in Pair 1
Female in Pair 2
Male in Pair 1
Male in Pair 2
Pair 1 plays “footsie”: secret or public
Female in Pair 1
Female in Pair 2
Male in Pair 1
Male in Pair 2
Pair 1 plays “footsie”: secret or public
Results: Pair that played “footsie” in secret was more attracted to their partner compared to pair that played in public, and compared to the other person
Determinants of Attraction
The Initial Attraction Proximity: Being There
Beauty: Getting Drawn In
First Encounters: Getting Acquainted
Learning Objectives: Interpersonal Relationships
Become aware of some determinants of initial attraction Understand models used to study intimate relationships
Examine common relationship issues
Intimate Relationships
Exchange Relationships governed by the need for
equity (equal ratio of rewards and costs by person)
Liked to be repaid for favors; feel exploited when favors not return
Keep track of who is contributing
Being able to help partner has no effect on mood
Communal Relationships Primary concern is being
responsive to other person’s needs
Do not liked to be repaid for favors; do not feel exploited when favors are not repaid
Do not keep track of who is contributing
Being able to help partner puts person in good mood
Intimate Marketplace
Social Exchange Theory
Investment Model
Exchange vs. Communal Relationships
Social Exchange Theory
Outcomes (rewards and costs) Comparison levels
General Alternatives
Intimate Marketplace: Tracking Gains and Losses
Intimate Marketplace: Social Exchange Theory
Rewards Anything about the relationship that results in desirable
experiences for the individual
Costs Anything about the relationship that results in undesirable
experiences for the individual
Outcome = Rewards – Costs
We seek relationships that will provide the best possible outcomes
What do you expect to get?
Comparison level (CL): What you think you deserve in your relationships
Outcomes – CL = Satisfaction/Dissatisfaction
How well could you do elsewhere?
Comparison level for alternatives (Clalt): How well you THINK you could do elsewhere
Outcomes-Clalt = Dependence/Independence
How well could you do elsewhere?
Comparison level for alternatives (Clalt): How well you THINK you could do elsewhere
Outcomes-Clalt = Dependence/Independence
Name that Contributor to Relationship Satisfaction
example
Social Exchange Theory
Outcomes (rewards and costs) Comparison levels
General Alternatives
Intimate Marketplace: Tracking Gains and Losses
Investment Model
(Rusbult, 1980)
Investments How much person puts into relationship that can’t be
recovered if relationship ends
Direct Time, effort, caring
Indirect
Shared memories, mutual friends, shared possessions
Investment Model
(Rusbult, 1980)
Commitment
Rewards
Alternatives ( CL & CLalt)
Investments
Satisfaction
Deg
ree
of C
ontr
ibut
ion
Test of Investment Model
Learning Objectives: Interpersonal Relationships
Become aware of some determinants of initial attraction Understand models used to study the intimate relationships
Examine common relationship issues
Relationship Issues
Miscommunication (about sex) Perceptions of Partner : Attributions Relationship Issues: Keep it Exciting
“Are you Coming on to Me?” (Abbey, 1982)
Procedure
Pairs of males and females talked for 5 minutes (actors) Observers watched the discussion “Actors” and “Observers” answered questions
Results Male actors were more sexually attracted to female actors
than vice versa Male actors & male observers rated female actor as being
more seductive & flirtatious than the female actors rated themselves & female observers rated female actors
Relationship Issues: Miscommunication
Relationship Issues
Miscommunication (about sex) Perceptions of Partner : Attributions Relationship Issues: Keeping it Exciting
Perception of Partner: Attributions
Positive Event
Happy Couples Distressed Couples
My partner takes me out to an expensive dinner
My partner is sweet and thoughtful
My partner took me out to write the cost off on
taxes
Internal, stable, global
Negative Event
My partner forgot my birthday
External, unstable, specific
Something unexpected must have come up
External, unstable, specific
My partner is always uncaring and selfish
Internal, stable, global
Attributions: Causes of outcomes and events
Attributions: Causes of outcomes and events
Relationship Issues
Miscommunication (about sex) Perceptions of Partner : Attributions Relationship Issues: Keeping it Exciting
Mats across a gym floor
1/3 no assignment 1/3 couples individually roll ball across mat 1/3 couples tied up as partner & crawl across mat to roll ball
rate level of satisfaction with quality of marriage
Relationship Issues: Keeping it Exciting
Aron et al., 2000
Why?
Relationship Issues: Keeping it Exciting
IV: Couples assigned to engage in: “exciting” activities pleasant activities no extra activities (control)
DV: Relationship quality “Exciting” activities: greatest increase over 10 weeks
(Reissman, Aron, & Bergman)
Relationship Issues
Miscommunication (about sex) Perceptions of Partner : Attributions Relationship Issues: Keeping it Exciting
Learning Objectives: Interpersonal Relationships
Become aware of some determinants of initial attraction Understand models used to study the intimate relationships
Examine common relationship issues