Self-Esteem & Empowerment
Training Workshop
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Making a New Life for You!
Master Trainers Alliance
“Building self-esteem and confidence will enrich your life. Engaging in self-
esteem confidence building is key to improving your overall self-esteem. This
move you closer to self-empowerment and that moves you to the next level of
a really successful life.” (D.Harold Greene, author “The Rites of Passage for Males”
Manual)
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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!
Self-Esteem & Empowerment
The Self-esteem & Empowerment Training Workshop is a three (3) hour webinar that includes: Self-esteem & Empowerment Training aimed to inspire women with the courage to break free from the chains of limiting belief patterns and societal conditioning that have traditionally kept women suppressed and unable to see their true beauty and power
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Making a New Life for You!
Our training workshops are designed to teach trainers to
teach youth and adults life skills, self sufficiency and
self-esteem enhancement skills.
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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!
This course offers self help tools, information, encouragement and
inspirational quotes and sayings for women to use as a guide on the
journey of “Reclaiming Their Power”. Women are encouraged to see
and bring forth the beauty and strength within themselves, to be
inspired to be the best they can be, and to let their Spirit shine
through.
A “Self-esteem & Empowerment Training” Manual (a $ 24.95 retail
value) is included in the cost of the workshop.
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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!
This webinar includes :
• Self-Confidence: What is it? How-to Build Your Self-Confidence
• Mastering Self-Confidence
• Self-esteem, Visualization and Spirituality
• Steps to Change Your Mindset
• Loving Yourself: Loving Your Body
• How-to-Make Changes in Your Life
• Eliminating Traits that Hinder a Positive Life
• How to Break-out the Rut That You Are In and more.
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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!
Part 1: Changing Your Mindset
• Introduction
• Who We Are?
• Building Your Self Esteem and Confidence
• Boosting Your Self-confidence and Self-empowerment
• Self-esteem is………………….
• How to Get Your Self –esteem up?
• Steps to Change Your Mindset
• Self Worth: What is Your Price?
• Fighting the Dragons
• How-to-Love Yourself
• How-to-Make Changes in Your Life
• How-to-Add Happiness to Your Life
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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!
Part 2: How to Break Out That Rut that You Are In
• Facing Life’s Challenges
• Being Your Own Worst Enemy
• Stop Self-Sabotaging Yourself
• How to Lift Your Adverse Self Image
• How-to-Recognize Self-Sabotaging Habits
• How to Break-out the Rut That You Are In
• Eliminate Worry in Your Life
• Self-talk and Coping with Life
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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!
Part 3: Changing You
• Here Comes the Judge: Finding Fault
• Changing the Anchor
• Plus Size: Self-acceptance
• Daily Affirmations: Taking Me thru Self-doubt
• Living with Failure
• Eliminating Traits that Hinder a Positive Life
• Creating Life Changing Habits
• How Long Does It Take to Form a New Habit? \
• Change! Yeah I Said It!
• Gaining Clarity and Focus in Life
• You Are More Powerful Then You Think!
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Self-Esteem & Empowerment Making a New Life for You!
Part 4: The New You: Empowerment by Design
• Why Do We Have These Walls of Pain?
• Emotional Block: Disappointed With Love
• Finding A Way Out: Empowerment for Life
• You Must Seek Spiritual Guidance
• A Road to a Better Life
• Emotional Freedom: Finding Your Way
• Faith
• Take the Lead to Empower Others
• And Finally…… Putting it All Together
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There will be an open-book test after the webinar. The test questions will be
sent to you at the completion of this workshop. The test answers are in the
manual.
Call or email us at the completion of this workshop and we will email the test
to you. Call (910) 679-4319 or email [email protected] to let us know that
you have completed the workshop. We will fax or email the test to you. A score
of 100% is required to pass this open book test.
You will need to score 100% to receive your certification. We will mail your
certificate to your home within 30 days on receipt of all required tests
answers..
Self-Esteem & Empowerment To receive your training certification
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Faith Institute of Entrepreneurship, Inc. (FIE) was found in March, 2003
to provide a self-sufficiency training program and curriculum to teach
entrepreneurship (the mindset of owning a business) to at-risk youth and
adults.
This mindset of self-sufficiency will enable youth and adults to think
“making-a-job” vs. "getting-a-job”.
This training institution will also provide a two-year self-sufficiency and
entrepreneurship training curriculum that will enable youth and adults to
“make-a-job”.
The schools targeted population is adults and youth who are trying to
find their way to a career, a purpose and a life in this very unpredictable
world.
FAITH INSTITUTE 1201 Preservation Way, Wilmington, NC 28405
(910) 679-4319
Workshop Facilitator
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Our workshop trainer for the “Self-esteem & Self-Empowerment “Workshop
is D. Harold Greene, the Executive Director of Faith Institute of
Entrepreneurship, Inc, and the author of the nationally and internationally
selling “The Rites of Passage for Males Manual” (University Press of
America / Hamilton Books, 2008).
He is also the author and publisher of the “ Finding My Life Purpose”
Manual (Faith Publishing, 2010), “Empowering Parents of At-risk Males”
Manual, (Faith Publishing, 2009), “Create Your Own Job! Manual“(Faith
Publishing, 2008) and “A Practical Guide to Grant Writing & Fundraising
“ Manual“(Faith Publishing, 2008).
He is a former continuing education faculty member at Prince George’s
County, Ann Arundel County and Howard County Community Colleges in
Maryland. He is a Master Trainer of the Life-skills , Self-esteem and Self-
sufficiency training programs offered by Faith Institute of Entrepreneurship.
He is an entrepreneurship, career and life skills training consultant.
Self-confidence: What is it?
Self confidence is the most imperative thing any
individual requires either at the start of his
professional career or through his pursuit to
nurture it.
Self confidence is the difference between feeling
inexorable and feeling anxious about your
intellect.
Remember, your own perception about yourself
reflects how others perceive you. Perception is
like veracity - the more self confident you are, the
more are chances of your success.
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Self-confidence: What is it?
Even though many aspects regarding self confidence are out of your
control, you can consciously adopt a number of things to build self
confidence. Use the following strategies to get the mental edge you
need to reach your goal.
1. Dress Sharp
2. Walk Fast
3. Good Posture
4. Personal Motivation
5. Gratitude
6. Compliment other people
7. Sit in the front row
8. Speak up
9. Work out
10. Focus on contribution
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Building Your Self-esteem
and Confidence
Building self esteem and confidence will enrich your life. As you become
proficient at thinking positive thoughts about your capabilities, your
confidence in yourself and your abilities will grow.
How to Build Self Esteem
Once you discover things about yourself and your abilities that make you
feel good about yourself, be sure that you incorporate them in your own
personal program of how to build your self esteem.
Self esteem Confidence Building
Engaging in self esteem confidence building is key to improving overall self
esteem.
Build Your Self Esteem!
As you develop a course of behavior that is designed to build your self
esteem, you need to be patient with your progress!
