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It's not what I'm doing, it's what you think I'm doing.
Return on Relationship
Relationship Management
The single most important measure of business success in the 21st Century
Every circle of influence requires relationship management
Perceived reality is reality I have to know what you think before I can
know what I need to do
Relationship Management
The simple steps for managing perceived reality
It starts – and ends – with me
First Things First
The single most important ingredient in relationship influence is:
ATTITUDE
Attitude Evaluation
1. The Reality Check
Am I getting the responses I really want?
Attitude Evaluation
2. Responsibility Check
What attitude signals am I sending out?
Attitude Evaluation
3. Adjustment Check
What can I do to reset the relationship temperature?
Relationship Temperature
Thermometer: Measuring Perceived Reality
Thermostat: Adjusting Perceived Reality
Standard Temperature and Pressure: Set by the vertical relationship – the BIGGER values of my life
7 Relationship Temperature Controls
1. Response to Criticism
Response to Criticism
How much of your personal self-worth is subject to the input of others?
How well do you “measure up”? Have you established a baseline that
depends only on your vertical relationship? Do you have your values in place? Do you encourage feedback from all?
7 Relationship Temperature Controls
1. Response to Criticism
2. Empowering Others
Empowering Others
Empowering means transferring what I do and what I know to someone else
Compliance is not empowering Have I made a tangible commitment to
show someone else how to do what I do? Who is my apprentice? “I call you friends”
7 Relationship Temperature Controls
1. Response to Criticism
2. Empowering Others
3. Authority vs. Control
Authority vs. Control
Authority – what is given to me by another De jure or de facto The essence of influence is invitation Every follower is be a volunteer “Come after me”
7 Relationship Temperature Controls
1. Response to Criticism
2. Empowering Others
3. Authority vs. Control
4. Emotional Discipline
Emotional Discipline
Reaction vs. Response An attitude of identification Do I first ask “How do they feel?” The Fearless Moral Inventory “counting the cost”
7 Relationship Temperature Controls
1. Response to Criticism
2. Empowering Others
3. Authority vs. Control
4. Emotional Discipline
5. Handling Fears
Handling Fears
The biggest roadblock to successful relationships
Fear is a one-way mirror Fear-based relationships avoid truth and
hide feelings If you really knew me, you wouldn’t love
me “Do you love me?”
7 Relationship Temperature Controls
1. Response to Criticism
2. Empowering Others
3. Authority vs. Control
4. Emotional Discipline
5. Handling Fears
6. Demonstrating Compassion
Demonstrating Compassion
Not sympathy, not empathy, not proxy delegation
Greek – gut reaction Why I must act! How am I demonstrating the heart of
compassion? “Jesus wept.”
7 Relationship Temperature Controls
1. Response to Criticism
2. Empowering Others
3. Authority vs. Control
4. Emotional Discipline
5. Handling Fears
6. Demonstrating Compassion
7. Exhibiting Humility
Exhibiting Humility
The Level 5 Leader Not a state of being (character) Hebrew – ana = act of the will (decision) Putting the highest value into action The serving leader
What does Upside Down Leadership look like? I decide To make You My friend Regardless of your response
Friendship: It’s my call!
FRIENDSHIPTHE 1% SOLUTION
How can I make a 1% difference
TODAY?
St. Francis of Assisi: “Preach the gospel at all times and when necessary use words”