Counseling and Counseling and Role of a CounselorRole of a Counselor

COUNSELINGCOUNSELING

Problem solving techniques to Problem solving techniques to help people manage their own help people manage their own problems using their own problems using their own resources.resources.

Simply stated, counseling is any Simply stated, counseling is any relationship in which one person relationship in which one person is helping another person to is helping another person to better understand and solve better understand and solve some problem. some problem.

Counseling is a change (growth: Counseling is a change (growth: healing) process in which people healing) process in which people (individuals, groups, couples, and (individuals, groups, couples, and families) are helped tofamilies) are helped to express themselves (catharsis) in a safe, express themselves (catharsis) in a safe,

supportive, collaborative, non-judgmental supportive, collaborative, non-judgmental climate; climate;

identify, sort-out, clarify their problem laden identify, sort-out, clarify their problem laden "stories" (deepened awareness of past & "stories" (deepened awareness of past & present story and alternative future stories) present story and alternative future stories)

identify non-helpful patterns (e.g. "crisis" identify non-helpful patterns (e.g. "crisis" pattern); pattern);

learn, where appropriate, more helpful learn, where appropriate, more helpful coping skills (e.g. "assertive skills") coping skills (e.g. "assertive skills")

identify and achieve goals that are identify and achieve goals that are important to them. important to them.

There are numerous There are numerous counseling approaches:counseling approaches: CognitiveCognitive BehavioralBehavioral PsychoanalyticPsychoanalytic AdlerianAdlerian Person-Centered (Rogerian)Person-Centered (Rogerian) Gestalt TherapyGestalt Therapy SOLUTION-FOCUSED BRIEF THERAPY SOLUTION-FOCUSED BRIEF THERAPY Eclectic TherapyEclectic Therapy and etc… and etc…

Core PrinciplesCore Principles

1.1. ConfidentialityConfidentiality

2.2. Social SkillsSocial Skills

3.3. Acceptance and Non-Acceptance and Non-judgemental judgemental

4.4. Genuineness and Warmth Genuineness and Warmth

5.5. Controlled Emotional Controlled Emotional involvementinvolvement

6.6. Maintain professional distanceMaintain professional distance

What are counseling skills?What are counseling skills?The counsellor mustThe counsellor must : :

Listen Listen – – to allow him to express and thinkto allow him to express and think

Not judgeNot judge - Client will Feel safe and respectedClient will Feel safe and respected

Pay attentionPay attention

Accept the client's feelings Accept the client's feelings - means YOU CAREmeans YOU CARE

Accept the client's feelings Accept the client's feelings

-means he/she is not being judged-means he/she is not being judged

Counsellors should notCounsellors should not

Argue Argue Dwell on their own difficulties Dwell on their own difficulties Solve the problem for the client Solve the problem for the client Give advice Give advice Belittle the clients' concern Belittle the clients' concern Avoid touching –any physical contact Avoid touching –any physical contact

can be potentially dangerouscan be potentially dangerous Being judgementalBeing judgemental Treat client in isolationTreat client in isolation

How to be an effective Counselor?How to be an effective Counselor? ListeningListening Being authenticBeing authentic Prescribing tasks or behaviorsPrescribing tasks or behaviors Being objectiveBeing objective Patience and AcceptancePatience and Acceptance ExperienceExperience Practice, Practice, PracticePractice, Practice, Practice

Attitude of a Good Counselor Attitude of a Good Counselor toward Clienttoward Client

Worthwhile personWorthwhile person Unique PersonUnique Person Dynamic PersonDynamic Person Responsible PersonResponsible Person

In Intervention, a counselor In Intervention, a counselor should bear in mind the ff:should bear in mind the ff:

GO SLOWGO SLOW START SMALLSTART SMALL BE CREATIVEBE CREATIVE

Tips to Prevent Burn-out for Tips to Prevent Burn-out for counselorscounselors Manage your casesManage your cases Develop a teamDevelop a team Time managementTime management Separate work and personal lifeSeparate work and personal life Strengthen realtionshipStrengthen realtionship Develop yourselfDevelop yourself Be flexibleBe flexible Meditate and prayMeditate and pray

Struggle a Little - Then Fly! Struggle a Little - Then Fly! By Author UnknownBy Author Unknown

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly, that he brought home. A man found a cocoon of a butterfly, that he brought home. One day a small opening appeared he sat and watched the One day a small opening appeared he sat and watched the

butterfly for several hours. It struggled to force its body butterfly for several hours. It struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther. and it could go no farther.

So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily, but, it had a swollen The butterfly then emerged easily, but, it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. He continued to watch body and small, shriveled wings. He continued to watch

the butterfly, he expected that, at any moment, the wings the butterfly, he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and the body would contract. Neither would enlarge and the body would contract. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It was never able to fly. It was never able to fly.

LESSONLESSONThe man acted with well-intentioned The man acted with well-intentioned kindness but he didn't understand the kindness but he didn't understand the consequences. consequences. The restricting cocoon and the struggle The restricting cocoon and the struggle required to get through the tiny opening, required to get through the tiny opening, were nature's way of forcing fluid from the were nature's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly once it achieved its body of the butterfly once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon. freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If we were to go through need in our life. If we were to go through life life without any obstacles, it would without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as cripple us. We would not be as strong as we could have been and we could never fly we could have been and we could never fly