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How to Build Your Self-Confidence
• Many people believe that they have no control over what
happens in their world, when the exact opposite is true. It
is within your power to be happy, successful and to be
loved.
• Building confidence is actually an easier task than you
might think. You just have to focus on how you view
yourself and your life in a different way.
• One of the biggest barriers to building confidence is
allowing you the luxury of thinking "it's not fair" or "I didn't
deserve that".
• Once you get over the "it's not fair" attitude you are free
to focus clearly upon your own goals.
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Mastering Self-Confidence
• A lot of people feel that self-confidence is an inherent personality of
especially chosen people.
• The great talent of self-confidence seems to be hard to master,
especially for ordinary people. They think that self-confidence is a
quality that belongs to celebrities, entrepreneurs, favorite students,
and other top ranked persons.
• To tell you the truth, many confident people you see didn't have
natural self-confidence since they were born.
• They fully want and need to improve themselves and break their
limitations. If you want to learn to be confident, you must have one
thing in your personality. You must love yourself as you are.
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Boosting Your Self-confidence and
Self-empowerment Empowerment
• Our self confidence is something we can do with boosting; whether it
needs boosting occasionally or regularly. A surprisingly large
amount of the population suffers from low confidence and/or low self
esteem.
• So, what exactly is self confidence? Self confidence is having a
belief in your ability and future performance.
• Having a high level of self esteem means you are more likely to see
yourself as someone who is worthy of happiness and success.
• If you are a self confident person, you are a lot less likely to worry
about the disapproval of others if you happen to fail at something -
and less worried yourself about this failure too.
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Need a Confidence Boost? Visualize!
• Many of us have experienced times in our lives when we felt
like we needed a confidence boost.
• This often occurs when we have a stressful event on the
horizon such as an interview or going to a new place for the
first time.
• Visualization techniques can be helpful. There are two
techniques that you can use to build a confident feeling.
Technique one: Visualizing success will enable you to
mentally rehearse prior to the event so that you can feel better
prepared.
Technique two: Recalling memories of confidence can also be
useful.
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Recognizing Confident People • Confident people usually have a higher self worth than
people with no self confidence.
• They are seen by society as high achievers and
successful.
• They tend to speak their mind when necessary and are
usually able to influence people to their own way of
thinking both in a subtle way and more recognizable
ways.
• Self confidence doesn't always manifest itself in
positive ways. You have the charismatic types that
everyone loves and arrogant types who very few
people love.
• As soon as you accept your own uniqueness as a
positive thing and that no single person is any 'better'
than you. Then you will start to turn things around.
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Self-esteem is……..?
• Self-esteem is all about how you see and value yourself and it has a
lot to do with how you think others see you. So it is important to
develop positive thoughts and a positive self-image.
• One of the things that lower self esteem is criticism. The worst kind
of criticisms is the one that comes from you.
• You should always believe in your capabilities. It is not that success
would be a stone's throw away but with the appropriate dedication
and effort, it is definitely achievable.
So how do you go about building your self-esteem?
(1) The key is to focus on your thoughts.
and (2) Avoid thinking about your failures.
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Self-esteem, Visualization and Spirituality
• Self-esteem is modest while self-confidence may be opinionated or
arrogant; self-esteem encourages others to excel even beyond their
own capabilities because to recognize another's value is to applaud
their success.
• True SELF-ESTEEM has no equal because with it one has virtual
spiritual connectedness where the bigger picture over shadows
everything else because we realize the world is bigger than any of
us can visualize or conceptualize.
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Fear of Failure:
An Addiction to Low Self-esteem
Low self-esteem is the key to fear of failure but it may also be
accompanied by a lack of support from important sources.
When your dreams are urging you to action but your fears are holding
you back, take strength from God's outstretched arms and allow him
the opportunity to surround you with the necessary power you need for
success.
With this in mind then, pray to your God and know that he will answer
you if you prove that your service is true to his love.
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Heighten Your Self-Esteem to Guard
against Self-Indulgence
• Heightened self-esteem guards against over
indulgence in anything that can be damaging to your
vitality. It also protects you from attracting adverse
relationships where you can be hurt physically (or
mentally) by assuring that you attract like-minded
spiritual people your your life.
• If you are a victim of abuse, mental harassment or
some form of denied freedom, your self-esteem may
be low and you are without real substance in your
life.
• Self-esteem is more vital than confidence or strong
attitudes and fierce determination. Without self-
esteem, we are devoid of feelings.
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How to get your self esteem up?
To answer the question, how to get your self esteem up, starts
with the following three techniques. These techniques are far
too complicated to go into detail in the short space time, but
here is a quick overview of them.
1. Subliminal
Basically a subliminal message is a message that bypasses the
conscious mind and goes straight to the unconscious so you don't
know this message of help is being fed to you.
2. Phobias
This is perhaps the main reason why many people never find their
life purpose. They want results instantly. Unfortunately, finding life
purpose doesn’t work that way. It’s more like a journey than a one-
time stop.
3. Affirmations
With affirmations you repeat a positive message over and over
again until you believe it.
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How-to Build a Healthy Self-esteem
Building healthy self esteem is at the inner core of every person's mind.
Follow these simple steps to build healthy self esteem:
(1) Respond to the necessities that you need.
(2) Nurture yourself!
(3) Make life and the whole meaning of living worthy of being experienced by
others.
(4) Increase your happiness by doing the things you enjoy.
(5) Acknowledge your limitations to be able to see your success.
Look at weakness as limitations and a ways of trying out new things.
Live in the present and let go of your past. By so doing, you are
creating a path to success. Praise yourself and praise others for their
success.
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Understanding How to Build a
Better self-esteem?
• So how can you build a better self esteem? Understanding the following
should help!
• You are the only person standing in your way! If you want better self
esteem, then YOU must achieve it! Nobody else will do this for you. This
may take time.
1) Start becoming confident in what you do!
2) Compliment what you are good at.
3) Your knowledge base never should stop.
4) Start giving compliments.
5) Change who you wish to become.
Start giving compliments to people on a daily basis! If you lack self esteem
put this to use!
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Take Action: A First Step to
Healthy Self-esteem
Feeling assured about yourself is effortless after you previously
possess the determination to accomplish the things you would like.
Listed here are some ideas to assist you.
(1) Make a decision to take actions to build self confidence by
developing your eagerness.
(2) Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you will take actions and
you will acquire self-assurance.
(3) Believe in your dreams that you happen to be dreaming so you
can obtain them.
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Take Action: A First Step to
Healthy Self-esteem
Self esteem generally refers to 'your view of yourself'.
Great self esteem is something that everybody wants.
Low self-esteem can develop when an individual feels
they will fail at tasks they attempt them or when they think
that others do not think highly of them and their
accomplishments.
Poor self esteem can be a lifelong battle. It can destroy
both personal relationships and business relationships.
Society has altered our way of thinking and many of us
feel that our external features are what bring us happiness.
We must learn to develop a sense of self-worth and a
sense of belonging within our society. If we do not - it can
be a tough battle ahead of us!
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Steps to Change Your Mindset
Take a public seminar.
