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According to Reggie McNeal…The most important information you will need
as a leader is—self-understanding.Self-understanding is different than self-
preoccupation.Self-occupation shows up in leaders who use
others in order to achieve their own ambitions.
Self-understanding…Begins and ends with God.This takes time and reflectionEffective leaders are those who take time to
ponder what God is up to in their lives, who he created them to be, and how they were formed—Emotionally, Psychologically, and Spiritually.
Truth is…Ministry flows out of who you are as a
person.YOU are the tool He uses to accomplish His
plan.The gift of YOU empowered by the Holy
Spirit is a powerful combination in the Father’s hand.
The better you know yourself, the more effective you will be using the “tool” He entrusted to you—YOU.
Your own inner life is a critical factor in your effectiveness as a long-term leader in the Church.
In this time……we want to offer an opportunity to view the
critical nature of spiritual formation as a Pentecostal leader, whose effectiveness in Christ’s kingdom in connected to one’s personal and spiritual wholeness.
Emotional FormationFocuses on the development of the
personalityDevelopment of solid sense of selfIntra-psychic and interpersonal functioningEmotional EQ
Emotional Intelligence….The ability to control impulses, empathize
with others, form responsible interpersonal relationships, and develop intimate relationships
Defining Emotional HealthNaming recognizing, and managing our own
feelingsIdentifying with and having compassion for
othersInitiating and maintaining close and
meaningful relationshipsBreaking free from self-destructive patterns
Being aware of how our past impacts our present
Developing the capacity to express our thoughts feeling clearly, both verbally and nonverbally
Respecting and loving others without having to change them
Asking for what we need, want, or prefer clearly, directly and respectfully
Accurately self-assessing our strengths, limits, and weaknesses and freely sharing them with others
Learning the capacity to resolve conflict maturely and negotiate solutions that consider the perspectives of others
Distinguishing and appropriately expressing our sexuality and sexuality; and
Grieving well.
Healthy PersonalityRealistic View of Self and OthersAccepting Self and OthersLiving in the PresentHaving ValuesDeveloping One’s Abilities
Emotional health is not only about ourselves and our relationships; it impacts our image of God, our hearing of God’s voice, and our discernment of his will.
The practices of emotional health never lead us to a self-absorbed narcissism; they lead us to Christ.
Unhealthy emotional formation impairs our ability to experience and know God fully.
1. Using God to run from God2. Ignoring the emotions of anger, sadness,
and fear3. Dying to the wrong things4. Denying the past’s impact on the present5. Dividing our lives into “secular” and
“sacred” compartments
6. Doing for God instead of being with God7. Spiritualizing away conflict8. Covering over brokenness, weakness, and failure9. Living without limits10. Judging other people’s spiritual journey
Basic AssumptionsEvery leader suffers from some degree of
personal dysfunction from extremely mild to extremely acute.
All of us have some symptoms of emotionally unhealthy spirituality.
Unfortunately church history is replete with examples of individuals with some form of emotional or psychological brokenness as well as the devastation it brings to the person, their family, congregation, the church at large, and the presentation of the gospel.
Paradox in life of men who experienced failures:
1. Personal insecurities, 2. Feelings of inferiority and 3. Need for parental approval
Religious leadersNeed to be in controlHave it all togetherUnacceptable emotions and urges—anger
and sexuality
Many leaders are not aware of the dark side of their personalities and the personal dysfunctions that drive them.
Dr. Klaus “Charisma: The Dark Side of Pentecostal Leadership.”
Learning about our own dysfunctions can enable leaders to address those areas and prevent, or at least mitigate, the potential negative effects to their exercise of leadership.
According to Scazzero,“Very, very few people emerge out of their
families of origin emotionally whole or mature. In my early years of ministry, I believed the power of Christ could break any curse, so I barely gave any thought to how the home I’d left long ago might still be shaping me.” (Peter Scazzero 2006, p.12)
Influence of Family of OriginUnderstanding Family of OriginDevelopmental Issues Life StagesAssessing Family System & HistoryPersonal Time line
1. Acknowledge Your Dark Side2. Examine the Past3. Gather Knowledge about your Self4. Be Intentional about Change
Use of specific disciplinesScripture ReadingPersonal Retreats
Privacy and solitudeHow to Conduct a Spiritual Life Retreat by
Norman ShawchuckDevotional ReadingJournalingCounseling/DiscipleshipNeed for regularly exposure to the
scrutinizing probe of the Holy Spirit
The Role of the Holy SpiritAsk for guidance and discernmentGift of the Holy Spirit brings spiritual
awareness
Ministries of The Holy SpiritConvictingRegeneratingSealingIndwellingFilling EmpoweringAssuringIlluminatingTeaching Praying