You could possibly dread meeting other people, but there's no better approach
to jump start your confidence than by assuring yourself that you just have
something to say, and that people are listening.
Get a makeover.
Look in the mirror and observe the feature that you have. Having a new outfit
and haircut can make you feeling fresh, calm and assured.
Daydream.
Day dreaming is great since it attracts good energies and positive energies
result in self assurance. Visualize yourself holding a company award and
getting congratulated by other individuals.
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Affirmation that will Improve
Your Self-esteem
Self Esteem is often something that eludes all of us. Try
these positive affirmations for your daily practice and
experience the powerful results.
1. I trust in my ability to manifest positive experiences in
my life.
2. I forgive myself if a mistake is made.
3. I am worthy to receive.
4. I am able to live without fear.
5. I enjoy my daily responsibilities and career.
6. I view myself as others see me.
7. I am compassionate to myself and others.
8. I truly deserve all good things in my life.
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Self -Worth: What is Your Price
• Are you charging what your work is worth or
do you lack confidence in this area, why would
you struggle with pricing your work?
• If you are sincere with what you put out there
and you are giving good value, then it is
worthy of a good price.
• If you have knowledge about a certain thing,
then you learned it from somewhere.
• This means that there will be others out there
who want this knowledge, therefore you are
giving value!
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Loving Yourself: Loving Your Body
• How do you feel about your body? Are you in complete
love with yourself? If not then you may find at times that
you move back and forth between self-loathing and at
minimum self-liking.
• This is considered normal. However to fully maximize
your potential in this area, self-confidence is key.
• How you feel about yourself is much more important than
how others perceive you.
• When you love your body fully and openly, you will
radiate confidence and enhance your natural ability to get
things done.
• Identify exactly what is keeping you from being your best
and begin to eliminate all physical, mental and emotional
clutter. Soon you will find respect for yourself, your body
and your future.
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Facing the Truth about Yourself
• At any moment the circumstances of your
life are exactly the way that they are.
• The people in your life are the way they are
and you are the way you are.
• Everything may change tomorrow, but at
any moment, so whatis ……..is!
• When you fight the truth, you create a state
of fear, upset and tunnel vision that will
destroy your ability to see clearly. It keeps
you from finding solutions and it forces you
to act in a way that magnifies the problem
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Fighting the Dragons
• The moment you created this belief that you are unworthy, you created
a core issue that would then sabotage the rest of your life. From that
moment on, the underlying focus of your life would be to avoid this
hurt.
• In reality, there is nothing threatening about this hurt. It is just an
emotion, but subconsciously, this emotion is considered a serious
threat to your survival. "If I really am worthless, I might as well die.“
• Any circumstance that triggers this hurt is automatically perceived as a
major threat. To avoid this threat, we operate in a state of fear, upset
and tunnel vision. We fight, resist, hang on and withdraw. This in turn
sabotages our lives and brings us more hurt.
• This hurt is like a dragon that we run from. But the dragon never
causes us any harm. The dragon doesn't cause any harm because the
dragon doesn't exist in reality, it only exists in our mind.
• All the harm is caused by the things we do to avoid facing the dragon.
It's the fighting, resisting, hanging on and withdrawing that sabotages
our lives.
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How-to-Love Yourself
• Once you face the dragon, you discover on an experiential,
heart level, that the dragon is an illusion and has no teeth.
The moment this happens, the dragon loses power. Instead
of the dragon having power over you, you have power over
the dragon.
• Every area of life that isn't working and every self-sabotaging
behavior pattern can be traced to the automatic,
subconscious avoidance of this hurt. Finding and healing this
hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do
• Loving one’s self is how do we build a better self esteem?
Self is not something that is particularly easy. It can be
difficult to take a look in the mirror and like what you can see.
Low self-esteem can affect many people all over the world,
but there are ways to beat it.
• You simply have to follow these easy steps and you will find
out how to show yourself love.
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How-to-Love Yourself
• You simply have to follow these easy steps and you will find out how to show yourself
love.
Create Lists
Start out by writing down some things that you do like about yourself. This might
seem like a difficult thing to do, especially if you have a bad self-image. Just give it
some thought and you will see that you can like things about yourself. Here are some
examples of what you might come up with:
- I am a good worker.
- I am good to animals.
- I am a kind person.
- I care about others.
- I have lots of passion.
- I can show love.
- I like the way my hair looks.
- I have a good sense of fashion.
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How-to-Love Yourself
You simply have to follow these easy steps and you will
find out how to show yourself love.
• Do Other People Love You? Surely you have been
told that you are loved by other people. If they can love
you then there are many lovable things about you.
• Keeping A Journal Writing down your thoughts in a
journal is a good way to release negative emotions.
This can help you to start feeling good about yourself.
You will be able to go back and look at previous entries
and see that you are improving.
• Be Yourself Sometimes people do not like themselves
because they are not truly being themselves. Do not try
to impress people by acting like someone who you are
not.
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How-to-Make Changes in Your Life
• Changing your life may seem like an
overwhelming frustrating process. But it doesn't
have to be if you're given simple doable step-by-
step strategies that will get you from where you
are to where you want to be and you experience
a transformed life.
• Your life really is up to you. Often it doesn't feel
that way, but when it comes right down to brass
tacks, you have the power to choose - how you'll
think, what you'll feel, if you'll react, when you'll
participate.
• Go to page 27 of the manual to review 35
empowerment tasks to use to empower yourself
and to take back control of your life.
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How-to-Add Happiness to Your Life
• Now you will realize you have the responsibility for changing your
own life.
• When good happens to you in the future you can now take
ownership of it. It is not someone else who deserves the credit (as it
always has been in your past).
• You have the power to change what happens to you once you
realize you are not at everyone's mercy. You will begin feeling like a
successful person in your life, not the victim.
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Let’s Take a Five Minute Break
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Making a New Life for You!
Facing Life’s Challenges
• Everyone faces a crisis in life from time to time. Sometimes
life is compared to a boat on the sea, over which you're the
captain and navigator. You know where you want to go, but
there are elements out of your control.
• There are times that for whatever reason you may feel that
you no longer have control over your life, that you're no
longer the 'captain' of your boat, that your floundering in the
middle of the sea with no rudder, at the mercy of the
currents and the winds.
• What if you just lost a good job and have a family to take
care? Things in life can be scary. But keep looking-
something helpful is bound to appear on the horizon. Maybe
no one will give you your old job back, but things might just
turn out better than they were when you had that job.
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Being Your Own Worst Enemy
• Some women are their own worst enemy when it
comes to low self esteem. Sure, there can also be
an environmental factor if one was raised in an
unloving or unfulfilling family life where the people
around them constantly criticized or abused them.
• But usually, women are their own harshest critic.
They see flaws that other people don't see.
• They constantly compare themselves with women
in magazines and despair when they don't
measure up to model standards.
• On the next slide are some self esteem exercises
that can help you overcome low self esteem
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Being Your Own Worst Enemy
1. Just stop - When you start having negative or hateful
thoughts about yourself, just tell yourself to "stop!"
2. It is not about your body - many women's source of
insecurity are their looks but in reality, looks don't play a
big role in self esteem.
3. Unsubscribe - stop buying women's and fashion
magazines.
4. Get active - exercise isn't just a way to lose unwanted
weight, it can also make you feel better.
These are just a few self esteem exercises you can do to gain
confidence. Remember that being who you are isn't something
to be ashamed of.
People will love you because you are who you are and not
some bland face in a magazine.
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Stop Self-Sabotaging Yourself
• Do you know that self sabotage is a key
sign of low self esteem, low self worth,
and low self confidence?
• Do you know self sabotage results from
stored negative memories of abuse,
neglect, rejection, humiliation,
abandonment etc. that live inside you
and
• That subconsciously have you convinced
you are inadequate, unlovable,
unwanted, have no purpose in being
here, are incompetent, stupid, useless, a
failure and so on?
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Stop Self-Sabotaging Yourself
• Finally, do you know it is now possible to
completely and permanently delete this negative
"software" from within you and reclaim full
ownership and control over yourself and your life?
• You see, much of what we perceive and believe is
under the influence of the internal movie we call
our past.
• That past often flashes across the screen of the
mind and leaves one feeling like they are wearing
virtual reality glasses that create an intrusive
undesirable reality within which they're trapped.
• Our perceptions then get manipulated by this
internal movie and this affects many of the choices
we make.
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Stop Self-Sabotaging Yourself
• Now because that movie of the past contains
embedded within it many negative memories of
abuse, neglect, humiliation, failure, rejection and so
on that serve to create a false and negative view of
you
• It thereby distorts your perception of yourself and
leaves you feeling and believing yourself to be
inadequate, unlovable, weak, unwanted,
unattractive, bad, unworthy, useless and so on.
• That leads one to many self destructive habits that
heap further abuse onto them which also add to
that ongoing movie.
• This leaves one inevitably trapped in a negative
movie they identify with and which forms their so
called personality.
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How to Lift Your Adverse Self Image
• Low self image is usually a severe deficit of self-esteem,
self-confidence, and possessing a continual sense of
inadequacy. For a lot of the understanding of self-worth is
based on the affirmation of others. Acceptance, or
verification, in the form of an amiable smile, a handshake
or simple "hello" determines whether an individual might
feel good about himself or herself.
• The necessity for interpersonal acceptance is one
fundamental need of persons with reduced self-esteem.
Any time a person is lacking in interpersonal abilities, he or
she builds up a self-pity style which might ultimately cause
anxiety and stress.
• According to Alfred Adler, a renowned Austrian
psychologist, "the inferiority complex" comes from physical
handicap or via flawed relationships. This complex is a
"need" to validate one's self.
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How to Lift Your Adverse Self Image
A number of the reasons behind a poor self image include:
Socio-Economic Causes - This can be a typical cause
and primarily felt by folks originating from a lower socio-
economic type or people who previously worked for
affluent people. Observing other folks living in increased
conditions definitely makes the individual from the lesser
type blame himself for not becoming successful or for the
inability to supply a better life for his or her family
members.
Actual Physical Factors - This is a result of an actual
defect or not enough gratitude for your appearance. A lot
of people feel substandard for becoming obese, getting
too thin or just being quite short. Due to their bodily
problems, these individuals imagine themselves as less
vital than other people.
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How to Lift Your Adverse Self Image
To wipe out the ill-effects involving minimal self-esteem, here are
some tips to help you to feel better about your own self -
1. By no means compare yourself to other individuals
2. Work along with other folks, be considered a team participant
3. Get involved in worthy exercises
4. Do not overlook oneself, you can enhance oneself via attending
classes, joining tutorials, seminars
Concentrate on the good side of your life - be thankful for exactly
what you have. Read about highly successful people who had
overcome their downfalls and adversities specifically folks who
became rich by pure effort and willpower and if these pointers do
not enhance your self- image, your final option may be to get
professional guidance or, in drastic cases, seek the
recommendation and services of a psychiatrist.
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How-to-Recognize
Self-Sabotaging Habits
• Do you know that self sabotaging habits are driven by
subconsciously stored programs that you have little
conscious awareness of?
• Do you know your inability to recognize their presence is
the single most important factor causing your mind and
life to be hijacked when you least expect it?
• Do you know this means you are a sitting duck for
abuse?
• Finally, do you know it is now possible to make these
programs conscious and to completely and permanently
erase them from within?
• How does one do that you ask?
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How-to-Recognize
Self-Sabotaging Habits
• Now I know that the idea of having something foreign or
alien residing right within one's own mind might seem
ridiculous or scary however if you look at your situation
closely I think that is exactly what you will find.
• After all if you were truly in control of yourself then would
you ever choose to sabotage yourself?
• That implies that there must be something other than you
in charge of your freewill choices when "self" sabotage
occurs.
• Choosing to be in denial about this ultimately means that
it will continue to happen.
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How-to-Recognize
Self-Sabotaging Habits • Well if so and you really want to know what those foreign
intruders are here is the answer. They are stored in the
form of negative memories from one's earlier life that
"condition" or hypnotize you to believe negative things
about yourself such as I'm inadequate, I'm unlovable,
• if you look at your situation closely I think that is exactly
what you will find. After all if you were truly in control of
yourself then would you ever choose to sabotage
yourself?
• That implies that there must be something other than you
in charge of your freewill choices when "self" sabotage
occurs.
• Choosing to be in denial about this ultimately means that
it will continue to happen.,
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How-to-Recognize
Self-Sabotaging Habits
• Additionally choosing to believe that you are truly in
charge of yourself at all times means that reading this
would make absolutely no sense because you would
have no need.
• The negative memories serve as the evidence that
supports these negative beliefs which then distort your
perception of yourself and in turn hijack your freewill to
act against you.
• The real truth however is that it can be completely and
permanently erased/deleted leaving you clear about who
you really are and free to exercise total confidence.
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How to Break-out the Rut
That You Are In
• There is always a way out of any situation you face.
• Everything you are going through or ever will go through has a
solution. If you're stuck and feel the need to break free out of
the rut you're in.
• Here are 4 keys that will help empower you and propel you
from where you are so you can change your life.
Key #1 - Use the Law of Thinking
Thoughts attract more thoughts along the same lines and they
build on each other. When you use the law of thinking in a positive
way more ideas and wisdom come to you to help you gain clarity
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That You Are In
Key #2 - Ask for clarity
This is a simple but profound step to seeing
through to your solution. As you ask the Spirit
within for clarity, to see clearly, you'll find that
you begin to see things that you've never seen
before.
Key #3 - Be Persistent
Persistence is the key to achieving any goal. As
you determine in your mind that you will get the
answer to resolve your situation, doors begin to
open.
Key #4 - Timing is everything
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Eliminate Worry in Your Life
• Do you know that worry is one of the most toxic
self destructive habits in our species' emotional
repertoire?
• Do you know it is responsible for stress, tiredness,
burnout, anxiety, depression, helplessness, low
self confidence, and feelings of inadequacy,
feelings of vulnerability, low self worth and much
more?
• Do you know that is now possible to erase worry
from your life once and for all? How does one do
that?
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Eliminate Worry in Your Life
• Worrying is something one does to try to ward off some
potential future negative event.
• In that regard it should therefore make an individual feel
in control of their life, their environment and hence
should lead to feelings of safety, security, calmness,
peace of mind, relaxation, comfort, contentment, and
an overall sense of empowerment.
• In fact, isn't it the truth that worry leads one to feel
vulnerable, unsafe, insecure, weak, anxious, out of
control of one's self and one's environment, helpless,
and therefore likely to worry even more?
• As you can see this creates a vicious negative spiral
that can lead to downright panic and loss of one's
emotional stability and resilience.
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Eliminate Worry in Your Life
Worry is driven by buried subconsciously stored programs that
were "downloaded" into you when you were too young to realize
it and which have left you believing things about worry such as:
1. Worry is a normal human emotional state.
2. Worry helps me to cope with life's challenges.
3. I would be extremely vulnerable if I never worried about
anything.
4. Worry helps me make wise and good choices in life
It is beliefs such as these that can be readily challenged and
shown to be utterly false. The awareness of the falseness of
these beliefs is what helps to set you free of any and all worry
once and for all.
You can achieve this state and experience a great sense of
empowerment, freedom, joy, inner peace, strength, resilience,
peace of mind and self control.
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Self-talk and Coping with Life
• Do you ever talk to
yourself?
• Even better, do you laugh
at yourself? It is the easiest
way to change your attitude
and cope with the
overwhelming things in
your life.
• Sometimes my self-talk is
really chattering at
inanimate objects. Often,
self-talk is a really a pep-
talk to keep my thoughts
focused in the right
direction.
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The Best Coping Mechanism
1. Laughter, of course, is the best coping
skill.
2. By finding humor in life's situations,
everything becomes easier to deal
with.
3. Learn to smile - even when you don't
feel like it - because things just seem
less stressful with a smile on your
face. .
4. Laughter releases endorphins into the
blood stream. It's a self-administered
chemical 'high'! After a good laugh, it's
hard to be depressed.
Here Comes the Judge: Finding Fault
• If you've suffered from low self-esteem for most of your
life, loving yourself doesn't come easy. But, it's the most
important thing you can do in life..
• The secret to loving yourself is appreciation and
gratitude. You can always find something to be grateful
for about yourself.
• Soon you will see that feeling bad about yourself was
blocking you from seeing the truth. As you stop
rejecting yourself, you start seeing yourself and
everyone else in a new light.
• You see more and more lovable things about yourself
that you weren't allowing yourself to see before.
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You see more and more lovable things about yourself that you weren't
allowing yourself to see before.
Changing the Anchor
Are you afraid of doing something in your life because your feelings
of inadequacy are holding you back?
Do you lack confidence during the most crucial times?
Everyone feels this way at some point in our lives. Most people just
aren't naturally confident 100 percent of the time. However, you can
change this ‘
Anchoring is a common practice in neuro-linguistic programming
(NLP) and very easy to do.
Many of the anchors in our lives have been set unconsciously.
However, you absolutely can decide to create your own, and that's
what we're going to do with the following exercise.
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Changing the Anchor
You're going to create a button in yourself so that every time you
push it, you automatically feel more confident and ready to tackle
whatever situation you're facing.
1. To start, you're going to work yourself into what Tony Robbins calls a peak state.
Basically, this is you at your best, your most confident version of yourself.
2. When you have picked out a song that amps you up, put it on and turn it up.
3. Let yourself be taken away by the music.
4. How do you feel? When you reach the point when you feel powerful, limitless,
inspired, brave, and fearless, touch your right index finger to your thumb and push
them together hard.
5. Repeat this several times, either a few times in one day, or space it out over two
or three days.
Be exact in this process, and you're sure to create a new anchor, so
that the next time you need a surge of confidence, all you have to do
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Plus Size: Self-acceptance
• Many women hate their bodies. There's always something wrong
with them; mostly it's their weight.
• Let's face it, not many women are a size 0, or 2. Mostly, they are in
the double digit, and a feeling of worthlessness accompanies the
size and weight.
• So what does that have to do with self-esteem? Self-esteem has to
do with how you feel about yourself, how you perceive and imagine
yourself, what you remember about yourself;
• We can never be "perfect" enough for our own satisfaction. A
woman can hate herself for having the wrong body, hate herself for
hating herself and then needs to punish herself, mostly by dieting.
And her self-esteem, if she had any left, just flew out the window.
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Plus Size: Self-acceptance
How can we end this tyranny? Here three simple, but radical steps:
1. Acceptance: "But I don't want to accept my body, because it means I'll
always stay like that!" Wrong! You can't change what you don't accept.
Accepting doesn't mean liking, it means that "what is," is, and that you are
not fighting against reality. Our setup phrase in EFT mentions the problem
"Even if I have (these big thighs) I accept myself".
2. Find out what you do like about your body, and send it some gratitude.
You've already made clear what you don't like, and obsess about it. So
show your body some appreciation for all that it does so well!
3. Pay attention to your posture. Like your mother probably said, sit up
straight. When you change your posture, you actually feel better. Try it out!
Start with these deceptively simple steps and watch your self-esteem
increase. It's a small first step, but a very important one.
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Daily Affirmations:
Taking Me thru My Self-doubt
• Daily affirmations are words and phrases that you repeat, or affirm
to yourself on a daily basis, often several times a day.
• Perhaps one of the most important positive affirmation tips anyone
can give you is to create your own affirmations. Using affirmations
that you have created yourself will help you go a long way toward
achieving your own set of goals if you remember a few key tips.
• Positive affirmation tips for creating your own affirmations begins
with creating a goal. The first step for this is to sit down and write
out a list of what you wish to achieve. This may be success,
happiness, or even money
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Daily Affirmations:
Taking Me thru My Self-doubt
• Another important positive affirmation tip is to create affirmations
that you can and will believe in. Coming up with affirmations that
are unbelievable will be a waste of time, and they probably won't
work.
• The last major positive affirmation tip to keep in mind is to ensure
you use the proper tense. Coming up with your own affirmations,
you want to always make them in the present tense rather than the
future tense
• If your subconscious mind already believes in the affirmation you
are reinforcing, it will act to bring you closer to your goals. Writing
your own set of daily affirmations is a creative exercise that will
help you decide who you are and where you wish to be.
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Living with Failure
• I've tried everything I can think of, why don't things turn out the way
I plan?
• It seems that everything I try to do gets sabotaged. How can I
change that?
• That seems to be at the root of the problem. It also gives us our
reasons for doing stuff, and the means to change it if we wish.
• What you do for yourself will make all the difference.
• Remember. "We are our own worst enemy." or "We are
responsible for everything we experience." or "We attract what we
dwell on
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Eliminating Traits that Hinder
a Positive Life
Here are some tips on how you can make positive affirmations your
constant companion so that negative feedback won't have any space
in your life anymore.
1. Make a positive affirmation CD.
2. Invest in a subliminal computer software.
3. Memorize some key affirmations. Some Examples.
• I am full of passion for my goals.
• I love what I do.
• I seek new adventures.
• I am capable of making my own decisions.
• I manage my resources well.
• I deserve respect.
• My dreams are important to me.
• My skills are valuable.
• I respect and love myself.
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Positive Affirmations that
Will Change Your Life Here are 8 positive daily affirmations you can utilize to improve your
life immediately. Recite and reflect on these affirmations as part of
your daily meditation practice and improve your health and wellness
immediately.
1. I am healthy and happy.
2. I respect myself and my body.
3. I deserve to be healthy.
4. I am energized and invigorated by exercise.
5. I enjoy eating healthy food.
6. I project healthy thoughts.
7. I release past anger and frustration.
8. I create health through love.
Implement them in to your daily mediation practice for the next 90
days and your health will improve dramatically.
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The Life is Too Short to Be Unhappy !
• This is not to say that you won’t have
challenges and problems. You will. But
when you’re doing the things that you truly
enjoy, facing those problems and
challenges will be much easier.
• When you do what you really enjoy,
discovering your purpose will be fun.
You will be happy and fulfilled in both
your work and your personal relationships.
• You will have more energy, creativity, and
higher self-esteem. When you discover
your true purpose in life your future will be
unlimited.
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Creating Life Changing Habits
Creating a new habit is hard work. Here's some advice for organizing
yourself so you can get that new habit established. Five practical
strategies:
• Practical Strategy #1 - Make it Super Easy on Yourself
• #2 - In Sight, In Mind - Review "next actions/to do list." And cross
out the time as you review your list each time.
• #3 Tie to an Existing Habit - Need to take a new medication or
vitamin? Put the bottle next to your toothbrush, your coffee, or the
breakfast foods you eat each day
• #4 Ask for What You Need
• #5 Reward your Effort, Not Just Results
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How Long Does It Take to Form
a New Habit?
• Traditionally, research has shown it takes 21
days to instill a new habit. It will take longer if
you have ADD or another brain based
challenge.
• New research from Psychologist suggests that
habits take much longer to form... an average
of 9 1/2 weeks or longer.
• The good news is that missing one or two days
of repetition will not impede the process.*
So don't struggle; make it easy on yourself by
using some of these strategies .
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Change! Yeah I Said It!
Here are a few tips to share with you when you reach this point in
your life:
1. Get a grip on why you are really here
2. Make a Decision
3. Get Happy
4. Find What You Love to Do
5. Create Goals for Yourself
6. Be Bold
If you ask people randomly, "Would you like to change?" Most of them
will say "yes." Given the possibility of change though, most people will
opt for staying the same.
What is it about change that scares us so much?
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Gaining Clarity and Focus in Life
• To achieve anything in life you need to define what it is you want so
you gain clarity on how to get there. But sometimes the path to
getting there may be blurred and many give up because they can't
see how they can achieve their goals.
• As the designer of your life, if you are unclear as to what you desire
to be manifested in your reality, you're allowing life to happen to you
by default and not for you by design. You must know and be very
clear with your image of your life.
• The following 5 steps will guide you into gaining clarity so you can
be empowered from within to achieve your goals.
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Gaining Clarity and Focus in Life
1) Get quiet to get specific - Get specific and have a clear descriptive picture of what
you desire to accomplish. You may want to put your ideas on paper for better clarity
as you work through this process.
2) Search your heart for your true desires - Search your inner desires and listen
closely to what your heart is feeling.
3) Remove all mental limitations and obstacles- You can't focus on the truth of your
desire if you are focused on limitations and obstacles.
4) See a clear mental picture of your desired life in vivid images - When you lay
aside limitations and focus on your true desire then you can see a clear picture of
your desired life.
5) Feel the feelings of you enjoying your desired life Participate emotionally in the
joy of living your dream. Go with that inner guidance.
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You Are More Powerful Then You Think!
• Instead of allowing your attention to be outside of yourself - looking
to others to love you so you can feel better about yourself - look to
the power within you and connect with it.
• You are more powerful than you think and you don't have to be a
people pleaser and rely on others to give to you what you already
have inside.
• There lies within you the Unlimited Supply of Unconditional Love.
• Why look for sporadic or conditional love to make you feel worthy
when you already have all the love you will ever need inside of you.
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You Are More Powerful Then You Think!
Here are 4 steps that will show you how to look to the love within and
connect with it.
1) Set aside some quiet time
2) Allow yourself to feel loved
3) Become love conscious
4) Be love
Changing your life may seem like an overwhelming frustrating process.
But it doesn't have to be if you're given simple doable step-by-step
strategies that will get you from where you are to where you want to be
and experience a transformed life.
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Let’s Take a Five Minute Break
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Making a New Life for You!
Why Do We Have These Walls
of Pain?
• Maybe we have been hurt in the past and just don't want to go there
again! This is not good or correct, we are supposed to find true love,
• The problem is that we have been conditioned with the wrong
beliefs; this then prevents us from receiving love. We are taught that
we should not think highly of ourselves or expect to be thought of
highly by others.
• But this is old thinking, today we learn so differently. Today we know
that we must accept and appreciate our true value otherwise how
will anyone else! These old beliefs though, could well be buried
deep within us and so we still produce behavior patterns that could
mean that we turn our back on what could be the love of our life!
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Finding A Way Out:
Empowerment for Life
Key #1 - Use the Law of Thinking -Thoughts attract more thoughts along the same
lines and they build on each other. When you use the law of thinking in a positive way
more ideas and wisdom come to you to help you gain clarity to resolve your personal
issues.
Key #2 - Ask for clarity - As you ask the Spirit within for clarity, to see clearly, you'll find
that you begin to see things that you've never seen before.
Key #3 - Be Persistent - Persistence is the key to achieving any goal. As you determine
in your mind that you will get the answer to resolve your situation, doors begin to open.
Key #4 - Timing is everything When you work in harmony with the Spirit, you'll know
when it's the right time to act. The clues will show up and everything will fall into place as
you move when prompted by the Spirit within.
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There's always a way out of any situation you face. Everything you are going through or
ever will go through has a solution. If you're stuck and feel the need to break free out of the
rut you're in, here are 4 keys that will help empower you and propel you from where you
are so you can change your life.
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You Must Seek Spiritual
Guidance
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It does not matter where you are and what your situation is. You may have
been feeling choked or overwhelmed by the pressures of the life here on earth,
but you have an opportunity to enter boldly into his courts with praise.
1. When I'm all by myself out in an open field and realize that it is just God
and me out there, I begin to just worship him with a song, a melody, a
chant, or on an instrument.
2. When I hit rock bottom and I need some strength to handle stuff that I am
going through, I realize that the joy of the Lord is my strength and begin to
give him praise, jump up and down, and sing a spiritual song.
Worship is giving to God and God loves a cheerful giver. How generous are
you when it comes to giving God worship? Do not hold back, do it daily and
your life will never be the same again.
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A Road to a Better Life 1. Watch what you think about.
This simple and very memorable
statement can just be the key to
a better life and a better you.
2. Get your mind to work with
you, not against you. Get your
mind to work with you instead of
against you with the help of
positive thoughts.
3. Command your thoughts. Take
control of your thoughts. Give it a
direction. Make a command. This
way, it follows you instead of the
other way around.
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A Road to a Better Life
4. Stop relying on chance or
luck. Some people have believe
on chance or luck. This is why
they don't ever do anything truly
productive. They just wait for
chance or luck to come through.
5. Watch your self-talk -Your own
self talk can get in your way, so
make sure to steer it towards the
right direction.
6. Master the art of programming
your mind. To change anything
in your life, you need to change a
way of thinking or a state of mind
by completely reprogramming
your mind.
Emotional Freedom:
Finding Your Way
EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Techniques
is a form of "emotional acupuncture, but we use
fingers instead of needles.“
In EFT we believe that certain events, people,
memories and/ or beliefs cause a disruption in
the energy in our bodies which then show up as
unwanted emotions and physical symptoms,
such as anxiety and feeling a sensation in our
stomach area
The event, person, belief, memory does not
cause these emotions/ sensations. They cause
a disruption in our energy which then shows up
as these and many other symptoms.
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Faith
• Faith is...knowing that the sun will come up
tomorrow even after the darkest night of the soul.
• Faith is...being willing to face your terror, walk
through your fear, and face your demons.
• Faith is...trusting that a window will open when all
the doors have slammed in your face.
• Faith is...listening to your internal GPS, your inner
voice, your own knowing.
• Faith is...taking the next step on your path, even
when you don't know where you're headed.
• Faith is...following your knowing, even when it is
telling you to do something hard.
• Faith is...trusting that the painful experiences are
helping you to grow.
• Faith is...walking through your darkest hour,
knowing that you will feel joy again.
•Faith is...being willing to face your
terror, walk through your fear, and
face your demons.
•Faith is...trusting that a window will
open when all the doors have
slammed in your face.
•Faith is...knowing that the sun will
come up tomorrow even after the
darkest night of the soul.
•"Faith is...taking the first step even
when you don't see the whole
staircase." (Martin Luther King, Jr.)
•Faith is...knowing that whatever is
just what you need in this moment.
•Faith is...believing in yourself, your
inner greatness, your wonder and
beauty.
•Faith is...being willing to face your
terror, walk through your fear, and
face your demons.
•Faith is...trusting that a window will
open when all the doors have
slammed in your face.
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Take the Lead to Empower Others
Being a leader doesn't mean that it’s only you who should be
respected. In fact, leaders are required to give respect to their
subordinates and followers. If not, then sooner or later, they will
not be a leader anymore.
A leader’s duty is to empower their people through giving
respect and constant appreciation regarding their work and
their actions. Your workers need your compliments for them to
build their self esteem, and for you to gain their respect.
Empowering your employees or subordinates is the best thing
you could do to win their heart and respect. Once you gained it
from them, it will be both beneficial and easy for you to work
with them in a pleasing manner; ensuring less conflicts!
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Take the Lead to Empower Others
Empowering your key people will increase their self esteem and their
respect towards you. Here are 5 ways to empower you subordinates:
1. Give them the respect they need. Respect is not about always
saying kind words. It’s about being fair and praising when praising
is needed.
2. Acknowledge their contributions. Ensure that you let your team
know that every task they do grows the business.
3. Promote self-management on the part of each of your team.
Everybody likes to feel that they can make choices within their job
role. As a leader, why not try giving them freedom on what they do.
4. Make them part of the planning. Don't forget to compliment every
idea they give, don't discourage them. Just listen to every word they
say.
5. Compliment individuals for their achievements. Be sure to give
more credits on the things they did correctly rather than the just
highlighting the incorrect things.
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And Finally…… Putting it All Together
Did you ever imagine your life would be different and more rewarding
than it actually is? Would you like to learn some techniques to improve
that? There are 7 easy ways to work on yourself, make them into
habits, and implement them if you want results.:
1. Wake up early
2. Eat breakfast
3. Always smile
4. Don't put off your duties or appointments
5. Have a list
6. Forgive and Forget
7. Make the effort to do something nice
Self empowerment takes discipline and commitment but with these
seven steps you are well on your way there.
Life is a work in progress, enjoy the journey.
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The Six (6) Step
“Master Trainers Alliance”
Teaching Method
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The Six (6) Step
“Master Trainers Alliance”
Teaching Method
1. Introduction
2. Discussion/
Brainstorming
3. Handouts / Fill-ins
4. Trainer’s example
5. Group sharing
6. Conclusion
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More about Facilitating
• Some of the attendees are good readers, spellers, and writers: however, many will
not be. If you are going to form pairs or groups, make sure that you match stronger
readers, spellers, and writers with those who may have trouble in these areas.
• The focus on the“Master Trainers Alliance” Workshop is not on spelling or grammar,
but on participation.
• If the discussion goes really well, and you run out of time, do not get to the handouts
or test until the next session, stop at that place in the manual.
• Start at that point at the next session and complete the workshop handouts and test
then.
• The length of a Master Trainers Alliance Workshop session varies; however the
ideal length of time for at-risk males is 45 minutes maximum..
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Introduction
• Start all sessions with an introduction.
• Let each person tell you who they are, why
are they attending the workshop and what
they expect from the workshop.
• If you look at your lesson for the day and
find that the topic is self-esteem, you can
simply say: “Today we are going to talk
about self-esteem”.
• Then, begin with your discussion and
brainstorming
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Brainstorming / Group Discussion
• One of the most important parts of the “Master Trainers Alliance”
Workshop is the Brainstorming and Group Discussion.
• It is important to get the class actively involved in the discussion.
• Be prepared for your lesson by coming up with five or six additional
questions to ask the attendees in case they are quiet or uncertain while
brainstorming.
• One way to come up with questions is by listening to the attendee’s
responses. If someone answers a question in the positive and another in
the negative, a good way to continue the discussion is to ask why someone
feels that way about that topic and then move on.
• If the discussion goes off on a tangent, take control of the discussion.
Change topics or bring an overworked topic to the end, and move on.
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Handouts/Fill-ins
o A trainer has to decide two things when
handing out worksheets. First, decide when
to hand out worksheets.
o Should it be handed out at the beginning of
the session, right before discussing a topic,
or after the session?
o The best time to pass out worksheets is prior
to the topic being discussed.
o Passing them out before the session invites
the attendees to either read or use the
worksheets to doodle.
o Passing them out before the session invites
anticipation of each discussion and it does
not allow the trainer to control the session.
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Successful ways to use handouts are:
1. Discuss each handout as a
group.
2. Split the class into groups of
three or four working together.
3. Split the class into pairs to
work together.
4. Make a game of the lesson,
such as a guessing game or a
race.
5. Have the class role-play the
responses and then write the
answers down.
6. Give a short test after each
session to insure that the
attendees are learning and
retaining what they learned.
7. Use the test at the end of
each chapter in your manual.
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Training Rules & Regulations
• Should the trainer share his or her own example with
the group?
• Yes, this reaffirms that the trainer has experienced a
subject or topic. It adds credibility to the trainer. It
shows the group that he or she has experienced
what they are talking about and that they know how
to deal with this particular subject.
• It is important for you to establish and adhere to
standard rules for your group. Some examples may
be, raising your hand before speaking.
• Your rules will change depending on what type of
group that you have and how well behaved the group
is.
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Class Sharing
There are many ways to share. Here
are just a few:
You can ask for volunteers to share.
You can ask for volunteers to share their
answers.
The last person who shared can choose the
next person to share.
You can share alphabetically by first name.
When discussing handouts,
it is important to have the
class to share their answers
with the group.
Always remember that
sharing should be fun and
interesting.
It is important to share in
different ways to keep the
learners excited about the
session.
Always give positive
feedback after sharing.
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Conclusion
• The most important aspect of the “Master Trainers Alliance”
Workshop is the conclusion.
• Before the session begins, think about where you want the session
to go. Before you start, ask yourself: “What do I want to accomplish
today in this session ?”
• We strongly advise that during your first few months of teaching the
“Master Trainers Alliance” Workshop, that you write out your class
format, introduction and conclusion. This will help you to organize
your training lesson.
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How to Earn Income from
Training Workshops
• All over the country, ordinary people are being paid
for sharing their skills. It doesn’t matter where you
live or how old you are-you can do it too.
• As a Master Trainer of the “Master Trainers
Alliance“ Workshop, you’ll have fun sharing your
experiences and knowledge with others interested in
helping others and it will cost you very little to get
started.
• Adult education classes, or continuing education
classes, provide non-credit instructions on a wide
variety of topics.
• You don’t need a teaching degree to be an instructor.
All you need is a desire to help others, a talent to
teach or teaching skills, and a willingness to share
important life skills information with them and with
others.
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How to Begin
1. Call the people in charge of local youth and adult
education programs to ask if they are interested in an
instructor with your particular skills.
2. When you meet with the program director, make sure
that you have a synopsis (an outline) of our course
curriculum, and references (people who can verify
your experience in your chosen field).
3. Most “Master Trainers Alliance” workshops are
given in the evening for adults and youth, either at
schools, a community college, a library, a recreation
center, a church or a community organizations
office..
4. The YWCA, YMCA or other community organizations
may provide meeting space at no charge, or you can
offer to make a donation to pay for the space.
5. Renting meeting rooms in local hotels are the best
places to have your workshops. Add the expense of
the meeting room into your workshop cost.
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How to Begin
6. If you charge a fee for your workshops, quite often
community centers will split 60% - 40% with you on
the fee to cover the cost of the meeting room.
7. Churches often will provide you with a free meeting
room if you allow its constituents to come to the
workshop for a reduced rate. Check your local
newspaper for locations of current classes.
8. Life-skills training can be taught to adults who will
take what they learn from you and teach their youth
themselves, e.g. ministers, teachers, non-profit
organizations, etc., or you can teach these skills
directly to the attendees.
9. To decide what to teach, think of what you love to do
best? What experience or skill can you share with
adults, with youth? Choose your topic.
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How to Begin
10. Design your course curriculum (or an outline of what
you will teach). The best classes are generally
between the hours of 6:30 PM to 9:00 PM.
11. For adults, try to keep courses to a full day, four or
five hour workshop (2 ½ hours each with a lunch
break and other breaks).
12. For youth, keep course sessions to 45 minutes,
primarily evening sessions from 6:30 PM – 7:15 PM.
13. Offer classes from eight to ten weeks to get thru the
entire curriculum and to follow-up.
14. You must tell the students and parents that this is a
ten week workshop. If they expect to change years of
bad life skills habits in one or two weeks, tell them
that you cannot guarantee any helpful results in such
a short time.
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How to Begin
What to Charge
• You and the program director will decide what price the course will be to
the students or adult. Generally, for adults, you can charge from $ 55 -
$ 175 per attendee for a one-day workshop.
• You can also negotiate an hourly rate between $25 - $50 per hour to teach
life skills sessions, if you are not able to set-up a full day or eight weeks of
training, your hourly rate will be the cost of the course.
• As a rule, whoever is providing the classes will provide a facility where you
will teach the class and they will advertise to attract students.
• A catalog of classes can also be published, or a listing of classes can be
advertised in the local newspaper.
• Also, use word-of-mouth advertising. Tell friends and relatives to tell
others about your class or workshop.
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Many companies outsource certain aspects of their business, including
training. Bringing in an outside expert can bring valuable expertise to an
organization that may not otherwise be found in-house. Starting a corporate
training business is a great way to combine business expertise with a love
of teaching.
Step 1
Decide on an area to specialize in. Although you can branch out as you
gain more expertise, it's best to choose one area that you're an expert in to
begin your training business. Choose an area in which you've had business
experience, and ideally one that you've been educated in so that you can
speak from experience.
Step 2
Determine if you would benefit from additional credentials, and identify
training and certification organizations that can provide the credentials you
need. For example, if you plan to conduct corporate training in customer
service, it would be valuable to have experience working in customer
service or in a marketing role. Having a degree or certificate in customer
relations management would give you more credibility.
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Step 3
Register your business with your state. Consult with an attorney to choose the
most appropriate business model for your training business, such as a
corporation or limited liability company. Consult with an accountant to learn
how to keep financial records for tax time.
Step 4
Create your training materials. Create an outline for each course you are
offering, and create coordinating training materials, such as PowerPoint
presentations and handouts. Include copies of case studies, workbooks, or
any other materials that would benefit those attending your trainings.
Step 5
Set prices for training sessions. Charging a flat fee for each course you offer is
the most common way for training professionals to set prices. Some charge
based on the number of attendees. Factor in your costs, such as travel,
refreshments you'll be providing, and fees for providing materials to attendees.
For example, you may offer each attendee a copy of your published book.
Account for these added costs when calculating prices
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Step 6
Create advertising materials. In order to obtain your first clients, you'll need to
make corporations aware of your services. Create a brochure and a website
that outlines your experience in the industry, your credentials, and the specific
training courses you're offering. Business cards are also an essential piece of
advertising collateral. If you're not qualified to create these materials yourself,
hire a graphic designer or desktop publisher to create them.
Step 7
Network to obtain your first clients. Attend local business events and make
your former employers aware of your new training business. Send a letter to
potential clients with a copy of your brochure. If you have funds, advertise in
trade or business publications.
So in ending, your best way to market your youth and young adult seminars
and workshops is to train-the-trainers, not the trainees.
Training the trainers includes training teachers, school staff, youth ministers,
non-profit organization staff and community activist. This should be your target
group.
Do not attempt to go the alternative route, training the individual, as you will
not earn a significant enough amount of income to merit your time and efforts,
and to keep you motivated.
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